Erections and Naturism

[nudiarist]

From my perspective, the issue of male erections in nudism/naturism is overblown. Rarely do they ever occur, and if someone does experience a spontaneous event, there are ways to deal with it, such as covering up with a towel, or rolling over onto one's stomach when at the beach. I don't think that there's any question that naturists consider erections normal and natural occurences, and nothing necessarily to get alarmed about.

Recently an inquiry was made to a naturist club regarding their policy on erections, and this was the reply: "Don't go near others in a way that the erection is near their face, and things like that. Put less formally, we say "Guys have dicks. Dicks get hard. Deal with it." So if you are comfortable letting your erection wave, feel free to do so."

This statement followed the typical advice, such as covering up, etc. Does anyone think that a "let it wave" policy is consistent with naturist and nudist philosophies? Are there any women reading this that are OK with this policy, or would this be seen as a reason to avoid such a club?

nudiarist
Diary of a Nudist
http://www.diaryofanudist.com

[nacktman]

While "let it wave" is a bit looser terminology than the attitude and 'policy' I have encountered at nudist clubs and events it is not all that loose.
By which I mean no special notice is afforded and the 'reason' for 'special notice' soon resolves itself so focus is not on any 'waving' member.

However a concerted effort to bring about such 'notice' is not to be tolerated and is not at nudist clubs. In clubs that are other than nudist clubs it is likely a different story ... because nudity is allowed or encouraged or required does not mean that the club is a nudist club.

You need to check up on any club before and after visiting as a matter of course to find the one that suits your needs.

Now, this is the 20something thread dealing with this topic that I have counted so far so I suggest a perusal of those myriad of threads for more discussion should that be desired as this subject as been 'discussed' ad nauseum and then some on those threads already.

[nudiarist]

Now, this is the 20something thread dealing with this topic that I have counted so far so I suggest a perusal of those myriad of threads for more discussion should that be desired as this subject as been 'discussed' ad nauseum and then some on those threads already.


I fully understand that, but I am looking for reaction specific to the stated "let it wave" policy, as well as the "Dicks get hard. Deal With It" attitude of this one club. I am specifically interested in hearing from women as to whether or not this policy is a deal-breaker for attending or joining.

nudiarist
Diary of a Nudist
http://www.diaryofanudist.com

[Fuzzy Nuts]

Just wish mine got hard more often!!!!

[NudonyII]

Ok...ok; I'm not a woman.

But...I once eavesdropped on a conversation between two nudist women, discussing a certain individual who occasionaly had erections, and made no effort to conceal it. Quite the contrary; it seems he would continue socializing as usual. Needless to say, they were expressing less than positive views about this individual. If these two women were typical nudist women, which I believe they were, such a policy would undoubtebly be a deal-breaker.

I've seen this a nude beaches too, where an erected fellow will cause nearby women to pack up and move, or put their clothes back on. I can't speak for women, but it seems that an overt erection is quite a powerful repellent for them, regardless of the situation or location policies.

[FireProf]

I am specifically interested in hearing from women as to whether or not this policy is a deal-breaker for attending or joining.

nudiarist
Diary of a Nudist
http://www.diaryofanudist.com


Given the fact that the number of threads dealing with this subject are too many to count (naturist websites internet wide) and most of the women that will contribute to this topic (here on CFF) have already given their two cents on this topic, I will find it surprising if you get any response from just the women here. This thread may go on and on, as many others have, with the arguements between male naturists about whether or not allowing your erection to "fly free" is appropriate in a naturist setting.

I don't believe you'll get the responses from the females that you've requested or find many, if any, females members that are okay with "flying free" erections at clubs or in favor of this policy at a club.

Just my opinion...of course.

[rikkiann]

Ok my opinion as a female. If im on a nude beach and i see a guy with
an erection it doesnt bother me as long as he is not flaunting it. i dont care if he covers up or not. Its a natural thing isnt that what nudism is all about being natural. I dont run to put my top on every time my nipples get hard.
so i guess the "let it wave" policy is ok with me

rikki

[MoonShadow]

Being an ancient nudist, that is, one of several decades, I have not encountered in all those years that many erections. Should they occur, they are no big deal as long as the man is not being an exhibitionist about it which most are not. On very rare occasions, there has been the guy who (wasn't a nudist or wanted to be one) wanted to flaunt his hard penis. He was asked to cover up and to leave. But over the years, such sights have not been that common.

I agree with nudiarist that they are not that frequent and that the subject is overblown. I, personally, think that those who have "problems" haven't a grip (hope this is not a bad pun) on their own nudity yet or they are not nudists to begin with, just men who want to flaunt or be gawked at. They do exist.

Erections do occur from time to time but most are very brief and most nudists don't make any issue about it or even any comments.

Having a policy seems odd to me. Maybe, like some clubs, they have a generalized "etiquette" policy. Further, nudist women know they will occur from time to time and for one to make a comment seems even more odd to me.

[nudiarist]

Is the club's casual attitude a deal-stopper? Is that the question?

Yes, I am particularly interested in hearing from women who would consider a "let it wave" policy on erections as unacceptable, and are they offended by a club that says "Dicks get hard, deal with it"?

nudiarist
Diary of a Nudist
http://www.diaryofanudist.com

[MoonShadow]

Hi nudiarist! I don't object to such a policy but as I stated earlier I find it odd to have one. And the way it is worded, is a bit tacky and seems to have an angry bent to it. Personally don't think nudist women would object to such.

[wolf_humor]

The policy that a man has to cover up when he gets an erection is really offencive to me. We never really focus on when a woman gets an erection (hardened nipples). If it happens alot and there are many compaints, deal with it on an individual bases. I agree that the wording of the policy is a little wrong. If we are naturists, we should not try to cover ourselves or force others to. Anyways, my two cents.

[Pete Knight]

Are you really that dim, a womans nipples are in no way comparable with genitalia, and men get erect nipples too!

What I find offensive is men who try ti insist that erections are normal and should be allowed to be flaunted, I say lets leave things as they are, giving the green light to erections will result in hundreds of them being flaunted in the name of naturism, get a life you saddo's.

Pete Knight

[MoonShadow]

I agree, Pete.

Wolf Humor, women's and men's nipples both get erect for various reasons not associated with being sexually turned on. Cold, heat, water, running, exercising can all make nipples on both sexes erect. Very normal and very common.

[wiz]

I fully understand that, but I am looking for reaction specific to the stated "let it wave" policy, as well as the "Dicks get hard. Deal With It" attitude of this one club.

While the statement might be slightly crude I don't think it is far off the mark. It is a reality much like erect nipples on a woman and really shouldn't imply anymore than it does there.

In any event at the core of the statements is the acknowledgment that natural things to happen. Any one in my mind rejecting an erection is at the same time rejecting every other natural body function. This is however not to be confused with some body sexually stimulated which in my mind is a wholly different thing all together.


I am specifically interested in hearing from women as to whether or not this policy is a deal-breaker for attending or joining.

What difference does it make? 1. woman are not so equipped. 2. Everybody has their own tolerance and space to deal with.

The issue of space to me is significant; if a woman sees an erection half way across the resort and complains, then who has a problem?



nudiarist


In any event I have to wonder what is up with the start of this thread? It strikes me as an attempt to simply inflame conflict.

Dave

[natfam]

It is absolutely absurd to compare nipples to a penis. That is a ridiculous argument.

Truth of the matter is that any man with an ounce of self control, and whose mind is of the right thought would not have to worry about an erection. I am sorry, but the wind blowing will not give you an erection unless you are three years old or you succomb to stimuli.

It is also my opinion that grown men that want to walk around and "let it wave" only want to bring attention to themselves, and most likely hope to get lucky.

My entire family are naturists and we frequent many clubs, groups and campgrounds. First of all we have yet in some years seen anyone beyond their teen years that was having this issue. Secondly as a husband and a father, I would be concerned with the intent of an erect male running around my wife and/or children. Any intelligent person knows what is on their minds,and it is not what is on the mind of 99.9% of all social naturists.

