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DJ Guy Productions

08-19-2005, 01:48 PM

A Dear friend of mine asked me yesterday and I did not really know the answer to this,

If you or your spouse was not a nudist and had not been into the nudist lifestyle. Would you care or your spouse care if guests at a beach or nudist resort ever saw you naked, would that be considered private between the 2 of you ??

Just very curious because over all I have been a nudist for 20yrs now.

And this was something I did not know what to say back

Thank you all

Kristopher

DJ Guy Productions

08-19-2005, 01:48 PM

john771

08-19-2005, 02:45 PM

Very good question...

I personally wouldn't mind if anyone saw my wife naked, as long as the person seeing her had no bad intentions. To be honest, tho, I'm not sure how my wife would feel if someone was seeing me naked.

nudenwv

08-19-2005, 05:15 PM

my wife is not a nudist. we have gone on two occasions to a nudist lodge. she did not think anything of being around other nude males. it didn't bother me either as i was nude around other nude females. we are comfortable with each others lifestyles.

DJ Guy Productions

08-19-2005, 08:56 PM

John I understand where you are coming from, I guess what I felt bad about trying to answer is that most people that are not nudists, may feel that the love of their life, is exposing their body to the world and they may only want that to be something between the 2 of them.

Just a thought I had,

Kristopher

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by john771:
Very good question...

I personally wouldn't mind if anyone saw my wife naked, as long as the person seeing her had no bad intentions. To be honest, tho, I'm not sure how my wife would feel if someone was seeing me naked. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

DJ Guy Productions

08-19-2005, 08:57 PM

Keith did your wife ever become a nudist or just feel better being around others in the private nudist resort itself ?

I think it's great that she goes with you on occasion as you stated.

Kristopher

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by keith bricker:
my wife is not a nudist. we have gone on two occasions to a nudist lodge. she did not think anything of being around other nude males. it didn't bother me either as i was nude around other nude females. we are comfortable with each others lifestyles. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

FireProf

08-19-2005, 10:11 PM

Honestly..... I guess if we weren't nudists, then, yes....it would probably bother me and my wife if someone where to see us nude. I don't think we'd be any different than most of those that ask me time and time again, after finding out we are nudists, "doesn't it bother you for someone else to see your wife naked?"

It's actually hard to answer in that we were been home nudists for over 25 years before venturing into social nudism and being around other nude people. I've loved being nude for so long, I'm not sure what I would think or feel. We are both greatful for one thing......being nudists, so we don't have to worry about it! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

missouriboy

08-20-2005, 04:49 AM

Everyone is protective of their relationship with their S.O. because it's just human nature; it stems from possessiveness and competition. However, the activities which evoke this response will vary in different cultures, and with individuals within a culture. Just a short list would be:
Talking
Looking (seeing)
Dancing
Touching
Being alone with, out of sight of oneself
Etc, etc, ad infinitum.

For a given individual, or couple, it could be any one, or any combination of things. For non-nudists, Seeing is a biggie, reserved for intimacy, as a benefit earned by having "won" your spouse. That's one of the biggest reasons for their compulsion to be clothed.

For nudists, Seeing the body is obviously not on their list, though many of the other things can, and will, be. Nudists have discarded the emotion of possessiveness about the light rays that reflect from their spouse's skin. But watch out, they still claim the skin itself! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

Did you read the long multi-page topic started by Sad Eyes? It's all about the contention that occurs when Seeing is on one spouse's list, but not the other.

NudeAl

08-20-2005, 05:12 AM

In the begining my wife did have a big problem with my being seen nude, that and she always assumed that it was somehow a sex thing. So she was very hurt and upset everytime I would go. I think she expressed this idea to me on one occaision. I just didn't get it, I couldn't see how my being nude in front of others was cheating. I tried to explain to her that it wasn't like that but what I was failing to see was that in her eyes it was. So being sensetive to your spouses feelings can help. But you have t be true to your own feelings as well.

I would never be able to stop going to nude resorts and nude beaches not even if my relationship suffered for it. At this stage in my life I simply couldn't put that aspect of my life back in the closet. Eventually she did come to understand my point and now she even goes with me and will usually go nude though sometimes just topfree depending on how she feels.

shãybare

08-20-2005, 06:04 AM

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Thanks for sharing a great story NudeAl. I am glad your wife is able to share some of your lifestyle. Too many times, wifes will not even try.

IF I were a textile I would probably mind if some other men saw my wife nude and I would feel very uncomfortable with women seeing me nude. That is because I would have a completely different outlook toward nudity than a nudist.

Nudony

08-20-2005, 06:40 AM

Interesting responses. Personally, I have never really cared about others seeing my girlfriends nude, even in my pre-nudist days. I'm sure this can be linked to having grown up in France, where toplessness was common and nudity not so rare. I dated and befriended a few girls in high school, most of which went topless; so I guess I was "trained" to accept my female friends and girlfriends being openly "exposed."

