Married Man; Wife not Interested in Social Nudity.

[NudeDave]

This post is written for any married man whose wife does not or will not participate in social nudity. My enjoyment of being clothes free is not shared by my wife. Because of this fact, most naturist resorts will not allow me to visit. Reason: I am regarded as a single man. However, most all naturist resorts allow single woman and welcome them openly. I can not understand "why" naturist resorts do not allow married men that go single. I am a clothes free married man but treated as if I had some hidden agenda, seems at best ridiculous. My understanding is that naturist resorts want to keep a balance of both men and woman. Wonderful! Than if that be the case naturist resorts should not allow single woman. Right? Shouldn't equality to both sexes apply? Am I to forever more only enjoy being a closet nudist? In my opinion, nudist resorts should be "open" to anyone that wishes to visit regardless of sex. /infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif

[NudeDave]

This post is written for any married man whose wife does not or will not participate in social nudity. My enjoyment of being clothes free is not shared by my wife. Because of this fact, most naturist resorts will not allow me to visit. Reason: I am regarded as a single man. However, most all naturist resorts allow single woman and welcome them openly. I can not understand "why" naturist resorts do not allow married men that go single. I am a clothes free married man but treated as if I had some hidden agenda, seems at best ridiculous. My understanding is that naturist resorts want to keep a balance of both men and woman. Wonderful! Than if that be the case naturist resorts should not allow single woman. Right? Shouldn't equality to both sexes apply? Am I to forever more only enjoy being a closet nudist? In my opinion, nudist resorts should be "open" to anyone that wishes to visit regardless of sex. /infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif

[Bob S.]

My guess is that it would be harder for unaccompanied married men attending a nudist park than it would for single men. The reason being that nudist parks do not want to become a liability in a divorce case, especially one with children involved.

The only thing I can suggest is to try to convince her at home to be naked. And be naked as much as you can. It will take a long time if ever to break down her ingrained habits and insecurities, so be patient.

If nothing else, keep on trying with the parks. Try to make plans far in advance. And a lot of nudist parks will be doing something for National Nude Week (July 8-14) such as an open house where there are no grounds fees and they are very accomodating to newcomers. See if you can make a reservation then.

Good luck.

Bob S.

[DRIVER RICK]

NudeDave,

I'm in the same situation as you (wife won't go). I'm gonna try Bob's advice for that week in July.

Driver Rick /infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

[David77]

NudeDave,
I have some suggestions for your admission to resorts regardless of your wife not agreeing to attend.

If you are not already a member of American Association of Nude Recreation, please join. Then you would be entitled to attend the yearly conventions, regardless of your wife's not attending. Last year, this AANR convention was held at Turtle Lake Resort in Michigan, but this year it will be held in California and next year will be held in a different part of the AANR regions. AANR consists of seven regions of the USA and Canada. In addition to the general AANR convention, each region also has it's own convention, located in their own geographical region, which you surely would be allowed to attend without your wife. They are all held at nice naturists resorts which are large enough to accomodate a large crowd. It is my experience that when you sign up for the convention, they do not ask (nor are they interested) in your marital status. They require your AANR card number.

In addition to these two conventions you could attend per year, there are many special events sponsored by various naturist resorts which you would be welcomed to attend, which are aimed toward getting very large crowds (to pay the entrance fee to help support and to advertise their resort, as well as provide a service). Some of the type of events held to attract the large masses of people at numerous resorts tend to be as folows;

1) footraces (5K races)
2) Bike races
3) antique car weekends
4) "nudestocks"
5) music-fests
6) national nude recreation week (usually one day in July instead of one week) when admission is free. It introduces persons to nudism, but disrobing is not required during the tour of the grounds and lecture, but in late afternoon persons who have the courage and the desire to get nude can do so for the rest of the day there.
7) Vollyball Superbowls - for many years, White Thorn Lodge in Pennsylvania has been holding a tremendous "Vollyball Superbowl". They advertise that it attracts "1500 guests".

