How to get family to try nudism with you.

[Cosine]

Hello, I just have one question and maybe someone can help me. I really want to try nudism and was thinking maybe I could ask my mom to see if she would like to try it around the house. We have talked about it for mabye, 5 min, but moved on to other conversation. Not sure what her real view points are. I just haven't drummed up the courage to ask her because I am afraid that I will get shut down and she might think I am weird or something. I am currently a closet nudist and would love to try it at home. My step-dad lives with us too, but I really don't want him to join in, maybe a ways down the road but I thought maybe we can try it for a few hours or so. I would enjoy being nude but not sure she would. She has make weird comments like, "I won't pass judgement," and such and feel that it might be a lost cause. People always change their minds though. We do take long car rides to places and that would be a good time to ask I guess. Any advice would be great.

Thanks,
Cosine

[Ken Palmer]

Hello Cosine. Well, the best advice I can give you is to really think it over because it sounds like your mother is kind of leary of the idea unless I am wrong. I do know what you mean about not having the courage to ask a family member about participating in the nudist lifestyle. Being that your family is your flesh and blood, they have the most important and influential impacts on what lifestyle you partake of. With casual friends and acquaintances, you can always make new ones. But your family will be with you for the rest of your life. I am just saying exercize great caution in discussing this with them because you never know what opinions and/or conclusions they may come up with. I wish you the very bestof luck on this and I hope I helped you.

Ken Palmer


Originally posted by Cosine:
Hello, I just have one question and maybe someone can help me. I really want to try nudism and was thinking maybe I could ask my mom to see if she would like to try it around the house. We have talked about it for mabye, 5 min, but moved on to other conversation. Not sure what her real view points are. I just haven't drummed up the courage to ask her because I am afraid that I will get shut down and she might think I am weird or something. I am currently a closet nudist and would love to try it at home. My step-dad lives with us too, but I really don't want him to join in, maybe a ways down the road but I thought maybe we can try it for a few hours or so. I would enjoy being nude but not sure she would. She has make weird comments like, "I won't pass judgement," and such and feel that it might be a lost cause. People always change their minds though. We do take long car rides to places and that would be a good time to ask I guess. Any advice would be great.

Thanks,
Cosine

[closit2000]

I dont have the least bit of help for you. I have been reading these posts for years. I have tried a number of the suggestions, all w/ no sucess. So, for me, at least for the foreseeable future, i will remain a closit nudist. Good luck in your pursuit.

[nudeM]

Casually bring up the subject in a conversation again and see where it goes. Ask her if she would mind if you practiced nudism in the house. She might be open to the fact that you could be nude in the evenings, mornings or even all day, but see what her feelings are.

If she approves, then ask her what her feelings would be if she could join you. This would be the tricky part. Getting her approval of your nudity is one thing, but for her to join you is another. Who knows, she may be willing to give it a try. If she does, then you are set.

If she does decide to give it a try, then is the time to hit up on your Step Dad. But I would have her do it for you, or make it a group discussion. Lots of luck. Let us know how things work out. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/smoking.gif

[Burntbuns]

I would guess that you are a teenager. It is easy to allow your mother to see you nude around the house when your step father isn't home. Just go looking for clean underwear in the laundry room. Or wlak out of bathroom after after taken a shower. Your mother will probably greet with some surprise. You can then inform her that you didn't think it mattered in front of her.

You mother isn't going to think it is sexual. She will probably ignore you. She will probably just shrug her shoulders. You will be surprise that your mother's reaction will be quite calm. In reality, most mothers don't care about the nudity of their children. The old "I changed your diaper" excuse.

When you are comfortable being nude around her - translation - no erections, you could suggest that she can be nude also if she'd like. She'll either agree or disagree, but you will accomplished your nudity at home.

Your post doesn't indicate any siblings. I am not sure your mother is ready for you to be nude in front of her and your siblings.

Give it a try. The worst thing is she'll tell you to get dressed.

When I was a teenager (1960's), my mother walked in on me while I was nude. I ducked for cover. My mother, an Church going Irish Catholic told me that I didn't need to cover up in front of her.

Try it.

[Enjoying life]

I only wish I had your problem, Mine is *** backwards. I wish I could get my daughter at least except me being nude around the house. She's 19 and just dosen't care for the life style. But if I were you I would find things for your mom to read about the life style and just set her down and talk about it with her and let her know how you fill.

[Von]

As others have suggested, I would start with going nude around the house during times that anyone might go nude, especially going to/from the shower. See what her reaction is and go from there.

