It seems no one gives up nudism

[Frank B.]

Maybe this and other nudist/naturist forums are not really representative of the general population but has anyone ever heard of someone trying nudism and giving it up voluntarily? The reports seem to be "I love it", "After a few minutes I was hooked, " Why did I wait so long?", etc. The only people who seem to give it up are ones who have a spouse that strongly objects. Do you agree with that perception? Doesn't the fact that almost anyone who tries the lifestyle gets hooked speak very positively for the naturist life?

[Frank B.]

Maybe this and other nudist/naturist forums are not really representative of the general population but has anyone ever heard of someone trying nudism and giving it up voluntarily? The reports seem to be "I love it", "After a few minutes I was hooked, " Why did I wait so long?", etc. The only people who seem to give it up are ones who have a spouse that strongly objects. Do you agree with that perception? Doesn't the fact that almost anyone who tries the lifestyle gets hooked speak very positively for the naturist life?

[BackpackerBrian]

Hey Frank -

Good question. I think here you have a bunch of people who are certainly committed to the lifestyle. I have seen in letters in "The Bulletin" where people have denounced nudism. I think there are several reasons this happens.

1) They got into it for the wrong reasons, expecting to find a significant other, pure sex, or some other unreasonable expectation
2) Their ingrained religous values and puritan values win over, as they believe nudism is "wrong"
3) Their significant other does not approve of nudism


I am sure there are more reasons, as others will post, but these three are big ones.

[NudistGuy47]

As Brian said above, the group here is certainly committed (no,not committed as in hospital-committed). It will be interesting to see if anyone posts here in this thread after having denounced the life.

I go along with the idea that some who denounce the life did so due to unmet expectations. Be it sex, or some other expectation, they did not have their needs met.

I do not expect to see me leave the life as it has treated me so well throughout the years.

[nudenwv]

we rarely give up something that we enjoy and makes us feel good. too many obstructions along the way could make you just give it up or them. i've heard where this lifestyle has broken up marriages and families. i don't believe it's that critical but would have to find a way to enjoy it anyway. i have met a lot of great people on this forum and keep telling and showing family the positive aspects of it.

[carbuff]

I am not giving it up , even though my wife doesnt condone it. I love it too much . I just hope she comes around.

[Nudeinbama]

Dido. She would like me to give it up, but it ain't happening, now or ever. Nudist for now, Nudist for Life
Nudeinbama

[blackrebel]

A co-worker went to a nudist resort in Ohio with her boyfriend. Their club is mandatory nude and she was not comfortable with that. She went a few times but never liked it. Funny thing was she didnt know that I was a nudist and ended up inviting her to my club as a joke, knowing that she'd refuse. She was shocked that I was serious about visiting nude venues.

[nakednudists]

There is also another reason why people may turn down the idea of a clothesfree life. Some people, spouses, for example, are sometimes pushed into the lifestyle rather than really wanting to be a nudist. They tend to feel obligated to participate and when they do, do not like it.
I feel a persons first time should be at a clothing optional club. That way, the person has time to adjust to seeing naked people and then they realize that it is not as big of a deal as they thought. Attending a "nude only" resort for your first time only forces you to de-robe when you may not be exactly ready yet.
People in this forum are going to say that they "are hooked" and that they "love the lifestyle"...because they and we do. It is the people that are not on the forum and do not speak freely of their lifestyle that you never hear...and the ones that you never actually hear are the ones that might be turning the lifestyle down http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

[shãybare]

I agree with each of you about why people denounce nudism. Another reason, especially for teens, is peer pressure from the textile community. It is very difficult to deal with that peer pressure and teens are usually rebellious of their parents.

[Sauna]

I know from my own children that the most difficult is to tell about it to friends. Young people depend very much on the opinion of friends. There are very few so brave that it does not hurt if you are the only one in the group,

[Naturist4Ever]

>> that the most difficult is to tell about it to friends.

Yes, Sauna. For kids, peer pressure and the need to blend into the group rather than 'be different' is a matter of survival. And it starts remarkably early.

It probably goes to far to say that naturism has failed when it cannot even create an environment where children are free from overly focus on looks, body and peer pressure, but still... And teens are one thing, but children of the age of 4, 5?

You should see the protests we receive from parents when we demand that in the pool also children are nude (i.e., everyone nude, no exception - a naturist swim is a naturist swim afterall).


But then, there are also (still) many enough adults that prefer to keep their lifestyle to themselves, and where close relatives (like parents, brothers/sisters etc) do not and will not know about it, deliberately.

