Update on my Wife

[Fresh Air]

Hi,

I started the "I'd like to introduce my wife to nudism" post a while back. I recieved good ideas and advice from many of you and said I would write again if anything new happened. Well, it did. Patience and acceptance has begaun to pay off.

Both of us wanted some sun this weekend. The beach was too cold, and we didn't want to do a pool. My wife suggested a park, I agreed that it was a good idea and further suggested another park that we had hiked in the previous year. Back then I had suggested that it was nice and remote and would be good for sunbathing, since it was much closer than the beach. She thought it was a bad idea at the time.

We both got in our bathing-suits first then put hiking clothes on top. We arrived at the state park and it was void of people as usual. It's a huge place, it would take two days to hike across it, but there are usually only a couple of cars there...mostly hikers, mountain bikers, and horseback riders.

We hiked about a mile then decided to find a place off the visible path to catch some sun. We hiked up and around a hill (very very grassy) so that we were not visible to the path. I put out the blanket and towels. She was getting out of her hiking clothes (into her bathing suit) and said, "hurry up and strip"...I was taking my time I guess. I replied, jokingly, "everything?". She laughed. In a few seconds I was down to my bathing suit. She was still working on her pants/legs, I guess they were sort of twisted. She said "I can't wait to get out of everything". I was like "for real?...I will". She didn't say anything, just looked at me like it was ok.

You don't have to ask me twice...I proceeded to get in my most comfortable outfit, nothing. To my utter amazement, so did she. We felt like two school kids being crazy. She was a little worried about airplanes flying overhead, but I figured if we couldn't see the pilot, how in the world could they see us? She said that the whole situation of being outside naked and the potential of being caught was really turning her on. I remembered the advice of not making the first experience a sexual one per se. So I was careful not to innitiate anything.

It was so nice to finally be outside in the open air and sun with my wife beside me, like adam and eve. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif ...she did end up seducing me too, but I guess that's ok and normal for two married people in love. There was really no one for miles.

On the way home we both agreed that that was the craziest thing each other has done. Which is really the truth for two people born and raised in conservative christian homes.

The best part was that she said she would do it again. She enjoyed it! I'm so happy.

I know it's not a nude beach (my ultimate dream) but I'm happy, so happy to be able to share that one part of my life with her. I guess it's one small step for me, one giant leap for my wife.

Thanks everyone. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Fresh Air]

Hi,

I started the "I'd like to introduce my wife to nudism" post a while back. I recieved good ideas and advice from many of you and said I would write again if anything new happened. Well, it did. Patience and acceptance has begaun to pay off.

Both of us wanted some sun this weekend. The beach was too cold, and we didn't want to do a pool. My wife suggested a park, I agreed that it was a good idea and further suggested another park that we had hiked in the previous year. Back then I had suggested that it was nice and remote and would be good for sunbathing, since it was much closer than the beach. She thought it was a bad idea at the time.

We both got in our bathing-suits first then put hiking clothes on top. We arrived at the state park and it was void of people as usual. It's a huge place, it would take two days to hike across it, but there are usually only a couple of cars there...mostly hikers, mountain bikers, and horseback riders.

We hiked about a mile then decided to find a place off the visible path to catch some sun. We hiked up and around a hill (very very grassy) so that we were not visible to the path. I put out the blanket and towels. She was getting out of her hiking clothes (into her bathing suit) and said, "hurry up and strip"...I was taking my time I guess. I replied, jokingly, "everything?". She laughed. In a few seconds I was down to my bathing suit. She was still working on her pants/legs, I guess they were sort of twisted. She said "I can't wait to get out of everything". I was like "for real?...I will". She didn't say anything, just looked at me like it was ok.

You don't have to ask me twice...I proceeded to get in my most comfortable outfit, nothing. To my utter amazement, so did she. We felt like two school kids being crazy. She was a little worried about airplanes flying overhead, but I figured if we couldn't see the pilot, how in the world could they see us? She said that the whole situation of being outside naked and the potential of being caught was really turning her on. I remembered the advice of not making the first experience a sexual one per se. So I was careful not to innitiate anything.