Instead of changing what I [a male with a penis] feel is an acceptable policy, I think that people that think it is ok should evaluate themselves, and realize they are more interested in sex and not naturism. Since this is true I would suggest going to the proper venue, and stay away from family orginizations, that way you can flaunt your engorged penis to your hearts content.

My apologies to the real nudists on these forums, my post was not directed at you. To the ones that are not here for social naturism, I deplore your attemps to decieve and get your rocks off under the disguise of naturism. You know who you are, and chances are so do the good people of this group.

[wiz]

Personally this is what I see as the issue, the subject just affords those that desire to attack males and maleness material for discussion. Probably liberal democrats.

One thing that comes to mind is just what constitutes an erection that is objectionable? Is it an issue of a full on erection ready for penetration or all the many levels in between? If a guy wakes up in the middle of the night to take a piss and is semi, is that objectionable and if so why?

The whole problem with this issue is that most agree that guys shouldn't run around in a sexual aroused state. OK but does an erection automatically indicate arousal? Nope! Nor does the many states that the organ can take throughout the day. Some may argue that having a penis that changes shape from time to time is not normal, I see it as very normal and a sign of life! If mine ever gets to the point where it never makes itself noticed, from time to time, I'll hand somebody a shovel to bury me deep.

Now maybe my perspective is a bit skewed as I've not experienced an erection suitable for sex while at a nude venue. Thankfully I've been a bit slower at somethings in life. ;) But that doesn't mean I haven't experienced various natural states of the penis.

Dave

[wiz]

It is absolutely absurd to compare nipples to a penis. That is a ridiculous argument.

Actually it is as valid an argument as any. Many people associate erect nipples on woman with sexual arousal and it is about as justified as associating a erect penis with sexual arousal. For all intents it is exactly the same thing, unjustified or not.



Truth of the matter is that any man with an ounce of self control, and whose mind is of the right thought would not have to worry about an erection. I am sorry, but the wind blowing will not give you an erection unless you are three years old or you succomb to stimuli.

And just who brought up this silly nonsense about wind blowing causing problems? My argument is plain and simple the average man has a penis that will exhibit differing degrees of tumescence through out the day no matter what his state of mind is. If you deny this then I have to really question if you are a man.



It is also my opinion that grown men that want to walk around and "let it wave" only want to bring attention to themselves, and most likely hope to get lucky.

Well if it is an individual that does so on purpose then yes that would be a very accurate opinion to have. I would add though that the idea of getting luck to them may be a bit foreign.



My entire family are naturists and we frequent many clubs, groups and campgrounds. First of all we have yet in some years seen anyone beyond their teen years that was having this issue.

Frankly I can only recall a couple of times when such has happened and in one case suspect that the individual had a bit of help from the wife.


Secondly as a husband and a father, I would be concerned with the intent of an erect male running around my wife and/or children. Any intelligent person knows what is on their minds,and it is not what is on the mind of 99.9% of all social naturists.

Reading a book by its cover?



Instead of changing what I [a male with a penis] feel is an acceptable policy, I think that people that think it is ok should evaluate themselves, and realize they are more interested in sex and not naturism.

So if one guy gets an erection his only possible interests is in sex. You indicated that you have children, which means there was a high probability that you had sex. So now you have to convince us that the only reason you had sex was to have children since nudist don't have sex for sex sake.

A naturist interests in sex should be as broad as is the interest in the rest of America. That is if we expect naturist to be a cross section of society in general. In any event this whole focus on sex is only useful if you believe that all forms of tumescence are directly related to sexual arousal. Clearly that is not the case. The problem for a family man is that you really need to evaluate the threat that an individual poses and determine if the state is truly sexual.


Since this is true I would suggest going to the proper venue, and stay away from family orginizations, that way you can flaunt your engorged penis to your hearts content.

As politely as I can say, "what an idiot", no one here has yet to suggest that we should be approving of people flaunting sexual arousal. To imply such as you have above is highly offensive.



My apologies to the real nudists on these forums, my post was not directed at you. To the ones that are not here for social naturism, I deplore your attemps to decieve and get your rocks off under the disguise of naturism. You know who you are, and chances are so do the good people of this group.

Here we go again trying to use the phrase "real nudist" to intimidate anyone that doesn't fit into your narrow view of life. There is a lot more to naturism than just being social and some of that involves accepting our bodies and how they work. Your attempts to paint all natural states of manhood, to be signs of sexual arousal, clearly put you in the position of some of the most narrow minded of naturists.

Dave

[natfam]

You may call me an idiot and narrow minded if you wish, frankly that does not bother me in the least.

I have many years experience with a penis seeing as I have been male and had a penis my entire life.

I fully understand all the quirks and behaviors of this part of my body well enough to realize that it does not have a mind of its own. It does not act on its own impulses or desires. It follows the lead of my brain and acts upon my thoughts, my desires, and is completely under my control.

We are not talking about having to urinate, we are talking about an erection that is completely controlled by its owner. Like I said anyone with self control will not have a problem. If someone is flaunting an erection it is merely to draw attention. Like I said you may call me an idiot if you wish, but anyone that thinks an erection is spontaneous is the real idiot.

[G I Joe]

Flags wave--some "dicks" are up and some are down--let it be, let it be, let it be!

[krcNY]

When people (men and women) get cold or chilled....their nipples get hard.

When in the water mine get hard.....it does not mean I am arroused. I am just chilled.

I also have to agree with Natfam....I have never seen an adult with an erection at any of the venues that we have visited. I see so many men posting pics here of themselves in all states of fluff...and to tell you the truth...it turns me off. No need to draw attention to themselves for once they do that....the women won't go near him. We do tend to think they are here for the wrong reasons.

Just my female opinion here.

[NakationGal]

It's all about the context. Just be discreet!

If you're at the beach, just roll over on your stomach. If you show it off - that's unacceptable.

If you're walking around and it happens (for some odd reason, I don't think it it would) just cover yourself up with a towel, go to the bathroom and let it pass.

Being discreet is the most important thing. If you treat it like a big deal, then it will be looked at as such.

[nacktman]

I see a few of the ladies have responded which is surprising but nice to see.

From what I gather from their posts is that things happen and are not worthy of notice but that deliberate display is noted and disapproved of.

That is pretty much the same response I have had from women when this 'issue' has been brought up ... on those rare occasions when the cosmos are aligned properly and other topics of more interest aren't being discussed.

Now can we put this topic to bed and move on to weightier things like do zits really matter all that much?:rolleyes:

[natfam]

Well I do agree with you nacktman, I do want to interject some fact into the discussion.

First of all the ridiculous comparison between nipples and the penis.

An erect nipple is caused by the cylindrically arranged muscle cells found within it. In many women there are small bulges on the areola, which are called 'Montgomery bodies'.

An erect penis occurs when two tubular structures that run the length of the penis, the corpora cavernosa, become engorged with venous blood. This may result from any of various physiological stimuli, also known as sexual arousal. The corpus spongiosum is a single tubular structure located just below the corpora cavernosa, which contains the urethra, through which urine and semen pass during urination and ejaculation, respectively. This may also become slightly engorged with blood, but less so than the corpora cavernosa.

Additionally....Nipple erection happens in females during breast feeding. Both of these are caused by the release of oxytocin. Nipple erection can also be caused by a tactile response to cold temperature in both males and females. The erection of nipples is not due to erectile tissue, but due to the contraction of smooth muscle under the control of the autonomic nervous system. It is more akin to a hair follicle standing on end than to a sexual erection.

Posted by "wiz"

And just who brought up this silly nonsense about wind blowing causing problems? My argument is plain and simple the average man has a penis that will exhibit differing degrees of tumescence through out the day no matter what his state of mind is. If you deny this then I have to really question if you are a man.

