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mzdab3000
08-10-2009, 11:52 AM
I have posted on other topics on this forum about the semi-nudist lifestyle that I share with my wife. I am an avowed nudist and she is a reluctant home nudist having only tried social nudism at a resort once about 6 years ago at Cypress Cove and declaring it not for her. I am often nude around home when our grown children are out and occasionally she will join me. But she needs to feel totally secure that we won't be interrupted.

Well, we just had a phenomenal weekend at a cabin in central Pennsylvania this past weekend. I have recently been RIF'd from work and am facing the prospect of securing a new position. We needed a weekend away and borrowed a rather remote hunting camp cabin from her brother. We drove up on Friday night and arrived just as it was getting dark. We settled in for the evening and then went to bed. I of course had gotten nude almost as soon as we had all of our provisions inside.

The next day, I got up, still nude, and puttered about getting ready for the day. We had breakfast but she wasn't feeling the best. I decided to step out on the deck to drink the last of my coffee. The cabin is on a hillside development with about 20 to 25 other cabins or whatnot. Each is about 75 yards apart and an average of 30 yards back from the road that circles through the development. There are trees and undergrowth and you can just glimpse the next properties up and down the hill. The cabins on the back are just visible at night when they are lit. I knew that no one was at either camp up or down the hill and no one at the one directly across the road. The deck is not directly visible from the road. I sat down and unwrapped my towel. She came out dressed and joined me. We discussed our plans to go to a nearby lake for the day. I remarked on the solitude and my nudism and she just smiled. She has gotten very tolerant of my nude lifestyle.

We made our trip for the day and then brought back dinner and a bottle of wine for Saturday night. I got nude as soon as we were back at the cabin, by 6:00 PM that night. We took our wine out to the deck where we shared it and she surprised me by going topless as I was completely nude. Later as we ate our dinner, and watched a movie she remained so. We went to bed with me still nude.

The next day was very nice. I got up and remained nude, and got cleaned up as she got up. She still wasn't feeling 100%. After a late breakfast, I repeated my nude deck relaxation. She came out in her sleep top and pants drinking her coffee. She went back in to do dishes. I teased her that she has not been fully nude all weekend. She smiled and joked about my nudity. After a bit of marital play that is not pertinent here, we were relaxing inside with both of us now nude. I pointed out that I had been nude for over 19 hours straight at that point. She asked if that was personal best (actually no - 53 hours at Cypress Cove). She had been stitching a decorative item for our daughter earlier. I suggested that she continue her stitching outside in the nude. She just smiled. A few minutes later, she totally surprised me by grabbing a towel and stepping out on the deck in the bright sunshine completely nude. This is a woman who has only ever been nude outdoors once before by her admission, and claimed that she was definitely not a nudist.

We sat outside in the sun and soft wind on that deck, totally nude for almost three hours. The whole time there were people going up and down the road on ATVs, walking. One gentleman drove by on a golfcart (explained why we didn't hear him). HE WAVED at us. Neither of us had a chance to coverup. What's more, my wife didn't even try, and didn't panic and flinch when she realized that he had seen us. It is doubtful that he knew we were nude from the angle he went by, but still an amazement to me at her non-reaction. She totally lost herself in her stitchery. We went back inside and came back out a few times, and she didn't even bother to cover up. Later we finished the leftover Chinese carryout from our dinner the night before, still nude. We then cleaned up the cabin for the next guests and packed to go home. The last thing we did before leaving was to get dressed.

I know that this is long, but this event represents a significant change in her approach to nudism. I told her as she sat stitching and I just sat and drank in the experience that I was amazed at how comfortable she was. She was just focused on her work. She urged me to get a book or something. I didn't tell her that I wasn't able to completely relax enough to read being in an unofficial nudist situation. I didn't want to cause any problems for her brother with the owners association. I did take the time to let her know that this is what I enjoyed most about nudism, about how relaxed and natural it made me feel. I hope that sentiment sank in with her. Looking back, I suppose that I set the stage for her comfort with my comfort, sitting out on the deck, relaxing.

Just wanted to share and let everyone know that is dealing with a reluctant spouse, family member or significant other, that things do change. Sorry for the long post, but it was such a great experience, that I wanted to share.

Arnabas
08-10-2009, 12:13 PM
Good for you!

My wife is also an at-home nudist, if anything. While I will actively get naked and stay that way when possible, my wife is usually dressed. If she gets naked for something (a shower, or "marital play", as you put it) she usually does not rush to get dressed again. We have a 6-yr old son and she is not self-conscious being nude in front of him. She still has the unfortunate mindest that people go to nude beaches or resorts to be looked at. As she says, "why should I go get naked at the beach to have someone looking at me"?

I have tried on many occasions to explain that the idea behind it is to be relaxed and enjoying nature as nature intended, but so far, she hasn't been willing to try. I would love for her to meet a female nudist who could help explain this to her from a female point of view, but I think that she will remain a home-nudist for the forseeable future, if not forever.

EZ Nude
08-10-2009, 12:16 PM
You did everything right. It sounds like you had a GREAT weekend. It took some time for my better half and now you would think she had been a nudist all her life.

jon71
08-10-2009, 01:14 PM
Good for you. It sounds nice.

