How would i ask someone to be nude with me that isn't nude around others?

[iamconfused]

I would like to know how would be a good way to ask my cousin if they would do nude activities with me when my cousin is not nude around others ever? I am a male and my cousin is a female who is nearly 4 years older than me, so I am afraid she might think I am a pervert and never talk to me again, but we do usually get along well, and I think she would, but I am not sure how to come out with it. I want to ask her in specific because I think she would be the most comfortable with it, and I need someone to be nude around because being alone and nude is no fun. I aslo think it would be a good way to bond and become closer as family.

[iamconfused]

I would like to know how would be a good way to ask my cousin if they would do nude activities with me when my cousin is not nude around others ever? I am a male and my cousin is a female who is nearly 4 years older than me, so I am afraid she might think I am a pervert and never talk to me again, but we do usually get along well, and I think she would, but I am not sure how to come out with it. I want to ask her in specific because I think she would be the most comfortable with it, and I need someone to be nude around because being alone and nude is no fun. I aslo think it would be a good way to bond and become closer as family.

[Wiggle It]

Maybe start by asking if she has ever heard anything about nudism, and what does she think about it. If the conversation turns out to show she has a positive or accepting view of it, then you could judge whether to let her know of your interest in trying it. If you are unsure of the reaction, an approach like this doesn't come right out and totally "blow your cover" about wanting to be nude yourself until you know her attitude.

[nudeM]

Try giving little hints that you like to be nude. She may, at one point, ask you about your comments. Then is the time to ask her of her feelings about nudity. Who knows, she may be interested in it also. But don't push the subject. It should be dealt with slowly. If she objects, then back off a little. Lots of luck. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/smoking.gif

[iamconfused]

nudeM, what do you mean little hints? what would be good for hints

[steve-o]

Maybe you could say something like "I know for girls it's easier to be nude sometimes with their girlfriends and it's no big deal. It's too bad that it's not as easy sometimes for girls to be nude with guys. I enjoy going without clingy clothes sometimes when it's so hot ... But I don't know if you would be comfortable with it, with a guy."

That way you don't have to risk asking her and getting a negative reaction. You're only making a statement and now it's up to her to either agree or disagree with it. Hopefully she will disagree with the statement and say something like "No, that's not true. I'd feel totally fine with it. In fact I'd love to go nude too."

I hope that helps.
Let us know how it goes.
--steve

[iamconfused]

thanks, i have a few more questions though, how do you get over the fear of actually saying it, like the feeling of scaredness, and where would be the best time to say it, when we are alone or with the family or what do you think would be the best setting for it?

[NakedGary]

Iamconfused,

Being under 18 years of age you would be unable to go to the three landed resorts in Indiana unless you go with an approved guardian or your parents. Inviting an older person to nude activities would have to be done based on those activities or at a private home or on federal land approved for nude recreation.

CFI Nudist Explorer (http://www.nudistexplorer.com)

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[iamconfused]

i was not talking about going to a resort, i just wanted to know how the best way for asking my cousin to get naked and stuff with me, we would only be doing it in her house or my house, and i am not interested in going to a nude resort or place like that right now anyway, i am being rude, im sorry, but thanks for the info, it does help a little bit

[steve-o]

It may be easier to talk about it one on one, rather than in a larger family group where she may feel overwhelmed by others' opinions. To get over it you just ahve to say it and get it out there as quickly as possible. Try to say it as it you're discussing how you like to eat spinach or something else very matter of fact. I promise you if you don't make a big deal out of it and neither will she.

And if you want to go the more serious conversation route and say "Sheila, I want to ask you something that's been on my mind a while and I hope you won't think any less of me for asking. We're really close and so I really feel comfortable asking you about it. Either way you answer won't hurt my feelings in the least, but I have to ask. I just want to know what you think of ..."

Setting it in a way something like that she will not hate you or think anything bad of you if she doesn't want to go along with the idea.

Good luck.
--steve

[iamconfused]

steve-o, your ideas have been the best and i think ill try the very last one, you are the coolest, but i still am open to any suggestions

[steve-o]

Thanks Buddy.
Just don't make a big deal out of it and don't allow her to think that it's about seeing her naked. It's something that many many people do alone or together and you wonder how she feels about it.