This has been brought up in the thousands of posts on this and other boards, and I am sure you realize that. As far as different degrees of tumescence, yes I am aware of that. I am also aware that it is caused by some sort of stimuli, plain and simple. The only difference that would be considered natural would be the morning wood, but that is induced by the need to urinate and the body controlling it. The other would be the reaction to heat and cold, while a nipple gets erect the penis does too, in a way, by getting smaller to protect itself. The reaction to heat would be a more relaxed penis, where the skin is loose and the penis and scrotum will "hang" and appear larger than cold. But unless it is subjected to further stimuli physical or mental it will NOT become hard and erect. An erection is not the normal state, it is the created state caused by stimulation. Plain and Simple.

Also by Wiz

So if one guy gets an erection his only possible interests is in sex. You indicated that you have children, which means there was a high probability that you had sex. So now you have to convince us that the only reason you had sex was to have children since nudist don't have sex for sex sake.

I in no way stated the above. I love sex and have it often with my wife. Guess what....I also have erections and I enjoy having them and the way they feel. I have no problems with sex, or erections. I do have a problem, however when people try to include sex and erections with naturism. I have learned to separate the two.

I am not so narrow minded to believe that sex is not normal and part of everyones' life, but I also realize that it is not a part of naturism.

[nofish95]

I agree, I agree, I agree.

[Gabe]

I have never heard of a "let it wave" policy. Since I was 17 I have been able to control my erections. I think this "dicks get hard" is bull. If it happens spontaneously roll over or go somewhere out of site until you get it under control.

[slapshot]

I agree with Riki! Its natural. I have been to many resorts and beaches and never had it happen. I see there are a lot of Ohioans here. I am in Cincy. Riki, where are you from and the other Ohioans?

[justnude]

Living in a nudist household of four adult males the site of an errection or "fluffed" penis is not an unusual site. Even here, however, in the confines of our family home, we do not flaunt it! Unlike others here, I have seen errections while visiting the club. Generally, they have been on men who appear to be asleep by the pool-never walking around flaunting them. The general "flaunting' discussed here has happened while visiting nude beaches and almost always in the more isolated areas away from the families and couples.

[dakref]

I agree with slapshot. I am certainly not the most experienced nudist by any means, but I have been to several beaches and resorts and have never had it happen to me nor have I seen it happen to anyone else. I sometime wonder if too much is being made of this issue.

[David77]

In our graduate social work school, a class was required called, "Physical Growth and Change of the Individual" and was taught by a physician who mentioned that even baby boys have erections of the penis.

Sue Johanson, a nurse sex educator appearing on TV every Sunday evening, states that young teen-age boys get some erection about every ten minutes.

[TreyS]

I agree with slapshot. I am certainly not the most experienced nudist by any means, but I have been to several beaches and resorts and have never had it happen to me nor have I seen it happen to anyone else. I sometime wonder if too much is being made of this issue.

I think so much is made of the erection issue because of an overemphasis on the distinction between nudism and sex/sexuality. Suppose I were to ask you if your job is distinct from sex. Most people would likely answer yes to such a question. It should be similarly obvious to most people that nudism is distinct from sex. I think that if people stopped trying to distinguish between nudism and sex and simply said that nudism is no more or less sexual than anything else the erection issue would be of much less concern for people.

[On an Island]

Hi, I'm new here and would like to start by introducing myself. i believe i'm a nudist since birth as i can trace my interest in being nude back to my early childhood days, my other half who had obvious nudist tendencies ever since i met her, declared to me only a couple of years ago that she wouldn't mind being in a place where social nudity was the norm, (it's worth mentioning here that she had no prior knowledge that such a place really existed!). Many years back, we had many experiences with nude swimming in secluded beaches etc. and she had also started sunbathing topless enthusiastically and became a thong devotee whenever she gets the chance, but with this declaration and my agreement with it, we both finally came to acknowledge ourselves as nudists.

Regarding the issue of erections, i have to confess that it worried me for sometime when we were planning for our first (and only so far) true visit to a naturist resort, especially that i recall very well having spontaneous erections in my swimming suit when in the water. I have read here some people insisting that this can't happen and I'd like to tell them that they are very wrong, it may not happen to you but that doesn't necessarily mean that it can't happen to others since people are very different. from my side I know very well that in most of the cases where I had these spontaneous erections I was not thinking of anything sexually stimulating, I also almost invariably get a hard penis when I'm asleep regardless of whether I want to urinate or not, so all of that made me worried since I didn't want it to happen to me.

I actually took my wife's opinion as a female, whether it would be offensive for her, embarrassing for the person having the erection himself or offensive to other people in the area and she expressed an opinion very similar to


Ok my opinion as a female. If I'm on a nude beach and i see a guy with
an erection it doesn't bother me as long as he is not flaunting it. i don't care if he covers up or not. Its a natural thing isn't that what nudism is all about being natural. I dont run to put my top on every time my nipples get hard.
so i guess the "let it wave" policy is ok with me

rikki
although my wife further realizes the difference between an erect nipple and an erect penis in terms of size and function! She concluded that this shouldn't be a problem, she's prepared to see penises in the flaccid state and otherwise since it's a natural phenomena, that won't offend her as long as it's obvious that it means no harm and can't be helped, but if some pervert runs around showing off his erect dick this would surely be a repellent scene and will cause her to be irritable.

Actually I think the question is vexed because although many people have good intentions and mean no harm, such perverts do exist and can be expected on nude beaches (much less in resorts because of fear of being thrown out), so I believe it really depends on the context and for the time being let things stay the way they are, let people try to be civilized about it without such written codes as "let it wave", that'll at least keep perverts somewhat under control.

As for me, I was surprised I didn't have a full erection in the water like I used to have, I experienced a mild one that passed for a large flaccid penis :sneaky:, I'm guessing it must have been the friction with the swimming suit that caused the scandlous erections in the past, that's why it's a very good thing we nudists take those useless things off.

However, at one time I was admiring my wife.. seeing her nude for the first time in a social set up and she being full of self confidence and courage as if she's done it a hundred times before, this apparently resulted in a semi (or say 3/4) erection that was starting to show dramatically and lasted a few minutes before I was able to control it without getting nervous about it, my wife took it as a big compliment that she was the one who caused this and not all the other nude pretties around us, and she was right about that, I never looked at any woman around us in a sexual way, it never really crossed my mind, and I believe it was more admiring my wife's courage, confidence and strength that stimulated me than any sexual feeling since I've obviously seen her naked a million times before!

cheers

[wiz]

Additionally....Nipple erection happens in females during breast feeding. Both of these are caused by the release of oxytocin.

What ever the mechanics I would suggest that a large number of people associate erect nipples with arousal in woman.



Posted by "wiz"


This has been brought up in the thousands of posts on this and other boards, and I am sure you realize that. As far as different degrees of tumescence, yes I am aware of that. I am also aware that it is caused by some sort of stimuli, plain and simple.

This is what I'm disagreeing with, at least in the sense of external stimulation.


The only difference that would be considered natural would be the morning wood, but that is induced by the need to urinate and the body controlling it.

Well at least you have acknowledged one unconscious way to wood. What surprises me is that you would dismiss others.


An erection is not the normal state, it is the created state caused by stimulation. Plain and Simple.

Well I can agree on the idea that an erection is not a normal state, after all life would be very difficult for most men if the case was the opposite! But then you get into the fantasy that only stimulation will get you that way. That is certainly not the case and I believe most men can offer up examples in their lives where erections in some form or another happened with out stimulation.


I do have a problem, however when people try to include sex and erections with naturism. I have learned to separate the two.

Well I would very much like to keep the two separated. What I find hard to accept is that every state of a penis other than flaccid is the result of a guy being in some sort of aroused sexual state and was brought on by stimulation. There is simply more to it than that as it does not explain a life time of experiences.



I am not so narrow minded to believe that sex is not normal and part of everyones' life, but I also realize that it is not a part of naturism.

Well if it is part of everyones life than it is part of naturism just as it is part of life as the rest of the world lives it. Like all things a time and place for everything. Your insistence that all states of the penis, other than flaccid, are the result of some sort of stimulation just doesn't do the community justice.

