Family with teenage boy thinking about joining

[cougar88]

My wife and I are both 39 with 13yo boy and 11yo girl. We are interested in joining a local nudist resort but are somewhat worried about their ages and thoughts.

I frequented nude beaches, bare bun fun runs, clothing optional hot springs and swims on my own from 18-22, when I met my soon to be wife. She was raised very conservatively. At 24 I talked her going to a couple places, and she was surprised to like it. At 25 we had our boy and we both got too busy to go. At 31 9/11 happened and we decided to enjoy life. We went to hot springs on own and enjoyed it still. So we have taken the kids twice a summer since then. At their ages they jet followed parents. But where we go is quiet, it has often been just family for some of the time. When others are there, everything has gone smoothly. Kids love it and dont even think of it as odd, they are below the water much of tye time. This summer they will be older - 13 boy and 11 girl. By
only do we plan to go to hot springs this summer, wife and I are talking about jointing a club just she and I go to once a year together. She is worried our boy will feel strange and get erections. I told her that nudists don't get erections because naturism is not about sex. I have never seen an erection at a nudist place. Of course I don't go often. I have been doing some research, not much, and have read that erections do in fAct occur quite routinely. I would like to know if this is in fact true. Young boys? Teens? Men? I can in understand in teens but I never even got close to one so I am surprised even disappinted. I liked how innocent the places seem. Again I told the wife that they don't happen and she has no reason to think I'm wrong since she never saw one while there. By the way I am worried that our boy might be susseptable to erections sine last summer he got one at the hot springs for the first time. He wispered it to me when I asked him to help me start lunch so I let him stay in water until it went away. I never told my wife. I just figured it may have been the warm water creating the erection as that has happened to me, but at my age, I can control it better. It may have instead been the older teenagers in the next pool over.

So I guess what I am asking long windedly is what are the chances a 13yo will get an erection in public? A 39yo? What's the best way to ask them to join mom and dad in this lifestyle, or do we just drag them there whether they like it fully or not and say it's an adult decision, kids don't vote? Will it be more difficult on tye girl than the boy? Thanks! Any suggestions are apreciated!

[nudiarist]

I'm not really sure if this is a question to ask a bunch of strangers on a public forum. Have you talked to your kids? They are certainly old enough to make their own decisions about an issue such as this. Since they have not been raised as naturists, this could be quite traumatic for them to strip naked in front of strangers.

You're so worried about your son getting an erection, but you don't even know if he wants to go with you. If he thinks it's a good idea, just have a talk with him about being discrete if he gets excited. That's one of the reasons for carrying a towel. He can also just stay in the pool until it subsides, or take a walk. I doubt if anyone will have a problem with a teenage boy getting an erection as long as he doesn't flaunt it.

The other thing to consider is asking the club if the kids can remain clothed if they wish. At a local naturist swim, a father used to come and play nude water volleyball while his kids, who appeared to be about the age of your kids, played in the pool with their bathing suits on. The sight of all the nude people didn't seem to faze them one bit, but apparently it was their choice not to join in.

I just don't seen how you can make this sort of decision without involving your kids in the discussion, and forcing them to go against their will could be a huge problem for your entire family.

nudiarist
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[DenitaLC]

I don't know if you are refering to Sun Meadow Resort or Kanitsu Ranch but either place will welcome your family. Nudists understand the functioning of young male bodies and that erections can happen. If you have taught your son how to properly cover up until it goes away, no one will bat an eye at this natural occurance.

As for your question as to erections being common at nudist venues, NO, they really aren't.

Talk to your kids, make sure they are comfortable with being in a more public place, surrounded by more people that are also nude. If you go into this with a positive attitude, I think it will be a wonderful step for your family into the social naturist community.

I just spent last weekend at Cypress Cove with my 16 year old daughter....we had an incredible time! We are going back tomorrow for the day before flying home to Washington. :)

Good luck...........you are giving your children a wonderful gift; body acceptance!

Sincerely,
Dee

[richo]

I think the notion that naturists don't get erections is lie - all men get them (absent medical problems).

You just don't make a big deal about it. Don't play with it or run around waving it in people's faces, but don't try to club it down with your water bottle either. Just ignore it, pretend like it's not there - or if you're nervous about it, lay on your stomach or jump in the water. Yes, after awhile the "thrill" of being naked around others loses some of its sexual tension so you will likely get erections less often, but hell - warm sunshine or a stiff breeze (pun intended) can momentarily set you off again.

