Should I Tell?

[DaveNudist]

My names Dave im 19 and live with my parents from michigan. Ive considered myself a semi nudist for about a year now since Im only nude when knowone is home and at night before and while i sleep. I really love the freedom and the feel of being nude around the house when knowone is home but im tired of hiding it from my family. My parents probably wouldnt approve but do you think I should tell them that i like being nude all the time? My goal would being able to be nude all day at least in my room without my parents caring or maybe even more. What does everyone think, responses would be helpful. Thanks, Dave..

[DaveNudist]

My names Dave im 19 and live with my parents from michigan. Ive considered myself a semi nudist for about a year now since Im only nude when knowone is home and at night before and while i sleep. I really love the freedom and the feel of being nude around the house when knowone is home but im tired of hiding it from my family. My parents probably wouldnt approve but do you think I should tell them that i like being nude all the time? My goal would being able to be nude all day at least in my room without my parents caring or maybe even more. What does everyone think, responses would be helpful. Thanks, Dave..

[sawdust]

Hi Dave,
To call yourself a "semi nudist" is a little like a woman saying she is just a little bit pregnant---you are or you are not! Perhaps what you realy ment to say was that you are not fully committed to being a nudist unless you can have your famlies blessing to be one. Again, the committment is YOURS not theirs to make. You are or you are not! At 19 yrs old you should be making lots of indipendent decisions by now. Not all the decisions you will ever make will please everyone, including your parents. If you are respectful and honest about your desires, what ever they might be, and conduct yourself with intergety you will have met most of what is required when dealing with others in an adult world.

[malestorm11]

Wassup DAve. I am 20 (almost 21) and i know how hard it is to break away from the parentals. It all depends on if you just know they would be against it and if you just don't want to discuss it with them. I just wouldn't tell my parents about it. I am an extremely private person and things that I do are my business and mine alone. So basically, it is all on you.

[Jennifer1]

Don't tell them unless they ask you first, but if they ask you if you are then don't lie, tell them truth. I mean when it comes down to it, it's non of there business, just tell them if they ask you and don't hide that you are a nudist (like if you go away to a nudist beach and take some pictures don't hide them away keep them with the rest of your pictures).

[KetchumMaine]

Dave,
Exactly how opposed are your parents to nudity? Do you think it will cause a major argument and your being told to leave the house, or just a few days of them being upset with you? What makes you think they are opposed to it? Have they seen you nude recently and had an adverse reaction? In reading posts on this and other forums, I have noticed that many young people overestimate the reaction of their parents. If you are 19, you should have the right to make your own choices, but remember that those choices must not violate house rules or the rights of others. If you think of your room as being "your house" and the halls and other common areas as being "public areas", you being nude in your room with the door closed shouldn't be a major issue. However, going into the "public areas" requires that you follow the laws (house rules) which are set by your parents. Some people would suggest that you start being more open about your nudity and "accidently get caught" being nude. They suggest leaving your door partially open while nude in your room, or walking nude from the shower to your room. But each person has to decide if these tactics are right for them. They need to assess what their parent's response will be. Some parents may ingore it, while others would disclaim you and throw your still naked butt out of the house never to return. Not knowing your situation specifically, we can only provide suggestions for you to consider.

I wish you well in whatever you choose. Please let us know how you handle it, and how it works for you. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[nudeM]

Ketchum Maine is correct. Maybe if you 'accidently' get caught, then you will find out almost instantly, your parents stand on your nudity.

But, as I stated in a similar post, even though you are 19 and living in 'their' house, you are at the mercy of 'their house rules'. Simply being nude in your room is a private 'haven' for you, but the rest of the house is their space as well, so it would be up to them, as to allowing you to roam around nude.

Lots of luck and please let us know what the outcome is. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[DaveNudist]

Thanks for the advice, I think im just gonna leave my door open when Im sleeping so when Im going to bed and waking up they might see me. Im sure someone will eventually see me so we'll see how it goes.

[nudeM]

Lots of luck. Keep us informed. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[shãybare]

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I agree it is their home and their rules must be adhered to. It may always be a safe haven for the children, but when the children grow up they usually leave and start their own home. You do have certain freedoms in your parents home while living there but you will always be restricted by your parents rules.

As far as coming out and telling them about your nudity I agree with the others about letting them catch you nude accidently. I would also suggest wearing as little as you can get by with. I think this would help in getting them use to seeing more of you body.

I, too, wish you good luck.

[nudetone]

When the timing is right (like while discussing a movie that might have contained a nude scene), you can start a casual conversation about nudity in general and have it progress to your interest.

[KetchumMaine]

These parent-teen situations are like a soap opera. Each one comes with it's own circumstances, backgrounds, and personalities. I am on the edge of my seat to see how it all works out.

[Bob the Builder]

I wouldn't tell them yet...wait until you're out of the house, and then tell them. The aquwardness of the whole thing might be very strange on both parts.