I personally would probably never ask my mom to join me nude even if she seemed not to care about me going nude to/from the bathroom. Being seen nude while doing something perfectly appropriate (traveling to/from the shower) seems to me to be in a completely different ballpark than actually asking or suggesting she join you. Unless she asks you if you wouldn't mind if she did the same; in that case you have a more open door to further conversation.

Who knows: she might be having this same conversation in her head! Maybe she wants to be able to go nude to/from the shower or nude at other times (such as housework - it can get sweaty especially in the summer!) but doesn't know how to bring it up for equally awkward reasons.

[Cosine]

Originally posted by Burntbuns:
I would guess that you are a teenager. It is easy to allow your mother to see you nude around the house when your step father isn't home. Just go looking for clean underwear in the laundry room. Or wlak out of bathroom after after taken a shower. Your mother will probably greet with some surprise. You can then inform her that you didn't think it mattered in front of her.

You mother isn't going to think it is sexual. She will probably ignore you. She will probably just shrug her shoulders. You will be surprise that your mother's reaction will be quite calm. In reality, most mothers don't care about the nudity of their children. The old "I changed your diaper" excuse.

When you are comfortable being nude around her - translation - no erections, you could suggest that she can be nude also if she'd like. She'll either agree or disagree, but you will accomplished your nudity at home.

Your post doesn't indicate any siblings. I am not sure your mother is ready for you to be nude in front of her and your siblings.

Give it a try. The worst thing is she'll tell you to get dressed.

When I was a teenager (1960's), my mother walked in on me while I was nude. I ducked for cover. My mother, an Church going Irish Catholic told me that I didn't need to cover up in front of her.

Try it.


Burntbuns,

I am actually a 24 y/o male just graduated from college and just saving up the funds to get my own place at the moment. My mom and I are really close and tell eachother about everything and hope she might except and possible join in on nudism. I also agree with Ken Palmer in that she will probably not join in but will just except and move on with our live and think nothing of it. I would enjoy having a family member, I have two younger brothers and would feel perfectly fine trying nudism with them but they are way too busy with their own lives to even try stuff like that with me at this moment. I really like to thank all your encouragement and advise and hope it all works out.

Thanks,
Cosine

[RichNH]

Cosine, honestly, if she truely doesn't object then fine. But remember, its her house. (Understand what I'm saying here, she'll be there long after you've moved on to your own place.) Don't put her in a position where she's wishing for the day when you move out.

I understand that you want to live your own life, and you'll be able to "when you get your own place". In the meantime, Remember she's your mom and respect her wishes (I'm not saying the issue can't be discussed, just that she's got the final say).

Rich

[Naturist Mark]

except
ACCEPT

I'm not the grammar police, but the word 'except' has been used 3 times on this page when the writer meant 'accept' - the opposite meaning.

-Mark

[usuallylurk]

Originally posted by Cosine:
I am actually a 24 y/o male just graduated from college and just saving up the funds to get my own place at the moment. My mom and I are really close and tell eachother about everything and hope she might except and possible join in on nudism.


You're 24.

OK... if you feel your parent(s) would object - don't get into the subject.

But also, don't let it stop you from going out on your own and trying nude recreation out.

You're 24. I assume you have a set'o'wheels. Why not call one of the places that you can drive to, and try it out.

AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO TELL MOM ABOUT IT.

You're an adult. While you definitely must respect your parent(s') house rules, at the age of 24 you should be able to inquire about nude recreation on the 'net, call clubs on your own, and if they say 'come on out for a day' -- you should be able to go without having to ask permission.

One of the nice things about being an adult is that you not only get to make your own decisions about what you like and don't like -- you HAVE to.

You may need Mom's permission to walk around the house nude -- but you DON'T need her approval to get out to a nudist event.

[Centauri4]

I would say that you cannot invite mom to go nude and exclude your stepfather. My feeling regarding an approach more likely to succeed is maybe to offer some reading material to either your mom or BOTH parents. I believe blood relatives have the strongest bonds but you would be discounting mom's feeling for your stepfather by not including him. Also, his perception of your motivation for going nude would probably be more positive if it was presented in a family-positive or family-friendly manner.

Attempting to create a "private club" for mom and yourself would eventually backfire and end with stepdad convincing mom to stop doing it, or possibly even convinvcing her you need therapy! The objective of introducing family members to nudism is to present it as somewhat of a personal growth experience, and it may become apparent they already have (a closet) affinity for going nude themselves. It may be they were reluctant to share that attitude with you for their own reasons, view nudity as a personal, romantic behavior, or never considered the possibility of family-oriented social nudity. Many folks, like myself, grew from birth through early teens having never heard of nudist camps, nudist "colonies", resort or beaches. I was completely unaware of nudity as a social behavior and certainly did not know nudist places existed in my home state and neighboring pennsylvania!

