puzzling question

[walker1921]

okay so im looking into being a nudist. but i have one major problem even when im in the gym someitmes when i take a shower somtimes i get an erection then i have to get out of the shower quick and try to hide it.. i feel ike a 12 year old boy. my heart start to race and its just unexpalinable. does anybody else have this problem or the more nude ur are the less exciting it is so u wont get one? also im trying to do it in my house when noone is home and still i get one now and then.

help thanks in advance

[walker1921]

okay so im looking into being a nudist. but i have one major problem even when im in the gym someitmes when i take a shower somtimes i get an erection then i have to get out of the shower quick and try to hide it.. i feel ike a 12 year old boy. my heart start to race and its just unexpalinable. does anybody else have this problem or the more nude ur are the less exciting it is so u wont get one? also im trying to do it in my house when noone is home and still i get one now and then.

help thanks in advance

[BackpackerBrian]

Do you equakte nudity with sex?? It isn't really so, just some cultural programming.

Actually I think nudism can help solve this problem by making nudity normal.

[David77]

Try, and try again, and you will succeed, as the practice of being nude will become more of an ordinary situation and even sort of a non-event.

[NudeDen]

I used to have the same kind of problem when I would just be nude just around the house or in my room. I think it was because that was kind of programmed for that response. I had to concentrate on not allowing my mind to have sexual or erotic thoughts while I was just sitting around the house or doing chores or even sunbathing. Since I have gone to a resort I haven't really had that problem.

[RalphVa]

I still have an erection problem often when seeing my wife nude. At nudist events, this is never a problem, but never been with my wife.

You're getting a thrill out of going nude in semi-public places. You may like to have someone see you, and it excites you. It'll pass more times you do it, particularly when you really do get around other nude folks and talk to them, etc.

[BlueBoy]

I can also say that being naked around my wife when she is nude does give me an erection as well. She is a non nudist while I am, so when I do get to see her naked my mind tells me oh ... she is naked, then sex must be coming... even though we are just in the bathroom and it is a totally non sexual situation. It is just your mind trying to do what it is used to doing and my job is to override that with non sexual thoughts. Can be difficult indeed.

[Guy L]

There is nothing wrong with erections. It is a natural response.

Some naturists have entered the lifestyle and do everything they can to eliminate all the sexual overtones, under the pretense that they need to break the equation "nudity = sex"...

But sex is part of who we are and it does not go away (and will not) because we choose to be socially naked.

Come on! grow up! deal with it and be happy and tolerant of other's naturally occuring sexual responses!

Guy L.

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by walker1921:
okay so im looking into being a nudist. but i have one major problem even when im in the gym someitmes when i take a shower somtimes i get an erection then i have to get out of the shower quick and try to hide it.. i feel ike a 12 year old boy. my heart start to race and its just unexpalinable. does anybody else have this problem or the more nude ur are the less exciting it is so u wont get one? also im trying to do it in my house when noone is home and still i get one now and then.

help thanks in advance </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

[Gothmog]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Guy L.:
There is nothing wrong with erections. It is a natural response.

But sex is part of who we are and it does not go away (and will not) because we choose to be socially naked.
</div></BLOCKQUOTE>

And neither will any other bodily function. That doesn't mean that it is appropriate.

There's nothing wrong with passing gas, pissing and sh!tting either right? After all they are all natural relief responses. Shall I come to your living room, your club's pool, the middle of your beach, or your cookout and relieve myself?

Hey it's natural!


<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Some naturists have entered the lifestyle and do everything they can to eliminate all the sexual overtones, under the pretense that they need to break the equation "nudity = sex"... </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Actually the pretense is that nudity does not ALWAYS equal sex, and that sex should be kept to appropriate (private) situations.


<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Come on! grow up! deal with it and be happy and tolerant of other's naturally occuring sexual responses! </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Oh but we are grown ups here - being grown up means that you don't pop a boner everytime you see a piece of bare skin.

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[nakednudists]

I have never seemed to have this problem in public(knock on wood) and have never noticed anyone else with this problem.
Concentrate on something else...you can do it. Maybe you should watch the movie "There's Something About Mary"! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[relaxfreely]

I have also had a problem with controlling my erections.I am 30 + years old and it has plagued me all of my life. I believe I have a clear distinction between nudity and sex. In fact one of the things I enjoyed most in the few times I have gone nude socially is the fact that no one cared, dwelled on,mentioned,anyone elses body parts. We were all just equal.And good discussions with good people took place.
But is has been tough and still is. It still seems to have a mind of it's own at times. As far as my wife goes as soon as the first button is unsnapped blood starts to flow for some reason. ( I have yet to try nudism with her for that reason.)
There was even a period when I was young, when I thought I might be gay. Due to the fact I had a semi erection in the shower at school. I was terrified and ridiculled for the longest time. The only thing that comming to that conclusion(I had no one to ask, or knew what to ask)was the fact that I was becomming erect, even alone instantly after disrobing all the time long before this inncodent in which I was already parinoid of before it happened. I quit taking showers and failed gym and wondered why I was the only one.(but longed to be normal)
I can't say if I have completely overcome my what I now believe is anxieties. My few social nude situations since have faired ok. One was a hot springs visit during the day where 7 or so were enjoying a nude dip in which I joined. 3 or 4 hrs naked no problems. But there were no females present so I can't say I passed the test. The next few were hot tub parties with mixed genders everything has been ok. Im not as relaxed as I long for and nudity is rather quick in and out of tub only at night. This maybee ok for now seing how I am still somewhat running for cover just in case. And pretty much nervous the whole time.
I really long to try clothes free beach
or other nudist activities as I enjoy non sexual nudity I was looking for other posts related to my problrem to get an idea of how badly I would be ridiculed if it happened.
I want to be a more open nudist but afraid of someone kicking my *** or being an outcast because they get the wrong idea. I believe it's actually what I need to be a more complete person. Any suggestions can only benifit all.
Good luck to you.

[andy_ma]

It happens, but don't let it make you give up on the joys of naturism. Nudity is not always sexual. Eventually things (your mind, etc.) settle down and you will be able to enjoy yourself. Don't give up.

[Trailscout]

I've had near-erections at social functions. They don't last forever. No one has hassled me about it. I just sat down for a few minutes or took a dip. If the water is cool it usually doesn't take long to return to a state of rest.
It's nothing to be anxious about as long as you are polite to those around you.

[Nude in the North]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">And neither will any other bodily function. That doesn't mean that it is appropriate. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

The functions you are talking about are not even in the same group.
Geez.
An unintentional erection is pretty harmless.
Taking a dump is someones pool is plain Disgusting.

If you equate a simple erection with those other bodily functions....

Come on, Just because some men don't have an unwanted erection problem doesn't mean it's easy for some other men to control them.
Nudism is about being open minded. Don't condemn someone for being a little different.
I don't get erections when on a public nude beach, but I know some guys can't help it. But it's not the same as if they came over and took a dump on my beach towel.

Get real!

Steve

[Nudony]

Before nudism, I also used to have "hair-trigger" erections. Mere grazing or removing very constrictive underwear would automaticaly give me erections. The main reason, IMHO, behind such erection issues is that our genitals spend so much time confined, inhibiting blood flow. Nudity allows the blood flow to the penis to be more regular, thereby decreasing to a large extent these unwarranted erections.
When I started becoming a home-nudist, I would still get these spontaneous erections; my wife understood that these were natural reactions, and not a request for sex. That subsided after a while of just being nude all the time at home. So the key is spending as much time as possible nude at home before heading out to a beach or resort.

I still also get semis as Trailscout mentionned. These are more due to states of relaxation than any sort of excitement. Since they are not that noticeable, I still keep doing what I'm doing until it subsides. What makes an erection noticeable is when there is an angle of more than 45 degrees.

[Trailscout]

Nudony,

If it is not noticeable I keep on with whatever I am doing. It if is noticeable I take a quick time out.

It is usually a relaxation response, but on one occasion I was nude and dancing with an attractive young lady among nudist friends. She was not doing anything deliberately enticing, I just felt attracted to her and when nature began taking its course with me to the point of becoming noticeable, I simply took a time out on the bench. No one was offended, she seemed a bit flattered by my reaction and it wasn't long before I was calm and ready to mingle with the crowd.

[relaxfreely]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Trailscout:
Nudony,

If it is not noticeable I keep on with whatever I am doing. It if is noticeable I take a quick time out.

It is usually a relaxation response, but on one occasion I was nude and dancing with an attractive young lady among nudist friends. She was not doing anything deliberately enticing, I just felt attracted to her and when nature began taking its course with me to the point of becoming noticeable, I simply took a time out on the bench. No one was offended, she seemed a bit flattered by my reaction and it wasn't long before I was calm and ready to mingle with the crowd. </div></BLOCKQUOTE> Did she treat you any diffrently after?

[relaxfreely]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Nudony:
Before nudism, I also used to have "hair-trigger" erections. Mere grazing or removing very constrictive underwear would automaticaly give me erections. The main reason, IMHO, behind such erection issues is that our genitals spend so much time confined, inhibiting blood flow. Nudity allows the blood flow to the penis to be more regular, thereby decreasing to a large extent these unwarranted erections.
When I started becoming a home-nudist, I would still get these spontaneous erections; my wife understood that these were natural reactions, and not a request for sex. That subsided after a while of just being nude all the time at home. So the key is spending as much time as possible nude at home before heading out to a beach or resort.

