Getting back to nudism and back out of the closet

[Closetnudist61]

I became active in social nudism in the 80's when I was stationed in Europe and was able to spend time at many beaches and parks around Western Europe.

After coming home, I joined the ASA (now the AANR) and spent vacations at clubs throughout the midwest and Canada. Nudity was never an issue with my wife who was always with me and nude.

After my kids came along, we got away from it, let our membership lapse and seem to have settled back into the textile world.

About a year ago, my wife and I went to Jamaica and went to a Clothing Optional resort. We went to the nude section on the first day, but she stayed clothed the entire time and wanted to spend more time in the clothed area.

During the last few months, I realized how much I missed being nude and am able to enjoy a few hours during the week as I've yet to discuss it with my wife.

Has anyone else experienced the same thing where you may lose touch with nudism while raising your kids? My wife has been on vacation with the kids over the last week and its been heaven to shed the clothes after work for a few hours. She comes home later this week and I wonder if I should, or how I should bring up the subject with her.

I would greatly appreciate any ideas.

Glad to have found the forum

[luvnaturism]

I always think conversation is a good thing between husband and wife. By conversation I have in mind the following:

Step 1: State clearly but non-demandingly what you want and why it's important to you.

Step 2: Listen carefully to her responses, paying special attention to the emotional content. Often step 2 needs to be quite a lot longer than step 1.

Step 3: Repeat the above two steps as necessary. Such a conversation often doesn't take place all at once, but may continue in intervals over a considerable period of time. During this process it's important to demonstrate that her concerns and needs and very important to you, but also that your concerns and needs are important to you as you hope they will be to her.

Good luck.

P.S. If your finances allow it, take her to someplace special and romantic for your first shared experience. In any event a club is better than a public beach, because there's control over behavior at a public beach.

[NudonyII]

I'll assume that your wife was in her twenties when you guys experimented with nudism; and possibly she may have been in pre-childbirth physical condition. Twenty-some odd years have gone by; and she may no longer feel that she is "fit for nudity." Find out exactly why it is that she had no inclination to go nude in Jamaica, whereas "back in da day" she always went nude with you. What has changed for her?

From there, expand on your feelings. How would she feel about reinstating your AANR membership? Is social nudity out? Well how about home-nudity? Need to work on body image? Well about about a trip to a clothing-optional facility?

Once you open the door to a thoughtful verbal exchange, and figure out where she stands and why, the answers should come fairly easily. After all, she has been nude in a social setting before; a little conversation and encouragement should help her tap into that part of her life she probably clearly remembers.

[Closetnudist61]

Thank you both for your ideas. In addition to being a bit self conscious after 20 years, I think she's also gone back to associating nudity with sex. She was raised in a pretty "prudish" family and they still have a strong influence over her.

I'm a bit nervous about how she'll take the conversation, but I'll approach it little by little. A landed club make sense after getting her back into some nudity in the home and when the kids aren't home.

Thanks again!

[luvnaturism]

Good luck. Keep in mind that, at the beginning, what you most need is not her participation, but her willingness for you to be nude at home. From there you just keep taking it one step at a time.