Dave

[wiz]

When people (men and women) get cold or chilled....their nipples get hard.

My point was that a good portion of the population associate erect nipples with sexual arousal in a woman, justified or not. The same thing with respect to the male organ, justified or not anything other than a flaccid penis is associated with arousal.



When in the water mine get hard.....it does not mean I am arroused. I am just chilled.

Exactly and i bet you don't like people associating the state of your nipples with the supposed state of your sexual being.



I also have to agree with Natfam....I have never seen an adult with an erection at any of the venues that we have visited.

I've seen fully engorged only a couple of times. Lesser states to a greater extent. One thing to consider is that many men would be embarrassed to walk around like that, as such they will likely make a point to make sure you don't see it.


I see so many men posting pics here of themselves in all states of fluff...and to tell you the truth...it turns me off. No need to draw attention to themselves for once they do that....the women won't go near him. We do tend to think they are here for the wrong reasons.

Well I'm not into posting pics at all, so nothing to see here. :0 ;)

As to trying to determine ones reason for being here from a pic I think that is a stretch. I'm also not going to try to figure out woman and their response, public and private, to men. I've seen to many examples of one thing being said and a wholly different action being taken. A quality that men are equally guilty of.



Just my female opinion here.

What we need is a few more opinions from the female half of life. I will say though that what I often hear though is not an opinion but rather an effort of females to trying to control their environment at the expense of men. What I'd really like to know is if woman honestly believe that every state of a penis other that flaccid is a sign of sexual arousal. I'd especially like to hear from woman that have had long term relationships with men of different ages. I know personally what some woman think but a broader sampling would be very interesting.

Dave

[fre2bnude]

Well I for one would be very embarrassed if I produced an erection in front of people in a social setting such as a beach, I've always considered it to be a very private sort of thing.
I suppose that it would have happened spontaneously, as it very often did to me when a young teenager, it happened then for no apparent reason even when fully clothed. Now, I'm much older I often wish that it happened more easily, but at least I can relax and know that it will not embarrass me in front of beautiful nude people.

[Joontiki]

*clip*
What we need is a few more opinions from the female half of life. I will say though that what I often hear though is not an opinion but rather an effort of females to trying to control their environment at the expense of men. What I'd really like to know is if woman honestly believe that every state of a penis other that flaccid is a sign of sexual arousal. I'd especially like to hear from woman that have had long term relationships with men of different ages. I know personally what some woman think but a broader sampling would be very interesting. Dave
Well, seeing you asked a female's opinion . . .

Just as nipples do different things at different times for different reasons, so do penises. Just because a man has an erection, does not necessarily mean that he is aroused. I have 3 sons & they got erections even when they were weeks old! And then there's morning wood, which is a pretty good example that doesn't necessarily mean arousal!

But . . . i also know that a flaccid penis is not necessarily indicative on non-arousal either, for that matter. Someone can be aroused, but have good control (or a physical affliction). So really, in the end, what does it matter? As long as they are not being blatantly sexual?

Seeing you were interested in hearing from women who have had relationships with men of different ages, i should say that i have had experience with one man up to 24 years older, down to 20 years younger. I realize you probably meant different women, but i've been around a long time - i am 50 after all. As for my long-term relationships: one 6 years older; one 16 years younger; and my current long-term partner who is my age exactly. Everyone is so different - you really can't compare. But, in my personal experience, from newborn to 74 years old, an erection can mean anything from a full bladder to arousal to . . . no apparent reason at all!

When it comes to naturism, although it's not desired, sometimes it is simply out of the guy's control. I do understand that it could be embarrassing though (i know i would be if i was a man), because people do equate erections with arousal. It's unfortunate. Personally, i wouldn't care if a guy got an erection in a naturist situation. *I* know it doesn't necessarily mean arousal. And even if it did, who cares? It's only natural. And as long as he's a gentleman about it... I think we should give the guys a break!

I do have a question for you though wiz. I was just wondering if you could give an example of what you meant by "an effort of females to try to control their environment at the expense of men". In your experience, what ways have women controlled men in this issue?

[fre2bnude]

I enjoyed reading Joontikis views, she seems a very broad minded woman, easy to get along with. I'd be happy to have more like her around.
I'm no youngster but I've never yet been in a social naturist gathering, but if I ever do and did produce an erection I'd be extremely embarrassed. People like Joontiki would make me feel better and more relaxed.

[David77]

Joontiki,

Your reply was wonderful.

[Nicky282]

I sometimes get erections but it's only natural as long as you don't flaunt it.

[Bob.M]

On the subject of erections, we saw something most unusual at Haulover last month. 2 men, at different times would go under the lifeguard stand (Where the Lifeguard could not see them) and stroke away, to get an erection. They would then parade around in front of the few people who were in this section. Why? I have no idea. If they were gay, and trying to "hook up", they should know they were in the southern part, and their buddies were up north. I mentioned their activity to my wife, and her reaction was "So?". My reaction is that it was sort of funny, weird.

We have gone to c.o. beaches for decades, and find that erections are very rare.

[muntz]

Maybe the two guys were "experimenting" with something that may be permitted "next" and soon become common at nude beaches: Consider the fact that smooth girls now openly sit or lie back for tanning without inhibition at all nude beaches, and it may be that open display of erections will soon be accepted in the same way. Non-sexual settings such as in vigorous volleyball games or at crazy drum circles might be among the circumstances for disregard of erections. Couples just walking along together might be another acceptable situation - as I have seen a few times without petting or other contact whatsoever..
Just part of the evolving, natural freedom visible at nude beaches - like piercings, genital jewelry, bodypainting. I could be wrong. Of course I don't know others' innocent experiences. Opinions?

[fre2bnude]

On the subject of erections, we saw something most unusual at Haulover last month. 2 men, at different times would go under the lifeguard stand (Where the Lifeguard could not see them) and stroke away, to get an erection. They would then parade around in front of the few people who were in this section. Why? I have no idea. If they were gay, and trying to "hook up", they should know they were in the southern part, and their buddies were up north. I mentioned their activity to my wife, and her reaction was "So?". My reaction is that it was sort of funny, weird.

We have gone to c.o. beaches for decades, and find that erections are very rare.

That's the sort of activity that gets nudists a bad name! They're obviously just there to exhibit themselves, and hope for sex.

[ctmike345]

That's the sort of activity that gets nudists a bad name! They're obviously just there to exhibit themselves, and hope for sex.

yeah, that's definitly not cool

[alfrenude]

Hello.. Im nudist since many years ago cause my family is nudist too. I think the erections are really normals, in my case, I have been in beaches, nudist parties etc, with my family and nudist friends, and I saw many men with erections, I think there are body reactions. I dont have erections cause is normal and natural being naked, Im a true naturist!!!
Greetings

[MJ_KC]

Well, seeing you asked a female's opinion . . .

Just as nipples do different things at different times for different reasons, so do penises. Just because a man has an erection, does not necessarily mean that he is aroused.

I have had it happen simply by starting to walk in loose sand. It causes an immediate spike in my heart rate and the erection will sometimes occur within seconds. All I have to do is stop and let my heart rate drop and the erection goes away. Some people might see this and jump to the wrong conclusion.

[BrianRI]

I find that if I start talking to someone that has an erection, it goes away.

Most of the prople that I have come acrosss that have erections are new into being nude around others. Once they start feeling more comfortable, the erection goes away.

[BackpackerBrian]

I wonder if possibly there are more posts dealings with erections in a nudist setting than the actual erections themselves . . .

[1Ace]

I would say you are right Brian. I have been going to several naturist places the past two years with my wife and haven't seen or had a problem...

[WorldCitizen]

Personally I think that 'lei it wave' is acceptable, since erections occur several times a day without men even thinking about sex. Maybe it's due to my age, but I already got erections on the most inappropriate situations and places, without having sexual thoughts. I was just sitting there and BANG! Erections are punished because they are related to sexual behaviour, but I think punishment is only fair when the person acts in a sexually offensive way.

