how did you get your partner into naturism?

[polingot]

My wife knew i was a naturist from day 1, when we went away for a weekend with a good friend of mine i drove her to studland bay in dorset, and she was so relaxed on the first experience she is totally committed to naturism!!

[Fuzzy Nuts]

My wife always let me choose the resort for some reason or other - I guess I hadn't let her down. So when I came out of nudist closet she was away visiting her sister so I booked us into Playa Sonrisa. This is an excellent small resort to take someone who is NOT SURE.

Of course I told her it was a C/O resort and got a funny look from her. But when we got there she was naked as much as I was which was close to all the time.

She knew that I veered to this life style but if I had waited for her to suggest it we would still be going to textile resorts.

So just bite the bullet.

[fre2bnude]

I've never yet got my wife into naturism and I'm certain I never will, but she doesn't mind me being a nudist, so I live with it.
I'm committed to the life now and love it, but it's a lonely life.

[dallassmoothie]

I just started going around the house naked as much as possible, then in the backyard as much as possible. Once she grew okay with the idea of me being naked all the time I convinced her to join. Finally after being around the house we went to a resort and finally joined a local nudist group.

[Fuzzy Nuts]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by dallassmoothie:
Finally after being around the house we went to a resort and finally joined a local nudist group. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

You are lucky - I wish there was a close local group that we could join. There is one about 2 hours away but just too inconvenient to really form a relationship with them.

[Al Bundy]

I concur with fre2bnude 110%. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/sad3.gif

[FireProf]

On our wedding night, over 33 years ago, we slept nude and then spent the following day around our apartment nude.

I talked with her briefly about nudism, during those early weeks and months of marriage, but she said she was fine with nudity at home and wasn't interested in sharing that with others at clubs or any place else social.

We began being nude more and more often around the house and briefly at night in our backyard. Over a period of 18 years, nudity around the house and in the backyard, including skinny dipping was just a way of life for us but we still did not venture into the social aspect.

About 7-8 years ago, I visited our local nude beach while she was away on business. When she returned we talked about it, visited this beach several times and met another naturist couple that also lived locally. We became friends and actually this other woman help the Prof accept social nudity more than I could.

We began socializing with other nude friends of this couple, visiting the beach and a few resorts and now the rest is history.

Every trip, weekend long or longer, has a nudism in mind. Either a beach, club or resort is figured into the equation. It's been a long, difficult, trying time for us and social nudism but the Prof will tell you that she's sorry she resisted for so long.

[Fuzzy Nuts]

Great story, FireProf. Glad it turned out so great for you.

I didnt have to wait really any time for wife to join me> Just wish I had got the courage to do what I had always wanted to do 40 years earlier. I never thought she would go for it but she surprised me and did.

She is still not into nudism as much as me. All summer long I am in my birthday suit unless away from house. She is content to stay in the textile world unless we go to a nude beach or resort.

Maybe if I had had the balls to suggest it 40 years ago she would be into nakedism as much as me.

[comicsfan2001]

I'd spoken about going to a clothing optional beach for years. My wife acompanied me when we finally went. I think she thought that if I went and got it out of my system, that would be the end of it. As soon as we got to the beach, I removed my clothes. My wife, to her credit, became topfree, imediately.

We spent hours on the beach and in the water. Toward the end of the day, I suggested to her that if she did not at least try swimming in the water, nude, she would never forgive herself. She went to the shoreline, removed the bottom portion of her suit, and entered the water, intending to put the bottoms back on as soon as she returned to the shore.

She enjoyed the experience so much that she remained nude for the rest of the day. That was the start. Although I am nude whenever I can be, at home, my wife is clothed, most of the time. She does, however, participate with me at least once a month in a nude resort, club, or vacation activity. We've been enjoying nude recreation for about 8 years.

