Non-naturist room mates.

[Jeffreeofclothes]

I developed a fondness for nakedness several years ago when I used to go to health clubs that had saunas and hot tubs right in the locker rooms where they could be enjoyed the way nature intended. Have already made many friends from 4 different websites that I like to chat and cam with. My dilemma- I ahve a house mate who is my friend but he's also a non-naturist. He thinks it's abnormal and doesn't think I should pursue it. I find myself having to sneak in my naked time when he is out of the house or asleep. I'm sure there are many of you out there that can probably relate to this. What do I do?

[Jeffreeofclothes]

What makes it frustrating for me is it's MY HOUSE (he rents from ME) and MY LIFE.

[Croydon]

What makes it frustrating for me is it's MY HOUSE (he rents from ME) and MY LIFE.
Why not ask him to leave and find yourself another roommate who is ok with your nudity?

When I lived in NYC, my first roommate moved out. When I searched for new roommate, I placed an ad on craigslist and mentioned in my ad that I am nude at home and if the person is interested in renting, they must be ok with nudity.

Believe it or not, I had no problem finding a new roommate. In fact, he was a home nudist and we had no problems

[enertronik]

yup, best plan is to hunt for a fellow nudist or at least someone who is okay with it. I see lots of nudist rental ads; it's not out of the ordinary.

[fredm74]

Croydon, I agree with you but if this guy moved in not knowing that Jeffreeofclothes was a home nudist then it should have been brought up, discussed and agreed upon before he moved in. At this point he would have to form some sort of compromise here. I do think nudists and non-nudists can learn to co-exist if need be.

But in Jeff's position this guy went out of his way to criticize his nudism and to me that's a little disrespectful and he should find some place else to reside. Just my 2 cents.

-Fred

[nakedjohn]

Problem is very easy to solve. OUT! It is your house and you set the rules.

[Nude and Tanned]

OK it seems to me a good man to man conversation is in order. You need to tell your renter of your desire to be comfortable in your own home, and then let him tell you what he finds so wrong with it. It very well maybe that he is concerned that if he has someone over they would be uncomfortable or something more simple. The two of you should be able to come to some kind of agreement on your nudity issue where both of you can be happy.

[nudeM]

Maybe a compromise such as you being 'allowed' to wear a wrap around. Although you are not entirely nude, you are not entirely clothed either, yet comfortable. Just a thought. I agree this is something that should have been brought up at the beginning. If he is on a lease, then be careful, there could be repercussions. It's time for a one on one talk. Let us know how things work out.

[Nude in the North]

I wouldn't compromise, to the extent that it meant you couldn't live as you choose.
Discuss the issue with him, making it clear that your desire to be nude is very strong. Explain your feelings, and try to educate him about nudism. Most of all, ask him about his feelings. Find out why he is so set against it. If he has concerns about things like Visitors, or other things that go beyond your house.

Maybe a good conversation, addressing his issues will solve the problem. If not, you have to make the decision that works for you.

[blackrebel]

You changed the rules on him mistream, so, for now you should make some compromise. Educationally, you can enlighten him and see.

Nudists imposing their nakedness is not a good way to help the cause. But, not being allowed in your home may be going too far.

See what his compromise is and move from there to resolve the dispute.

[Nekkidhead001]

i too have this problem. i am usually only nude when i am in my room unless no one is here. I have another problem though, my roommate's girlfriend has a key to our house, which i don't like one bit because she thinks she can come in anytime she wants.

[nakeduni]

What makes it frustrating for me is it's MY HOUSE (he rents from ME) and MY LIFE.

Get a new room mate.

[walter05]

When sleeping, you sleep nude. Unless your roommate sleeps in your bed, he will not care.

When walking to and from the bathroom, you can do that nude also.

You can then start wearing only shorts that are a little large without any underwear. From the back, some anal cleft will often show. When you sit around watching television with one leg raised, genitals will happen to be exposed.