[Ben_m]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Maybe this and other nudist/naturist forums are not really representative of the general population but has anyone ever heard of someone trying nudism and giving it up voluntarily? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>Yes, quite a few, I'm afraid - at least in the cultural circles that I've been involved with (world revolves around me syndrome again, perhaps). This is usually due to familial/social pressure. As already noted by a couple of folks here in this thread, sometimes it can be challenging and take some real determination to face the obstacles that others close to us can throw into the road of naturist pursuit.

As they say, your mileage may vary,

[justnude]

We were raised in a nudist home-unofficially that is. Nudity was common around bedtime and in the morning rush to get ready for school. Frequently, skinny dipping was the order of the day during summer all though we were not members of a nudist club. Of the five kids in the family, four of us have remained nudists as adults with only one sister "giving it up".

[FireProf]

If you truly are a nudist, I don't think you could ever give nudism up. It is so much a part of who you are.

You may have to compromise your nudism because of varing circumstances in your life, but I don't think you can ever really give it up.

I couldn't, when faced with the possibility, and now I'm quite sure my wife couldn't give it up completely even if we weren't together. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[Nudony]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">As already noted by a couple of folks here in this thread, sometimes it can be challenging and take some real determination to face the obstacles that others close to us can throw into the road of naturist pursuit. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

I guess I'm just paraphrasing at this point, but I also believe that very few people turn away from nudism voluntarily. It's usually the people you love (how ironic is that) that will attempt to pull you away from nudism.

Teenagers, on the other hand, typically give up on nudism voluntarily. But the circumstances are quite different from adults.

[Buzzer]

http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gifLike breathing, it's a life style/part of living naturally.

[stcloud50]

I do not understand how anybody can give up the clothes free life after you have been involved in it for sometime.It just has such a good feel.When I must be clothed I cannot wait until I can get undressed.

[FireProf]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by freedom2be:
I think everyone means to "renounce" nudism rather than "denounce", but I have to say when I break up with my bf who started me in this lifestyle all public nudity will end for me. I will still hang out around the house when the opportunity is there but that will be it as I won't go to venues alone and have no other nudist friends. Unfortunately this break up seems imminent and I will miss the social aspect of nudism. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Sorry to hear about your relationship ending. I really feel that if you enjoy the social aspect of nudism, then.....participating in it will only be put on hold while things settle and you find that joining a non landed group or visiting a resort or club is easier than giving up on social nudism all together.

Again, sorry about your break up and hope you are able to resume social nudism in the near future. You truly have a large support group here and many with information about clubs, resorts or groups in your area.

Don't give up!

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[Ben_m]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I guess I'm just paraphrasing at this point, but I also believe that very few people turn away from nudism voluntarily. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>Hmmm, yes I suppose there could be some discussion about what we mean by "voluntarily". There have certainly been those that have tried to beat it out of me. It just hasn't worked. But, as I suggested, I know (of) plenty that it did work on.

[Dario Western]

Hi,

I happen to know a former member of the Young Nudists of Australia who had introduced his wife and two sons to the lifestyle.

A few years ago, he had cheated on his wife and as a result got divorced. His new wife is not a nudist and he is no longer involved with it either.

I am not a comprising person. With me, the woman I want to marry would have to be an all out nudist or 'no dice'.


Dario Western

[andy_ma]

I agree with many of the observations. For me though, it's just part of who I am. Wish I had discovered or felt more comfortable with it earlier in life, but I guess good things come to those who wait! LOL! I'm glad I'm a nudist and can enjoy it.

[Bob S.]

"has anyone ever heard of someone trying nudism and giving it up voluntarily?"

I haven't actually heard of anyone giving it up that I know of Frank, but I am sure that it has happened many times in the past.

Some possible reasons other than sposual/familial/peer pressure are:

They are just not into it. Some people have a take it or leave it attitude toward nudism. It isn't an internal urge but something they could do or not do. In that case, it is entirely possible to give it up when they find somethign else they like more.

Familial/business issues. Sometimes people just get too busy to stay in nudism. If they have to care for a chronically sick family member or if they are staring up a business or business is taking precedent over most of the leisure time, then a person can just not have the time for nudism.

Trauma or health issues. Being in a car accident may put a damper on nudism. If someone has to concentrate on their own health and well being (physical or psychological), possibly being bed-ridden, nudism would be the last thing on their mind.

Now that is about the social aspect of nudism. If nudism has become internalized and is a part of a person's philosophy, religion, or some other basic aspect of their life, that person is much less likely to give up nudism as a set of beliefs even if they cannot attend social nudist functions.

Bob S.