Comicsfan

[Liam]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by fre2bnude:
I've never yet got my wife into naturism and I'm certain I never will, but she doesn't mind me being a nudist, so I live with it.
I'm committed to the life now and love it, but it's a lonely life. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Have you not learned that a husband must whine, plead, beg, cry, swear fidelity, admit his weaknesses, buy jewelery, and promise anything for just this once?

[Sir Oink]

My wife was against it at first and wanted nothing to do with it. I pretty much decided at that time to be an at home nudist. Since we have a pool it was not total torture.

After about 9 months of talking about it and while having a trip to take for work, I found a club online that appeared quite friendly. I showed her the site and she surprised me by saying she would go. When I asked her why, she said she did not want to judge it anymore without trying it. We took some personal time off and went on our way.

Since then we have been to one other resort and sometimes she joins me in the home being nude (almost always in the pool). I know by reading other experiences I am lucky, but I love my wife more than anything on earth even if she never tried it.

[fre2bnude]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Liam:
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by fre2bnude:
I've never yet got my wife into naturism and I'm certain I never will, but she doesn't mind me being a nudist, so I live with it.
I'm committed to the life now and love it, but it's a lonely life. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Have you not learned that a husband must whine, plead, beg, cry, swear fidelity, admit his weaknesses, buy jewelery, and promise anything for just this once? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Don't think it would work, in fact I'm sure it won't, she's just not happy enough with her body image. I am envious of all these others whose partners/wives join them in nudism.

[Willbtan]

My wife and I gave up body phobea over 38 years ago. When we were first married we had no problem being nude in front of each other. When my wife was pregnant with our first child we went to Big Sur camping. One day we went to the beach and walked to the north end. There were some nude folks, the first time we had seen such a thing. I was really excited and we talked about it and she said she had no problem with me takeing my clothes off. She had on a two piece and she took the top off. We decided to walk along the beach. Both of us were very comfortable. About a year later, we moved to Indiana. I had seen an ad for a resort in Bloomington. We talked about it and decided we would give it a try. By then we had a young son. The three of us went for a weekend and loved it. We did not hesitate, just took our clothes off and met some very friendly people. We went often the the resort. A couple of years later I was accepted into Grad School at Indiana U. So as we planned to move my wife found a job that would start before our move time. She and our son lived at the resort, because she knew people there and we felt it was a safe environment for them while I was not around. They loved it and I had to go on weekends to see them, O, how we suffer. Over these years we have gone to many resorts and many nude beaches and love it.

[BEE-1]

My wife hasnt gone with me to a nudist resort yet but I think someday she will. I think her curiosty will get the best of her. I never wear clothes at home and ever so slowly she is spending more time naked and worring less about it. I try to always throw a nice comment out at her when she is naked, just something quick and nice so not to make a big deal out of it. She knows I LOVE being naked and I always have a great time camping naked. I dont force the issue on her, I just tell her she is always welcome to go with me and that she doesnt have to be naked there if she doesnt want to. From some of the things I have read here I know Iam lucky as it is so if nothing more ever comes of it then oh well. Its sad that being naked is really that much of a issue anyways. I think all naked bodys look good. I told my wife that we will be judged with our clothes on and with them off by some people, whats the difference? If you like being naked, then get naked! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif

[justnude]

My sons and I just continued to walk around naked all of the time at home-both inside and in the yard. My partner remained in shorts for the longest time until one day he joined the kids in the pool without the suit. Needless to say, we have a convert although clothes are often still worn in the house for some unknown reason.

[Fuzzy Nuts]

Congrats - you sure knew how to handle it!!

By the way is your current partner relatively new to the nudist scene that has been adopted by you and your sons?

[justnude]

My current partner and I have been together over 20 years! He is still the reluctant nudist but is a great sport when it comes to the three of us and our lifestyle. He will join in as the mood strikes but still prefers shorts around the house.

[Bare in the Desert]

We were both home nudists already but didn't know this about each other for quite a while. We didn't figure out we had this in common until overnight visits at each others houses. We didn't start visiting nudist venues until we moved in together.

