Etiquette and Wife's interest

[Juanie]

This is Juan from Mobile again. I have some questions. I am scheduled to make my first visit to a nudist organization soon?/? and want to know what I should expect and the proper etiquette for my visit. Should I ask to disrobe right away or wait to be asked. What should I ask about the clubs rules? I am also concerned that I may get an erection, what should I do if this happens. I also need some advise about getting my wife interested. We have been married 50 years and she is very shy about her body (It's really terrific). Please respond soon as I need any help I can get.

[Juanie]

This is Juan from Mobile again. I have some questions. I am scheduled to make my first visit to a nudist organization soon?/? and want to know what I should expect and the proper etiquette for my visit. Should I ask to disrobe right away or wait to be asked. What should I ask about the clubs rules? I am also concerned that I may get an erection, what should I do if this happens. I also need some advise about getting my wife interested. We have been married 50 years and she is very shy about her body (It's really terrific). Please respond soon as I need any help I can get.

[Bob S.]

What to do at the nudist park will be best answered by the park itself. Why not call or email them with your questions? If they have a website, read the rules online.

As for getting an erection, it may happen, but more than likely won't. And if it does, simply drape your towel over it, go for a swim (if possible), or some other way be discreet about it. But for right now, don't worry about getting one. Sometimes, there is the self-fulfilling prophesy that comes into being. If you think it will happen and unusually worry about it, it may happen.

Your wife will take a bit more. Does she practice home nudity? For that matter do you? If not, that is where to start. Be naked in the privacy of your house. How it goes with her will govern how far you will get to go. Do not go until she agrees to go.

Bob S.

[Snoboy]

Wise advise Bob S. for the novice. I enjoy your input in the forum. Have a wonderful day au natural. /infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif

[Rik]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Bob S.:
As for getting an erection, it may happen, but more than likely won't. ... But for right now, don't worry about getting one. Sometimes, there is the self-fulfilling prophesy that comes into being. If you think it will happen and unusually worry about it, it may happen. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>This is good advice which we all know works but telling someone not to worry is a lot easier than the person actually not worrying. So my advice (which is the same thing really) is that if you feel an erection coming on then make a conscious effort to let it happen: invariably it won't!

Rik

[Vin]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Bob S.:
Do not go until she agrees to go. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>I'm not sure I agree with this. Depending on the nature of their relationship, I might suggest waiting until she at least says it's okay (or I might not), but I'd definitely not make a hard rule of waiting until she's comfortable going along.

Basically, my take on marriage has been that both partners still have lives. They have more in common than not, as it should be, but there are still things that each is interested in that the other is not. That's also okay. So long as it doesn't hurt anyone, do what you want. /infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[BankRobber]

I am in my 50's, and my wife is in her late 40's. We "took the plunge" and visited a nudist resort last year, totally at my suggestion. My wife went along because she loves me and knew it was something I had wanted to do for 20+ years. She is short and chubby, with some bad scars from C-sections, so she was terrified of being stared at. (She has also always kidded me about being 'weird' because I enjoy the freedom of nudity at home.) I too was afraid, - of my body's response to seeing other females nude, of my "equipment" being comparatively too small (the guys in movies are always larger than life!), etc., etc.. We went to Paradise Lakes in the Tampa Bay area of Florida, mainly because their web site looked interesting. I promised my wife that if it was 'gross' or if she was uncomfortable we would leave immediately, and that we would go to a 'normal' resort.
In the first day we were both hooked!! The tour and acceptance of the staff was wonderful, - they made us feel very comfortable immediately. The accomodations were great, as were the amenities. Our first day at the pool, we saw two women with mastectomies, one a double, and men with 'equipment' from miniscule to "oh my!".
We have been back twice since then, and have a reservation for early March when it gets a littel warmer. We will probably go again several times this year, and are considering buying a condo there.
Don't let fear hold you back. Don't presume your wife's reaction, she might surprise you.
I have found that I amd MUCH more accepting of people and more sociable when nude (I'm usually a curmudgeon who avoids meting new people). My wife tells me that I am never more 'pleasant' (hmmmm???) and relaxed than when at Paradise Lakes, and I find the vacations the most 're-energizing' I have ever had.
Try it, you'll probably love it. If not, you'll at least know instead of forever wondering what might have been.

[Bob S.]

"I'd definitely not make a hard rule of waiting until she's comfortable going along."

If she's comfortable enough to say "yes", then she is comfortable enough to go. And I made no mention of whether she was comfortable or not. I said "Do not go until she agrees to go." That is much different. If she has said no and you drag her anyway, she may resent it, even if she enjoys it. So she at the very least must say "yes" before any plans are made.

Bob S.

[Vin]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Bob S.:
"I'd definitely not make a hard rule of waiting until she's comfortable going along."

If she has said no and you drag her anyway, she may resent it, even if she enjoys it. So she at the very least must say "yes" before any plans are made. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Maybe we're misunderstanding each other. I completely agree that NO ONE should be forced to attend a nudist venue who does not choose to do so.

However, that needn't stop the other partner from attending if he/she wants.

[nudeM]

There seems to be a sense of success here at home now. This past weekend, the akids were all gone and guess what, my wife joined me in the nude. Yes, she stripped down to nothing also. She really enjoyed being nude, but only inside the house. She won't go outside. Maybe someday she will join me outside. There is success after all. As far as meeting other nudists, I don't think she will be willing to try though. But for now, she likes being nude, when it's just her and I.

[NW Nude]

We went (for the first time)to a nude camping resort this last fall in our RV, and to a nude swim last night at an athletique club. I ended up being more nervous than her when we began to disrobe. After a few minutes I was totally relaxed and enjoyed the freedom. She usually wears a short swim suit robe cover to walk around from sunbathing to the pool and spa. Once you get there, you realized it is not about your body type or it's condition, it's about freedom and relaxation. Last night, there was a woman with a walker (how cool for her to be out enjoying herself. Just be supportive and she will enjoy it in her time. She doesn't have to go totally nude, but once she does, she'll love it.