stepchildren and nudism

[photoman]

i recently married a woman with a young daughter. I hav'nt gone nude in the house because i dont want her to be uncomfortable. How do I break the ice?

[Naked Bob 2]

Well you could let her visit this site with you and some of the other ones on the net. I would be selective about it though so she dosen't get the wrong idea. Or just try walking nude to and from the bathroom when you plan to shower or sleeping nude and then just throw on a bath robe to walk around the house in in the morning.

Did your wife know you were a nudist before you married? Have you talked to her about being nude in front of her daughter to see what her feelings are on it? How old is the girl? It depends on her age as to how she may react to seeing you nude. A school age girl, particularly a teen wouldn't understand your reason for doing so. She might report you to a teacher. You should, of course, talk to your wife first and then to her daughter with your wife present. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[photoman]

The girl is 5. I went nude today and there was no problem. I want the girl to go nude as well. How should I go about it?

[photoman]

Also, what if I become erct? Has this happened to anyone?

You didn't say if your wife is OK with you being nude around her daughter. Does your wife go nude in the house with you? If she does then the two of you could more easily talk the girl into it than you alone could. She's young enough where she possibly hasn't learned to be embarrassed by nudity--evidenced by the lack of reaction to yours.

I was married once to a woman who thought it was terible for me to be nude around her 16-year-old son! She got very upset when they came home once and found me in my underwear. Talk about prudish!

As for erections: just ignore it if it happens. If she asks about it, try to explain to her in simple terms that it's a natural thing that happens to men sometimes. If you haven't experienced social nudity at a nudist club or resort yet, that would be a good place for all of you to go together, if your wife agrees. Whatever you do, don't go against what your wife wants for her daughter, but try to talk her into trying it. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[Bob S.]

If there is no problem with your wife, then there should be little problem with the young girl joining you in being naked.

If your wife is willing, she could be naked, too. Exposing her more often to casual familial nudity will make her understand that there is nothing wrong with it. I doubt too much that you would need to talk too much with her, maybe the occasional "You know, you can always be naked too."

The easiest place to start with her would be after her bath. Tell her that she doesn't have to get dressed if she doesn't want to. It shouldn't take too long before she is naked with you. Just don't push it.

And if you become erect, so what? It happens. Don't make a big deal out of it and she won't either. If you ignore it, she will too. She is still young enough to worship you and think you are the smartest person in the world and will emulate certain things that you do.

Bob S.

[Bob S.]

One more thing.

If there is a natural father involved who has even occasional custody, I would be very careful about being naked around her. You would need to talk to your wife and her divorce attorney. Nudism has been a factor in parents losing custody of their children in a divorce child custody case.

Bob S.

[Daz]

Is your wife a naturist too? I think the girls father should have the opportunity to be involved in this decision. Even though we know that nude is natural not everyone is of the same opinion, and just as we like to be respected for our views on nudity we also must respect the views of other individuals, in particular the girls mother and natural father. As for 'wanting the girl to go naked too'-this concerns me for even though she is only 5yrs old I think she should be able to make her own decision.

If you are concerned about your erections - cover up. If it doesn't feel right then don't do it.

To be honest (and I don't mean to offend anyone at all) your post concerns me.

My first thought was that you are a nudist and wanted the girl to grow up enjoying the freedom of nudity. However, as I reread your post, like Daz, I'm concerned about what you said, or the way you said it. "I want the girl to go nude as well." Why do you want her to go nude? Because you want to see her nude? What is your motive for wanting it?

You haven't answered my question about your wife and how she feels about your nudity in front of her daughter. Do you go nude in front of the girl only when the two of you are alone, or is your wife there and agrees with it? Of course, if the girl has a dad and mentions your nudity to him, and he doesn't approve of it, there would be h--l to pay. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif /infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[feel_the_fire]

are you planning to break the shackles.. u wanna ____ with her.. thats the only point which can make u erect otherwise its OK

[shãybare]

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Not really sure where this is going, but like the others, I am concerned that no mention of how your spouse feels about your going nude in front of the daughter or if the wife goes nude also concerns me.

This seems to be a conversation you should be having with your wife. This is not just a situation between you and the daughter.