Trailscout

08-20-2005, 07:35 AM

Nudony,
At it's worst, jealousy has caused some men to worry that other men will admire their women while they are (fully dressed) in the grocery store, church, at work.

If it remains at a respectful distance, admiration of beauty is harmless and natural.

Nudity is regarded as "for your eyes only" among many textiles. I don't think that custom is helpful to the couples who live that way.

Nudity is comfortable in mild weather and puts our bodies in more intimate contact with the natural world we inhabit. I prefer to live in a society that does not sexualize simple nudity and allows us to live without the sensory deprivation of clothing.

Nudity is shocking to those who rarely or never see it, but it is, after all, the normal human condition and folks would be surprized how quickly we can adapt to it. Nudity is normal!
...........................................
Nudism not about seeing others or being seen, it is about BEING.

DJ Guy Productions

08-20-2005, 07:39 AM

Al I can understand where your coming from the other thing I forgot to mention too, for all of us, Would it affect us in regards to our relationships, at an intimate level where we are showing others our body's that the spouse would want as something special for just the 2 of you. ?

Kristopher

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by NudeAl:
In the begining my wife did have a big problem with my being seen nude, that and she always assumed that it was somehow a sex thing. So she was very hurt and upset everytime I would go. I think she expressed this idea to me on one occaision. I just didn't get it, I couldn't see how my being nude in front of others was cheating. I tried to explain to her that it wasn't like that but what I was failing to see was that in her eyes it was. So being sensetive to your spouses feelings can help. But you have t be true to your own feelings as well.

I would never be able to stop going to nude resorts and nude beaches not even if my relationship suffered for it. At this stage in my life I simply couldn't put that aspect of my life back in the closet. Eventually she did come to understand my point and now she even goes with me and will usually go nude though sometimes just topfree depending on how she feels. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

nudeM

08-20-2005, 08:29 AM

Interesting question, but if you were at a nudist resort, then who cares? Wouldn't you, and your friends, also be nude? I tend to think things would be rather startling at first, but eventually, you are there just as they, and that is to socialize in the nude.

Now, personally, a nude beach would be a different scenanrio, but the same applies. True, some may want to experience being around 'naked people' while remaining clothed, but seeing someone who you know enjoying themselves in the buff could be a shock, but then again, you are at a nude beach.

I don't think I would worry about anyone seeing my wife nude in a nudist setting, nor would she be 'fearful' of someone seeing me. I understand that being naked is a private matter between the two of you, but if you are seen at a nudist atmosphere, then there is no 'privacy'. Afterall, we are enjoying the same experience, and that is to enjoy the great outdoors, naked. Interesting question. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

DJ Guy Productions

08-20-2005, 09:39 AM

I appreciate all of the feedback from all of you, It's just when someone asks a question like this, I would rather get some great answers and different situations from all of you.

Thanks

Kristopher

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by nudeM:
Interesting question, but if you were at a nudist resort, then who cares? Wouldn't you, and your friends, also be nude? I tend to think things would be rather startling at first, but eventually, you are there just as they, and that is to socialize in the nude.

Now, personally, a nude beach would be a different scenanrio, but the same applies. True, some may want to experience being around 'naked people' while remaining clothed, but seeing someone who you know enjoying themselves in the buff could be a shock, but then again, you are at a nude beach.

I don't think I would worry about anyone seeing my wife nude in a nudist setting, nor would she be 'fearful' of someone seeing me. I understand that being naked is a private matter between the two of you, but if you are seen at a nudist atmosphere, then there is no 'privacy'. Afterall, we are enjoying the same experience, and that is to enjoy the great outdoors, naked. Interesting question. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

P.J.

08-20-2005, 06:49 PM

If you must ask, then I must give you the benefit of an answer... http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

Insane jealousy is among the flaws that I've recovered from. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

We know that a nudist resort is not a sex club. Those who attend in search for partners for their sexual gratification are generally not welcome and are likely to get out and banned.

If my wife, decided to become a nudist and went to a nudist park or resort with her friends, it would concern me just as much as I would be concerned if she went to gym and used the showers after working out.

I might feel differently if she wanted to go to a nude beach, but that's because standards of behavior are tougher to enforce at a beach than at a club or resort.

Recently, while away on vacation (while my wife remained at home), I went to a nudist club (Lilly Valley). My sunburn made it pretty obvious that I spent some time considerably exposed!

I told my wife about my visit to the nudist club. She was initially surprised (shocked?) and found it strange to want to be naked with others. This gave me an opportunity to tell her about my afternoon with a bunch of nudists.