[FreeinNJ]

I think the answer is if your getting one , sit down or relax in the pool.
Also , how many more threads do we need on the penis? I see four about errection , 2 about being small , and 4 about the look of it. too much !

[finchick]

I think punishment is only fair when the person acts in a sexually offensive way.

agree 100%, in the rest of the cases why should anyone be bothered. and i don't see the point why some say that u need to be comfortable not to get erections. that sounds silly to me, i think when u' re comfortable it is more likely to get one. but as long as u don't adress it to anyone aggressively/offensively i don't see any point for others to be concerned

[DJ Leo]

I think the answer is if your getting one , sit down or relax in the pool.
Also , how many more threads do we need on the penis? I see four about errection , 2 about being small , and 4 about the look of it. too much !

I kind of agree with that, It's becoming increasingly boring to say the least. If it happens it happens it's only natural when you get excited. Enough said about erections & penis sizes... Time to move on to another subject. ;)

[finchick]

Enough said about erections & penis sizes... Time to move on to another subject. ;)

i wonder then why people like you who say "enough said" about this subject keep on writing here. there are several quotes like this, but apparently you're interested if you read them and even write here. though i think it's important to get some agrrement on this issue, i agree that these threads are quite redundant. it would be nicer if a couple of people summarized the opnions. it seems we're divided into 2 categories: those who think erections are natural and should be accepted (when no aggressive/offensive behavior is followed of course), and those who think it's inappropriate and are ashamed of it.

[FreeinNJ]

i wonder then why people like you who say "enough said" about this subject keep on writing here. there are several quotes like this, but apparently you're interested if you read them and even write here. though i think it's important to get some agrrement on this issue, i agree that these threads are quite redundant. it would be nicer if a couple of people summarized the opnions. it seems we're divided into 2 categories: those who think erections are natural and should be accepted (when no aggressive/offensive behavior is followed of course), and those who think it's inappropriate and are ashamed of it.

This is why we need to lump these threads into one and sticky it to the top for any new memeber to get the answer before they re-ask aquestion for the millionth time.

[later]

On every nudist site this is a big topic. Post after post, page after page.
We were members of a landed club and erections were a no-no. This same club held lingerie nights, go figure. We are members of a group now that sets up camping trips. They arrange trips to group camp grounds or other suitable venues. The general attitude in this group is, SO WHAT. The only rule is no open sexual activity. As with most nudist activities, erections are not a major problem, and the same holds true among this group. Have we seen erections among this group, yes. Have I ever been erect while out camping with this group, yes. The fact is, unless your waving it around waiting for someone to salute it, no one cares. You can have two attitudes on the subject, one is the chicken little theory of the sky is falling because someone is erect, or what I think is a healthier out look which is, it's natural, and unless the person is making a big show of it, what's the big deal. That doesn't mean you just walk around pointing your direction of travel constantly, just because no one comments.
My wife's is not offended by seeing erections. She is offended if that person is making a show of it.

[steve-o]

My wife's is not offended by seeing erections. She is offended if that person is making a show of it.


Perfectly well said.

[JoseO42]

I have been lucky that I had not had an erection happen while in a social nudity setting. I hope I never have it happen. It would be embarrassing to say the least. I know what to do if it were to happen which is to cover up with a towel, turn over so that I lie down on my stomach or enter the water so that it eventually goes away. I will also try to think of things like doing math in my head, or playing the first few moves of a chess game in my mind, or trying to figure out what I am going to have for lunch or dinner so that it hopefully goes away.

This is one of the reasons that I have not yet tried to get a tan by laying down on my back on a towel. I worry that I might fall asleep and get an erection when I wake up. For those of you who do not know, men have erections in their sleep several times a night that vary in terms of length of time and hardness.

It is because of this fact that when men complain of erectile dysfunction, a doctor will have a patient go to a sleep clinic where a device can be placed on a penis to measure the involuntary erections that occur as the patient sleeps. This is one way to test that there is a physical problem and not a psychological one.

[David77]

I worry that I might fall asleep and get an erection when I wake up.

And in addition, if you fall asleep in the sun, you may get a terrible sunburn (not only on your erection but all exposed skin) that will be painful and incapacitate you from going to work the next day or so, at the very least.

[Someone28]

I fully understand all the quirks and behaviors of this part of my body well enough to realize that it does not have a mind of its own. It does not act on its own impulses or desires. It follows the lead of my brain and acts upon my thoughts, my desires, and is completely under my control.

A different way of seeing it technically would be that you're only indirectly influencing it with your conscious mind. Which is enough in most cases. Still a thought.

[JoseO42]

And in addition, if you fall asleep in the sun, you may get a terrible sunburn (not only on your erection but all exposed skin) that will be painful and incapacitate you from going to work the next day or so, at the very least.

Very true but I use suntan lotion with a 70 rating so hopefully it would reduce the amount of damage that the sun might do to my skin.

[David77]

A different way of seeing it technically would be that you're only indirectly influencing it with your conscious mind. Which is enough in most cases. Still a thought.

The autonomic nervous system (ANS or visceral nervous system) is the part of the peripheral nervous system (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peripheral_nervous_system) that acts as a control system (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Control_system) functioning largely below the level of consciousness, and controls visceral (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viscera) functions.[1] (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autonomic_nervous_system#cite_note-Dorlands-0) The ANS affects heart rate, digestion, respiration rate, salivation, perspiration, diameter of the pupils, micturition (urination), and sexual arousal (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_arousal). Whereas most of its actions are involuntary, some, such as breathing, work in tandem with the conscious mind.

If we have no control over some of these erections, we need not apolagize when we wake up from sleep.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autonomic_nervous_system

[Nude Hiker]

What is the issue her. i think it gets out of proportion. An Erection is normal, specily in Naturist invoirement. I you feel it coming cover up it will pass. Dont be ashamed. To let it see to a women i feel it is not right. Most of the women will be embarrest. So men, be kind to the women, cover it up or lay on your tummy.:o

[nakedlove2009]

Yes I think it is a natural thing for a man to have an erection when outdorrs at a beach or hiking in the woods.. It has happened to me on several occaisions either at the beach or at home aor at the resort.
I believe that as long as no offense is intended then it should be acceptible to other fellow nudists.

[MrJeff]

It has never happened to me while at any nude activities or anywhere else I don't want it to for that matter.

I like to think I control it, not the other way around :laugh:

[ThalUtat]

Yes I think it is a natural thing for a man to have an erection when outdorrs at a beach or hiking in the woods.. It has happened to me on several occaisions either at the beach or at home aor at the resort.
I believe that as long as no offense is intended then it should be acceptible to other fellow nudists.

Well, intent is the big question here. Rather the whole point is that we can't count on other folks in a social nude setting being telepathic, so who would anyone know that this erect penis is one that "just happened" or that that erect penis is being encouraged by it's owner in some way? The erection sends a message (I've heard of body language, but come now!) and even if a gentleman is having difficulty controlling his penis, he still has an obligation to control the message he's sending.

Bill
Long Island

[kev4109]

I agree It's the message your sending. Just cover up it's natural.

[Enjoying life]

Every nudist forum has this very question asked, almost daily. Having been a nudist for some years now, I can say this, men get them and not much we can do about it. What we do when we get one is something we can do something about. Cover up until it goes away, when we are out in public. Just don't do anything lewd. Nudist for the most part has a bad reputation in the United States. We seem to be a more conservative group. So what you do with it when you get one reflects on us all. Yes we get them and when we do just cover up until it's gone. And I have found that the more nudist activities we do the less it is a problem,. the more naked you are, the less it is a problem. So go out there and get naked and don't worry about it.

[Raven44]

Agreed EL , have been nude since a youngster , the question has been asked too many times mostly by first timers ,etc . Im sure some ladies get warmed up as well -- we just cant see it

[MeBNude]

Well, actually, women get visible erections, too. It's just less pronouced since we're talking about nipple erections.:)

[Moontan]

First of all, I'm a man. And second I get erections. Third, they go away at some point. If I didn't get erections I would have to believe I have a more serious problem such as prostate cancer.