Disclaimer: I have not been in your situation, so this is strictly my opinion, and I hope I have illustrated the scenario in a slightly different light.

Regarding your own nudity, my experience from relatives upon as as follows:

Mother - No big deal, she and I had discussed the idea(s) of nudism many years earlier and as I had been to a couple of nudist resorts in Virginia, when I decided to go nude in front of her she did not care. We were sharing a home at the time three-quarters of the way across the U.S. from the rest of our family, so it was just the two of us at the time.

I would often go to and from the shower, wash dishes in the or simply lounge around the house nude in warmer weather. This small house only had a "swamp cooler" (or evaporative cooler) and it kept the house just right during most of the summer months.

Wife - At home she often loves to ask, "Why are you naked?" and I always reply, "Because I can be." It is a straight forward approach to letting someone know you want to be nude, you are comfortable being nude in front of them, and you feel safe (or entitled) to go nude within your home (or their home; depending on the living arrangements of course).

I understand some parents push their children out of the house at age 18, a few allow them to return home after college, and others require a child to pay rent and 'abide by my/our rules' while 'living under my/our roof'. THis variety of situations makes it a little complicated to give advice tailored to any one person's aituation but, it does appear that a few have tried here on ClothesFree.com I hope some of the ideas will inspire the creation of an approach to the situation that feels "right" to you, "rings true" with your current and evolving beliefs, or which will have the strongest appeal to the loved ones you want to participate in the lifestyle.

Good luck in everything you do!

Nudism is simply an approach to living in a more understanding manner, and being understanding is often the most demanding component of it. If you want others to understand you, you must understand them first.

[Cosine]

usuallylurk,

That is some good advice. I will probably not ask my mom but will venture out on my own and visit a single nudist resort/club, more than likely out of state or visit a friends house that will let my try nudism with them. And I also might not let my mom know what I am going to do at the moment or ever. I guess what she doesn't know won't hurt her. I would like to thank everyone for their advice and hope to use every piece of it eventually.

Thanks,
Cosine

[usuallylurk]

Originally posted by Cosine:
usuallylurk,

That is some good advice. I will probably not ask my mom but will venture out on my own and visit a single nudist resort/club, more than likely out of state or visit a friends house that will let my try nudism with them. And I also might not let my mom know what I am going to do at the moment or ever. I guess what she doesn't know won't hurt her. I would like to thank everyone for their advice and hope to use every piece of it eventually.

Thanks,
Cosine

I'll relate a story about independence. This doesn't have anything to do with nudism. As you can see from my profile, I live in Massachusetts. I am 56 (wife is 57) and this story goes back to 1996.

A lady that we are friends with here in town was traveling to Atlanta for the 1996 Olympics. She was 28 and the youngest adult child in her family. She's single. She has older brothers and sisters who have kids of their own, she's "Auntie" to the kids, and "kid sis" to her siblings.

We were going to the Olympics as well, and learned that we had tickets to one event in common, and so she was going to break away and spend the morning and afternoon with us.

We go to track and field - and then head on out for lunch. We sit down and she says "I'm glad my brother and sister let me come out with you guys today,....."

WHA....TTT? LET YOU? We explained - "you're a 28 year old woman. You have a pretty good job that you've had for 10 years. You have your own apartment (rented from a brother, but...) -- you have freedom, good health -- AND YOU DON'T NEED TO GET PERMISSION FROM THEM OR ANYONE ELSE TO GO OFF WITH YOUR FRIENDS FOR AN AFTERNOON!!!"

She was startled, but it was an awakening for her. Her sibings were upset and worried that she was going off with her friends and away from them. We went on to relate that our own daughter - 19 - and between freshman and sophomore year in college -- would floor us if she asked "can I go off with my friends for the morning?"

So - my advice remains -- if you think it would be an adverse issue - don't bring it up. And also, if you really want to try it -- and visit a club or resort -- do so. It's your business and no one else's. It's also the best thing for a first experience. And June is already half over.

[Cosine]

Here is the latest scoop about getting some family into nudism. I recently sent an email, and I know that doesn't sound like a good idea but I sent one to my mom. I feel I should tell her since we tell each other things from our work that we should tell others. But I asked about maybe accompanying me to a clothing optional beach, and she said she had to think about it. I think I might discuss further about the email and see if she just wants to try it at home first before going out to a beach and not liking it. That way we can figure out if she likes it and if she does, we might go. If not, then I need to find another person to go with.

