My Wife does not "feel" comfortable nude....

[JRo62]

I have been a home nudist for many years. I was discussing nudism with my wife, who doesn't like to be nude, and I asked her what it is about being nude that she doesn't like. I was thinking in general terms that after being nude for a while, over several weeks/months, she would get used to it.

Her response was that it was physically uncomfortable for her. She is a bit overweight, which I know doesn't matter to nudists. She said that she sweats under her breasts where they contact her belly. She also said that her thighs rub together which is not a good feeling for her. I had suggested anti-perspirant for her breasts and powder for her thighs, but she did not like that answer.

Ladies, do any of you have this issue? How do you overcome it?

Thanks for your help.
JRo.

[JRo62]

I have been a home nudist for many years. I was discussing nudism with my wife, who doesn't like to be nude, and I asked her what it is about being nude that she doesn't like. I was thinking in general terms that after being nude for a while, over several weeks/months, she would get used to it.

Her response was that it was physically uncomfortable for her. She is a bit overweight, which I know doesn't matter to nudists. She said that she sweats under her breasts where they contact her belly. She also said that her thighs rub together which is not a good feeling for her. I had suggested anti-perspirant for her breasts and powder for her thighs, but she did not like that answer.

Ladies, do any of you have this issue? How do you overcome it?

Thanks for your help.
JRo.

[stcloud50]

I also receive the same concerns about sweating under the breasts from my wife. I would also appreciate some suggestions.

[Nudeinbama]

Ladies,My wife too, complains of the thighs rubbing together, mine don't so I don't know how aggrevating this might be. Is this a real problem for larger thighed nudist ladies, (I see many in pics around the resorts who appear comfortable),or just another excuse to not go naked?
Nudeinbama

[elgintom]

My wife thinks she has the worst body in the world! Of course she doesn't but nonetheless will not get naked. Ever. Even when we make love she wears a teddy or something. That's just the way she was raised. Oh well, all we can hope for is that they will join us even if the want to wear clothes.

[Naturist Mark]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Her response was that it was physically uncomfortable for her. She is a bit overweight, which I know doesn't matter to nudists. She said that she sweats under her breasts where they contact her belly. She also said that her thighs rub together which is not a good feeling for her. I had suggested anti-perspirant for her breasts and powder for her thighs, but she did not like that answer. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>


Those are just excuses. She doesn't like to be nude, period. That's how we are conditioned, and some of us can't shake it loose.

As a large person myself I can assure everyone that clothes are almost always uncomfortable for those of us not built like clothes hangers. Wearing clothes does not prevent sweating (quite the opposite). Chafing thighs can be an issue, but only for long walks, not lounging around a pool. AstroGlide works great while hiking.

But none of that is going to convince a person who doesn't like being nude. And unless you are very secure in your relationship and very sure your partner can be happily 'converted' it may only be asking for trouble to keep trying. You haven't won if you pressure her into being nude when she hates it and is miserable.

Still, if there is one thing that almost everyone enjoys in the nude (other than THAT), it is skinny dipping. If you can find a no-pressure way to introduce her to skinny dipping in a non-threatening (to her) environment, you may be able to (take a chunk out of)* that armor.

-Mark

* I had to restate the common phrase because the robofilter thinks "a ch*nk in the armor" is naughty. Trust me, if I decide to write naughty, I won't have to use any words that wouldn't make it through the lobotomyfilter.

[EricNY]

Sorry Mark...I was surprised too, then looking at the words that are censored it IS in there.

This way it can not be used towards anyone, not that many still use it in that context.

[Rabid_Clam]

Women are just like men in that they sweat and have bodily functions that are other than pleasent. One can only understand that an individual cannot stop it and can only attempt to control it while practising adequate hygeine after the fact.

[DenitaLC]

Here is my females response, for what it's worth: I think it's just an excuse. I know that being nude is much more comfortable for me than clothed, especially when it's HOT! Yes, we do sweat under the boobs but if we're hot, we are going to sweat there with a bra/clothes on too. The material may soak it up but to me that is more uncomfortable.

I know that getting OUT of those waist bands and constrictions is a wonderful relief!

Tell you wives to just keep a towel nearby (besides the one they should be sitting on) to wipe off with.

Good luck!
Dee

[richinoregon]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JRo62:
I have been a home nudist for many years. I was discussing nudism with my wife, who doesn't like to be nude, and I asked her what it is about being nude that she doesn't like. I was thinking in general terms that after being nude for a while, over several weeks/months, she would get used to it.