It was so nice to finally be outside in the open air and sun with my wife beside me, like adam and eve. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif ...she did end up seducing me too, but I guess that's ok and normal for two married people in love. There was really no one for miles.

On the way home we both agreed that that was the craziest thing each other has done. Which is really the truth for two people born and raised in conservative christian homes.

The best part was that she said she would do it again. She enjoyed it! I'm so happy.

I know it's not a nude beach (my ultimate dream) but I'm happy, so happy to be able to share that one part of my life with her. I guess it's one small step for me, one giant leap for my wife.

Thanks everyone. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[teeoff65]

Fresh air: If your wife liked that she will also like a nudist camp. The best way to introduce her is to go during the week theres not alot of people. Thats how my wife started and now she loves it. Ps. have to wait to get home for the sexual part. HaHaHa! good like! /infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif

[Vin]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Fresh Air:
Patience and acceptance has begaun to pay off. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Congratulations! /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif Glad it's going well.

Now if I just had similar luck.... /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Fresh Air]

Good idea about the weekday resort trip. I think we're still far away from that, but I'll certainly keep it in mind.

[Fresh Air]

Vin,

What is your situation?

[Dotcodan]

I am wanting to ask my wife to go to a nudist club this summer. We have several here in Kansas. They even have open houses where clothing is optional for first time visitors. The problem is...I'm scared to death she will commit me to an institution for bringing it up. We enjoy going nude around the house when the kids are gone, but taking the next step of doing it socially worries me on how she will react to the idea. I have printed many articles and stories from this site for her to look over and realize that normal people enjoy social nudism. The other thing is she is very self-conscious about her body. I think she is beautiful, but trying to convince her of that...very challenging. Any ideas?

[Vin]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Fresh Air:
Vin,

What is your situation? <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Wife is NOT interested. No way, no how. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[FireProf]

Fresh Air: Congratulations on your success with step 1 and your wife! I would suggest several other trips like your last one before venturing onto the beach...unless your wife suggests it. You are following the right path with her, patience, patience, patience, and let her suggest repeating this successful outing the next few times. These nude day trips may not come as often as you'd like, but they will once she feels more comfortable with outdoor nudity.

Believe me, it took about three years to get my wife to this stage and she now frequently suggests a nude day at a resort or beach. Because I allowed her to become comfortable at her own pace. /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

Dotcodan:

If you are seeking advice I will give you the same advice I gave Fresh Air the first time and this time. Patience and allow your wife to experience nudity more frequently at home and in the privacy of your yard. Once she is comfortable there, then you can suggest other places with the stimpulation that if she is uncomfortable, you will leave.

After my wife was comfortable at home and in the backyard, I suggested a nude beach. We sat near other couples but far enough away so my wife didn't feel crowded and overwhelmed. I asked her where she wanted to sit on the beach. After awhile and several simular trips, we began sitting closer to other couples and ended up making good friends with another nudist couple. We remain friends today 3 years later.

Good Luck to both of you! /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[nudeM]

Vin: I was in the same boat at first. Last year, when I decided to go be nude at home, my wife was in utterly shock. I think, for maybe two-cents, she would have had me locked up in an insane asylum. Of course, I decided in a split second. When I told her I called the neighbors for their views (about going nude in the backyard), she thought I lost it. Also, before she went to town, I just dropped my shorts, right then and there. When she returned home, I was in the back yard, cleaning the pool, nude of course. After having so many tragedies in my family the previous year and a half, I told her, I'm going to start living "my" life from then on, because life is so short and cannot be taken for granted.

This year, when the weather began to warm up, I started out like I finished last year, going nude. Over time, she has joined me (when the kids are gone. We remodeled the bathroom, and to my amazement, she joined me nude also. So it was her and I, both nude, working on the bathroom. Being nude outside is something different. She will wear a light blouse,(bottom revealed) but long enough to hide the essentials. She will not (bare) herself out in the yard, yet, but she has made plans on adding a garden around the fence.

We did go to a nudist beach over Easter weekend (first time in over twenty years). She did not join me nude, due to the fact, there was no sun screen. But she did walk along the beach with me, and we had a nice time. Next time, the sun screen will be handy.

Since going nude at home, she has become a regular on this site. She enjoys reading the jokes and communicating with other "joksters" through private messages. I think she likes the nudist lifestyle, when no kids are around. As far as going to a nudist resort, I'll try that one day. I'm not sure if she will be nude around others, in a home-like atmosphere, but we'll find out one of these days.

My suggestion, is to have your wife look at this site, show her the many different threads, pictures and links available. As with my wife, I showed her that nudity is not related to sex (but you don't have to undress either). Maybe, she will become a new member and spend a lot of her time talking to others as well. Good luck!

[FireProf]

NudeM:

When hw is ready, you may wanna try Terra Cotta Inn in Palm Springs. Clothing Optional and very friendly. My wife's first resort experience was at Terra Cotta and she loves the place.

We've met so many new nudists and first time social nudist there. INA did a nudes in the news on location there and I think they would agree that it's a great place to take your wife for her first time experience to the full social aspect of nudism. /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[hw]

Hey everyone, you too nudeM.... I am not the prude you seem to think. I very much like being nude. I don't like gawkers...I don't think anyone does. Our kids were not brought up in the nudist environment so I don't think this is a good time to be practicing this life style in front of them.
When we went to the beach over Easter weekend, nudeM wouldn't tell me we were going so I wasn't prepared.....I guess he couldn't say it in front of my mother. He has a year round tan, but I burn very easily...that's the only reason I didn't get naked at the beach.
I also have to find restrooms..... my bladder just can't take it any more. Even the stores I go to, first thing I scope out is the restroom locations. We women have "indoor" plumbing, while you men have "outdoor" plumbing. It is not as easy to squat as it is to stand. /infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif
Some day if we ever get the kids raised....not anytime soon as we have grands to raise too...We will be able to enjoy the nude lifestyle more.
As long as there are holes in our fence I will remain somewhat covered in the backyard....don't want any gawkers there either.
FYI...When I was a teenager....my friends and I would frequently swim nude at the river! /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif
Hope everyone has a nice nude day. /infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

[FireProf]

Hi hw,

Hope you didn't think I was referring to you as a prude. Not in the least. For one, I don't think you'd be here on this site and post replies if you were.

I simpathize with your situation when it comes to the kids. We started to raise the kids as home nudists but somehow lost track when we moved from our first home, into an apartment for almost a year before our current home was built. Since the break in home and backyard nudity, along with puberty, we found it hard to recapture the lifestyle with our kids.

They have since grown and left the nest. It has enabled us to enjoy the lifestyle almost all the time. We have to revert back to wearing clothes when they visit from time to time. They are well aware of our lifestyle and support us...just not right for them yet.

We miss the heck outta our kids; and grandkids but are so glad to be on our own so we can enjoy the lifestyle. Hope you'll be able to enjoy it as we are when the nest empties!

I enjoy reading your replies. Hoping my wife will get involved here as well. I hope you don't mind but I often get her to read your posts and replies in hopes she will do the same soon.

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[hw]

Hey FireProf.....My prude comment was not directed at you....it was mostly for nudeM, as he rarely shares as much with me as he does with the people on these forums. I'm beginning to understand why....I feel very close to some here even though, we've never met. That being said..

I sure would like to talk to your wife....it seems, although I cannot tell by your profile, that you may be a little older than I am. You say you have the empty nest, we are not even near that yet...darn. I will PM you with my question as I don't want it to seem like I am hijacking this post.

Thank you for your kind words.... /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

Oops...I just went to your profile and you don't get PM's....oh well...nice chatting with you. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[FireProf]

HW,

When we became members, and I filled out all the stuff for membership and the forums, I purposely did not fill out the PM info cuz I wasn't sure what I might be getting into. That was some time ago and I will have to go in and update some of that info so I can get a PM if someone wants to send me one. Thanks for the heads up!

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[hw]

Hey FireProf....I do hope you get the PM's back on your profile...I have a question that I don't think pertains to anything thus far posted. Plus it's something I would like a woman's point of view on. Thanks for your imput....I'm slowly enjoying this nude life...Have a great evening. /infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

[FireProf]

HW:

I have updated by profile to include PM's. Fire away with your questions!

Have a good day. /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[hw]

Thanks FireProf.....got the pm... hw /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by hw:
Hey everyone, you too nudeM.... I am not the prude you seem to think. I very much like being nude. I don't like gawkers...I don't think anyone does. Our kids were not brought up in the nudist environment so I don't think this is a good time to be practicing this life style in front of them. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Most people are not comfortable with gawkers but you get over it after awhile. I did. There are ways to take care of them anyway. I bring a camera and tell them I am going to put them on the Internet and they go away.

As for your kids you need to mention their ages. It is probably best that you educate them about nudism and bring them along. It would be to their benefit.

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
He has a year round tan, but I burn very easily...that's the only reason I didn't get naked at the beach.
I also have to find restrooms..... my bladder just can't take it any more. Even the stores I go to, first thing I scope out is the restroom locations. We women have "indoor" plumbing, while you men have "outdoor" plumbing. It is not as easy to squat as it is to stand. /infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif
<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>If you are at a beach the water is your "restroom" silly. Just get in the water. And as for peeing in nature, when you are nude it is no problem for women to pee. With no clothes in the way it is as easy as it is for the guys. You will see once you try it a few times.

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>
Some day if we ever get the kids raised....not anytime soon as we have grands to raise too...We will be able to enjoy the nude lifestyle more.
As long as there are holes in our fence I will remain somewhat covered in the backyard....don't want any gawkers there either.
FYI...When I was a teenager....my friends and I would frequently swim nude at the river! /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif
Hope everyone has a nice nude day. /infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Please reconsider telling your kids about nudism. At least promise you will think about it. They are missing out on a great thing no matter what their ages.

As for the holes in the fence, if they are peeking they are breaking the law, not you. It is your yard and if you have taken precautions not to offend your neighbors and they go out of their way to try and see you they are in the wrong not you. Stop letting ot bother you and have fun!

[florida-david]

nude m and HW - i am surprised that you have not told your kids. you seem to be great people with excellent communications skills and i'm sure your kids are open minded as well. they should understand your nudist tendancies and maybe even want to join in. i can tell you from experience with my little ones (maybe the same ages as your grandkids), that they love being nude at the beach. no one (not even little kids) like sand in there shorts and wet clingy shorts when building sand castles. when its time to go home after building sand castles, its much easier to get them clean.

i hope we have challenged you to let your family in on the fun you have when nekkid (just bring the sun tan lotion, especially for those little kids).

[nudeM]

florida-david: Our kid is 14 years old. He knows I like to go nude around the house, and has since accepted it, uncomfortably or course. So I'll cover up when convenient, but when it's hot, I'll strip. The grand, on the other hand, is somewhat younger. My daughter, being against it totally, has shown her disapproval. So I will cover up when she is around. On the other hand, if the weather is hot, if she does not want to see me, then I'll spend time out in the back, curtains drawn closed. I'll tell her I'll "be in the back". She has seen me once, by accident, but now she will knock to see if it is clear to come in.

On weekends, when all the kids are gone, especially if it's hot, I'll be naked all the time, even when the 14 year old is home. He has assisted me working in the back yard already, so he is coming around. hw will join me only when ALL the kids are gone.