Cosine

[Cosine]

Well, I convinced my mom to try it. With some gentle persuasion I convinced her. She was reluctant but did it. She did not complain but had the feeling that she need to get dressed. I hope I have convinced her with this trial session. It was only about 15 minutes but we did it. It had a free feeling about it and it felt exilerating. I just now need to find more people to try it with.

Thanks for all your comments and advice.
Brad

[papanudist]

Your mom tried it and didn't really seem to care for it. What about you running anround the house nude, is that ok with her? Remember take little steps.

[minn18nude]

hey cosine, well i wish you congrats on you and your mom trying together, but it you looking for a friend to try some nude things with and hang out, definitely get in touch with me if youd like and can come on down from the land of 10,000 lakes or invite ya up here and attend one of the two wonderful nudist resorts up here....

[bigmac2x2]

seems to be a common problem, my way of doing it was to tell the truth, the worst thing that happened was that my older brother was uncomfortable about it so i agreed not to be nude when he was at home. everyone else in the family was fine, just a wee bit embarrassed at first, then the others starting being more natural and interested as well, so it worked out in the end. Hope it does for you.

[smoothdnbelow]

All the best in trying to get relatives onboard to clothesfree living. Some don't have any issues with it, yet others do. Don't rush anything. Given time sometimes people will open-up to new things, who knows.
Be open and respect their decisions whatever they may be. It's sad that we who enjoy this lifestyle hear that some are hesitant ( closet nudists ) to let others know their true desire. Sometimes the best way to let others know is to just say it. They'll either approve or reject the idea. But if they love you they should accept you for who you are.....period.

[Andrey]

I just went to the nudist beach with my girlfriend. She did not know that it is nudist beach. I took my clothes off and offered her to do the same. She did it. Now we both enjoy nude sunbathing:)

[Cosine]

Hey everyone, after a month off or so, my mom agreed to try it again. I am looking forward to it because it gives me another opportunity to try it again. I feel she is a little reluctant but is agreeable to try it again.

Also, I have joined a new social nudist site called YouNudist.com. It is a very good site. There is only about 55 people subscribed to the site but its cool. It would be good to get fellow nudists on the site.

Talk to you guys later to tell you how everything went,
Cosine

[smoothm2006]

Cosine, you must have a great relationship with your mother. Just don't push her, let her get comfortable with her nudism. And if I were you, I'd spend more time nude at home, even if it is by yourself. If mom sees you more, it may help her overcome her own shyness.
Keep us posted!

[yorkguy]

I just went to the nudist beach with my girlfriend. She did not know that it is nudist beach. I took my clothes off and offered her to do the same. She did it. Now we both enjoy nude sunbathing:)

I tried that too, but my girlfriend was more shy about it. She took her top off (which is a big thing for her), but stopped at that. Maybe next time she will have the confidence to go further.

[mb420s]

I told my girlfriend shortly after we started going out that I was a nudist. Although I think initially she was cool to the idea, she got used to it since whenever she came over I never had clothes on. After several months, I asked her to go to a nude beach with me. The first few times she took off just her top but after that she took the plunge and took off her bikini. She really enjoyed it and finally understood the freedom. She has even taken to wearing no clothes at home or when she is over my place.

[Cosine]

Hey everyone, I would like to thank Naturist Mark for being the Grammar Police. Thanks for making me feeling like a bafoon. Just kidding, just kidding Naturist Mark. I did graduate from college is should have caught that typo, that was my fault completely.

But onto another note, I have asked a family member to join me at home and try nudism. They will think about it and let me know. I think it might be a go but you never know. We chatted for about 20 mins about it and they were pretty open about it and asked a few questions. I don't know a lot about it but I talked about my experience with nudism with a fellow member on this site.

My fingers are crossed about trying nudism at home.

Thanks,
Cosine

[missyd]

My husband and I decided to wait until we actually got married to "consumate" our relationship. Going to nude beaches and resorts ended up being a really fun part of our courting.

[Cosine]

missyd,

that sounds great. I wish I can find someone close like you to enjoy nudism. I would also like to thank everyone for their words of wisdom, comments and posts.

Thanks,
Cosine

[luv2bnude]

Cosine - that's great to hear that your Mom agreed to try nudism with you again! So how did it go on your second time together?

You're very lucky to be able to share something like that with her. I would've loved to share that w/ my Mom in my younger days, but she definitely wouldn't have any part of it. However, I've got a wonderful GF that I just introduced to the nudist lifestyle & she's totally hooked! So keep with it & you'll meet more friends that you can enjoy this lifestyle with.

[alhefner]

It's so good to see fairly young people interested in a nudist way of recreation or lifestyle. I hope that nudity becomes popular once again.