[Longhairbear]

We were a bi-coastal couple when we first met. Neither ever mentioned nudism, although we both were home nudists. As we are both men, when we moved in together, it was just a natural thing to be naked around the house. A sort of "man thing", not sexual, more gym/locker room thing.
About a year later my partner booked us into a clothing optional resort. I pretended to be horrified. We both had a good laugh over the fact we had never ever discussed nudism before.

[nude_in_ky]

Wow. I guess that I'm a minority here. My wife has been a nudist longer than I have.

I've always been interested in the nudist lifestyle but had not had the chance to do anything about it. My ex-wives would not have any part of it. Then I met my current wife. I brought it up to her after we had been together for a while. Boy was I surprised when she said that she was all for it. It turns out that she grew up in Texas and used to go to Hippy Hollow. That's all I needed to hear. We quickly made plans and visited our first club together. That was about four years ago.

We've now been to several clubs on weekends and on vacation. We even host some local nudists at our home at times.

Right now I feel like the luckiest man alive. I wouldn't have it any other way.

[Nude and Tanned]

I first took her to Little Beach in Maui she did not get nude at this time but, was able to see that just because people were nude together there was no ill activities going on. We next went to St. Martin and Orient Beach which is a clothing optional beach so she could be clothed or unclothed as she saw fit. There we met some of the best most friendly people in the world. The next thing I did was to go to a local nudist club (Carolina Foothills Resort), by myself and came back telling her stories of my adventure and of the wonderful people I had met there. She was still reluctant to go to the resort with me because it is nude only. My wife and I have several female friends who are unwed and one of them who likes to sunbath as much as I do said she would like to go try it out. I made arangements for her to go with me and when she came back and told my wife what a good time she had had the barrier started cracking. The next thing I did was when my wife ask me what I wanted for my birthday gift I told her the only thing I really wanted was for her to go with me to the nudist resort she did and the rest is history.

[Buzzer]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gifMy wife is making VERY GREAT progress to realizing that nuditity is separate from sex.
Now, she even showers at the gym, when previously she'd wait until she got home!
We sit around the house together while naked, where as I was the only one who would be nude previously.
It's taken six years, but it's well worth the effort to be able to share another common experience.
Now, I'm working on getting her to let us try social nudity.

[NewShyNJGuy]

congrats buzzer! it's great to hear progress! gives everyone else some hope
best of luck and keep enjoying!

[Laura Lopez]

It was really easy for me. The first time he saw me naked he was surprised by my full tan, then she asked if I was taking some uv rays, and I answered that I was doing but in the nature.
Then I explained I went to naturist beaches so I had a full tan body. He was surprised at first, but then he recognised he has thought many times about going to a nudist place but he had never had the nerve.
In a few weeks we were together in my favourite c/o beach both nude.
Great.

[traindriver40]

For the 20 years I was married my ex wife on the whole was totally against naturism and could never understand why people wanted to go without clothes. At the moment I am in the early days of a new relationship and the lady in question knows that I am anaturist and doesnt have an issue with it at all. She is even considering joining me at events in the future, but first we have to have some private naturist time so she can get used to the feeling. All in all its looking good but least I know if she doesnt take to it I wont have a problem with her been against me doing it

[Mosquito_Bait]

I met my wife through our Church. I was attracted to her in part because she was so proper and respectable. When I asked her to marry me, I assumed that I would be giving up any future visits to nude beaches. Then a surprising thing happened. She told me about how much she enjoyed skinny dipping and how she and her sister used to spend their summers naked by the family pool. Shortly after we were married, I took her to Red, White, and Blue Beach, which was an excellent location for a first nudist experience because access is controlled so that there are no gawkers yet there is no formal registration so a person can remain anonymous. Now, we have our own backyard skinny dipping pool. Whenever we go on trips, my wife pulls out the guidebooks and checks the Internet to find if there are any good nude beaches.

[carbuff]

Wow , Thank you all for sharing your stories .I have a reluctant spouse at the moment but havent given up hope .Once my son goes to college I will try harder and hopefully be nude more often. Maybe make some progress.