It isn't a big deal unless you make it one - and something you *don't* want to do is make your son embarrassed about his body for something that happens naturally. That would just make things worse.

[Ken Palmer]

Hello cougar88. I must start off by saying that I am not a parent myself, but I will just try to apply logic and common sense. To begin with, I can understand what you mean about your son possibly having an erection in front of people. Not only is it embarrassing to him, it may make others,mainy females,uncomfortable. If I am wrong in making this particular statement, anyone may step in and correct me on this because the last thing I want to do is give wrong information to anyone. Regarding your daughter, girls may tend to be a lot more shy in disrobing among strangers unless it is someone or people they know. As has been mentioned, I think the best thing to do is to discuss it with your entire family, the wife included. Like you stated, it is one thing when your kids were much younger. But as the pre-teen and teenage years and puberty approach, these factors can tend to change the perspective a bit. I sinceerely do wish you the very best in dealing with this situation and hope everything works out. Take care!

Ken Palmer



My wife and I are both 39 with 13yo boy and 11yo girl. We are interested in joining a local nudist resort but are somewhat worried about their ages and thoughts.

I frequented nude beaches, bare bun fun runs, clothing optional hot springs and swims on my own from 18-22, when I met my soon to be wife. She was raised very conservatively. At 24 I talked her going to a couple places, and she was surprised to like it. At 25 we had our boy and we both got too busy to go. At 31 9/11 happened and we decided to enjoy life. We went to hot springs on own and enjoyed it still. So we have taken the kids twice a summer since then. At their ages they jet followed parents. But where we go is quiet, it has often been just family for some of the time. When others are there, everything has gone smoothly. Kids love it and dont even think of it as odd, they are below the water much of tye time. This summer they will be older - 13 boy and 11 girl. By
only do we plan to go to hot springs this summer, wife and I are talking about jointing a club just she and I go to once a year together. She is worried our boy will feel strange and get erections. I told her that nudists don't get erections because naturism is not about sex. I have never seen an erection at a nudist place. Of course I don't go often. I have been doing some research, not much, and have read that erections do in fAct occur quite routinely. I would like to know if this is in fact true. Young boys? Teens? Men? I can in understand in teens but I never even got close to one so I am surprised even disappinted. I liked how innocent the places seem. Again I told the wife that they don't happen and she has no reason to think I'm wrong since she never saw one while there. By the way I am worried that our boy might be susseptable to erections sine last summer he got one at the hot springs for the first time. He wispered it to me when I asked him to help me start lunch so I let him stay in water until it went away. I never told my wife. I just figured it may have been the warm water creating the erection as that has happened to me, but at my age, I can control it better. It may have instead been the older teenagers in the next pool over.

So I guess what I am asking long windedly is what are the chances a 13yo will get an erection in public? A 39yo? What's the best way to ask them to join mom and dad in this lifestyle, or do we just drag them there whether they like it fully or not and say it's an adult decision, kids don't vote? Will it be more difficult on tye girl than the boy? Thanks! Any suggestions are apreciated!

[Naturist Mark]

13 year old boys get erections, nudist or not, for any or no reason at all, it is not sexual. He'd probably be less likely to get one at a resort simply because he'd be too nervous, but at some point it will probably happen, puberty is the strongest force in the known universe. But it rarely proves fatal. The people at family nudist clubs understand that.

However, young people his age, even when raised as nudists, often choose to avoid nudity. It is likely many other kids his age at the club will also elect to stay clothed whenever they can. Often the only times they will be nude is 3 nanoseconds before entering the pool and 3 nanoseconds after getting out.

Just check with the management to find out how tolerant they are of nudity shy teens. You can be sure you won't be the first to ask.

[Journeyman]

Dee and Mark are offering this parent the best direction here, IMHO. The father should not teach the boy that erections are wrong or immoral, but, like other social or physiologcal conventions (e.g. covering one's mouth when yawning or coughing), having an erection in a naturist venue is accepted so long as it is discreet and virtually ignored.

[natural_calgarian]

I agree with the advice found above. Kids of that age will certainly be able to make up their own minds.

The two clubs in the area - Kaniksu and Sun Meadow - are both great, though neither of them have a lot of kids around. If you want to find other children, your best bet is on a weekend in either location. Just call in advance - they usually know if other families are coming or not.

Neither club would be forcing the children to disrobe, unless they want to use the pool or hot tub. This allows them time to make up their own minds about when they finally join in the fun.