He will get used to seeing you naked. At some point, he will probably tell you if you want to be naked, you might as well.

For NekkidHead;

I would tell your roommate that you go to and from the bathroom naked. Please tell him if his girlfriend comes in unannounced, she may see you naked.

From that point on, if she walks in and you are naked, say hello and ask her if she likes the weather.

[Jeffreeofclothes]

i too have this problem. i am usually only nude when i am in my room unless no one is here. I have another problem though, my roommate's girlfriend has a key to our house, which i don't like one bit because she thinks she can come in anytime she wants.

Glad someone else can relate.

[nudeinwa57]

I guess I'm very lucky. Although my roommate is not a nudist at home he doesn't mind if I am nude at home. Since it's cold out this time of year the only place I can be comfortable and nude is at home and I never wear anything once in the door of my home.

Michael :)

[PhilE]

yeah i know what you mean. I'm in college, and i live in a dorm, and my roommate isn't a nudist, and i can only be naked when he's at class and i'm not, or when he's at work. i've slept nude a couple times, but that took a lot of courage, since our beds are only like 6 feet apart.

[Agde]

I have a house mate who is my friend but he's also a non-naturist. He thinks it's abnormal and doesn't think I should pursue it... What do I do?
A set of "house rules" is always a good idea. It sounds like on the top of your list should be: "There is no minimum dress code." Its actually a great opportunity to create a space where the social rules are based on naturist principles.

Life is full of adjustments, but its almost never a good idea to compromise with intolerance. I wouldn't be shy about discussing the need to be respectful and mutually tolerant in your home. Paying rent doesn't buy the right to be judgmental and unfriendly.

[melissastarr]

A nudist rooming with a non-nudist is quite an ordeal. I can testify, as I've done this for 2 years now. Thankfully, I'm moving soon! It's hard to have to throw clothes on at the sound of the key in the door or to run and hide when her bedroom door opens during one of my middle-of-the-night naked computer sessions. It's downright frustrating at times! My roommate knows I'm a nudist and has known all along. I thought I'd be able to stifle myself a little, but now I FEEL really stifled. Finally I can't take it anymore and I'm moving in a few months- hallelujah!!! Good luck to you in your situation.

Melissa

[whitestokes]

A nudist rooming with a non-nudist is quite an ordeal. I can testify, as I've done this for 2 years now. Thankfully, I'm moving soon! It's hard to have to throw clothes on at the sound of the key in the door or to run and hide when her bedroom door opens during one of my middle-of-the-night naked computer sessions. It's downright frustrating at times! My roommate knows I'm a nudist and has known all along. I thought I'd be able to stifle myself a little, but now I FEEL really stifled. Finally I can't take it anymore and I'm moving in a few months- hallelujah!!! Good luck to you in your situation.

Melissa

And luck on finding a new and better place Melissa!

However, this subject topic is kind of funny to me, due to that I know of many of my non-naturist guy friends who if they had a female roommate that speak of the thought of being a naturist, they wouldn’t too much care. However, if it’s a male roommate it probably be some problems that will occur, but this could be also said about many non-naturist female who have a male roommate that pronounce to them that he a naturist as well.

I think I have the perfect expression of this type of situation, from an old picture of a cartoon that captures the true essence of the moment.

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[MJ_KC]

I have lived alone in my 4 bedroom home for way too long to want to ever have someone who isn't a nudist to move in with me. In fact I enjoy the solitude and don't really want to share my space at all. One of my nephews lived with me for about a year a long time ago and that was enough to convince me to never do it again. I couldn't even feel safe using my spa in the nude because I never knew when he might come home and possibly bring a guest.

[Christian]

I was talking with a roommate last night and he said that he thought that nudity was a "special gift to share with a special person." I almost threw up. :rolleyes: We have had a couple of clothes-free hang out times here in the apartment but I guess he still feels a little uneasy about it. Whatever...I'm not placating him nor would I ask him to do so.