wife will not understand

[pilgrim]

[pilgrim]

hi
I have been going nude around the house and yard for years. Only when the wife is not home. This spring we went camping 15 miles off of the paved road.I did swim arond the pretty creek nude, even that made the wife nervous.This mourning Isat for awhile nude in the yard all she did was shake her head may be she is comeing around . Any suggestions?

[Idaho_Nudist]

My Suggestions is to talk openly about nudity with her. Let her know your feelings on nudity, see what she has to say. If she is against it, find out what is acceptable to her and what is not. She will at least give you a little space for yourself if she loves you.
Try to get her to join you, if nothing else at least get her to try a few times. Maybe take her to a clothing optional resort so she can get a better understanding with out having to remove any of her clothing or maybe a nude beach.
She needs to know how you feel to really be comfortable about it, weather she joins you or not.

[Trailscout]

A woman's intuition can be astonishing, but as far as I know, it has never risen to the point of mind-reading.

I agree with our friend from Idaho, y'all should sit down and discuss it.

[nakednudists]

I chose "help" because that was the only choice to choose from.

[nudeM]

You may want to have a discussion about her feelings. I know I did, and my wife became more accepting of it, to the fact, she has made many friends here in the forums.

As far as having a discussion, you may want to ask her how does she 'really' feel about you having no clothes on around the house. You will also be able to discuss any certain times of the day you could have your 'space' and be nude.

My wife does not participate as much as I, but she will when the house in empty. She will not walk liberally outside like myself, but she will 'expose' herself after having a seat. She keeps talking about having an in-ground swimming pool installed instead of the above-ground. I think when the fence becomes more 'private', she may also be nude a little more.

Another thing you may try is, ask her to go around top free while at home, when nobody is expected. Then after awhile, see if she would be comfortable being nude when it is just the two of you.

Lots of luck. Let us know how things turn out.

[nudenwv]

give her the space she needs. as long as she understands how important it is for you to enjoy the lifestyle. be happy with the nude moments you do have and not the moments you don't have. one day she may join in. patients is a virtue.

[RunningNude57]

Love your Poll! Only one choice! Seriously - it will take a long time. Just think how many years she has NOT been a nudist - hopefully it won't take that long for her to become one! Most who are nudists aren't nudists in the first part of their lives - many don't think much about it until after they are 18 yrs old plus. My suggestion is to take it s l o w l y - surely there is something in her past that has made her ashamed of the body - perhaps even her own. Be sure to TALK to her about it and find out WHEN it is OK for you to be nude w/ her and when NOT. She will feel much better about it if you don't force it on her at your will all the time. After she has committed that some days are OK - she'll feel better because she may feel that she gave you "permission" and therefore has some input. Later - you can ask her how she feels about the times that you are nude. Be sure to talk to her about it - and don't be nude ALL the time around her or she will start to resent your nudity..

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[OZJames]

Try printing off some of the topics on this site and giving them to her to read. Be very selective.

Take things very gradually, but gradually increasing nudity in and around the house. Often show her that you love her http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif .

Good luck
http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif <span class="ev_code_RED">JAMES</span> http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[P.J.]

I wish that I had the answers... http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

My wife refuses to even try social nudism, but if I ever get her to change her views on this matter, I'll send you my advice and you can send me payment in return! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

Seriously, I think that Cheri ALexander, he founder of Tavelites would top the list of those who might be able to convince the reluctant spouse to give nude recreation a try!

[dan t]

OZJames, has a good idea,that is the way I got my wife started. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[pilgrim]

Thanks for the advice.Getting a little too cold here to be nude outside but I have all winter to see how she feels.

[Buzzer]

http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gifI was open about my nudity to my wife BEFORE we got married. I told her so she wouldn't be shocked and know what whas in store for her after we married.
Then I made sure she knew there was no connection between my preference for being nude and having sex. Being nude sometimes follows sex, but sex does not necessarily follow being nude.

[Nudeinbama]

Be patient, I'm not always. Last night we were going to shower before hitting the sack, and were planning,to make love, as bad as it is, that we would plan it, but thats another topic. Anyways, I questioned why she was putting on clothes,after the shower, when we were about to go to bed for lovemaking. Well, she replied that it was her right to be comfortable and It kinda pissed me off. I replied, sure I want you comfortable, but theres a place for everything. I have to wear clothes lots of times when I'd rather not. To make a long story short , there was no love making, and we did'nt much speak before sleep?She is really hung up on her clothes, all the time!!!. There are times to be nude, like--- before lovemaking, at least, to enhance the mood for me, obviously not her.
Nudeinbama

[Captain Zen]

I advice you to go into massage. Begin with the feet. Or the neck, softly and slowly and lovingly. Just for relaxation, sex may follow, but not nessecairily. Get some books on massage, the Japanese healing and refreshing, strengthening Shiatsu is amazing helpful in all kind of situations. Give the wife a good feeling with it, clothes will go off...
Good luck.

You should tell her that.

[Captain Zen]

She is not my wife.
Just buy some books on massage and have them lay around. Then complain of pain in the mouse pulse/hand/arm, and ask the wife to give you massage. Tell her how good it helps. Wait untill she has a small pain somewhere, offer to massage it ...
If that does not work, change wife.

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The reply was to Nudeinbama. You snuck a reply in before mine posted.

[krcNY]

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Change Wife....I like that http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

I like to wear clothing at times too. But if the house or outside is very warm, I will shed my clothing.

During the winter; I love to sit by the fire, sipping wine and enjoying conversation with my husband. It does not always lead to sex, but since we have kids, it is great for our commmunication. It is our time to discuss important issues and our feelings. I think communication with your spouse will work in time. We were nude at home for many years before we took the "giant step" into social nudity, and you know.... it was not such a big step.

Good Luck to both of you.

Nudeinbama....I agree with Cindiann.

[Fresh Air]

Be patient, but also accept that this may be something that you will have to be a part of alone.

Dan