These large mass events are very likely to have more reasonable admission policies for that event, which would benefit you, regardless of marital situation.

Keep your hope alive, as many resorts and clubs will admit you, eventhough some other resorts and clubs will not. When my wife was still living, my club admitted me without my wife, who was not a naturist and never would attend.

The NetNude "Singles Friendly" page will often mention whether or not a person is permitted to attend without their spouse.

Good luck and good experiences!

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[TallBob]

I too have a wife who is reluctant to go, she feels she is too overweight and is embarrassed. I told her that was bunk. I think I might try the advice here, and keep working on her. maybe we'll all win someday.

[David77]

I like the basis, plain statement regarding resort admission and acceptance, which appears on a number of naturist resort web pages, which simply says; "Your behavior is your passport".

[Trailscout]

The clothing-optional resort is by definition, a way that the non-naturist partner in a naturist/textile couple can spend the day with a naturist spouse and cling to the comfort of clothing.

I know of one woman who attended such a resort with her partner. She began by wearing shorts and no top and she went completely nude when she grew accustomed to it a week or so later.

[sunnseeker]

I am also a married "nudist" with a reluctant wife. After much coaxing my wife did join me at a "clothing optional" resort.
For the first hour she wouldn't even come out of the cabin we rented fully clothed. I finally convinced her to wear nothing but a long tee shirt which covered everything and come outside and sit with me and just take in the peace and quiet. It took her quite a while but eventually we were both ntotally nude laying on towels in front of our cabin.
Clothing optional resorts are your best bet, no pressure to be totally nude.
P.S. I have never had a problem gaining admission to any nudist resort as a solo male, even without a membership of any kind.

[NudieMatt]

I can't even get my wife to practice private nudism, even though I never wear clothes at home. She claims that she is more comfortable with clothes on. Social nudism is totally out of the question at this point. To be fair, I've only experienced social nudism once (a nude beach when I was 12-years-old). But I would like to experience more social nudity, with or without her. I hope I would be accepted if my wife wasn't with me.

[nudedude]

I've got one word of advice, patience. The surest way to guarantee she'll never want to go, is to make her feel pressured into going. NudieMatt, you have your work cut out for you. But it can be done. Many men have been in your shoes and many men have found a way to make their wives feel comfortable. I'm half way there. With my luck, I'll get hit by a truck the day SHE suggests we go to the resort.

Seriously though, be patient. Why not take her to the spa for a weekend? You know, mud baths and saunas. She'll be nude in the mud bath and there will be an attendant on hand. If she is comfortable in those surroundings (I'm betting she will be) try explainig that C/O resorts aren't much different. There's just more people and you're not covered in mud.

I wish you all the best of luck.

Take Care,
Mike

[naked bob]

I have had the same problem. I got through it but it was rough, lot's of fights. I was going on my own for a while going to nude beaches in SoCal and even went to a nude resort. I went durring the week and I think maybe that helped cause there were very few people around. I also joined a non landed naturist club that was very friendly and totaly clothing optional. In fact more than a few of their members had one of the spouses not into naturism. They would just remain clothed but would go to events and socialize. As long as your spouse can stand to be around other nude people and see you going around nude there shouldn't be any problem. She eventually came around and we joined a nudist club and went for several summers then we moved away for a while unable to find a nude resort nearby so she kind of got out of the habit and now I am having to start going through the whole process again. Remember that most women have much more serious hangups about their bodies than men do. Everything that society tells them is that they are to fat to ugly to short whatever! The point is that they are being told by practicly everyone that there is something wrong with them. Eventually they start to believe it no matter what you may say because after all you are her husband/boyfriend and you have to tell her that she looks good right? Persistance pays off. It would be good if she could meet up with some female nudists in a clothed environment first. They may be able to tell her better than you can that it is alright. I know my nonlanded club used to do that and to sponser womens nights when it was only them around, no men, and they could ask any questions they want and feel comfortable. Hang in there and keep bringing it up but don't get pushy you'll get there.