Unsolicited compliments: flattering or creepy?

[Nudony]

It's been a while since I last posted a thread or a poll; but uskman's post "Have you ever been admired [...]", and my own personal experience, got me thinking that we all have diffrent thresholds when it comes to compliments about our nude bodies.

If someone compliments us on our all-over tan, or our muscle tone, I think most of us would be flattered. But what about much more specific compliments? Like having a good looking penis? Or firm breasts? Or a nice round butt? Or great genital piercings? At what point does it go from flattering to flat out creepy? And does it make a difference who it's coming from?

[Nudony]

It's been a while since I last posted a thread or a poll; but uskman's post "Have you ever been admired [...]", and my own personal experience, got me thinking that we all have diffrent thresholds when it comes to compliments about our nude bodies.

If someone compliments us on our all-over tan, or our muscle tone, I think most of us would be flattered. But what about much more specific compliments? Like having a good looking penis? Or firm breasts? Or a nice round butt? Or great genital piercings? At what point does it go from flattering to flat out creepy? And does it make a difference who it's coming from?

[closit2000]

I am an at home nudist. I didn't vote because I dont know. I wonder the same things myself.

[naturalmanwa]

I have been complemented on my tan, by members of both sexes. Not a problem. I also have been complemented by very close female acquaintences on my body parts. It was a mutual admiration, as I very much admired them and they knew it.

[Nude in the North]

For me, It depends Greatly on the motives for the compliment, as well as how specific they are.
I wouldn't feel uncomfortable should someone say "Nice Penis", but if that becomes the center of attention for the rest of the conversation it would definatly become "Creepy".

General comments about one's body, such as, (nice tan, you look fit, or whatever ) are usually just polite comments. But even they can get werid if someone dwells on it for too long.

Steve

[johny]

Kheh, kheh.
That was one of my youngster age psychological trauma. I lived in a city region where at homes was only a cold water, so for bathing we all used just a public bathhouse services. As at most of regions in previous USSR bathhouses used one day gender separated regime for woman, other for man etc, but washing happens only at their only big hall brand naked.

So, I am washing between may be hundred other man, while one small drippy man comes near and whisper - You know man, You have so beautiful penis.... I evaluated my forces and just gave him a hard pink. And he went off without of word. And I guess if it would happen today, I would be even harder.

So - be allways careful with compliments, even if them are truehearted, - compliments allways has a context WHY them are given.

[Bare in the Desert]

For this survey, like the majority of the people I voted general compliments are ok and more specific from closer acquaintances.

But on the note of uskman's post Have you ever been admired..." I was under the influence that was about being complimented for being a nudist not for what you look like nude.

[Naked_Brad]

Having not been to a nudist resort as yet, i cant really comment on comments given by complete strangers.
However i have been complimented numerous times on my muscled tone and tan by freinds in the showers and my brother who i introduced to nudism.
I belive any comment is acceptable if it was intended in a complimentary way, not a negative one.
I dont think people should find compliments regarding their intimate parts offensive if the person only said them to express their opinion.
Besides isn't accepting our bodies a major part of nudism.

Lv Brad

[tinner666]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif I voted for any compliment, because not all were from acquaintances. I accept them 'by the way they seem to be meant'. Somebody seeming to have a real appreciation of me/mine, it's OK. If it's a bit lecherous, it's not appreciated.
But, friends often act lecherous in a teasing way and no offense is meant or taken. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif

As with EVERYTHING, circumstances will decide whether or not offense should be taken. Two identical comments, from two different people, to the same person may very well be taken differently. All cleared up now? Are we all, including me, totally confused? http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/confused.gif

I hope I was at least as clear as mud. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif

[nudeM]

I voted for the third choice. I think it would be okay to compiment about tans, muscle tones, etc, but when it comes down to certain parts, then that is when I would accept them from close acquaintances, or from those whom I have known for quite awhile.

I tend to think it would be rude for someone to compliment on body parts either positive or negative, especially from someone I don't even know. To me it would say that they are only nude to make comparisons, or some other 'creepy' reasons. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/smoking.gif

[james423]

I answered that any compliment would be acceptable. As I stated in an earlier thread about being "hit on" at nude beaches, I think that as long as someone is polite & discreet there really isn't a problem. I take a compliment as a compliment & don't let it bother me.