NudeAl
08-10-2009, 06:39 PM
Good for you. Sounds like you did everything right. I think this is the way to mke a spouse feel at home this is perfect. Good job.

barenaked1
08-10-2009, 07:48 PM
Great post. You used the right approach.

DenitaLC
08-10-2009, 08:49 PM
Great report! Congaratulations!

Al Bundy
08-11-2009, 11:38 AM
That is fantastic, congratulations!! I wish I could be writing a post like yours but I am afraid the ole snowball in you know where will come before I can get my wife to try the lifestyle.

Nudeinbama
08-12-2009, 09:15 AM
My story exactly-Al bundy. Again that is wonderful that your wife is coming around, and that you let it happen, Natuarally. That will prove the most sucessful.
nudeinbama

carbuff
08-13-2009, 05:25 AM
What a great post . Yes , it was long but not boring . Thank you for sharing it gives me hope .

flnudist
08-13-2009, 08:35 AM
Good to hear that your spouse seems to be coming more relaxed. I have a very similar story and it seems that your wife and mine have a similar attitude about nudity. Like you I will spend any chance I can being nude around the house and other places I can get away with it. The wife is acceptable with this and will join me once in awhile as well.

A few months back we were celebrating a belated anniversary and I decided that we should go somewhere special. I told we were going to a beach on the other coast but did not tell her where. I wanted to go to Playalinda Beach and had planned on visiting the textile part first then suggest that we stroll down the beach to the C/O part. Well when we arrived at the crossover I didn't know that you could noticeably see the C/O part from there. So much for the subtle surprise. Anyway, we set up our spot nearby, (less than 50') and I suggested that we should move over to the C/O part. She advised that she was not into public nudity and I dropped the issue then. We were both reading and enjoying the beautiful surf and I didn't notice that she had pulled her top bathing suit aside to expose her breasts until a short time later but I made comment on how nice it felt and she agreed. A little while later I suggested the stroll again and this time she agreed. We were no sooner past the C/O signage and she dropped her top without no coaxing from me. I told her of how proud of her I was for taking that big step. Once we found an area to sit I took of my bathing suit and we stayed that way for a short time then strolled back and got redressed upon leaving C/O area. The wife has since taken a new view at social nudism and has commented on being interested in going to a club or another beach sometime soon. :)

pahjo2
08-13-2009, 10:20 AM
Congratulations. I am insanely jealous.
Stay Nude And Stay Happy--I'm Always Happier When I'm Nude---Pahjo2

carbuff
08-15-2009, 12:37 PM
Okay , this isnt major but I will take any sign of hope . Yesterday my wife came out of the bedrom naked to get some water from the fridge I was already naked .
Usually she doesnt do this and when Im caught naked she says put some clothes on . It is happening alittle more frequently . Baby steps. !It seems I make more progress when I dont talk about it, just do it.
Im happy for the two you that have posted and have made some breakthroughs .
Lets keep encouraging each other and reveling in any progress.

dakref
08-16-2009, 09:14 AM
Good to hear someone is making some progress with their partners. During a 45 min car ride home yesterday with my wife and her adult daughter the subject of nudity came up, but I forget how. At any rate it was the usual rant by both of them reinforcing the other about how nudism was just a bunch of perverts and especially if children were involved it was a big draw for pedophiles. I have printed out articles about nudism written by women and given them to my wife, but she remains steadfast in her opposition. On the other hand, she has little or no objection to my running around the house nude if no one else is here. She is a swimming nut and has finally gotten a pool in our back yard. The first time in she noticed it was pretty private and said she would be swimming nude with me. I have always made it clear I would be nude if we were alone. I guess as far as she is concerned, nudity is a very private experience for her and it's not going to change.

Refoman
08-16-2009, 02:58 PM
I'm still waiting on a breakthrough. As I said in another thread (Are you nude now?), I have been building cabinets and remodeling our kitchen in the nude. My wife loves it! See encourages me to be nude around the house. She won't, however, join me. Occasionally she will come out topless looking for laundry, etc., but that's about it. At times I struggle with this--it seems kind of hypocritical. We both sleep in the nude and her bra comes off the minute she walks in the door. So I guess I am still keeping some small hope.

naturalmanwa
08-17-2009, 07:58 AM
One never knows when these ladies decide to change their minds and viewpoint on things. My wife is tolerant of my nudity, and has been slowly joining me on different occasions like a "nude movie nite" and taking a rain bath outdoors.

Nudeinbama
08-17-2009, 08:30 AM
Refoman, my wife is very much like ours, and I too, am working it slow. hoping she will loose the hangups slowly. she may never, but has quit complaining of my nudity, but still doesn't want me nude outdoors, though I have plenty privacy on my back deck.
nudeinbama

BRISnude
08-17-2009, 08:54 PM
I have also recently had a "major breakthrough" in my wife accepting to go along with me to the local club. Firstly I have to make sure if it is OK for her to stayed clothed during her stay. This is a great step forward, my wife for years has accepted by lifestyle allowing me to be nude around home and coming with me to the local nude beach, and now agreeing to come along to the club. Wh knows where to from there.

I have been to Pacific Sun friends only recently and have told her how quiet it is during the week days, so we now will be organising a camping trip so we can stay overnight on a Friday and stay all day Saturday. This will be great as I have enjoyed the grounds by myself several times over the last few years but have always had to go home just as I was enjoying the day.

Hope to report back soon on how the overnight stay worked out.