Her response was that it was physically uncomfortable for her. She is a bit overweight, which I know doesn't matter to nudists. She said that she sweats under her breasts where they contact her belly. She also said that her thighs rub together which is not a good feeling for her. I had suggested anti-perspirant for her breasts and powder for her thighs, but she did not like that answer.

Ladies, do any of you have this issue? How do you overcome it?

Thanks for your help.
JRo. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

You've been listening to my conversations with my wife!!!!! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/laugh.gif

[missouriboy]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Tell you wives to just keep a towel nearby (besides the one they should be sitting on) to wipe off with. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>That's what my wife does, and it's no big deal. I agree that the complaint is just a euphemistic excuse to avoid facing the real reason.

[Nudony]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I was thinking in general terms that after being nude for a while, over several weeks/months, she would get used to it. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

That's pretty much it. Over time, the body will naturally adjust itself to being nude, no matter what the shape or size. Even the body temperature adjusts itself, so there is less sweating. But this can only happen if time spent nude is prolonged, and not just occasional.

What you can do is encourage nudity in bed or while watching TV and crank up the AC during that time. As her body become adjusted to it, she should start feeling more comfortable.

[Boreas]

I think men and women have completely different social "conditioning" when growing up. This makes it generally easier for men to embrace a nude life. They say that sex has been used to sell products and most often it is a beautiful woman's body we see. Our magazines are full of articles on topics such as how to lose weight, how to look like the celebrity of the day and how to get rid of cellulite. At the same time, the mainstream media suggests it is devastating to see a naked breast (ie Janet Jackson) or someone breastfeeding in public http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/freak.gif or a naked person being seen in public.

That being said, it is very possible to become comfortable with one's body, I am an example. I think that wives have to learn that it is a safe environment and be given some space to try it themselves. I have heard stories of taking wives to CO beaches or on cruises. If that is possible then that may be a way for her to feel safe and to see there are all shapes and sizes of people under those clothes!

My first social nude experience was at the home of friends who had a hot tub. The tub was a nice safety spot until I got more comfy.

Good luck!

[nudeM]

My wife was totally against me being nude all the time (when I first decided I loved the nudist lifestyle). Since then, after compromising, she and I agreed to limit my nudity in front of our Grandson.

Now back on subject. She, at first, didn't even like the fact about me going around the house stark naked. In fact, she thought I 'lost it'. Over time, she has embraced my nudity, but with limits. She will participate when the house is empty of kids.

She will, however, wear a light top, when outside in the back. She is not up to walking around the backyard naked, though, like I do.

She does understand my love of being nude, but with the Grandson around, things could be said at school that might prompt a reaction from the authorities. So instead of pushing the envelope, I try to cut back.

Now, early in the mornings and late evenings, after everyone is in bed, the clothes come off for the night. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/smoking.gif

[tarsus]

well i don't have a wife or a regular companion,just looking at the posts and see only one female has replyed. mmmm.
i agree it's conditoning more then anything. we are born and first thing that happens is bath and a hot sinking diaper. then we see how many clothes we can get on the kid. my girls were all rght till they started school,and then it was downhill from there. clothes equal modestly in so many eyes. women who would not dream of being seen nude however wear things that are eye catching,and then complain about someone stareing at them.
ladies if any of you run across this;once more i say: it's not your size,or what you wear,it's the heart that counts.
and a heavy person really is better off nude. clogged pores,yeast infections etc. are more likely with tight fitting clothes. and sweating under your breasts? what about that hot, tight elastic band, around your body?

[foux003]

My wife never had a problem with nudity. We always went to nude beaches, camps and we even went nude canoing and had nude parties at our home. We have not ben togethrer for 8 long years and now she is nolonger into nudity. She would probaly sauna with me but now she is more private.

[Tiger2Tex]

I love to go nude around the house, and out on the deck. I've limited that to when my wife wasn't around, concerned about her opinion of it. She insists that she has no problem with me going nude whenever I want, but she just doesn't feel comfortable walking around the house without any clothes. Yesterday I decided to take her at her word, and not worry about wearing clothes when she's here. She said she would phone ahead whenever she was bringing someone to the house so that I wouldn't be surprised. I love nudity....always have. I wish I could enjoy it with other nudist, but so far that hasn't happened. Maybe I'll convince my wife to visit a nudist resort someday.