Nude Girl Crying

[Ewan M]

I was at a nude swim today and went into a warm area for a lay down. When I got there, there was a girl crying, and alone.

I felt awful to see her cry and went over to her.

I asked if she was ok, but she was crying to much to hear.

I was thinking of putting an arm over her to comfort her, but as she was naked I stopped before I did it.

I could only think at that moment that in this new modern PC age I would get into trouble for doing an innocent thing, of even holding her fingers, to even comfort her a little.

I sat there for what felt like hours but was really just minutes and could only blurt out a stupid joke.

I have never felt so useless to comfort.

Any ideas what i should have done.

I wish that I could say that it had a happy ending, but when I looked into the warm area again she had left and I don't know myself how it turned out.

[Ewan M]

I was at a nude swim today and went into a warm area for a lay down. When I got there, there was a girl crying, and alone.

I felt awful to see her cry and went over to her.

I asked if she was ok, but she was crying to much to hear.

I was thinking of putting an arm over her to comfort her, but as she was naked I stopped before I did it.

I could only think at that moment that in this new modern PC age I would get into trouble for doing an innocent thing, of even holding her fingers, to even comfort her a little.

I sat there for what felt like hours but was really just minutes and could only blurt out a stupid joke.

I have never felt so useless to comfort.

Any ideas what i should have done.

I wish that I could say that it had a happy ending, but when I looked into the warm area again she had left and I don't know myself how it turned out.

[LeoNJ]

I have been in somewhat similiar postion but with cloths on. What I first tried to do was just talk to the girl to see if whe would talk if not to me would ask if there was somewhat at the event she would want to talk to. If whe did not knew anyone at the event that I would find someone perferable a woman at the event that I either knew or who was working with the group hosting the event and then direct them over to the girl crying. A girl or a young woman would usually responds better to either someone around their age or even an older woman to talk to then a guy. But if needed, stick around if my presence was needed. Otherwise leave them alone and let them talk.

Hope this helps.
LeoNJ

[Rabid_Clam]

Did you happen to notice that all but one of your sentences started with 'I' ??

[Rabid_Clam]

There were 9 sentences and the word 'I' appeared 16 times. Hmmmmmmm

[Petrus]

Perhaps he was using Windows speller-checker, which screams at you, if you try to use a passive voice-presumably Americans can’t cope with being passive!

[shãybare]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/cool4.gif
It would have been best, as mentioned, to get a female to assist the girl. What was the age group and how many others were around?

[Ewan M]

It ripped me up seeing her like that.

There was no one around that I could see to ask. I looked round the curtains but it was a victorian building with lots of places where the attendants could be.

There was only I there and not a we. it would have been better if there was.

Yes, shoud have done something like that and not nothing

[Naturist Mark]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">presumably Americans can’t cope with being passive! </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY THAT!!!!!

heh heh

Ewan: You did well. You were there if she need help or protection. About all you can do, especially in such a situation is ask if she is OK - as in in any danger or injured, and if she needed some help or to contact someone.

Sometimes a youngster (of any age) just needs a good cry.

-Mark

[walter05]

Ewan;

You did well. However, if you could have yelled loud for assistance or quickly found some, it may have helped.

Any male who was comforting her could have been suspected. A single male would be particularly vulnerable. Unfortunately, you must protect yourself while attempting to comfort.

I share the sentiment that the paranoia has prevented real human interaction.

Walter

[Kev0]

You were right not to touch her. You have to consider how the situation might appear to others.
Also, please don't take this personally but can you assume she would have found comfort in the arms of a 'strange' man. You don't know why she was crying...

You could sit nearby and 'be there for her' with light-hearted banter or you could call for backup. Depends on how much she was crying I guess.

[Jason Lee]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Rabid_Clam:
Did you happen to notice that all but one of your sentences started with 'I' ?? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

what is your point ?

a topic about nude girl crying

[CCNude]

I think you did the right thing Ewan. Even tho you don't know the problem or how it turned out, probably the girl for sure knew what you were trying to do and appreciated it.

[Ken Palmer]

Hey Ewan M. Well, this sounds a bit difficult in itself. First of all, you don't know why the girl was crying to begin with. Second, had you had comforted her or attempted to, her parent(s) could have come to her and possibly assumed the wrong thing or idea. And this is especially true due to the fact that you are a male and she was a girl. This indeed is sad for me to say, yet it is true because this is the way society is whether we want to admit it or not. Out of curiosity, how old was the girl? If it were me, I would have to assume she was the child of a nudist(s) considering she herself was nude. So, I think the best thing I could tell you was to leave her alone unless she had an obvious injury or ailment or unless you actually saw something happen to her like falling or something. Or, if anything I would try and found out who's child it was and inform them what was going on. I hope this helps you in future situations.