[Kouak]

Well, actually, women get visible erections, too. It's just less pronouced since we're talking about nipple erections.:)

In the spirit of equality, are they required to cover up with a towel or roll over? :rolleyes:

[MeBNude]

In the spirit of equality, are they required to cover up with a towel or roll over? :rolleyes:

LOL!!!

Yesterday I had to hide them in the trees!:( The hourly weather service promised 80 degrees by 4:00 p.m. yesterday, no wind. And man if they weren't wrong, I was freezing my... well... you know... off. I finally had to desert the beach for the trees to get a little break! :sick: The old timers were even putting on clothes!

[Dave5]

Every nudist forum has this very question asked, almost daily. Having been a nudist for some years now, I can say this, men get them and not much we can do about it. What we do when we get one is something we can do something about. Cover up until it goes away, when we are out in public. Just don't do anything lewd. Nudist for the most part has a bad reputation in the United States. We seem to be a more conservative group. So what you do with it when you get one reflects on us all. Yes we get them and when we do just cover up until it's gone. And I have found that the more nudist activities we do the less it is a problem,. the more naked you are, the less it is a problem. So go out there and get naked and don't worry about it.


In my opinion..Enjoying Life as the right answer.

I thought for sure the first time I went to a resort it would happen to me, but it didn't. But (news flash) men do get erections and not always when they want one. Sometimes they just happen ...although less often the older I get :-(

If it did I'd just lay low until it passed.

[660nryb]

How many times have you woke up with a big morning wood. It happens, it is no reaso to get upset, it too will pass. Now if you treat it like a new toy when it happens then there needs to be something done.

[Dave5]

Don't hang a flag from it and parade it up and down the street...

[bobk]

Don't hang a flag from it and parade it up and down the street...

I agree. Erections are natural to have, and nudism/naturism is all about being natural. Whatever thought gave rise to it will soon pass.

[texwillerjr]

i will be the new member of nudist world and as a man i think being erected is part of manship. and being a naturist live freely without disturb others so its so normal unless i point my dick any women and try to put it any vagina so if can fart you can erection

[Home Nudist]

i will be the new member of nudist world and as a man i think being erected is part of manship. and being a naturist live freely without disturb others so its so normal unless i point my dick any women and try to put it any vagina so if can fart you can erection
Tex, can you try saying all that in English? I didn't get the part about the fart.

[Sanslines]

LOL!!!

Yesterday I had to hide them in the trees!:( The hourly weather service promised 80 degrees by 4:00 p.m. yesterday, no wind. And man if they weren't wrong, I was freezing my... well... you know... off. I finally had to desert the beach for the trees to get a little break! :sick: The old timers were even putting on clothes!

Old timers? Remember.....don't trust anyone over 30!

[MeBNude]

Old timers? Remember.....don't trust anyone over 30!

Ahhhh, Sanslines... I was talking nude on the beach years, not biological years! ;) That makes me just a baby.

[Sanslines]

Ahhhh, Sanslines... I was talking nude on the beach years, not biological years! ;) That makes me just a baby.

Oh ok.......so don't trust anyone under 30! lol

[Aaron]

I totally agree with almost all of these replies as well. If you (male or female) happen to get an erection,as someone earlier pointed that females have them too, It is the way that you deal with it that makes the real statement. now,I have only had this happen to me once that i recall. The experience that i had was while i was hangin out on a beach with another young lady. While i was trying to not allow myself to be aroused by her beauty, i still managed to be "standing at attention". Since i was in an awkward position i just sat there and conducted conversation with her. needless to say, she definitly noticed my erection. Instead of her making an akward situation a disaster, she jus kinda laughed at it and sayed "don't trip, its cool. It happens." Now, she didn't say that in any concieded or playfully seductive way. She just sayed it in a real casual way and we continued on with our conversations. The reason that i shared the whole story here with yall is to also point out that it is not always just the person that has the erection that makes the situation comfortable or uncomfortable. The people that he/she is around also have a play in it. If the person is not acting perverted or inapropriate then there is no reason for others to draw attention to he/she with stares, whispers, or awkward looks.
P.S. the erection that i had went away veyr quickly after that and i never even realized it was gone till i thought about the situation later.

[nudeM]

I don't get full erections while nude anymore, but I still get the semi on occaision. But the real troubling part is, especially while doing work in the back, I have a tendency to get the "drips". I don't have anything to get aroused about, especially when working, but the "drips" happen all the time. Is this normal? I've heard it is common at times, but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting. The wife will come outside and she and I will be talking and she'll say,"You're dripping". This is embarassing. Does this happen to anyone else?

[DSailing]

I don't get full erections while nude anymore, but I still get the semi on occaision. But the real troubling part is, especially while doing work in the back, I have a tendency to get the "drips". I don't have anything to get aroused about, especially when working, but the "drips" happen all the time. Is this normal? I've heard it is common at times, but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting. The wife will come outside and she and I will be talking and she'll say,"You're dripping". This is embarassing. Does this happen to anyone else?

This happens to me too quite a bit, but I just wipe it away and continue on.

As for the main topic, I usually hide it when around others. My wife on the other hand feels that this is a natural occurrence with men and they should "let it wave".

[Triker]

True. Just because a man or woman enjoys Naturism doesn't mean he or she has to repudiate their God-given sexuality and occasional sexual reflex. It's being human, and it doesn't mean that they act on it.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

[Aaron]

I don't get full erections while nude anymore, but I still get the semi on occaision. But the real troubling part is, especially while doing work in the back, I have a tendency to get the "drips". I don't have anything to get aroused about, especially when working, but the "drips" happen all the time. Is this normal? I've heard it is common at times, but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting. The wife will come outside and she and I will be talking and she'll say,"You're dripping". This is embarassing. Does this happen to anyone else?

nudeM- I am lost here. What do you mean "the drips". like you drip a lil urine while ur goin about ur day?

[nudeM]

nudeM- I am lost here. What do you mean "the drips". like you drip a lil urine while ur goin about ur day?-------------------------------------------

What I mean about the "drips" is I'm constantly "leaking". Not urine, but more of the substance called pre***, or natural lubricant. I happens without warning and sometimes I'll ignore and continue about my business, but then I'll look down and and there it is, the "leaks". I just wipe it dry and continue by activity.

Seems like it happens only when nude, because during the day, when fully clothed, it doesn't happen, even though I go commando. One would think the "leaks/drips" would happen when going commando because of the rubbing that goes on 'down there'. But it doesn't. It's more of an embarassment than anything. I have been to nude beaches before, and it still happens. So again, I just wipe it dry and continue. The embarassing part is, I'll just walk down the beach and constantly wipe, or face the consequences of walking with a 'wet string' (lol).

[Aaron]

Thats interesting. I have not experienced that.I can definitley see how that could be an amberassing situation at times.

[workoutbud11]

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What I mean about the "drips" is I'm constantly "leaking".


I have this same problem, every time I have hung nude with others!

[sbp]

I fully understand that, but I am looking for reaction specific to the stated "let it wave" policy, as well as the "Dicks get hard. Deal With It" attitude of this one club. I am specifically interested in hearing from women as to whether or not this policy is a deal-breaker for attending or joining.

nudiarist
Diary of a Nudist
http://www.diaryofanudist.com

I am fully supporting to u. Because it is natural.

[Raven44]

Must be just one of those things guys , a sign of getting older . Helping the wife do housework a while ago she says " You're drooling " ! No possibility of arousal -- I hate dusting :confused::laugh:

[BRISnude]

No one really cares as long as you are discrete and not promoting it. Keep a towel close by for those times. Great day to get out there in SEQ.

[RJ Biker]

Hey, just count your blessings that you are getting wood! Of course you probably knew that guys get more wood in their sleep than when they're awake (another natural thing). But like it was said 10 pages ago, it's how you handle it. It's just one more thing to deal with in life. No big deal. What's that saying, don't sweat the small stuff, and its all small stuff. Carpe' diem and enjoy!:)

[Montrealluke]

Good reply RJ : what comes natural should be dealth with as a natural thing.