My marriage is not perfect, but there is trust between my wife and I.

If anyone is worried about his or her spouse being seen nude by someone else, then there are probably some other serious issues which desperately need to be dealt with.

Cheffred

08-21-2005, 07:48 PM

My wife probably would have as she was self concious about her body until becoming a nudist.

DJ Guy Productions

08-21-2005, 10:02 PM

I understand, I guess with what most of the others in the forum are stating, Is if each of you really communicate and discuss the situations then it could be just fine. I know that most like myself are private when it comes to allowing the whole world know I am a nudist. YES I am proud to be one, I just like to meet other nudists, but also have my private life too.

Kristopher

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Cheffred:
My wife probably would have as she was self concious about her body until becoming a nudist. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Oldman

11-01-2005, 08:44 AM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by P.J.:

Recently, while away on vacation (while my wife remained at home), I went to a nudist club (Lilly Valley). My sunburn made it pretty obvious that I spent some time considerably exposed!

I told my wife about my visit to the nudist club. She was initially surprised (shocked?) and found it strange to want to be naked with others. This gave me an opportunity to tell her about my afternoon with a bunch of nudists.

</div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Glad you enjoyed your visit. Watch out for that northern sun http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

tinner666

11-01-2005, 02:08 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">

If you or your spouse was not a nudist and had not been into the nudist lifestyle. Would you care or your spouse care if guests at a beach or nudist resort ever saw you naked, would that be considered private between the 2 of you ??
Thank you all

Kristopher </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

No I wouldn't care, she did care, because she wasn't a nudist. Now she's OK with it. She was 180% against the nudist 'way', until I drove through the gate of WTP while she was asleep. Even though she had a con http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gifiption and hit me a few times, she came around in a few minutes. Now, she is a nudist. Frank

carbuff

11-01-2005, 04:19 PM

DJ Guy, my wife does mind and thinks it morally wrong to be a nudist. So she thinks I am sharing myself with others the one time I went to a nude place . I have an uphill battle but I wont give up.
Ihope my input helped

GhostFreeHiker

11-01-2005, 05:04 PM

I (the naturist) would not have a problem with my wife being seen or being around other nude males.
Now my wife (textile-babe) feels that I should not be nude around anyone else (male or female) besides her.

NudeAl

11-01-2005, 07:00 PM

Hang in there carbuff I had to fight the same fight with my wife. It took a long time but after giving it a chance and meeting some real down to earth nudists she finally came around and agrees it is not cheating or a sex thing. It takes a lot of effort to overcome all the crap society has put in womens heads.

FireProf

11-01-2005, 07:07 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by NudeAl:
It takes a lot of effort to overcome all the crap society has put in womens heads. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

and...it's an ongoing effort to keep all that crap from resurfacing from time to time! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

picco

11-03-2005, 01:16 PM

MY WIFE HATES THE IDEA OF ANY ONE SEEING ME WITH OUT CLOTHES BUT KNOWS I AM HAPPIEST WITH OUT THEM SHE LOOKS AT ME WITH KNIVES IN HER EYES BUT I NEED THE FREEDOM SO SHE BITES HER LIP AND COMES ROUND IN THE END

krcNY

11-03-2005, 01:33 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by FireProf:
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by NudeAl:
It takes a lot of effort to overcome all the crap society has put in womens heads. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

and...it's an ongoing effort to keep all that crap from resurfacing from time to time! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Hey!!!!! What is that sopposed to mean??? http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

FireProf

11-03-2005, 03:16 PM

Gee....where do I start.

Not sure, do I start with our religion? My mother in law? The stupid things I've said in the past.........that she still remembers! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

There's way too much for me to put into words, I sure hope you know what I mean, cuz I don't need another woman mad at me, I had all I could handle yesterday after she got home from work! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

krcNY

11-03-2005, 05:49 PM

I hope today was a better day for you both. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

I am not mad at you, I was just teasing you.

Tell Prof I said Hello and send her to the voices, they really help. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

justnude

11-04-2005, 10:46 AM

I am not sure that I really understand the question but...being a nudist, I do not feel we really care who sees us naked!

traindriver40

11-04-2005, 03:37 PM

When I was married to my ex (a textile) I wouldnt have been bothered about anyone seeing her naked whether they be male or female as that would have more than likely meant she had decided to take the plunge herself.

Trouble was that was unlikely to happen as she couldnt understand why I enjoyed this lifestyle and wanted to be around other naked people

FireProf

11-04-2005, 03:52 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by krcNY:
I hope today was a better day for you both. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

I am not mad at you, I was just teasing you.

Tell Prof I said Hello and send her to the voices, they really help. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Thank krcNY. Yes today was a good day and the other day when she got home turned out good too. Turns out she's just tired and stressed at work about a ton of stuff.