Ken Palmer


<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Ewan M:
I was at a nude swim today and went into a warm area for a lay down. When I got there, there was a girl crying, and alone.

I felt awful to see her cry and went over to her.

I asked if she was ok, but she was crying to much to hear.

I was thinking of putting an arm over her to comfort her, but as she was naked I stopped before I did it.

I could only think at that moment that in this new modern PC age I would get into trouble for doing an innocent thing, of even holding her fingers, to even comfort her a little.

I sat there for what felt like hours but was really just minutes and could only blurt out a stupid joke.

I have never felt so useless to comfort.

Any ideas what i should have done.

I wish that I could say that it had a happy ending, but when I looked into the warm area again she had left and I don't know myself how it turned out. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

[Ken Palmer]

Hey nudiarist. You are 100% correct here. I more than likely would have reacted the same way with the girl considering how traumatized she was. And I agree with you on the nature of the cop asking you why you were hugging the girl. I can understand him or her asking if I was her older brother or boyfriend. But to actually ask me why I was comforting her is outrageous! I certainly would have been blowing off some hot air that night. From what you described to us, the girl was almost killed by a bus for goodness sake! I would also imagine that the last thing on the girl's mind was that you may be a pedophile or something. But I will say this much. If that had been another girl or an older lady that comforted her, the question of why she was bring hugged would probably never have came up, period! Being struck by something that immense is definitely frightening. At least one thing good came out of it. She was not killed or seriously injured or made a vegetable in the collision!

Ken Palmer


<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by nudiarist:
It is a shame that we cannot be demonstrative with our emotions without someone misinterpreting out true intentions.

One time I was driving right behind a car that pulled out a little too far into an intersection and was hit directly on the front left side by a bus. A young girl about 17 years old was behind the wheel, and although she was not hurt at all, she got out of the car and started crying uncontrollably once she realized how close she had come to being killed. I got out of my car and just hugged her and talked to her for a few minutes until she calmed down.

A policeman was on the scene almost immediately and began asking questions. The first thing he asked me was if I was the young girl's boyfriend or brother (I was in my late 20s at the time), and when I said that I was just a witness, he then inquired as to why I was hugging the girl. Once I explained the cop seemed to be OK with everything, and certainly the girl really seemed to be appreciative of my actions, but I thought that it was strange with the way I was questioned for doing something instinctive, and in my mind, simply kind. I can't imagine what would happen if I hugged a nude pre-pubescent girl at a pool and someone started yelling "pedophile".

As a society, we are so fearful of pedophiles that we don't even let our own children see us naked for fear that someone somewhere will find out and call social services. People have their children taken away because some overzealous photo technician calls the police when non-sexual nude photos are brought in for processing. In Ohio, a law was recently passed that makes it illegal for an adult to expose his or her genitals in the presence of a minor that is not from the same family, even if the situation is non-sexual. At this pace we are making an entire generation of children fearful of simple human nudity.

It's a tough issue, on one hand you want to show compassion, but on the other hand the simple act of hugging a child can result in being labeled a sexual offender.

Nudiarist
Diary of a Nudist (http://nudiarist.blogspot.com/) </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

[Richard Smith]

People are trying to ask serious and useful questions on this forum. Complaining about their grammar and the way in which they present their story is not helpful at all!

What's the point in replying to a post if you have nothing useful to add to the conversation or debate? How is he supposed to tell you what he did without referring to himself a lot?

Your grammatical corrections aren't going to help Ewan or anyone else if they find themselves in that situation!
(Perhaps you can start a thread on the proper use of commas)

In answer to the question now after my little rant...

I think I would have done exactly the same as you Ewan. Unless you know what the problem is its best to just sit there and comfort her by attempting to listen. She will tell you as much or as she wants you to know. I also agree that its probably best not to touch her, you don't know why she's crying and it could make things a lot worse. A single girl, especially nude, could feel very vulnerable.

[usmc1]

It is sometimes very difficult to know precisely how one needs to repsond to a stranger's emotional outburst.

But, I do not think it has anything to do with "modern PC", whatever in hell that might be, to not put your arms around a stranger who is crying---particularly male to female. Clothed, unclothed I can't imagine any appropriate situation where one can take it on one's self to gratuitously take another person into their arms.

It is also not that hard to ask, "Would you like a hug right now?"

The appropriate response was to ask if you could be of any help. If the woman was too upset or distraught to respond, the wise thing to do is back off a bit and just stick around to see if she recovers and if available seek another woman to help her.

One assumes, since you both were nude you were in a nudist venue, so if you could determine she was no risk to herself or others, you could have sought help from security, or the owners.

And to the various critics, the guy's telling his story in the first person "I". Not everyone is a professional writer. If the best you can do to make yourself feel good about yourself is to nitpick another's grammar, spelling, syntax, or style...you just don't have much going on!