[RunninBare]

Hello Dave, I'd say to test the waters first...casually bring up a safe article in the paper..Something involving naked, nude ect..Discuss it an see how they feel...I wouldn't do it such that it causes irreputable damage..If it's important to you as it is to me, then maybe it's ok to wait. Maybe a book, magizine...bumpersticker being seen can spark a conversation on it...Nothing wrong with being patient such that 6 months from now your naked at their/your home an they call to see if the coast is clear...In my experiences (usa) nudity+ humans=sex the sex (lord knows why !) scares others So to reveal your interests in a safe, nonsexual way may require some navigation. That dosn't mean anyone is bad/wrong change takes time. If I may suggest, your being seen by accident while going to/from the shower may test the waters safely...ie the door is open to let out some of the moisture. Please whatever the outcome let us know how you
do. Bury me, as I was born, naked an smiling

[Buzzer]

http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gifTalk it over with your parents. You're almost "legal" age, so they'll be more apt to take your thoughts and feelings seriously.
Don't be too surprised if they decide to join you and even go with you to a nudist resort.
Either way, your conscience should be your guide and you should live free of any guilt concerning a perfectly healthy choice of lifestyle.

[Fresh Air]

You don't necessarily need to "come out of the closet" to talk to you parents about nudity and gauge their views of it.

Fresh Air

[Tenchi]

I finally broke the news to my parents. I was afraid. I was sooo very afraid for many years. I kept it a secret. I hated keeping it a secret. I thought to myself, "why should I have to keep something so holy, good, pure, and wholesome, a secret from my parents? Don't I deserve to be honest with them?" But for years I kept it hidin.

Finally while I thought to myself, I am not going to keep this secret anymore. This has to stop. The more I hide this from my mom and dad, the more I am giving a message across that I have something shameful to hide. I will not live like this anymore. If I believe this to be wholesome and pure, then I will let my parents know.

I knew with man all things weren't possible, but with God all things are possible. I got on my knees, and I asked my most loving Heavenly Father to soften my parents hearts, or if not to at least give me the strength to stand strong. I prayed fervently and with much pouring out of my heart and soul to my God. After prayer I was still nervous, but Heavenly Father assured me that all would be well and to trust in him and not the arm of flesh.

I then proceeded to pour out my heart and soul to my parents in an email. I let them know why I was doing what I wasn't doing. That it wasn't for sexual kicks, but because I love the innocence of it all and the wind and water on my body. I told them how I despise ponography and how I want to stamp it into the ground. I told them that it was the exact opposite of pornography, and about how good and pure naturism is. I told them about my firm belief in Jesus and how I wasn't doing anything that I would be ashamed to see him again.

The Lord worked miracles. He gave me the words to say, and he softened my parents hearts. My parents just tell me to be careful.

I would tell your parents, but that is up to you.

[need2Bnude]

Thats pretty cool, and a congratulations to you is in order.
I still struggle with the concept of "is this nudity right before God" But thats a whole other issue. Congratulations again, and I hope you are able to make many nudists friends.

[sawdust]

I join others is wishing you well in your now new freedom to be publickly nude. I am sure that you will continue to be careful as your folks suggested. The truth will indeed set you free and as a declaired nudest you are now free indeed. One last question though. Did you folks set any limitations as to how and when you could be nude? Sawdust

[tunza]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by dave19:
My names Dave im 19 and live with my parents from michigan. Ive considered myself a semi nudist for about a year now since Im only nude when knowone is home and at night before and while i sleep. I really love the freedom and the feel of being nude around the house when knowone is home but im tired of hiding it from my family. My parents probably wouldnt approve but do you think I should tell them that i like being nude all the time? My goal would being able to be nude all day at least in my room without my parents caring or maybe even more. What does everyone think, responses would be helpful. Thanks, Dave.. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Dave, what do you think you should do?

It can go one of two ways. Your parents might accept or think you're crackers.

Really, why do they need to know? To what possible benefit?

Since you've had to ask for advise my advise would be NO.

[DaveNudist]

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[DoctorSurferDude]

Awsome dude!! A sucess story is always nice http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[tomkojohn]

Sounds like you have a very open minded Mom, be sure to let her know how much you appreciate her!

[nudeM]

Wow, now that is really something. You now know what your Mothers' stand on your nudity is. Now what about your Father? I'm sure your Mom has mentioned this to your Dad, but he has not responded yet, at least not to you.

Lots of luck on expanding your 'nude zone'. Let us know what your Fathers' stance is on this. Hopefully, he'll be as understanding on this as your Mom. Lot of luck. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[concerned]

http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gifthis is my first reply or post so here goes i have been a nudist for a while now and have tried to be open about it but am very nervous at times, i have been open with my wife about it but would like to take it one step futher and tell my mother and father in law and be able to be nude in front of them with-out them being angry or dissapointed with me or have them stop coming to our home i know i have to respect there wishes but i feel very comfortable about being nude and really enjoy the freedom, what should i do and should i tell them up front we have a geat relationship and do not want to destroy this.

[nudetone]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by concerned:
http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gifthis is my first reply or post so here goes i have been a nudist for a while now and have tried to be open about it but am very nervous at times, i have been open with my wife about it but would like to take it one step futher and tell my mother and father in law and be able to be nude in front of them with-out them being angry or dissapointed with me or have them stop coming to our home i know i have to respect there wishes but i feel very comfortable about being nude and really enjoy the freedom, what should i do and should i tell them up front we have a geat relationship and do not want to destroy this. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

I don't know just how close you are with your in-laws, but maybe they will be more accepting if your wife tells them? Also, it has been mentioned in this forum several times that being "caught" by your in-laws might work better than telling them outright. It all depends on the dynamics of your relationship with them.

[need2Bnude]

How cool is that, to be able to talk about it openly, and then have it accepted as its part of who you are.
I was once asked if my family knew about my interests, and my response was no way; but anymore, if it ever comes up, I hope to just be able to discuss it with them. Family is suppose to understand right?