I like being nude, but have questions

[Simon-new]

I have been looking at many nudity sites, and after veiwing many pictures I feel the need to masturbate. I am triing to desensitise myself so if I would ever get into a situation where I would socialize in the nude I wouldn't have this urge.

Are my feeling normal? Is okay to get aroused looking at all the nude pictures? When you get into a social event, do you still get the urge? If so, what do you do? (go to the bathroom take care of it then drive on?)LOL

[Lord Drakkus]

Are my feeling normal? Is okay to get aroused looking at all the nude pictures? When you get into a social event, do you still get the urge? If so, what do you do? (go to the bathroom take care of it then drive on?)LOL

Depends on how old you are. If you're in your teens to early 20s, I would say that it wouldn't be too surprising. If you're older than that, maybe you need to reconsider what you're looking for. Maybe you're a swinger, and not a nudist.

I would say you should try going to a nudist beach or resort and see what happens. The atmosphere will be completely different and your reactions are almost guaranteed to be different as well. If all you can do while you're there is think about how many naked people are there and still get turned on, then you should definitely spend some time thinking about whether you're a nudist or a swinger.

Whatever your choice, you need to find out where you "stand" and stick with it. Nudists and swingers can sometimes get into some nice rows, and a fair majority of us nudists don't like to have many swingers advertising themselves as nudists.

[Nude in the North]

Before I had my first "Public nudity" experience, I had some of the same fears.
I was certain I would have uncontrollable erections. That fear almost kept me from trying any kind of nudist enviroment.
I finally had a chance to actually go to a nude beach. And to my surprise, Erections were not even an issue. Partly due to the fear of being thrown off of the beach, and partly due to the "non sexual" surroundings. It was just people on a beach. The reality was that it wasn't any different than a clothed beach. People were doing the same things you would find on a clothed beach. Lying in the sun, enjoying snacks and beverages, playing in the surf. Aside from the lack of wet soggy swimsuits there was no difference.

My advice would be to get passed the "fantasy" of what it would be like to be nude around other people. And find someone, or someplace to spend time nude with like minded people.
Unfortunately we don't have many options here in the far west part of the midwest. But if you really want a nudist experience, you will find one.

[sunfisher]

Your arousal might be due to the fact that you may be confusing nudist sites with porno sites and fantising about having sex with the naked bodies without seeing the person within the body. In the social nudist world we are out there for physical and spiritial freedom and pleasure not sexual pleasure. We are all bothers and sisters (though not related) and look at, treat, and respect each other as a person not just a naked body.

Gene

[richo]

There's also a slightly different aspect to it - you're specifically looking at pictures, not interacting with people. Pictures tend to objectify individuals, and it's easier to see someone as a thing and not an entity.

That's not to say you can't ever be aroused by a person, but I'd venture to say you find it a lot less common. That's explicitly the point: once you get over the initial 15-30 minutes of "oh my gods everyone's naked", they stop being naked bodies and start just being people who happen to be naked.

Context is everything; once you experience the context, you'll probably be alright.

[HabaneroSting]

Depends on what kind of pictures you are looking at. Nudist gatherings are normal people and not models, so you would probably not have the same reaction. I've always separated social nudity and sex, so my first social event was not an issue. Even real nudist photos on the web are intentionally flattering. There is no reason to make them unflattering, but real life does not pick and choose like photos after the fact can. In a real situation you will forget that everyone is nude in about 10 minutes.

[Simon-new]

It is nice to finally have a place where I can openly ask this type of question and get honest answers. I really enjoy my FREE time, but I just need to be able to talk through some of these issues.

[Naturist Mark]

Stop worrying and just go.

Guys who are not experienced in social nudism never believe it, they all think they are uncontrollable, unique, different from everyone else.

But they aren't.

There is almost no chance that you will get uncontrollable erections on your first, second, third, forth, fifth, sixth experience in social nudism. etc.

At first you will be too nervous to possibly become aroused. And then before you know it, it will be all too blase to arouse you. Trust me and every other experienced male nudist - it just is not a problem.

On the extremely rare occasion that you do get aroused - no problem, you have a towel handy to cover. Which I bet you will never have to use. Involuntary erections that are not due to sleeping and/or need to urinate are as rare as a modest politician.

Mark my words. Every wannabe inexperienced guy thinks I am full of **** when I tell you this. And every nudist guy knows it is true.

And then there are the posers who will tell you they know I'm wrong. That is how you will know they are posers.

-Mark

[bill2me]

Simon,

Mark is 100% correct. Bottom line, go and see for yourself. Once you get there you'll understand what he means.

Bill

[walter05]

When you are alone looking at pictures, you have no context. You are simply focsing on nude pictures. You naturally focus on what is unusual and that means naked breasts, genitals, and buttocks.

If you are just focusing on them, arousal is normal.

If you are at a beach enjoying yourself, and everyone is nude, then being nude is one aspect of the experience and not the focus.

I have also sent you a PM to ask you an additional question.

Walter

[yitfs]

I have a different kind of a comment. I used to feel the same way. I'm a closet nudist. when I first started to get naked at home, I used to get aroused even watching regular tv, this would happen too when sleeping. but with time. that went away. if you really like to be nudist and u think of it in a different aspect. u should be able to differentiate and get ur mind and body understanding when ur nude as part of a life style and when ur nude due to arousal and sexual feelings.

and to let u know, now I spend 100% of my time (I live alone) nude. from the time I enter the door from work till the time i get dressed to go to work the next day. and I dont get aroused unless I'm looking to do that.

I hope my experience helps u

[nudenwv]

your problem is no problem. it's quite normal to get erections while viewing pictures. the mind seems to wonder sometimes. i must say if alone i take care of my erection by masturbating. the first time i was outdoors nude, a warm breeze was blowing against my body and yes, i had to find a secluded spot to take care of things. i'm a frequent masturbator so that cuts down on the urge when with others. strictly my opinion and thoughts.

[LanceAtCaliente]

This advice is spot-on accurate. Go with it, because it's true. Nothing to worry about.

I had the very same concerns years ago when I was young. Because of that, I held off going to a nudist resort until is was 29 ... almost 30. I wasted several good years ... because of fear ... that wasn't even necessary.

Go for it, son. Visit a beach, nonlanded club or a resort. You'll be glad you did.

Peace.

Stop worrying and just go.

Guys who are not experienced in social nudism never believe it, they all think they are uncontrollable, unique, different from everyone else.

But they aren't.

There is almost no chance that you will get uncontrollable erections on your first, second, third, forth, fifth, sixth experience in social nudism. etc.

At first you will be too nervous to possibly become aroused. And then before you know it, it will be all too blase to arouse you. Trust me and every other experienced male nudist - it just is not a problem.

On the extremely rare occasion that you do get aroused - no problem, you have a towel handy to cover. Which I bet you will never have to use. Involuntary erections that are not due to sleeping and/or need to urinate are as rare as a modest politician.

Mark my words. Every wannabe inexperienced guy thinks I am full of **** when I tell you this. And every nudist guy knows it is true.

And then there are the posers who will tell you they know I'm wrong. That is how you will know they are posers.

-Mark

[Centauri4]

Regardless of your age a big part of how your body "responds to nudity" is setup in your mind before you get naked, which makes the reaction both situational and intentional.

Both men and women who grew up experiencing commonplace nudity probably "expect it" as normal and ordinary, while those growing up with "commoditized or commercialized nudity" will anticipate it and react to it in accordance with that social conditioning.

A good test of your personal reactions may be assessing the feelings you have just before being exposed to nudity, either in print, television or via the Internet. How excited do you (or DID you) get before opening a book with nudity? Before turning on a television program advertised as including nudity? Or before sitting down to browse web sites you KNOW are likely to contain nudity?

All types of feelings in ANTICIPATION of, in advance of, are good ones!
Don't criticize yourself for acting in a manner consistent with prior conditioning!

Just realize that you DO have a choice with regards how you CONTINUE to react to nudity from this point in life going forward. As a thinking, caring, thoughtful and considerate human being and being quite capable of making A CHOICE, it is possible to reset your expectations or frame your experiences going in to them in such a way as to reprogram your response.

The concept of "muscle memory" is known to some people and it is the manner in which we condition our bodies to respond to situations or conditional stimulation by repeating exercise or exercises over and over again. Speaking for myself, I think it is possible to lessen the intensity of our responses to situational nudity by effectively "fixing the response" in our minds in ADVANCE of engaging in an activity. In other words, in the same way we conditions ourselves to throw up and arm and block a punch in karate, we can condition our minds to be LESS stimulated by naked imagery in reponse to viewing it.

I do not think attempting this is a bad thing or is it going to make males impotent or lead to "E.D." (erectile dysfunction) at an early age, it is simply setting expectations and taking "positive" control of these subtle chemical and physiological responses. Yes, it is "mind control"!

The problem with our present society is the number of (mostly male) people that have reactions they are not completely in control of or who have resigned the control they once had of these feelings and "gave in" to them; relinquished responsibility for their sexual feelings or placed them abnormally high on personal priority lists which leads to uncontrollable urges that "must" be satisfied.

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[Home Nudist]

The simple answer is that, as textiles, we are programmed by society to associate nudity with sex.

That's why many people report feeling aroused even when they are alone and remove their clothes. The mind is saying, "I'm nude, therefore, I'm ready for action." And, the body responds accordingly. As nudists, that association dissipates.

The more one is naked, the more "normal" it feels. Eventually, you just go about your business, forgetting that you are nude.

While doing things around the house, I often have to remind myself to cover up before going out to put something in the trash. Being nude becomes that natural. And, since I don't see it as unusual, it becomes a great temptation NOT cover up, for the 8 seconds it takes me to get to the trash and back in the house. Of course, I don't want any trouble with the neighbors -- or the law.

[countryguync]

for real nudist photos from Europe check out www.bebaretoo.com (http://www.bebaretoo.com) . You will notice that most of their photos were taken at beaches and show everyone just enjoying the water and sand and being social with people. If you start gettting an erection minimize the window until the urge goes away, then open the window again and resume viewing. If you masturbate while viewing the photos you will be associating nudity with sexual gratification, which is the opposite of what you really want to do. DON'T stare at the breasts/butts/crotches, instead try to see the WHOLE person and focus on the face.

[Mutant]

It happens, it passes. Whatever. Jeez. How many thousands of pages of erection discussions could we avoid if we pointed out that the answer to "What if I get an erection?" is the same as "What if I need to fart?" Don't stand up and wave it in everyone's face, and nobody will get upset.

[connorsdad]

Does this seem like one of those "hmmmm....." post where do you answer it or do you not. If you do, then are you feeding into someone's fantasy about what other people do in the situation?

I don't know, but to me it seems as it is one of those "hmmmm..." post.

[Boreas]

Does this seem like one of those "hmmmm....." post where do you answer it or do you not. If you do, then are you feeding into someone's fantasy about what other people do in the situation?

I don't know, but to me it seems as it is one of those "hmmmm..." post.

I am inclined to agree.

[bernardc]

I think you are not used to the sudden,as it were in your face nudism and nude pictures.Most likely as a child yiu were raised in a household where nudity was not allowed.When one experiences this 'in your face genitals exposed nude pics'...it seems almost like a sensual cultuire shock.Most likely in your child hood days,nudity was forbidden,and the genitals associated with sex alone.Once you become more exposed to nudism and being nude,your desire to masturbate will decrease.Its just a new experience to see exposed genitals,and then form past associations with it.

[Gunther Netzer]

I'm guessing that most blokes if they fancy someone and see them naked for the first time in a nudist setting may experience an erection. I guess that's normal. I would, certainly. However, I am yet to experience social nudity so I can't comment.

My guess is that looking at photos and seeing a person naked that you fancy, or find attractive, could also bring on the same feelings. It's no big deal unless someone turns it into one by behaving inappropriately

[Pete Knight]

I'm guessing that most blokes if they fancy someone and see them naked for the first time in a nudist setting may experience an erection. I guess that's normal.
Not really, at least I'm in full control of my hormones! Nudisty in a social setting isn't sexual unless you're focused on sex, just being yourself without clothes is so very easy, as most first timers will testify.

The only time I ever became even partly aroused when at my club was when I was alone with the lady of my desires, we kissed and I reacted. I might add that we were alone and I took steps to ensure that it didn't go any further.

Pete Knight

[Naturist Mark]

I gotta agree with Pete. Once you are used to the nudity (which takes about 30 minutes) it won't be an issue any more than it is at the mall. Your heart may thump, but you aren't going to pop a woody in a non-romantic situation.

[nakedstudent]

I have been looking at many nudity sites, and after veiwing many pictures I feel the need to masturbate. I am triing to desensitise myself so if I would ever get into a situation where I would socialize in the nude I wouldn't have this urge.

Are my feeling normal? Is okay to get aroused looking at all the nude pictures? When you get into a social event, do you still get the urge? If so, what do you do? (go to the bathroom take care of it then drive on?)LOL

As someone who got into nudism partially to get out of a self recognized addiction (at the time) to porn, I can sympathize with some of your situation.

You will make the transition just fine. I have no doubt that I have. Like Mark said, it will take some time. You already know that masturbation in the presence of children, unconsenting people, and in other social situations (clothed or unclothed) is morally unacceptable. As long as you stick to those values, I suspect that the arousal issue with stop within the next few weeks (obviously depending on how often you get to the resort/beach).

[Gunther Netzer]

Not really, at least I'm in full control of my hormones! Nudisty in a social setting isn't sexual unless you're focused on sex, just being yourself without clothes is so very easy, as most first timers will testify.

The only time I ever became even partly aroused when at my club was when I was alone with the lady of my desires, we kissed and I reacted. I might add that we were alone and I took steps to ensure that it didn't go any further.

Pete Knight

Fair enough, mate. like I said, I've never been in a social situation, so I'll bow to your experience.

BTW, I'm in Porthcawl, where are you from?

[Pete Knight]

Fair enough, mate. like I said, I've never been in a social situation, so I'll bow to your experience.

BTW, I'm in Porthcawl, where are you from?
I live in Worcestershire, but my family is from Merthyr Tydfil.

Have you considered going to any naturist events, I would suggest Nudefest (http://www.british-naturism.org.uk/pages/pages.asp?page_ID=406)in Cornwall as a great starter, it's organised by British Naturism but is open to non-members. A northern event has just been announced, but I'm not sure if this is open to non-members.

Pete Knight

[mmacdonaldca]

my two cents...

I had the same fears. My first trip to a nude beach was scaring the hell out of me the few days before I actually went. I was nervous about getting an erection, I was nervous about being the centre of attention, I was even nervous about being there alone as I had not idea what to expect. But to echo the points made here, it really is just a beach with people on it. The people just happen to be naked. There really is nothing sexual about it at all. Plus, you will see a lot of people from every different walk of life. It really is as far from looking at pictures of naked people as you can get!

So, like others have said, get out there and get naked with others. Stop worrying. :)