The more you make the converation sound serious the more she will see it as "heavy". Make it light and casual and you'll do fine.

Tell her how much you respect her intelligence and her opinions about such things -- not to bowl her over with BS -- but I assume this is a true statement otherwise you wouldn't hang out together so much.

Another idea might be when you ask her, don't make it a yes or no, all or nothing, suggest you try it once together and see how goes. "If it doesn't work out, no big deal, but then at least I'll know and I won't have to wonder."
Good luck.
--steve

[DoctorSurferDude]

I would suggest an easier goal....

Whether or not she is interested or willing to partake in nudism is not going to be determined by how you ask. So....why ask?

Simply bring up the topic of nudism, discuss it, get her opinion, give her yours, and then move onto another topic. You'll know by the end of that short talk whether or not she is cut out for nudism, and she'll know your take on it too.

So....you see, no awkward asking neccessary http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/wink3.gif

[missouriboy]

Some good suggestions. Here's another possible tack... try to make it seem like her own idea. When you're doing something very ordinary together, just say in passing, "Hey, wouldn't it be great if we could do this naked?" Just pop it out, like you just thought of it right now for the first time. Her response will indicate her interest level, without you actually asking her to do something. Depending on that response, you can either pursue it further, or drop it. Be casual, like it's no big deal to you either way.

Don't do it in the presence of others, unless you want those others to participate too. In fact, that could be a better way to do it, because it eliminates the threat of one-on-one sexual aggression.

[Bryan In The Nude]

well, I'm not to sure about the last one, it could sound wrong... I would try "Wouldn't this be a silly activity to do naked?" or "Wouldn't this activity be weird if we were naked?" something like that, and I know those arn't worded the best way. Basicly, find her comfort level with the idea of nudity.

I have a question, though. It's about asking friends. To me it is a bit easier thinking about bringing the idea up with females, mainly because I worry about guys assuming that I'm gay or something... not only that, but most of my friends are female anyway lol. wso, whats the bet way to bring it up to a guy?

[nudiegirl5050]

To iamconfused,
I thnk you should let her see you nude, by accident, on multiple, spread out occations. For instdance, when you see her about to confront you in your room, run in there quickly and strip down, then just act as if you putting a bathing suit or something.
You can also let her see you visit this site. When she asks why you are here, you can respond " I don't know, I guess im inteested in it." then she might state her fellings on the topic. Girls are alot more open about family nudity than boys, so odds are that she will accept your interests either way and probably join you.

To Bryan,
Do you have a private pool or secluded pond/lake near you? If so, you can ask your male friends to go swimming and then remember that none of you have your bathing suits. When they are ready to leave, you can say "Why don't we just go naked." If you guy friends are like my guy friends(perverted, stupid, and willing to do anything if told "you won't") then they will laugh and one guy will say that he'll do it and then you say that you don't believe him and odds are if this guy is average american guy enough, he'll do it. When he does, you can jump in(Nude) and start having a good time, while the other guys will slowly join as they please. Now, when ya'll get out, you stay nude and say you thinks its peaceful. If your friends are real friends, then they won't care and maybe join you. After all this is said and done, you can reference back to it and say that it was alot more fun swimming nude than with a suit on. like I said in iamconfused's reply, let them see you nude and eventualy they will stop caring about your nakedness and let you be nude around them, maybe some will join you, but that is another topic.
I hopw my ideas help both of you
P.S. I've used both methods for introducing friends to nudism. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif

[Bryan In The Nude]

I don't have any places for it to work, and I never really need to use a locker room, and never really need to strip down compleatly when changing for Marching Band. Truly, the only time I was naked with other guys was at Basic Encampment for CAP, and that was in the showers. We all just talked and no one really seemed to care. There was maybe one or two people who wore bathing suits, but most of the guys questioned them about it, they just seemed to be more comfortable with it on, and we still treated them the same (except the gentle questioning).