I still also get semis as Trailscout mentionned. These are more due to states of relaxation than any sort of excitement. Since they are not that noticeable, I still keep doing what I'm doing until it subsides. What makes an erection noticeable is when there is an angle of more than 45 degrees. </div></BLOCKQUOTE> I agree with the states of relaxation. when trying to become more aware of myself and comfortable, It seems to change all diffrent sizes pretty frequently sometimes thicker, sometimes longer. And none of these states are what i would not even call a soft erection. When jokes arise about mens size I usually think that it all depends when measured. It varies more than the cause of the common chill.

[Mountain Goat]

To walker1921 (the heading post)

It probably doesn't have anything to do with sexual thoughts or accidental stimulation, but rather a reaction to your fears and anxiety.

Probably subconsciously you are thinking 'I don't want an erection', your member only hears the last word of that thought and becomes erect, and then you are aware of the changes and your anxiety doubles etc.

I used to have a similar problem at the pool and also sleeping naked. The solution is what David77 said: fearless repetition. The only way to change your body's habitual reaction is to repeat the situations again until and for long enough to be unaroused and naked in that situation. If you do, you will succeed.

If you are home alone, try to walk out of your own shower alone naked. Walk around alone in your room. The body can be trained to overcome its habits.


Mountain Goat

[relaxfreely]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Mountain Goat:
To walker1921 (the heading post)

It probably doesn't have anything to do with sexual thoughts or accidental stimulation, but rather a reaction to your fears and anxiety.

Probably subconsciously you are thinking 'I don't want an erection', your member only hears the last word of that thought and becomes erect, and then you are aware of the changes and your anxiety doubles etc.

I used to have a similar problem at the pool and also sleeping naked. The solution is what David77 said: fearless repetition. The only way to change your body's habitual reaction is to repeat the situations again until and for long enough to be unaroused and naked in that situation. If you do, you will succeed.

If you are home alone, try to walk out of your own shower alone naked. Walk around alone in your room. The body can be trained to overcome its habits.


Mountain Goat </div></BLOCKQUOTE>thanks for your inspiration.And yes I have already began.I am pretty much over the alone part.I even excersize nude and nude as much as possible. Like I mentioned I even ventured a few times. But it's more like im naked a few seconds on the way to cover of a hot tub. From things that I heard and nude destinations Ive researched the freedom in which I hope to eventually enjoy is more open and to foget I am naked would be the goal. Fearless repetition would be great if everyone around was as helpful as yourself.

[Trailscout]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by relaxfreely:
</div></BLOCKQUOTE> Did she treat you any diffrently after?[/QUOTE]

No, but I can't say how she/others would have reacted if I had gone to full erection and continued dancing with her.

I do not regret sitting down for a minute to let things cool off. Nudists generally judge you by how you manage an erection, not that you simply had one.

[Nude in the North]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Nudists generally judge you by how you manage an erection, not that you simply had one. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Spoken like a TRUE Nudist.

It's the behavior that follows that should be scrutinized. Not a natural reaction to some unavoidable stimuli.

[tinner666]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Nudists generally judge you by how you manage an erection, not that you simply had one. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
Well said!

[NudistGuy47]

Thanks to all who responded with the well-stated responses!

[justnude]

I would have to agree with the notion that it is what you do after it happens. After nearly 20 years a a nudist I still get brief "thrill" as I undress at the club or at a beach. As the father of 4 teen aged sons who enjoy nudism, I notice that they, too, frequently get a bit hard during the undressing. Interestingly enough, this does not happen around the house where nudity is the norm (except for the moring pee hard on).

Today at the resort where I live there was a man lying on a lounge by the pool with a full erection. He appeared to be asleep and oblivious to it. I was curious as to what he was dreaming about! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

Fortunately, there was no one else in the pool area until one lady entered the pool, but she didn't seem to notice or ignored him. He was at one end of the pool, and she entered the other end and probably never saw him. I wasn't offended (just envious http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif) but concerned that someone else might complain to management.

[foux003]

ITS ONLY NATURAL. My headlights are always on to.

[Naturist4Ever]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Not a natural reaction to some unavoidable stimuli. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Hehe, some guys will interpret in a what that is possibly exactly the opposite of what you mean! If you cannot be among others without being constantly sexually stimulated - like it or not - maybe nudism isn't for that person....?

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">My headlights are always on too </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
Are you suggestion you are having a constant erection just as well? Must be inconvenient!

[justnude]

The replies to this question are varried. I would agree with the notion that nudity does not equal sex but certainly understand the fear of getting an errection. As I have said in other posts on this issue, I personally do not think the fact of an errection is a "bad" thing, it is what you do once this happens! I strongly feel it would be inappropriate to parade around with a strong hard on (proud as you may be of it http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif). Wrap a towel around it, sun your buns etc. The fact remains, however, that the more you are nude around others the easier it becomes and the more "natural" this will feel. Although, after nearly 20 years as a nudist, there is still a sence of "thrill" as I visit the club and undress in the parking lot-what can I say?