[DoctorSurferDude]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by maliakei:
General compliments are OK but not specific body parts.
</div></BLOCKQUOTE>

I agree.... I don't think anybody, myself included, deserves compliments on things that occured as a result of mother nature.

[fre2bnude]

I suppose really it all depends on who's doing the complimenting. If it's a total stranger then it can be a bit creepy especially if they are complimenting individual body parts, but if they're close friends then a compliment can be acceptable. It can be quite satisfying to be told that you have a nice body or a particular part if it's done in a genuine way and can be good to know what friends think of how you look.
To be honest it's only my wife who has commented on any of my individual sexual body parts, and I feel she's biased anyway but it's still good to have her opinion that "my penis hangs nicely"

[nakedjohn]

General compliments are ok, but getting detailed, forget it, not for me and not appreciated by me.

[Pants off]

I'm probably a bit old for it now but it quite flattering to get favourable comments such as the spankability of one's arse!

[Dario Western]

In all the years that I've been a nudist I've never been complimented or insulted about my body, except by my mother who claims that I am too fat.

[RCH44]

I agree with you 100%
Happy Thanksgiving to all nude Americans.


<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Dario Western:
In all the years that I've been a nudist I've never been complimented or insulted about my body, except by my mother who claims that I am too fat. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

[Swimguy]

I was sitting reading a book at a beach when a man walked right up to me and stared. He let out a long, breathy "wow." I covered myself with the book, but he just kept on staring. That was creepy.

I don't think there was anything special about me, which made the whole thing even more bizarre. Most of my naturist experiences, however, have been very positive.

[Toffer]

General compliments are great but specific ones only from ppl I know I guess. Or want to know! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/laugh.gif

[Fuzzy Nuts]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by fre2bnude:
"my penis hangs nicely" </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

fre2nude I was drinking a cup of coffee when I read the end of your post - had a time cleaning up the mess but fortunately didn't hit my keyboard.
Can't wait til we get to nude beach to ask my wife if she thinks my penis is hanging nicely.

Really tickled my fancy!!!

and lesliecf Will wait til bedroom before I ask my wife if my arse is spankable - sounds like fun!!

[missouriboy]

That post made me wonder how one would define "hanging NOT nicely"........

I mean, doesn't there have to be a way to know when it's hanging nicely??

[nacktman]

Sencere compliments are fine be they general or specific. It's the insencere ones that are "creepy" in my book.

As maliakei noted a simple "thank you" suffices for most every sencere compliment given while ignoring the insencere ones usually does the trick for their cessation, if that dosen't work tell'em to compliment their own arses up close and personal.

[fre2bnude]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Fuzzy Nuts:
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by fre2bnude:
"my penis hangs nicely" </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

fre2nude I was drinking a cup of coffee when I read the end of your post - had a time cleaning up the mess but fortunately didn't hit my keyboard.
Can't wait til we get to nude beach to ask my wife if she thinks my penis is hanging nicely.

Really tickled my fancy!!!

and lesliecf Will wait til bedroom before I ask my wife if my arse is spankable - sounds like fun!! </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Well, I think it's kind of cute that she likes the way it "hangs", can't do anything about it if it didn't but it's OK.
I think the comment came because you see some that don't hang as freely as others, they sort of jut out, she doesn't think they look as pleasing. I'm well pleased that she thinks me - and my penis are attractive. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif

[martini11]

I voted for general comments, but not specific body parts -- especially intimate body parts. If someone complemented me on something else I'd be fine, but not my penis. I think I'd be a bit freaked out. I might be a bit flattered though. Even though I'd be flattered, It'd still be weird.

[nudebushwalker]

Life's too short to worry about such trivialities, so obviously I voted for the first choice...

Anyone who gets overly worried about a passing compliment, no matter how sleazy, perverse or creepy, really does have some personal issues and/or hangups..

If the person making the compliment persists with overly suggestive or discomforting comments, then surely that would be crossing over into harrassment.

[harrylondon]

Someone once said to me something along the lins of "Great haircut" at first I thought I haven't had a haircut and then remember that I was naked and what hair had been cut ! A bit surprising but I've heard it said when I had a regular trim so this was no different in a naturist context.