I've already started the process on a female friend, I don't really know if I should continue, though, or even how far I am willing to go at this point, but I did start with a good quote I found on this site, It was in Bob S.s signature:

"I think 'naked' is a word others came up with but we’re not naked; we are dressed in God’s clothes, the best clothes of all."

Emily Robbins

I told it to her, and asked isn't that interesting? And told her that it is theoreticly true, and she mostly agreed. I think I found another site that has a few good Biblical quotes that I (or others could use) over at http://www.oursunhome.com/christian_nudist.html or Good_Nudity.html It talks about nudity in the Bible and backs it with quotes mainly from Genesis and a few other places as well, all of them are on Good_Nudity.html. If you have christian friends who are unsure, this may be somewhere you would want to send them, or to gather information/quotes. In general, a google search for "christian nudist" can help you find other sites. I plan to use this site. I've always liked quotes, so most of my friends won't really find anything odd about it other than that they are all about nudity, but I can shrug that off and tell them I just find it interesting.

I guess it all really depends who you are and who you are trying to introduce to nudism.

[bishop5508]

My 2 cents....

I would take the Doctors advice.

[OldFrog]

You never have said in this topic exactly how old you are.

This is certainly a touchy issue. Despite enjoying nude recreation myself, if I, as a father, had found out that one of my minor daughter's male friends had approached her about the same subject I would have been highly suspicious. I'm sorry, but at that age the incidence of overt sexual interest far exceeds that of the purely platonic. I am not impugning your motives at all, but urging you to be very careful and entirely open in your approach.

[Bryan In The Nude]

its a good point...

Me, I just want to have a friend nearby that is interested like me...I don't really care if we're nude together... and especialy not this early in my nudist jourey...

[OldFrog]

Yeah, certainly not trying to discourage you from having the conversations. That is how you and your friends explore the world and expand into your roles as adults. I am just cautioning you to be careful in the execution.

[Bryan In The Nude]

and it is a well justified caution... that is why many of us are closet nudists...

[Tampanude]

I would suggest you don't force the subject. A mere mention that you feel more comfortable nude and it's not a sexual preoccupation, and advising that unannounced visits may bear witness should be enough.

[Bryan In The Nude]

I was talking to shiden, and he had an interesting idea...

if the day will be hot, you could say "jesh, with this heat, we'de probably be better off naked" (or something similar, you could even modify it for winter with "I'm sure glad we arn't naked in this weather") and see the reaction. If the reaction is negative, than you can say you were joking, or say that it logicaly makes sence, which it does, and leave it at that... if its a positive/neutral response, use the logic one, but a little different, but how is up to you, and how the rest goes is up to u and the other person...

again, much thanks to shiden... I think I'm going to use this one...

[shiden]

Bryan,

Thank you for the props/credit. I feel this is one of many good and easy ways to drop the bait. After you say; “Man, its gunna be hot next week – mine as well go naked all week!” – you are almost guaranteed to get some type of response! If that person responds in an offended or negative manner – than you drop it and use the easy out of joking. If they give a moderate or positive response, you say “I’m dead serious”, and than go from there.

People are funny. They can be much more open to something like this if its not thrown to them in too direct, or too serious form. So long as the tone is friendly and comfortable, you have a great chance of gathering a solid idea on if your friend would join you or not.

The key thing here is that IF it works, and if your friend keeps talking about the subject and entertains the idea – take it as far as it can go. If that means up to the point of telling them you like to hang out that way sometimes, great! If it gets to the point to where they start to feel uncomfortable, then back off and don’t push it too much – in that case just say “oh, sorry, I didn’t think you’d be too bothered by that idea” or something of that sort.

Its just one of many things you can do/say to get a good idea on how people will respond. Is information gathering, is all.

[Bryan In The Nude]

I think I have found two people so far... One would already go nude, but never really thought anything of it, the other had before, but hasn't recently and is pretty ok about it...

On the other hand, it is funny to see the reactions of some as soon as you mention the work "nude" or "nudity"... I had one friend who just changed the subject. lol... it was pretty funny.

I'm just glad that I may finnaly have nudist friends! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif