Question about home nudity.

[Computerguy]

Hello,
I have a question, and need some advice on what to do. Heres the thing, My Dad is divorsed and it is just me and him here at the house. I have talk to him about me going around the house nude, because I like the nudist lifestyle, but he claims that that practice is unorthodoxed and unheard of. He did allow me to go around with just a robe on, but he said he felt uncomfortable, in that he felt it was homosexual. I am not sure what to do. can any of you give me some advice, on issue. By the was, we are Southern Baptists, and live a christian life.

[Journeyman]

Whew - that's a tough one. But I did notice an article awhile back on the Home Page of CFI that may help you - print it and give it to your Dad for reading, since he seems to be close to a Bible literalist. His comment about homosexuality is not to the point at all, IMHO, but merely an excuse as to why you shouldn't be nude at home. Anyway, here's the link and good luck --

http://www.clothesfree.com/nudityandthebible.html

[Computerguy]

Thanks, I like that article.

[countryguync]

:D Welcome Computerguy. I see that you are in North Carolina also. I am located between Lillington and Sanford in Western Harnett County. Where are you located?

[Computerguy]

I live between Asheville (Buncombe County) and Hendersonville. More specifically Transylvania County Just outside of Brevard.

[walter05]

It is really very simple to me. You say it is your dad's house. In his house, if he is uncomfortable with your walking around nude, his wish should be honored.

If you are old enough and have the finances to get your own home, then you can go nude in your own home anytime you want.

[Rabid_Clam]

Being both a Southern Baptist and a Christian is only a title we among mortal men of this era speak of. Is only an utterance. What is in your heart is what is important and that you take with you beyond the grave, not these titles.

As to your father's statements, he is very wrong. We are born nude. We choose to adorn our bodies with textiles for a variety of reasons but being naked is not bad, is not a sin, is not unacceptable in presence of others who accept it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being naked. Nothing !

The way you believe in God Almighty is of no consequence to being naked. What is in your heart is. If you are naked to do bad things, then your heart needs to be cultured otherwise. Being naked is no crime. What you may do when naked could be. That is the only difference, is not a religious demand by any means. Only a cultural demand and that is by man, not the Almighty.

Gordon

[Computerguy]

Thank You, Rabid Clam. And also as walter05 was saying, if I had that kind of money I would, however unfortunately, I am currently in high school, and have two more years to go before I graduate. Which after that I intend on getting into a business or computer science field.

[ORod]

I agree with Walter05, his castle his rules. I suggest you share how liberated you feel when nude, and let your father know that your not relating nudity to sexuality. Homosexuality is about sexual preference, not nudity. If the nudity is only an issue in his preference, maybe you can restrict your nude relaxation to periods when he’s not home. Maybe after a few times of running into you nude unexpected, he’ll see that it’s not sexual at all and fell more at ease with casual home nudity.

[RichNH]

I third Walter05, his house, his rules. I'm going to get wordy here.

You have the whole rest of your life ahead of you. Your father has presumably worked long and hard to get where he is and to make his home. he has a right to expect to be comfortable in his home that he pays for.

Too, this home has a "culture/lifestyle" that you (presumably) have been comfortable with until recently when you discovered nudism. It's OK to discuss the lifestyle with him, to explain to him as best you can why it attracts you. But you have to understand that long before you were around he was making his own way through life. Your presence in his house (living with him) lasts only about two decades. After you move out, he'll be alone again and you will be able to live the life you wish to live.

One more thing, when these kinds of conflicts occur they usually generate a lot of emotions, some warranted, some not. Usually, there is a bond of love between parents and children. Please, DO NOT say or do anything that would cause such a rift between you and your father that it jeopardizes that bond of love and trust. In 10 years you will be amazed how insignificant this all is and you will be living life as you wish.

Rich

[sadlerfan]

Hey Computerguy, I have to echo what some of the other posters have said, I think that if your Dad is not comfortable with you being nude in front of him, respect his wishes. What you can do is take advantage of any time that you are home alone and go nude then. I am sort of in the same boat, I have 2 kids at home and they are not aware of my lifestyle so I can only be nude when they are not around. So just be nude when you can and dress when your dad is around. Good luck!

[Computerguy]

I can also agree with walter05, It his home. I am not trying to make it sound as though he and I have a bad relationship, because He and I are pretty close. After the first time of trying it (which I asked him about it, and he told me that he would allow me to try it around him), and finding out where he stands, I really haven't said anything else to him about it. I have always respected him as my Dad, and excepted his rules, that was the way I was raised, and I know that is what is expected out of me. I kinda figured that the only thing I would be able to do is go nude when he has already gone to sleep, or at work.

[walter05]

There is another poster that became obsessed with being nude. He was so obsessed that he insisted all around him be nude and called his wife's boss insisting on nudity everywhere. It cost him his family.

I thought the idea of social nudity is to help break down pretexts and promote mutual acceptance. If that nudity breaks down relationships within families, then it is harmful.

Some of the other posters have had good points. I want to add a little more guidance.

You are an adolescent. A few years ago, you were physically different. You were also mentally different than you were. You are developing an adult mind, but you lack experience.

Your father is aware of this. He knows that you are awakening to your sexual interests. In his view, he does not want any confusion.

I think there is more to your father's views than he is afraid you will become a homosexual. He may have trouble expressing his thoughts on matters of nudity and sexuality. He wants you to develop a healthy view of your body and a healthy sexuality.

You said that you have two more years of high school ahead of you. Please be patient. There is much for you to learn.

You must honor his rules. Trust and respect his guidance. Try to be as close to him as you can be.

Later, you will move out on your own. If you want to be nude in your home, it will not be a barrier with anyone. If you have a healthy relationship with your father, you will be able to call on him during challenging times and receive love, support, and guidance. Be patient, it will be worth it.