[Trailscout]

I enjoy social nudism, but I am about two hours drive from the nudist establishment where I feel most at home. I don't go that often. I am devoting more of my time to local hiking clubs. I am meeting single ladies who share my love of the outdoors. Some of them are open-minded about naturism. Right now that seems like my best hope of eventually having a nudist family.

If I had a partner and lived a little closer to the nudist park, I would probably go more often, maybe two weekends every month that the weather is warm. I am not obligated to bring a companion, but I would enjoy it more.

I am always nude at home in all but the coldest weather and I enjoy nude sunbathing in my back yard a couple times a week. Being nude at home is so deeply engrained in me that I cannot imagine suddenly wearing clothes when they are not needed.

[FireProf]

Though we haven't heard of anyone giving up on nudism, we do have one couple we are friends with that a group of us vacation with each year at a clothing optional resort, that we would not consider nudists.

I'll explain; this couple, on several occasions, has stated that they can take or leave it with being nude. During conversations with my wife, his wife asked if we were naked at home all the time, when my wife replied, "yes, all the time." she asked, "how can you do that," as if it were weird or strange that we would want to. During our stay, this couple spends more time coming and going from the resort and less time enjoying being nude. Though they do spend some time with us around the pool, spa and in each others rooms in the nude, they always seem to want to get dressed and leave the resort

She on many ocassions has said that they are not able to be nude at home because of the proximatey of neighbors, but when suggestions are made to remedy that situation of being seen, she states, "yeah, but we don't like being naked around the house anyway."

This couple seems to be into nudism at this time because it's somewhat "trendy" and they like trying new stuff all the time, but they could drop visiting nude or clothing optional venues like a hot rock and not look back or regret it one bit. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[pek1]

I'm surprised Jon-Marc hasn't weighed in on this one yet. But, I know he would say he would never give it up.

Despite what I've been through when I first started doing it, I really don't want to be clothed all the time myself. But...I'm also going into a profession that may require me to keep my picture and avatar off of here. I am sorry about that. Meanwhile, I will still enjoy being nude when I can and wherever and whenever possible. My fiancee' is with me on this and, who knows? I would like my children to be nudie's, too, and not be ashamed of their bodies, as that's what Hollywood and other textiles want, not to mention "Church people." If they don't like it, then I suggest they buy something that would cover themselves as they did in the olden days.


Pete

What!? How could I miss replying to this? I must have thought I had replied. OK, NO, I could NEVER give up being a nudist! It's in my blood just as being a Christian is.

I am one of those people who HATES wearing clothes and LOVES being nude. Give it up? NEVER! It would be easier to give up food, and I LOVE food but love being even MORE. Next month I hope to get a membership at Lake Como.

[shãybare]

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I am with you, Jon-Marc. I HATE wearing clothes and LOVE being nude. I can never see myself as anything else other than a nudist. I am so much happier being nude.

I am saying to all others, "I am naked, this is me, this is who I am.". I live my life nude whenever I can which is most all the time.

[Trailscout]

When it comes to nude recreation, my biggest annoyance is my very public back yard.

I could put up an eight-foot wooden fence, but that represents a big expense on my budget.

I would love to garden nude, roam my lawn nude and barefoot. I would also enjoy having guests over for nude badminton and other lawn sports.

I would enjoy a sauna or hot tub for the winter months and it would be nice to have a small pool to cool off during the summer heat.

I have promised myself that my next house will have a private yard.

My goal is to increase my nude recreation in the future, not give it up, not even decrease it.

[Gary Naturist]

I don't believe that I could give up nudism. I think that I was a hardwired nudist at birth.

As the weather gets warmer and sunnier, I get a stronger and stronger urge to get naked. Sometimes I almost have to hold myself back from stripping off my clothes because of where I am.

Gary

[Dustin S]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content"> but I also believe that very few people turn away from nudism voluntarily. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

I’d have to disagree with you.

Several months ago I came across nudism/naturism and researched it. After a while I tried it out privately at home. Though I do find sleeping nude and being around the house nude refreshing I cannot see myself performing other activities while in the nude (such as volleyball, sports, or sitting around with others).

Truthfully the only time I am nude at home is after I take my bath or on the occasion I sleep nude. Realize though this is rare as well (maybe once a week or less).

I may not be a nudist/naturist but I don’t oppose the idea either. I have no problems with others who are involved in nudism/naturism but realize it just isn’t for me. Maybe someday.

I don’t feel you’ll get much of an opposing argument on this one as I believe I’m the only non-nudist on this site (at least the only one who isn’t vehemently against the idea).