B**by Rebellion. A question for the ladies

[sunfisher]

I don't really know how put this, but I need a little help from some of you ladies for a litte problem that my wife has. She enjoys going to beaches and resorts where she can run around naked and free of lifes stress's. No problem there. The problems start when the time comes to get dressed and get ready to leave. As soon as she picks up her bra her body starts going into a rebellious mode not wanting her to put it on. As soon as bra material touches breast all hell breaks loose. Thats when she gives me one of those we are going straight home looks and tosses her bra back into the bag and won't touch it until the next day. Its not that I'm really too wooried about it, but she dosen't like to be brafree in the general public. So how do you handle it. Any suggestions to make her feel better.

Gene

[OZJames]

I'm a man but I decided to respond. Hasn't your wife ever heard of "burning her bra". Maybe that's' what she should do ???? In this day and age showing nipple bumps through her top is very fashionable. My wife often, if not mostly does not wear a bra - tell her to throw away the bra and body shame totally. :rolleyes:

[jon71]

I'm not sure I understand the problem. Is it correct that she hates wearing a bra and hates being out in public braless? If so my suggestions would be

A. Don't worry about being brafree, most people won't care.
B. Wear a top that won't let people know that the twins are living free. That might work in winter, not so much in summer.
C. Find a more comfortable/better fitting bra. I've heard statistics that a large percentage of women wear the wrong size. If her's is too big, too small, whatever it stands to reason it'll be less comfortable. It's also common that women differ a little from left to right so maybe she needs a bra that takes that into consideration. It's also possible the material and/or construction is an issue. Maybe one that's all cotton and without wires and such would be more comfy that something more elaborate. I know I'm guessing a lot but really only she will know what works for her and why.

[Agde]

Bras are evil. They lead to higher rates of cancer, sagging, and all kinds of other mischief. Follow OZJames advice and burn them. :)

[krcNY]

When you plan to go to a nude beach.

Your wife should dress in comfortable clothing and not even wear the bra to the beach. When I go, the bra stays home. After hanging free all day, that is the last thing I want to put on. That might help.

As for braless all the time, I wear a bra on a regular basis during the colder months or if I am going somewhere and want to be "presentable". I actually like how my bra makes me look. I don't think I would never burn my bra, but I do choose when and where I wear it :)

[Croydon]

I don't really know how put this, but I need a little help from some of you ladies for a litte problem that my wife has. She enjoys going to beaches and resorts where she can run around naked and free of lifes stress's. No problem there. The problems start when the time comes to get dressed and get ready to leave. As soon as she picks up her bra her body starts going into a rebellious mode not wanting her to put it on. As soon as bra material touches breast all hell breaks loose. Thats when she gives me one of those we are going straight home looks and tosses her bra back into the bag and won't touch it until the next day. Its not that I'm really too wooried about it, but she dosen't like to be brafree in the general public. So how do you handle it. Any suggestions to make her feel better.

Gene

One thing to know is that a lot of women do not know how to shop for a bra. You be surprise how many women do not really know their bra size. A woman can think she is a 32B when in reality, she is 34B. All these years, she has been buying bras that are too small.

Retailers have come light years in creating bras for women that will give them what they want. It is like a science experiment retailers go through to create a bra.

These days there are SO MANY types and styles of bras for women.

I am willing to bet your wife's dislike of bras may be b/c she hasn't found the right one. I would urge her to go to her local department store or lingerie store to get her breasts measured. Victoria Secrete, for example, have sales reps who are trained in measuring women's bust to get them the right bra.

[sunfisher]

My wife would like to go braless all the time if she could but she works with the public and has to make herself look presentable. Because of the size of her breast her bras (34ff) they all have to special ordered from a speciality shop. So I'd say that her problem is that her girls just don't like to be couped up.

Gene

ps. maybe this pic will shed some light on the problem.

[TampaTan]

CURSE the man who invented the brasierre !!

[Old Hippie]

CURSE the man who invented the brasierre !!

Do you know it was a man?

[Croydon]

My wife would like to go braless all the time if she could but she works with the public and has to make herself look presentable. Because of the size of her breast her bras (34ff) they all have to special ordered from a speciality shop. So I'd say that her problem is that her girls just don't like to be couped up.

Gene

ps. maybe this pic will shed some light on the problem.

34FF? Wow, that is big. Knowing that, your original message makes more sense. That has to be hard on the back and shoulders, especially when she wears a bra

Has your wife ever considered reduction surgery?

