Talking to a Girl

[nakedstudent]

I just finished a conversation with a girl who I am interested in dating in the future.

Somehow nudity came up (I think she started it) and I told her of how I enjoy simple nudity. I was pleasantly surprised at how the conversation went. If things turn out right, I think I may have a partner willing to experience nude recreation with.

To top it off, she's a wonderful girl. Mature beyond her years and a whole lot of fun at the same time...

I promise to keep ya'll updated!

[Ren]

Good for you! I told my partner straightaway and she was fine with it. I think honesty at the very beginning makes for less headaches down the line.

[Fitz1980]

Me and you are about the same age and for years I was affraid to tell friends and "prospects" about my nudism. Turned out that pretty much anyone who I told about it was fine with it, many thought it sounded cool and wanted to try it. Others said that it wasn't for them but didn't think any less of me for liking it.

My current GF went with me to Haulover Beach and loved it. Back when I was with my previous GF she was nervous about going to Paradise Valley but said she'd try it because I wanted her to try it but she insisted that her best friend come with her, for moral support. All three of us had skinny dipped together before but both girls said they they weren't sure about taking anything off themselves. When we got there it took about 15 minutes for both girls to get totally nude and I was the guy at the nudist resort who brought 2 naked 21 year olds. Also important lesson from that day, if a girl wears a bikini she has more options. The GF did and started with the top and than the bottoms a few minutes later. The friend wore a 1 piece and had only 2 choices totally off or totally on.

I've also gotten several friends to try the resort or the beach. The best thing to tell a newbie if they are unsure is "it's clothing optional you don't have to take off anything that you don't want to."

[nakedstudent]

Good for you! I told my partner straightaway and she was fine with it. I think honesty at the very beginning makes for less headaches down the line.

It's so hard to get to that point though... we had a conversation a few weeks ago that didn't make it look like she was that accepting. But last night, things were different... I'm not sure why initially she seemed uptight, but I thought it best to avoid it. Then it all just kind of spilled out.

Like I said, very pleased with the way it went.

[Nu]

Good luck!
You seem to be off to a great start.
My wife has been so far reluctant to try social nudity.

[Pumpkinpie]

First step honesty and openly good for you guys take it one day at a time all the best for you both.

[nakedstudent]

Me and you are about the same age and for years I was affraid to tell friends and "prospects" about my nudism. Turned out that pretty much anyone who I told about it was fine with it, many thought it sounded cool and wanted to try it. Others said that it wasn't for them but didn't think any less of me for liking it.

My current GF went with me to Haulover Beach and loved it. Back when I was with my previous GF she was nervous about going to Paradise Valley but said she'd try it because I wanted her to try it but she insisted that her best friend come with her, for moral support. All three of us had skinny dipped together before but both girls said they they weren't sure about taking anything off themselves. When we got there it took about 15 minutes for both girls to get totally nude and I was the guy at the nudist resort who brought 2 naked 21 year olds. Also important lesson from that day, if a girl wears a bikini she has more options. The GF did and started with the top and than the bottoms a few minutes later. The friend wore a 1 piece and had only 2 choices totally off or totally on.

I've also gotten several friends to try the resort or the beach. The best thing to tell a newbie if they are unsure is "it's clothing optional you don't have to take off anything that you don't want to."

We're nowhere near ready for a social setting yet. I haven't experienced one myself yet and I think I'd much rather do it without someone I'm attracted to before taking her.

I don't think she has either and the discussion of nudity was based on the private aspects of it.

Like others have said though, we'll take it one day at a time and see what comes.

[Fitz1980]

We're nowhere near ready for a social setting yet. I haven't experienced one myself yet and I think I'd much rather do it without someone I'm attracted to before taking her.

I don't think she has either and the discussion of nudity was based on the private aspects of it.

Like others have said though, we'll take it one day at a time and see what comes.

And when I took my GF it was when she was firmly "my GF" not when we were first dating. But it's nice to let her know what's up near the beginning so it doesn't become a stumbling block later on.

[nakedstudent]

And when I took my GF it was when she was firmly "my GF" not when we were first dating. But it's nice to let her know what's up near the beginning so it doesn't become a stumbling block later on.

haha... it's amazing what things will come up in common conversation. If I remember correctly, the topic of a hot tub came up after a long workout we shared together at the YMCA in town... one thing led to another and the logical way to enjoy a hot tub (or anything else for that matter) was brought up.

[soflonudist]

Congrads, finding a person that accepts you for who you are is a difficult thing in itself. Glad that your getting along well and that she allows you to be you. Hope you find much happiness.

[Yuppers]

Excellent. Hope you two have a lot more to share as time goes on.

[roid3551]

its hard talking to a girl about this subject. as a guy, your always worried about what they'll think of you. i wish you the best with her. i wish i had more courage to talk to people about nudism.

[Big-Thinker]

I've dated alot of women by now and I've learned of some surprising "secrets". If you only bring up nudism later, once you're in a relationship or marriage it will be far, far harder to gain acceptance, if not impossible, for whatever reasons. Mention it, in an unapologetic way, straight up, as soon as you start talking with a potential partner. She'll be more likely to respect you for being an individual this way... and this goes for other things too, not just nudism. If you like to play poker/gamble on Tuesday nights, tell her straight up "I play poker/gamble on Tuesday nights", no "if's and's or but's", no apologies, no insecurities, no desperation to please her. Now you don't have to say these things in a negative way, just be assertive, secure and present it as... just to let her know this interesting, perhaps exciting thing about you.

But it sounds like you're doing well if she's handling it positively so far! Just choose not to worry what she thinks of you and magical things will happen!

And a male is more likely to "convert" a non-nudist woman who is otherwise great relationship material, rather than find an already decared-nudist woman who happens to be everything else you're looking for too. Just too few single nudist women out there for the number of nudist single men!

[nakedstudent]

I am currently talking to this girl again. She brought up the COSMO article that has been discussed elsewhere on the threads.

I'm pleased with the way this is developing. I really think that she is becoming more and more accepting of nudity on her own terms without being pushed and that she will be open to a nude lifestyle on some level.

[steve-o]

I'm pleased with the way this is developing. I really think that she is becoming more and more accepting of nudity on her own terms without being pushed and that she will be open to a nude lifestyle on some level.

Sounds like it is developing in an honest, open way. Great!

[nakedstudent]

Well as they say, all good things must come to an end. A few days ago, this girl informed me of her decision to date another person.

She said she still has feelings for me but the way I see it, she had her chance and won't be getting another.

[MoonShadow]

Does this mean she only wants to date the other person exclusively? She may still want to date you too! She can date both of you.

Young people today enjoy dating different people at the same time as they should. Unless you are committed via an engagement no one is exclusively "with" another.

[nakedstudent]

Does this mean she only wants to date the other person exclusively? She may still want to date you too! She can date both of you.

Young people today enjoy dating different people at the same time as they should. Unless you are committed via an engagement no one is exclusively "with" another.

They are in a conventional "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship which is the way I operate anyways.

No sweat off my back. I'm an old school kind of guy.

[miracleman]

Goodluck ! About ten years ago now I had a Russian girlfriend. I kept putting off mentioning to her about being a nudist. I eventually brought up the subject....she said how nudism is great and that she always swam and tanned that way back in Russia! Several weeks later she returned to Russia to live!! Argghh!!
My advice for you my friend....dont leave it too long to ask.....or you haave a similar story as mine!
However, I do have a happy ending! I now have a delightful lady who enjoys the lifestyle every bit as much as I do.
Best wishes.

[Kouak]

I've also gotten several friends to try the resort or the beach. The best thing to tell a newbie if they are unsure is "it's clothing optional you don't have to take off anything that you don't want to."

This seems to be a very good way of starting off with social nudism.