[nudeM]

I wonder what the outcome of this particular situation was, since the last posting was back on July 1, 2002. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/smoking.gif

[billys1]

I'm wondering myself. as a stepparent it is a very touchy subject with the parent of the child/children as the case may be. you hate to be a closet nudist.

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[shãybare]

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Good eye, nudeM. Caught me napping. Since there was no answer after the July 1 post, I hope nothing untoward happened.

Perhaps it was just someone seeing if they could pull our chain.

[Liam]

Originally posted by feel_the_fire:
are you planning to break the shackles.. u wanna ____ with her.. thats the only point which can make u erect otherwise its OK

I share the suspicions of others about the originator of this topic. But I must say that your addition is disgusting. If you really feel this way and are not just trying to make trouble, you are extremely ignorant.

[Liam]

Originally posted by shãybare:
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Good eye, nudeM. Caught me napping. Since there was no answer after the July 1 post, I hope nothing untoward happened.

Perhaps it was just someone seeing if they could pull our chain.

I think the chain was beeing pulled. I have a friend who was in the same situation. His wife-to-be was already involved with the nudist lifestyle though her daughter was not yet introduced to it. The daughter was also 5 years old and was familiar with her mother's and, in her mother's company alone, her own nudity. The most important issue was the wife's ex-husband would certainly use whatever he could to get custody of their daughter.

As it turned out, she got custody, they married and the daughter had no difficulty with her new Dad's nudity. She took to the pool with the other nude children like a seal. A healthy and well adjusted young lady.

[Geo]

My wife and I have a daughter who is now over 20. I have enjoyed nudity even before she was born, but have chosen not to involve her in it. I have felt that she may one day discover enjoyment of nudity for herself and if she doesn't that is ok too. Over the years I always took advantage of the time she was in school, gone to bed early or now working hours opposite from mine to enjoy a fair amount of time nude. It actually gave me some thing to look forward to. If I had step children I would certainly not attempt to introduce the child to nudity without involving her mother.

[bishop5508]

I have step-children two boys and a girl, and I believe it is a very sticky issue because you have to think of the other parents beliefs, whether you like it or not. Our kids know that we sleep in the nude, I have been walked in on a few times but no one takes notice….. I do not walk around the house nude if they are home but would wear a pair of boxers...My wife is almost always in her underwear so all the kids are fine with wearing underwear around the house. They usually only would after a shower or something. My wife and I go to clothing optional places when ever we get the opportunity, and our kids know we go. If they wanted to go with us at some point we would discuss the issue then. The biggest thing we have tried to impress on the kids is that there is nothing wrong with nudity but that there is nothing wrong with not being nude either it is their choice to make when ever they want …. Now as far as that erection question…. It bothers me the question was asked, it is immature at the very least and creepy! I don’t like how the thread had turned but I did want to post something as it is an issue I have to deal with.

[jjow]

Stepparent. Be careful. I was a nudist before I married her. I have never included her children in our nudism due to the constant threats and interference of her ex. She would definitely have lost her kids if I had engaged the kids in our nudism. We have been to a club and on nude vacations but have never included the kids.

If you did, I would expect trouble with the ex.

Also the comment, I want the girl nude too is frightening.

[Buzzer]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/confused.gif How young is her daughter and has her daughter seen your wife naked as a normal course of events?

[Jason Lee]

I wonder what happen to photoman last post 30 June 2002

[Buzzer]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/blush.gif I'm sorry. I should have read all the previous questions before posting.
I agree with them, though. It would be a VERY good idea for your wife to join you in yur nudity. Then, if the five year old is comfortable with it, and she probably will be, the three of you could make it an everyday affair to at least be home in the nude as a family.

[billys1]

I just married the most wnoderful lady in the entire world that has 2 grown daughters. The youngest is in her mid 20's and the oldest is 30. The youngest has 4 children from newborn to 8 years old. I am able to go nude/ naked /natural around my wife at home (she does sometimes also) but I don't believe the kids or grandkids will ever know. To bad our culture is so sexual;y frustrated and up-tight about something that "EVERY BODY" has, their bodies and their skin.

Doesn't it seem so silly that a women would spend a great deal of money having a breast enlargement operation and then turn around and get mad when someone looks at her breasts? Oh well!