In any case, the whole issue is ON A NUDE BEACH or in a NATURIST CLUB so people should expect it and deal with it in a respectful adnd discrete matter, not be ashamed of, unless it is prolonged ( no pun intended )

Montréalluke

[RJ Biker]

I totally agree. Thanks for getting back on subject.

[Home Nudist]

Carpe' diem and enjoy!:)
Or, as Robin Williams once quipped: "Carpe scrotum!" :p

[colosseum]

As a male in my early 20's I must add to this thread that erections for me could possibly end up an issue. Why? Because I sometimes get erections throughout the day for no sexual reason. If I'm really tired, I'll get an erection. I don't know why but I do. If I have to go pee, sometimes I'll get an erection and it goes away after I pee.

So, in my opinion if you are a nudist then you are accepting the human body entirely, which also includes erections. No matter the reason they happen.

[northlondoner]

It is difficult enough to find places where naturism is accepted, and I would like to see more places and keep those there are. Flaunting erections will not help, regardless of whether or not anyone is offended.

[Amoure's_challenge]

I remember when unexpected arousal happened. I made it a point to think of something that turned me off. I am of the age that there is no possibility of an accidental arousal.

Now if someone in their youth took one of the erection assist drugs then they might be able to think themselves to wood and it might stay that way for awhile without any physical stimulation...:rolleyes:

[rassilon]

Being expected to always have a towel nearby bothers me. Part of the appeal of being naked is losing track of and being as far away as possible from anything that one might be tempted to cover up with. Erections shouldn't happen, but they do, and doing anything other than completely ignoring them only prolongs their stay.

[bareballs30]

It has more than likely suggested one can use a towel when one gets an erection or if one feels that they may get an erection then simply masturbate before you get to the nude gathering be it the beach or anywhere else .

[jayne]

From my perspective, the issue of male erections in nudism/naturism is overblown. Rarely do they ever occur, and if someone does experience a spontaneous event, there are ways to deal with it, such as covering up with a towel, or rolling over onto one's stomach when at the beach. I don't think that there's any question that naturists consider erections normal and natural occurences, and nothing necessarily to get alarmed about.

Recently an inquiry was made to a naturist club regarding their policy on erections, and this was the reply: "Don't go near others in a way that the erection is near their face, and things like that. Put less formally, we say "Guys have dicks. Dicks get hard. Deal with it." So if you are comfortable letting your erection wave, feel free to do so."

This statement followed the typical advice, such as covering up, etc. Does anyone think that a "let it wave" policy is consistent with naturist and nudist philosophies? Are there any women reading this that are OK with this policy, or would this be seen as a reason to avoid such a club?

nudiarist
Diary of a Nudist
http://www.diaryofanudist.com


I think that there has been a lack of female points of view on this page so i'll give my view;

i agree with most of the more liberal members on this topic. I think erections are totally natural and should be treated in that way. They happen and it shouldn't matter if people see it.

If i'm talking to someone on the beach (as i usually do) and he gets hard then it is just ignored. Hard, soft, its all the same. If anything i would take it as a compliment and certainly not take offence.

To me its the same as when people ask should a woman always sit with her legs together? in a naturist environment, its about being yourself and being comfortable, if people are constantly thinking "what should/shouldn't i be doing" or "who may i be offending" etc. all the time then they aren't being themselves.

obviously taking it to an extreme is silly but just a bit of common sense is needed.
:)

[David77]

It has more than likely suggested one can use a towel when one gets an erection or if one feels that they may get an erection then simply masturbate before you get to the nude gathering be it the beach or anywhere else .

Possibly the practice of stopping an erection from occuring on the beach by masturbating before hand, will be disappointing, as the results may not be what is hoped for.

Sex therapist point out that after an ejaculation, it takes only 20 minutes to "recycle" so as to have the ability to get another errection.

[Petrus]

Jayne, I couldn’t agree with you more! As long as somebody is not being deliberately offensive or provocative just let them be!

[scottwilliamsonoc]

My g/f and I have been to many nude resorts and beaches. It happens, it happens to me on occasion and I cover myself when it does.

On occasion, we would see a man get an erection. Most of the time, he will put a towel over it. But I have never seen a anyone flaunt it. Once I say someone joke with another guy stating, "Hey, you happy to see me?" as he walked by him. He responded with, "After looked at you, it will go down pretty quick." The both laughed and walked their ways...

[Lord Drakkus]

To me its the same as when people ask should a woman always sit with her legs together.

obviously taking it to an extreme is silly but just a bit of common sense is needed.
:)

I really like this analogy, since in the clothed world most people would consider both of these actions to be basically the same, such as "I'm ready for someone to have sex with me." While true at it's root, most of the time it's not the persons intent to have sex when it happens. Both of the ways around it, either hiding the erection or always keeping the legs closed, are an annoyance at best...

Good job thinking out of the box Jayne!

[Moontan]

I'm a man, a nudist and I get erections.

Lions and tigers and bears OH MY!!

[tomi]

I think it has nothing special for a man to have erection at anytime and anywhere, god create us to be in that way right. Have a thought on this.

[tomi]

nothing special for a man to have erection, god create us to be in such a way with this kind of feature

[oyakanım]

Actually I have seen several times men with erection on nudist resorts. I didn't mind and this should not be the problem as long as they cover up with something like towels etc. My boyfriend had also an erection once and I handed him my towel. So this situation should not be exaggerated but tolerated to a certain extent.

[David77]

It seems to me that if a naturist/nudist is also a naturalist, he would not be disgusted or repulsed or sickened with seeing an occasional erection.

[alexbcontino]

If a hard penis is unpleasant to you, why don't you just stop looking at it. We are all supposed to be "free spirits" so what is the problem with a man having a natural thing happen to him. Sometimes it is embarassing when getting an erection in a situation where you don't really want to send the wrong message, but some of you need to lighten up and not take this so seriously. Live and let live and let's all try to be nice to each other and not to find fault with others. Happy Thanksgiving to all!

[scottwilliamsonoc]

If we are so turned off by erections, how about woman show breasts get perky when they are sexually simulated?

Part of nature...

[alejandro1024]

since i havent been nude in public im worried about that but the towel covering the erection sounds like a good idea if im feeling self-conscious..although i agree that its a natural thing and not to be ashamed of.

[leeph]

it's better to cover up

[Edmontonnudist]

Walking up and down the beach flaunting a boner, I would consider as Rude Behavior.

On the other hand,laying on your back, half asleep,half awake,with a boner is a NON ISSUE in my books.

These are the two extremes.

[Lord Drakkus]

Walking up and down the beach flaunting a boner, I would consider as Rude Behavior.

I would think that would count as flaunting it. However, as you also said, laying on your back half asleep, no big deal. Sitting down reading a book, talking to a friend, whatever, should also be a non-issue. As long as your not doing anything to make it obvious, including walking, I also don't believe it's an issue in the least.

[rinkydinky]

i think it is better to cover up.

[x1wildone]

If its not being flaunted, it wil go away, and should not be an issue .
How long can this thread go?

[East Ender]

I was concrned about the possibility but discovered it to be a non-issue. It just didn't happen. It turned out to be a lot of worrying over nothing.

[NJNude1965]

I think that there has been a lack of female points of view on this page so i'll give my view;

i agree with most of the more liberal members on this topic. I think erections are totally natural and should be treated in that way. They happen and it shouldn't matter if people see it.

If i'm talking to someone on the beach (as i usually do) and he gets hard then it is just ignored. Hard, soft, its all the same. If anything i would take it as a compliment and certainly not take offence.