[hw]

Hey cyndiann... check your PM's for more info. Thank you everyone for your advice. FireProf will PM your wife again. Have a great day. /infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

[stevenf64]

nudeM so what you are saying is HW doesnt do the yard work
PS my 13(soon 14) only does yard work when he wants money. with dad its the wallet wiht mom its a ride.

[nudeM]

stevenf64: I am not saying that at all. What I was saying was, when my son helped me in the back yard, I was working nude. hw helps also, but she does not totally strip like I do. She wears a thin blouse that covers up the essentials, but she is nude underneath. In fact, if one were to take a close look, they would see nothing but skin. hw does more yard work in the front with the flowers and plants, but she HAS to be clothed for that. The main street is right in sight. The back yard is different. It is surrounded by a wooden fence, so working in the nude is no problem. It's just that she choses not to go totally in the buff. The neighbors can see through the boards.

As far as the son, he knows I'll wear nothing while in the back, but he has assisted me. He does not expect anything, but I eventually pay him. As you stated, he will request for more work, at times, because he needs some money. I have no problems with that.

[Fresh Air]

Dotcodan,
Going from home to club is a big leap. I know my wife would have never done that straight off. I would try somewhere outdoors and secluded first. That worked for me. I figure that makes the next steps alot less drastic.

FireProf,
Thanks for the advice again and thanks for giving me hope where I often have none. The fact that you experienced similar things with your wife means alot.

Vin,
Try just sleeping together, or spending time naked together. Cuddling, massages, talking, showering or whatever. That was the first step for me.

[Jill]

I have been reading all of these great posts and decided to share. I also do not go nude at home in front of my children, my husband has been very patient with me and has given mounds of info and ordered magazines for me to look at and read. I am not a nudist and have a hard time with all of it, but am open to try new things. So this is what I have done. I called Pensylvan the nudist camp in Pa and made an appt for Friday to have a tour and ask as many questions as I want. The woman( Robin) is great and very friendly and I am looking forward to it. I am not taking my husband he suggested I go alone after I made the appt thinking maybe he would add pressure. Please pray that I have a great day and come home with a new perspective on the nudist lifestyle. Thanks and sorry for the long post! Have a great night /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif
Jill

[mel9122]

way to go jill,you have made more head way than most wife's have done includeing mine. I think that you will enjoy yourself and find that this is a great way of life.the best of luck. mel

[Mertz]

Interesting to see you are going to visit Penn Sylvan Friday. We (my wife and I) have been members there since we moved to PA in '81, and it is really a nice camp. The weather isn't supposed to be very nice, but hope you have a nice visit. It indoor pool and hot tub is very nice in winter, and Robin will be a great hostess.
Sorry about my first reply, this is my first attempt at this, so I don't know what I'm doing! <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Jill:
I have been reading all of these great posts and decided to share. I also do not go nude at home in front of my children, my husband has been very patient with me and has given mounds of info and ordered magazines for me to look at and read. I am not a nudist and have a hard time with all of it, but am open to try new things. So this is what I have done. I called Pensylvan the nudist camp in Pa and made an appt for Friday to have a tour and ask as many questions as I want. The woman( Robin) is great and very friendly and I am looking forward to it. I am not taking my husband he suggested I go alone after I made the appt thinking maybe he would add pressure. Please pray that I have a great day and come home with a new perspective on the nudist lifestyle. Thanks and sorry for the long post! Have a great night /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif
Jill <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

[missouriboy]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Mertz:
Sorry about my first reply, this is my first attempt at this, so I don't know what I'm doing! <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Mertz, welcome to the forum! When you click on Reply and the dialog box comes up, point your mouse into the blank area below the quote, then type your message. This way, it reads top to bottom, like a book. Also, you can edit (shorten, or entirely delete) the quoted message you're responding to.

After your message is posted, there is another button you can click on to edit and/or delete your existing posts. You might want to try it by deleting that first erroneous one above.

Again, welcome to our little family. Enjoy! /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif