Birthday issue

[Naked_George]

Tomorrow I will be be another aniversary of my arrival to this planet. Problem is, although my family is aware of our nudist lifestyle, none of them want to see me without clothes. Nothing would be better than spending the day clothes free. My mother, mother in-law, daughters and grand children will all be here. I think the grand kids would be the only ones able to accept me with out clothes. Our daughters have made it quite clear they don't want to see dad naked. So, it's a bit bitter sweet to celebrate family event here. I do love to visit with family, but it would be better to have them accept me for who I really am.

[Cheri]

George, I hope your birthday is grand any way with only betther ones ahead.

Cheri

[Naked_George]

Thank you Cheri; Next week end we will celebrate our weding aniversary. We WILL be nude for that. We are going to visit our friends at Sunridge Resort. Four days without clothes sounds good to me!

[steve-o]

Happy Birthday George!
It's ironic that it's the one day you cannot wear your birthday suit
:)

[richo]

My birthday's at the end of June, and my "celebration" is usually a bit odd.

For a variety of reasons, I don't like it when people try to make a big deal about my birthday. The main reason is that they usually do what *they* would want, assuming it's what *you* would want. A good example is that I don't like parties, yet everyone insists on having a birthday party. I also don't generally like desserts, but cakes are usually mandatory. I don't like big gatherings, and I generally don't like being artificially made the center of attention.

All in all, I think it's asinine that, on the day that everyone professes is supposed to be about "me", I have to do things I don't like.

So, my usual method of "celebrating" is to send myself far away from anyone who knows its my birthday, and just do things I want to do. Last year, I went to San Francisco and then to a clothing optional resort near the Russian River. This year, I'm flying to Maui, to another resort that has a nude deck (and of course there's Little Beach nearby).

Of course most of my friends complain about it, but that's just too bad for them :)

In general, I think a bithday is just a day - it's no different than any other. However, if anything at all is to be made of it, you should be able to do what *you* want, not what others want, regardless of how well-intentioned or caring they are.

[Naked_George]

Well, family members aren't due to arrive till about 12:30 - 1:00 I plan to go fore a nude hike out back. The sun is suposed to be out tomorrow. I hate it when it rains on my day off. It's warm enough to be outside today but not much fun in the rain.

[Rick_42]

Have a Happy Birthday George. I hope you get to spend some of it in your birthday suit. On my birthday, I like to take a birthday self-portrait but have yet to spend the entire day celebrating the way I want.

I like Richo's idea of spending your special day your way, rather than pleasing everyone else. Maybe I can do that next year, since my birthday has already past.

[Naked_George]

Thanks Steve-O, Richo and Rick. It ain't easy being me. I do hope to get a couple of hrs. in free hiking.

[puffledud]

George,
Happy Birthday. I hope you got in a couple of good hours hiking naked. My birthday is in the winter so naked hiking is definitely out for me.
Dave

[nudeM]

Naked Geroge, Happy Birthday and hope you get to spend at least, some of your day in the buff. I think a lot of people are in the same boat, in that we would all love to spend "our" day in our birthday suit, but sometimes you just have to go textile for family members, especially the ones who are offended by nudity. As my Grandmother used to say, "to keep peace in the family." It's better to go textile so you are able to see family than to be nude and lose the ability to enjoy family life. Sure, there is a time for everything, but sometimes you just have to please others in order to keep from being alienated. Lots of luck and let us know how everything turns out.:smoking:

[Naturist Zoar]

Yes, by all means enjoy some naked time on your day. I always do and feel so much better for it.

[Naked_George]

Well... I have managed to get some naked time in this morning, I had to stack fire wood! At least it was in the sun.

[sdcal]

Happy Birthday George! Glad to hear you got a bit of naked time at least.

[soflonudist]

Congrats hope that your birthday is a good one and you got some time to be you.

[sbt7879]

Happy birthday, George. Sorry to hear about your predicament. Can you imagine how shocked your family would be to discover that they were created and born nude?

[Centauri4]

Happy belated birthday George!

A birthday or other major family gathering might be an excellent time for a "heart to heart" chat on philosophies of living, enjoying this life and trusting/loving/accepting attitudes [especially] as one might expect them from family members. It pains me to recall the times I have heard of family members ostracising individuals with differing views from the family, or from family events, but I have also heard of families quietly accepting the unique and special ideas of some as the most valuable.

The gossip used to be noticed in my own family, not about myself or anyone in particular, but about "cousins" or the girlfriends of certain family members - - and this was many, many years ago (circa 1970s). Since the early 80's I would have to say that our family has had far fewer mass gatherings, and I have beloved cousins I have not seen in 20 years! After the grandparents passed on it seems like the family just had less and less of a reason to come together even if it was only around the holidays. Then we lost a couple of aunts and other family friends, some of whom might have been the subject of discussion of unique attitudes and "quirky" individual traditions.

It is a shame and I hope that you will be able to find ways to integrate your interests into future family events, and maybe, just maybe BECOME the one people talk about and work in as the subject of "family legends" and special individuals with unique interests! Far from being a "bad thing" I think it is important for our differences to be understood and used as lessons to the younger generations so they will be at least as happy as we are, and possibly go on to do even greater things in life and the society of tomorrow.

If you can't trust the members of your family to "love you anyway", who can you trust?

Very best wishes,

~

[Procrastinator]

Those were wonderful, thoughtful words, Centauri4.

It's sad to imagine how things can be as far as family relations, vs how things usually are.

Joe

[Shekoucitizen]

Same here: I remain the naked sheep of the family; tolerated by wife and son, but told to get dressed for anyone else

[Naked_George]

I thank you all for your comments. I had texted my daughters in the morning. I said what a great day to be naked. The older (33 yr old) sain NOT FOR LONG. The other said GROSS! See what I'm up aganst? Good thing the mrs. and I are alone. When I got home from work this morning I got undressed for yard work. Stayed that way ALL DAY! Got a lot done too. BTW this week end we are going away to celebrate our 36th aniversary at a nudist resort!! Can't wait. Camper is allready stocked up and ready to go!

[socaln8iv]

Happy Be-lated birthday George. Hope you got to enjoy some of it as you wanted. The last couple of years I spent my in Palm Springs at a couple of resorts, then came home to have dinner with the family, everyone was happy.

[Bob S.]

Happy belated birthday, George and happy anniversary.

It would be nice if people just allowed us to be ourselves on our birthday and not impose their judgments on our special day, but alas...

I hope they gave you good enough presents to compensate for your inability to have a nice nude day.

Bob S.