Took my non nude wife to private nude outting

[Nudeinbama]

I asked her if she would go with me to a favorite swimming hole in the creek near Tuskeegee national forest this past Sunday. She accepted, but said she would'nt be getting nude, though she figured, and said so that I would. I hoped maybe things would turn out different, but they did'nt.We hiked down the creek a half mile or so from the parking area, well away from any likely strangers. after I got the towels layed out on a sandbar, I stripped, right in front of her. she did'nt have a positive reaction, but did'nt object , verbally anyway. We got in the water and played and I sunned on the bank and in the water. i was'nt pushy for her to get naked, but did finally broach the subject of asking was she comfortable with the level of privacy we had here and asked would she give maybe just taking off her top a try. No reply was enough of an answer, so I let it be.Then she started with the, you're just not the man I married thing again.Married 13 years. My reply is no, I'm better now. I stayed nude the whole three hours we were there and really enjoyed myself and enjoyed her company, and told her so.So I guess it was'nt a total loss, but am sure she won't be joining me nude any time soon.
nudeinbama

[Nudeinbama]

I asked her if she would go with me to a favorite swimming hole in the creek near Tuskeegee national forest this past Sunday. She accepted, but said she would'nt be getting nude, though she figured, and said so that I would. I hoped maybe things would turn out different, but they did'nt.We hiked down the creek a half mile or so from the parking area, well away from any likely strangers. after I got the towels layed out on a sandbar, I stripped, right in front of her. she did'nt have a positive reaction, but did'nt object , verbally anyway. We got in the water and played and I sunned on the bank and in the water. i was'nt pushy for her to get naked, but did finally broach the subject of asking was she comfortable with the level of privacy we had here and asked would she give maybe just taking off her top a try. No reply was enough of an answer, so I let it be.Then she started with the, you're just not the man I married thing again.Married 13 years. My reply is no, I'm better now. I stayed nude the whole three hours we were there and really enjoyed myself and enjoyed her company, and told her so.So I guess it was'nt a total loss, but am sure she won't be joining me nude any time soon.
nudeinbama

[Dakotawalker]

Nudeinbama,
Be patient! I had been skinnydipping for three years, with my wife, before she tried it. Her first time was quite brief, but she said she enjoyed it. The second time, two weeks later, she swam nude for much, much longer. It was very obvious the last time that she really enjoyed it. She swam nude much longer than I expected and was much more daring about being nude and very happy. It does take time, though. Continue to invite her to be with you when you are skinny dipping and simply show her how comfortable it is for you. If you show any tenseness about being nude then it will set her back quite a bit. But, just be patient, very patient, and supporting. Let her know that you think she is beautiful, that is very supporting to her. Good luck, it'll work!
DakotaWalker

[nudenwv]

sometimes i think we try just to hard to have the nudist lifestyle as a couple. we see other families and couples nude at the nudist lodges and ask why not us? it's just not going to happen that way and if pushed for an answer too hard,misfortune could take it's place.

[usuallylurk]

One of the things we want to do with our life partner is share the joy of what we feel about anything.

There are thousands of guys in nudism whose wives won't take park. There are tens or even hundreds of thousands of men whose wives won't take part, and so they don't take part in deference to them.

I can understand why some don't want to get into nude recreation. Of course, what is difficult for me to understand is that some women won't even skinnydip - alone - in an isolated environment - with their husband.

It's "let me get this straight - you will have sex with me, you will shower and dress in front of me, but you need to wear a bathing suit to go into our hot tub or pool when it's just the two of us???"

.... that strikes me as different, but something that can be overcome.

[nudenwv]

believe it or not - i haven't seen my wife nude for five years in the home. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_eek.gif

[barbararuth]

I just wanted to put my two cents in if you don't mind. Men will NEVER understand why some women won't share in the nudist lifestyles adopted by their husbands or boyfriends. Don't even try. Some will "ease" into it, others won't. Growing up in puritan Montreal, it was rather difficult for me at first, but then I turned it around. It was a control thing. You guys are pushing and prodding and she sees YOU in control. Once I was comfortable with myself nude, I took control! I decided where, when and how often. Maybe this will help!

As far as her hesitation to be nude in the hot tub with you alone in a private setting, this is suspicious. I would start looking at other issues that may be influencing this activity other than nudism.

[Nudony]

Veeeeery good point, Barbaruth.

When I first got my wife into nudism, and most specifically into going completely nude, she was very specific about how, where and when she got nude. She didn't like large gatherings; she preferred resorts on weekdays, with quiet romantic walks and volleyball games with just the both of us, and very few people around. She didn't mind social interaction, but only on a limited basis. Of course, I pushed and pushed and pushed for more social interaction, more events, larger get-togethers; until, of course, she eventually pushed back.

I think many of us dudes make the same mistake.

Barbaruth, where were you when I needed that advice?!

[Nudeinbama]

Thanks all for the advice, and I will try to take it slow and easy and be patient.
Nudeinbama

[Nu]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Nudeinbama:
I stayed nude the whole three hours we were there and really enjoyed myself and enjoyed her company, and told her so. nudeinbama </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Excellent.
People like to be complimented.

Perhaps, your wife would gladly be supportive and particapate with you in your chosen interest-nudity; if you did likewise with an interest of hers?
This would not be an actual negotiated thing, but would evolve slowly over time.

Good luck!

[Boreas]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by barbararuth:
I just wanted to put my two cents in if you don't mind. Men will NEVER understand why some women won't share in the nudist lifestyles adopted by their husbands or boyfriends. Don't even try. Some will "ease" into it, others won't. Growing up in puritan Montreal, it was rather difficult for me at first, but then I turned it around. It was a control thing. You guys are pushing and prodding and she sees YOU in control. Once I was comfortable with myself nude, I took control! I decided where, when and how often. Maybe this will help!

As far as her hesitation to be nude in the hot tub with you alone in a private setting, this is suspicious. I would start looking at other issues that may be influencing this activity other than nudism. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

I second what barbararuth said. In addition, women's nudity has been so sexualized that you have to separate sex from nudity. If it is purely nudity for comfort don't sexualize it. Let her take some of the lead there as well.

I agree with barbararuth, I don't think men will ever understand the control issues connected with being female!

We were talking about this the other night as well. Men seem to have no problems as a group with being naked. It seems that they let it all hang out in change rooms at gyms. Women tend not to strut around naked in change rooms. There is strong socialization involved and it take a while to overcome some of that.

Be kind and gentle with your wife and she may surprise you! My husband probably would have explored social nudity much sooner. I heard a man speak on the CBC and started checking it out a couple of years ago. We are comfortable being nude at home, and in certain remote spots. We have only recently ventured out into a social nudity situation. He waited until I was comfortable and seemed to let me be the one who suggested taking the next step. I really appreciate that.

[Ben_m]

I have no advice, how could I, but I empathize with your experience, Nudeinbama.

[Jason Lee]

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[Jeff Brooks]

When we were first married my wife was fine with being nude at home but was against any social nudity. The first time we went to a resort she vowed she would stay clothed. Well it took maybe 15 minutes and she got naked and was fine with it. The resort was maybe 75% female and I think that was what made her comfortable to start.

JB