bernardc
10-17-2008, 08:33 AM
I recently posted another thread on another site and posed this same question.The response was pretty good.Now this is the question i want to pose.
Can the nudist life style/nudity be used as a rehab tool in sexually abused kids/victims.
To start with,what are the biggest problems we face when facing a person that was sexually abused?SHAME!
Another emotion is the extreme sense of Guilt for dissapointing others like our family...Why they feel that way,no one can say for sure.But with the victim of abuse,you get this extreme guilt that manifests in adult life.
Yet another emotion that is felt and expressed is definately fear.Different types of fear...what if the abuser,one supposedly close to me is arrested...what will become of us....where do we go...how do I face my future....?
And fourthly,there is this sense of rejection,and I feel that everybody is against me....These are liggitimate fears and emotions.
Can one say that nudity can be used as a healing tool?
What is the immediate healing that the victim needs ?Could it be acceptance...perhaps comfort...which in itself poses another problem...the anxiety of trusting others ever again.This is substantiated!The victim trusted their abuser and was hurt deeply ,mentally,bodily and spiritualy!
Should we say that acceptance is what the immediate need is,then how do we see acceptance....?From Who....To whom?
If one looks at the abused victim...there is an immediate flaw that needs rectifying...THE LOVE OF THE SELF!
Is the propper route to healing realy then reliving the past abuse through repeated therapy sessions?And what bennifit does it bring?Does it liberate or does in imprisson you in trauma relived the entire time.../each time you have to repeat it?
Does the healing that is needed realy accomplished by re - living the past,or does it just re-affirm the helplesssness of the person?So we can presuppose that the immediate need of the victim is the question of...Self acceptance.
Self acceptance can only become effectual if you live in the present,and see what the present offers to you.I would say that is the first step.The rejection that the victim feels,must be adressed immediately.Once you accept yourself,you can move on again.Acceptance is the first step towards the future.Going back to the past,is not of any bennefit.The question then arises....where do you start with this acceptance approach with the victim...once they are grown up,or if the victim is a child,immediately.
You see,one must reverse the rejection by a positive acceptance of yourself.
The disgust the victim experiences,is not so much against the purportrater as is the sense of fear.The disgust the victim feels,strangely enough,is the disgust with their own body!So many factors..."Why my body...why me....what was wrong with me....he/she said they loved me,but will kill so and so if I tell them what he/she has done...the police will lock you up....you used your body to seduce me is what I will say..". This is where the immediate problem arrises....
The victims believe that they used their bodies as a disgusting weapon of seduction,and yet the abuser keeps on comming back to their body... genitals...my breasts...Now the million dollar question...Is this then where we can introduce clean nudism as a tool to start reversing the past to a future?
If one can restore the faith in your body again as beautifull and clean and pure,and confront byour body as it is...and say that you love it,and tell ones self it was not their fault,Could that be a starting point.At a later stage,I'll take the other three questions one by one and throw it open to discussion.So the question at hand is this...As a tool,can nudism play a part in the mental restoration of the sexually abused adult and Child?How do we bridge that suspiscion of the victim they have towards nudity and the nude form...Please feel free to also adress the other three dilemmas if you want to,but lets hear your opinnion on this weeks question...
Can the nudist life style/nudity be used as a rehab tool in sexually abused kids/victims.
To start with,what are the biggest problems we face when facing a person that was sexually abused?SHAME!
Another emotion is the extreme sense of Guilt for dissapointing others like our family...Why they feel that way,no one can say for sure.But with the victim of abuse,you get this extreme guilt that manifests in adult life.
Yet another emotion that is felt and expressed is definately fear.Different types of fear...what if the abuser,one supposedly close to me is arrested...what will become of us....where do we go...how do I face my future....?
And fourthly,there is this sense of rejection,and I feel that everybody is against me....These are liggitimate fears and emotions.
Can one say that nudity can be used as a healing tool?
What is the immediate healing that the victim needs ?Could it be acceptance...perhaps comfort...which in itself poses another problem...the anxiety of trusting others ever again.This is substantiated!The victim trusted their abuser and was hurt deeply ,mentally,bodily and spiritualy!
Should we say that acceptance is what the immediate need is,then how do we see acceptance....?From Who....To whom?
If one looks at the abused victim...there is an immediate flaw that needs rectifying...THE LOVE OF THE SELF!
Is the propper route to healing realy then reliving the past abuse through repeated therapy sessions?And what bennifit does it bring?Does it liberate or does in imprisson you in trauma relived the entire time.../each time you have to repeat it?
Does the healing that is needed realy accomplished by re - living the past,or does it just re-affirm the helplesssness of the person?So we can presuppose that the immediate need of the victim is the question of...Self acceptance.
Self acceptance can only become effectual if you live in the present,and see what the present offers to you.I would say that is the first step.The rejection that the victim feels,must be adressed immediately.Once you accept yourself,you can move on again.Acceptance is the first step towards the future.Going back to the past,is not of any bennefit.The question then arises....where do you start with this acceptance approach with the victim...once they are grown up,or if the victim is a child,immediately.
You see,one must reverse the rejection by a positive acceptance of yourself.
The disgust the victim experiences,is not so much against the purportrater as is the sense of fear.The disgust the victim feels,strangely enough,is the disgust with their own body!So many factors..."Why my body...why me....what was wrong with me....he/she said they loved me,but will kill so and so if I tell them what he/she has done...the police will lock you up....you used your body to seduce me is what I will say..". This is where the immediate problem arrises....
The victims believe that they used their bodies as a disgusting weapon of seduction,and yet the abuser keeps on comming back to their body... genitals...my breasts...Now the million dollar question...Is this then where we can introduce clean nudism as a tool to start reversing the past to a future?
If one can restore the faith in your body again as beautifull and clean and pure,and confront byour body as it is...and say that you love it,and tell ones self it was not their fault,Could that be a starting point.At a later stage,I'll take the other three questions one by one and throw it open to discussion.So the question at hand is this...As a tool,can nudism play a part in the mental restoration of the sexually abused adult and Child?How do we bridge that suspiscion of the victim they have towards nudity and the nude form...Please feel free to also adress the other three dilemmas if you want to,but lets hear your opinnion on this weeks question...