To me its the same as when people ask should a woman always sit with her legs together? in a naturist environment, its about being yourself and being comfortable, if people are constantly thinking "what should/shouldn't i be doing" or "who may i be offending" etc. all the time then they aren't being themselves.

obviously taking it to an extreme is silly but just a bit of common sense is needed.
:)

I wish more women thought like you. Thanks for posting.:D

[feritim]

I have been to various nudist resorts and rarely seen men with erections.I had an erection once or twice but it was my first visits to nudist resorts and I was shocked when I saw naked women and especially their genitals. I immediately had an erection and I really didn't know what to do. I could remember some ladies were loking at me and laughing. So this is not an abnormal situation.I know it is strickly forbidden in some clubs or resorts to walk around with erect penis.For me "let it wave" is OK and I know it is ok for many women too.

[bertie]

I think that when you go to a naturist resort everybody is naked so the sexual inuendo or unknown is removed thats why you get less erections on show as people dont have the sexual thouhgts just natural feelings you will occassionaly get aroused but thats human nature and nothing to be embarrased about
Bertie

[dias456]

is also sometimes embarrassed in front of crowds that we penile erection

[sally.s]

One of my first experiences at a nude beach involved a guy who got an erection. He had started a conversation and as he was talking to me he got hard. I just kept talking like nothing happened. He asked if he should cover himself with a towel? I said no, not at all. It was not offensive at all. Like another woman said, it was a compliment. Why should a man be made to feel embarrassed because his body reacted that way. I'm surprised it doesn't happen more often!

[NJNude1965]

One of my first experiences at a nude beach involved a guy who got an erection. He had started a conversation and as he was talking to me he got hard. I just kept talking like nothing happened. He asked if he should cover himself with a towel? I said no, not at all. It was not offensive at all. Like another woman said, it was a compliment. Why should a man be made to feel embarrassed because his body reacted that way. I'm surprised it doesn't happen more often!

I like this post. Not many women would say something like this.

In my book you are a good person sally.s.:D

[steve-o]

Why should a man be made to feel embarrassed because his body reacted that way. I'm surprised it doesn't happen more often!

Sally, we feel very embarrassed because it brings lots of attention to one body part and it implies that the man is sexually aroused, when that is usually not the case.

It's happened to me several times while playing volleyball, jumping around. Co-ed teams so it was extremely embarrassing for me since I could not hide it, sit down or cover with a towel without drawing more attention to myself. I got only a few looks by the guys (One of my buddies just joked and said, "Ya better put that away or it's gonna get in the way." :)). And several looks but only smiles from the women players. I was so embarrassed.

But, as Sally said, no one was horrified or insulted. Everyone who saw it apparently understood that it was from all the activity jumping, moving around, up and down, etc..

We are our own worst critics. I'm sure that I was more embarrassed by it then I needed to be. No one else minded at all.

For me, I just don't like the idea of drawing attention to one part of my body. But more so I'm assuming I know what other people are thinking what I'm thinking about. ... if that makes sense. ..?

[goldenbare99]

I had more problems with erections at the Y then at nudist camps or beaches.
Maybe because the boys and men at the Y are not nudist, just naked.

[gemuese]

mine many times hard ;)! but i love that feeling ;)!

[nudeM]

I visited a nude beach many years ago and there was this gentleman who was with others and talking away, at the same time, was doing calesthenics. True, this guy was an obvious heath nut (not being beligerant) as he had very little body fat. By the toning of his body, he worked out quite often. Anyway, while he was doing his exercises, he became "rigid". He just continued doing his reps and talking away with his friends. Nothing was said. I had no problems with this as he was exerting obvious pressures thus resulting in his "rigidness". He had a valid reason. He did not bring attention to it, nor did his friends. After awhile, they got dressed and left. Purely innocent.

[daddybigk]

Life happens....if in a mixed crowd cover up, but it is a part of life.

[hempies]

Being a naturist has taught me acceptance. People have different body shapes and sizes. We don't discriminate.

I agree an erection is natural for men, in certain situations, but it is all about respect. If you get an erection, cover up.

We as men must show respect towards woman and kids and not flaunt our erections.

Regards
Hempies

[nudeboggy]

I certainly agree with that. If it happens cover it up.

[swissnudi]

When I am on a nudist beach I don't wanna concentrate about what my penis does and need to control him. Sorry. But if i remember right i just got an ercetion once at the nude beach, when having a long intensive kiss with my gf.

[steve-o]

I visited a nude beach many years ago and there was this gentleman who was with others and talking away, at the same time, was doing calesthenics. True, this guy was an obvious heath nut (not being beligerant) as he had very little body fat. By the toning of his body, he worked out quite often. Anyway, while he was doing his exercises, he became "rigid". He just continued doing his reps and talking away with his friends. Nothing was said. I had no problems with this as he was exerting obvious pressures thus resulting in his "rigidness". He had a valid reason. He did not bring attention to it, nor did his friends. After awhile, they got dressed and left. Purely innocent.

I agree it that happens innocently a lot when exercising. I've been very embarrassed a couple times when it happened to me. But it's the context that matters and that is usually obvious to anyone who might otherwise be offended. It was obvious to everyone that I was not flaunting it so it was a non-issue (I could not cover it). If an erections develops -- yours or anyone else -- don't freak out about it. Keep cool, but also don't flaunt it.

Again, I believe context is everything.

[barefoot]

Some year ago, when the first nude swim in this area was held, many of the people swimming were new to naturism. I remember a younger woman staring at my penis while we were standing next to each other in the pool. I noticed, that my penis was "lifted" by the water in a way that might look like an erection, and I was a bit embarassed.
Later, I found myself standing next to the same woman under the showers. Again, I saw her staring at my penis. To my embarrasment, my penis was "lifted" again, and this time, it wasn't by the water. It became fully erect, and though I tried to turn away, she couldn't avoid to see.
I was afraid, that she would be angry, but the next week, she came over and sat so close to me in the jacuzzi, that we actually briefly touched each other. She started a conversation, and never menthioned the "incident". This showed me, that an erection is no big problem for at least some women.

[Willis]

The penis just gets erect sometimes. Maybe not big and throbbing, but sometimes it just needs the bloodflow. While I agree that you shouldn't go around showing everybody, you shouldn't stop it from performing its natural function. Some peoples' members do have a mind of their own in that way.

[shuya]

I think if i was at a pool id go back to changing rooms or on a beach id wrap up. id be so embarrassed, although it is nice to read that people would ignore it as it is natural. think id still run though lol :)

[Centauri4]

There are also times when in areas shared with the public such as National Forest or along the path going to hot springs that a random erection might be misinterpreted by non-nudists passing by, and what message does that convey? So everybody will have occasion to be aware of their behavior and how it may be viewed by those immediately around you, or perhaps even a hundred yards away!

An original Virginia countryside campground on private property I visited a few times, many, many years ago had farmhouses near it which I do not know if they were a part of the host's farm or not, and where if they were not the neighbors could have viewed the activities of the campers easily but binoculars or maybe even just by looking. Certainly the campers would have no idea whether they were being seen from these distances or not, on at least a few parts of the property, and so it was important for everyone to consider their surroundings. I recall having a nice time while visiting there and hiking around the property just to "get a feel" for what this nudism was all about, and having to apply BOTH sunscreen and bug repellent in liberal amounts so as to not get burned or stung to death. Certainly as a new naturist and being in such freeing and wonderful feeling surroundings I did get erect at least once or twice while applying lotion on myself. This was over twenty years ago and at an age when such things certainly did not require medicine advertised on television to happen! It is something I easily recall and wonder whether or not the neighbors might have seen and misinterpreted as illicit or undesirable behavior, but I only began to understand the role of male arousal and the "publicity" aspect of it by reading on message boards and chatrooms sometime AFTER those early experiences. Our behavior can have "political" value and be easily misunderstood by those with less experience -- or entirely different experiences in their background.

The rest of my naturist experiences have been far less remarkable and I certainly practice "awareness" and civility in all things naked these days. I do agree male "members" should be no more remarkable than female "members" and am accepting of innocent displays of natural responses myself, but there is always room for there to be more to the story than meets your eye (or your partner's, neighbor's and casual passerby's eyes too!).

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