I was pretty certain you were just teasing and just wanted to add a little humor to the thread as you had. I would love for the Prof to communicate with you, hw and several other women here. She could use the communication to erase some of those stress lines on her face.

Thanks, I'll let her know you said "HI." http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

okay.......B O T:

In the beginning, I was mindful of others looking at my wife while we were at the nude beach. Not because I didn't want them looking at my naked wife, but I didn't want them "looking" at my naked wife. She was a little uncomfortable at first and I wanted her to be comfortable and feel secure. When we began getting lots of gawker types parading back and forth and some of them planting themselves in position to look right between her legs then, yeah...I got upset. Not because of what they were seeing, it was because of how they were making my wife feel.....uncomfortable, and that meant we would have to leave. I didn't want to leave the beach, nor did she, so I made a point of confronting these gawker types and ensuring her comfort. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

Nude in the North

11-04-2005, 04:11 PM

My wife wasn't concerned about people seeing me naked our of jealousy or any "moral" reasoning. She understands my desire to be nude, and is very open minded about it.

What she was concerned about, was having "the worng people" see me. She worried that if a neighbor, or a child saw me, it would be reported to the police and I'd be arrested for a sex crime or something of that nature.
As we all know, Many people still think simple Nudity = Sex.

I have been careful, but I have been surprised a few times by friends and relatives. For the most part they have just laughed it off. Most of them already had a pretty good idea that I was a nudist anyway. And catching me nude wasn't all that big of a shock to them. More of an awkward moment, where they didn't quite know what to say or do.

Oddly, the one person that was the most outspoken, Against nudity, is now the one that accepts me the most.

When I first confessed to my Niece that I was a nudist, she was 15 years old. She told me she thought it was "Just wrong". That it was "Sinfull". And that Nobody should see someone else naked, unless they were Married to each other.
To make a long story short... Now she doesn't even Bat an eye when she stops over. She simply accepts me as I am, with no embarrassment or apprehension. She even gives me Huggs Goodbye, when she has to leave.

I wish everyone was as Cool as she.

Steve

11-04-2005, 04:33 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by FireProf:
Gee....where do I start.

There's way too much for me to put into words, I sure hope you know what I mean, cuz I don't need another woman mad at me, I had all I could handle yesterday after she got home from work! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

<span class="ev_code_RED">Dr. Voice over here: Take two White Zens and call me in the morning! Better yet take a drive up the coast this weekend and meet me live, and in person.( Check pm's for details.)</span> http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

FireProf

11-04-2005, 04:58 PM

She loves those little White Zen's! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

Nothing would be better for us at the moment but have to head south and help the oldest daughter prepare for the coming of our next grandaughter. Remember what I told you about that? I did what you said, I cut that apron string. When my back was turned, either my daughter or wife retied it! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

Thanks Doc Voice, I feel better already. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

krcNY

11-05-2005, 09:13 AM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Remember what I told you about that? I did what you said, I cut that apron string. When my back was turned, either my daughter or wife retied it! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

That is what happens when you turn your back http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

soundman

02-01-2006, 09:25 AM

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Oldman:
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by P.J.:

Recently, while away on vacation (while my wife remained at home), I went to a nudist club (Lilly Valley). My sunburn made it pretty obvious that I spent some time considerably exposed!

I told my wife about my visit to the nudist club. She was initially surprised (shocked?) and found it strange to want to be naked with others. This gave me an opportunity to tell her about my afternoon with a bunch of nudists.

</div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Glad you enjoyed your visit. Watch out for that northern sun http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
Nice to see you back Oldman!

EricNY

02-01-2006, 09:37 AM

(that post was three months ago)

barbararuth

02-01-2006, 11:42 AM

I have no problem with a nude significant other in a nudist setting, whether I was with him or not, even if he were with other females. I may have when I first embraced nudism many years ago due to lack of understanding, but certainly not now.

picco

02-01-2006, 01:43 PM

i have the same trouble as car/buff my wife hates anybody seeing me naked i would not mind her beeing seen

carbuff

02-01-2006, 04:27 PM

Picco , how can help each other , or just be patient and hope for a miracle . I dont know about you but Im not giving up my naturism I just hope she comes my way

carbuff

02-01-2006, 04:33 PM

Thank you Nude Al and fire Prof , I respect you r input .I feel Ive made a small bit of progress but I mean minute . Thanks guysIm in it for the long haul!

nudenwv

02-01-2006, 05:18 PM

my wife and i have traveled to nudist lodges and i did not mind her viewing males in the nude.she did not mind me viewing females either. we both knew that's what we were going to see. my non-nudist wife does not mind having nude male visitors in the home either as long as our daughter is not here. have to make a comfortable home life for her too.