If it were more specific I'd perhaps want a context - eg complaining about having chubby legs and being told they were actually muscular.

Its not just who says it but when they say it and why.

[Big-Thinker]

In general I wouldn't mind compliments/comments. It wouldn't even bother me much if someone said something bad, though I might not think much of them for it. Once a young, ghetto-ish woman cruising Haulover Beach with her friends commented on the smallness of a certain shrivelled-up, at-rest part of my anatomy. In that case, I just smiled and found it quite funny, not choosing to be a wussy and take offense.

I would be creeped out by creepy people however, which I encounter every once in a while.

[bergler]

I voted than every compliment is ok, but reading the other posts, I rememberd than it happend once in a naturist place than another man stared at me (and not at my face) without any shame - and I found that veray boring and not pleasant at all.
In my experience, people who made me explicit compliments never had "sexual" interests, were just kind - and, as you seem to agree, a "thank you" was absolutly sufficient; but I also remember than I always gfelt a little embarassed.
Of course that changes if it is my wife to talk...
I remember than, years ago when my boy was just one year old and run naked on a no-nude-beach, someone noted his big genitals and my wife answerd hem, without reflecting, "he's just hes fathers son", I feeled flattered (even if a little embarassed too, I must admit), but I dont know if I would have appreciated, if I would have been naked in that moment, attiring the attention of all the people around on my penis...
So yes, it dipends so much on the circumstances!

[andy_ma]

True compliments are nice. Unsavoury compliments are questionable, but I would ** think ** in the right context they could be most sincere without ill intent. Compliments can make us feel nice. Maybe I would have to be in each situation to see how I really feel. I guess I would like to think the best of people.

[uskman]

Hmmm! When I referred to the nurse's comment I think she must have been referring simply to my tan which was extraordinary that year; a man of 52 is not really the best sight when naked! In any case it would have been unprofessional of her to comment on body parts! After all she only said that I looked amazing.

I can handle a lot of "stuff", and deal out a lot of "grace" knowing there are some people out there without much discernment. but I none the less am turned off by someone that obviously has other intentions in dealing out a compliment.( regardless of what I got on or what I don't)

so I cant say if a compliment makes me feel creepy... it depends... (not enough information)

[PamC]

it depends who is making them.

[tinner666]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by PamC:
it depends who is making them. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Somebody was being escorted out of the park once. A couple of our lady friends were talking about it. One turned to me and said he had had the adacity to say " ". I said thay I had said pretty much the same to her once. She said that was different. My meaning and intent as opposed to his. I was considered 'safe'. I guess kinda like a child that said the darnedest thing. He wasn't safe, and he hasn't been back either. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif

[Bob S.]

Comments can definitely mean two things coming from two different people--even if you don't know either of them. Creepy people just give out those creepy vibes. Tone of voice is a dead giveaway sometimes.

Bob S.

[Arnabas]

Well, for me, it depends on who says something and what it is. Generally, I am happy to accept any compliment...

For myself and most nudists that I have spoken with, we try to keep in mind that no body part is better or worse than any other. We constantly profess that nudism does not equate to sex, but it is hard to know if someone else has that same view. Someone commenting on my penis may simply be making an observation on the same level as commenting on my eyes or my smile. I'd like to think so. It is possible, though, that they have other things in mind. As much as we say it's not about sex, drawing attention to the genital region sets off alarms for many people. If I approached a woman and said "hey, you have a lovely vagina," I would expect and possibly deserve a slap.

I am not sure what I think of genital piercings. To me, it kind of comes across as "hey, look at this", but that simply be my own prejudice. After all, I don't think people with earrings are trying to get me to check out their ears....

Anyhow, if I am nude with people, obviously they're going to see my penis. I just don't expect anyone to comment on it.

[Dave Shaver]

I am never offended by compliments.

I have been propositioned by 'gays' and thanked them for the compliment.

But, I only offer compliments about the person and not their body. I have never said 'nice ****' or 'nice ***'. Although I have seen many nice **** and asses.

I know people of many 'body shapes', but I only offer compliments about 'inward' attributes such as talent, personality, accomplishments, and abilities.

As far as my penis, the only compliment I have ever received was from my ex-wife.

She said it was 'cute'.

Only because my uncircumsized peni was the fist she had seen.