Another option further away is Wreck Beach in Vancouver, BC, Canada. On a sunny weekend day there are thousands of people there, and it is an official c/o beach. Again, you can let the kids decide whether they want to join in or not. There are always lots of families there, some clothed, some nude.

The advice from the others on the erection topic is right on. Don't worry so much about it. Teach your son how to appropriately deal with the situation should it arise.

[Kouak]

You have spent time nude with your kids at the hot springs. I assume you are nude at home. If they are not comfortable amongst each other, I'd hold off on going to the resort. Do talk with BOTH of them about going to the resort. Don't forget to talk to your daughter too. Both could have issue albeit different ones.

[walter05]

First of all, all males have erections, intended or not. Teen males all the time. I think you may be more embarrassed by it than him.

He may have more at first, but within the first hour, when he gets used to being nude with others, they will be more of a normal frequency.

Being nude around the house first is probably a good idea. If you do, the next ime your boy has an erection, just say so what. You both will be less nervous.

If your daughter sees the erection, that is okay. It can prompt a discussion.

I have 6 kids, including 4 teen daughters. Puberty changes are much more emotionally significant for girls. Breast development can be a huge issue. Whether they are too smalll or big. In addition, menstration can pose a lot of issues.

An 11 year old daughter has probably had her first period or is about to. It could be traumatic for her to have her first one naked and in public. Since you have not been nudists your whole life, I think starting at this point could put her at risk.

I would recommend more natual setting, beach, hot spring nudity and home nudity for now. Once she has had a few periods and starts to know the cycle better, your wife can discuss with her when might be best to try a visit.

I think it is almost funny that as a father, you are sensitive to your teen son's possible embarrassment over erections. However, breast development and menstating issues for your daughter were not thought of.

P.S. for the feminists and single males, don't tell me that they should not worry about their breasts, they do. When men quit worrying about penis size, women may start worrying about breat size.

Also, men, don't try to say the menstration should not be an issue. We males don't understand what this means to young teen girls and never will.

[liberalal]

First, the emphasis on erections seems way out of proportion here.
The most important consideration is the comfort of the kids.
Why not have a family meeting to communicate that in the past they have
been exposed to this lifestyle and have derived pleasure from it, and you wish to add to their experiences, and if they do not wish to partake fully, that is okay too.
Then go ahead and do it, and see how it goes. Probably fine.
It is nice that you want them to enjoy these kind of good times as you have
had yourselves.
Good luck.

[Nude Hiker]

Hi, Don't worry about an erection, worry about the childs emotion. Do you know if your child wants to be naked in front of strangers? He is in a age now that he can make his own decission. My daughter is now 13 and does not like anymore to be naked in front of strangers. 2 years back it was no problem. leave your child to make his own decission and accept it. Keep well :)

[Danee]

Wow. I never saw a woodie thread before....

Do you, being a man, not know the answers to your questions? I am sure you do. Anyway, good, encompassing advice is given.

[walter05]

Danee;

Your being female, what do you recommend for preparing the 11 year old girl?

How should she prepare for her pubescent nudity?

Should she be prepared for being seen by naked males?

Should she be prepared for seeing naked males?

[maxnude]

By Nuderist
The other thing to consider is asking the club if the kids can remain clothed if they wish. At a local naturist swim, a father used to come and play nude water volleyball while his kids, who appeared to be about the age of your kids, played in the pool with their bathing suits on.

Most affiliated clubs and resorts do allow teenagers to remain textile while on the grounds without asking, [With the exception of very few which are nude only facilities and demand nudity for all with exception for medical conditions, sun burn, or weather conditions.]

I don't know of any nude, nudist, or clothing optional resorts or clubs that allow anyone to have anything on in the wet areas such as swimming pools, hot tubs, conversation pools, or sauna's areas.

In 35 years of going to nudists resorts, I have noticed and found out that families who join with teenagers find that their teenagers "do as the other teenagers do" and quickly hang out together clothed away from their families or public nude only pool and wet areas, with exception of playing nude water games, or nude water volley ball, or occasionally the conversation or hot tub, or swimming pool, then as soon as they are out of the water they are textile again around the resort.

At the largest membership club in California " www.lagunadelsol.com " I have seen a couple of resident teenagers, and a couple of members non resident teenagers who are nude anywhere on the grounds or wet areas weather permitting. A majority or most all remain textile as the other teenagers do.

In years of attending nudist resort I cannot recall seeing a teenager with an erection. If they have tumescence they have already turned over, covered with a towel, or stayed in the water until things subside.
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