[NudeAl]

I've always encouraged my wife to go braless. She never wears one when she knows we are going to the nude beach or club too much hassle for her. Lately she is nude more often around the house and as a result really doesn't look forward to wearing a bra when we go out. I often tell her I prefer the way she looks without a bra. I just think it is something that has been ingrained in her from when she was young. But gradually I am seeing her wear it less and less and it is always the first thing to come off as soon as we get home. That alone tells me a lot. She hates the way it feels however sometimes she feels obligated to wear one, more out of respect for social custom than anything else.

[Boreas]

I just think it is something that has been ingrained in her from when she was young

There is a LOT of pressure for women to wear bras. A lot of it is very subtle. A lot of it is probably self-inflicted after a certain point. It is human nature to internalize any prejudice and oppression, so it is quite natural for women to internalize the pressures to wear a bra.

Your wife might be interested in this website: http://goingbraless.net/Forum3/index.php There is a lot of god information in there.

[NudonyII]

There is a LOT of pressure for women to wear bras. A lot of it is very subtle. A lot of it is probably self-inflicted after a certain point. It is human nature to internalize any prejudice and oppression, so it is quite natural for women to internalize the pressures to wear a bra.

In a lot of cases, notwithstanding wearing a heavy sweatear, thick cotton shirt or jacket, not wearing a bra will probably be noticeable. Wear a T-shirt, and you get the effect depicted below. To say this would not be noticeable or no one would care is an exercise in delusion. A nudist friend and co-worker, back in my retail days, once showed up for her shift braless, due to having just spent her day nude in the sun and complaining of bra discomfort. Well, the effect was pretty much the same as the pic below. It was a non-event fo me; but judging from the customer's glares, she might have well been topfree. So I handed her a jacket; even though she herself could have cared less what other people thought. It is unfortunate that our western society is so boobyphobic; but there you have it.

I guess there is an art to brafreedom; as it is presented in the link below:

http://www.howtodothings.com/fashion-and-personal-care/a4707-how-to-go-braless.html

[DSailing]

My wife never wears a bra any more unless she is working in an office, and even then she tries to pick clothes so she doesn't need to.

[JeepNude]

Mrs. JeepNude hasn't worn a bra regularly for many years. As for the 'looks' and 'glares', you just have to either learn to ignore it, or learn to enjoy the attention.

Although Mrs. JeepNude isn't as large as your wife, she expresses great discomfort with having to wear a bra after days of going without.

Yes, she buys the right size. Some of them custom fit. Yes, she works with the public (she is a hospital nurse). No, she doesn't like them.

Admittedly, in scrubs, it is more diffcult to tell she is without than if she is in a tight T-shirt. Either way, she is comfortable, and that is what matters. Since she is breaking no laws, any negative reactions are not her problem. I think it has to become a frame of mind.

[jon71]

My mom who is very much a true believing textile had this trick (for lack of a better term) where she could reach into her shirt and take her bra off without doing anything with her shirt. For a very modest person I remember her doing that in the car quite a bit, I assume after she was done with work for the day and having picked me up from school.

[Boreas]

That is a great link Nudony. Thanks. I may put it on goingbraless.net as well.

I have been brafree more than not for some time now. I have made a conscious decision to buy tops that allow me to feel comfortable bra-free. Generally, as long as I have a couple of layers I am comfortable, even if it is "obvious" I am brafree. There are many light bra choices that are far more comfortable than the traditional bra. Underwire is evil. Also, wearing a cami, or short cami is a good alternative in many cases.

I have gone out brafree in a t-shirt this summer. It felt awesome. I was a looser t with a design, in one case, it was a Seattle souvenir shirt. I'd like to be comfortable enough to be brafree in a t-shirt as depicted in the picture that Nudony posted.

[sunfisher]

I have shared all your posts with my wife and she would like to say thank you to all of you. Thank you for your nice comments, words of encouragment and the links that you've provided. we will be checking those out. She checked into breast reduction surgery once awhile back but ran into 2 snags. 1-Her large areola's would require a lot more stitches after repositioning leading to an incresed risk of complications and 2-it would cost more of that thing called money that seems to be in short supply these days. As for her going work bra-free, it may not be a good idea. As a deli clerk she may cause a bit stir with the guys trying to check-out the other white meat. For now she's resovled herself to being bra-bound only when necessary and seeking freedom whenever possible. At least she has a sense of humor and can joke about it. "When it comes to large breast, why is it that women who don't have them want them and those that do don't?? Go figure."

Gene

[Boreas]

Thanks for the update Gene. Do encourage your wife to check out goingbraless.net. It is a very friendly group, and she will get lots of support there. There are threads on large breasted women and on things like breast reduction surgery. There is also lots of info on alternatives to bras.

[sunfisher]

Thanks Boreas. Will do.

Gene

[gmoney]

throw it away