[gymnoboi]

Hey mosquito

I had and almost the same thing happen. I met a girl that was pretty involved in her church. I just assumed that after getting married I have to give it up which I was willing to do. We were sitting around with another couple one nite just taking and the topic of skinny dipping came up. I admitted that I not only had skinny dipped but had been to a nudist resort. I rushed to tell her I was giving it up. She surprised me by saying she thought it was kinda cool. We had already booked our honeymoon to florida so we set aside a day to go to cypress cove. She was nervous for about 10 min and then was hooked. In the long run she was the one more likely to say lets go to camp this weekend.. you just never know till you ask

[walter05]

Where is Red, White, and Blue Beach?

[Mosquito_Bait]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by walter05:
Where is Red, White, and Blue Beach? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Red, White, and Blue Beach is located in California just north of Santa Cruz. Unfortunately, the owner announced a few months ago that he is seeking to sell the property and it will no longer be open as a private beach. The expectation is that the state will purchase it and re-open it as a public beach.

I was fortunate enough to have the opportunity to visit Red, White, and Blue Beach one last time this past summer. Unfortunately, my wife was not with me on that visit. I posted a trip report here (http://clothesfreeforums.com/eve/forums/a/tpc/f/5600016152/m/1630052264). The trip report contains photos, so a login is required.

There are other unofficial nude beaches near Red, White, and Blue Beach. Bonny Doon is a great alternative; however, there is no access controlled so gawkers may be encountered.

[walter05]

I am sorry to find out that it is in California. I was hoping it would be closer to Savannah.

[Rabid_Clam]

Would be great to have that here in Virginia !!

[eaglepeakpete]

My wife and I started a naturist complex in Spain, one of our main aims is to help people introduce their partner to the nudist lifestyle. We are clothing optional in the sense that only take holiday bookings from couples where one at least is already a naturist. This means that should one want to introduce a partner the partner can remain clothed, or undress if and when they wish. There is no pressure on them to do so.We have found that once the partner, generally the lady sees naturism is a heathy and fun lifestyle and that she is in no danger or threatened in any way, they will join in and become one of us. In the 6 years we have been in business we have enabled many to introduce their partner and have a
100 % sucess rate.

[tj52]

I am in the same boat as fre2bnude also. I don't think my wife will ever give it a try. I love being nude and would like to go to a C/O resort sometime, but getting the wife to go along with it is very doudtfull. It would be nice if their was another couple close by to talk with. Like everything else the couples I have e-mail live either in the Twin Cities or Iowa and both are 2 to 3 hours away nothing close by.
Love to be nude

[atalanta]

Hi, eaglepeakpete. I have been wanting to plan a visit to Eagle Peak, out of high season, for a while. Maybe September if things work out. Good to see you here.

[Buzzer]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/confused.gif VERY sloooooowly!
And, after six years, we're still only closet nudists! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/sad3.gif

[walter05]

Buzzer;

I hope you have a walk-in closet.

[Rabid_Clam]

Hey Buzz, got a bar, pool and sun lamp in that colset ???

[lk2bnud]

The wife and I have been going to San Onofre beach off and on since September. Most of the time it is just me. She only goes to be with me which is great. Also, she is ok with my nudity around the house (Only if the kids are not home. One 19 and the other 17, so they are rarely home...which is good for mehttp://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif).

But, today we went to the beach and she went topless!

YES, THERE IS STILL HOPE!!!!

lk2bnud

[DoctorSurferDude]

Pam was not a nudist when we met, nor was she interested in nudism. But I made the choice to tell her everything before we became more involved. I accepted the fact that she was not interested, but explained that it was somethign I did by myself or with friends on occasion. I also ALWAYS left an open ended invitation to her....and told her even if she came she didn't have to be nude at the beaches. Sooner than later...curiosity got the best of her and she decided to come along. It took a little time for her to get comfortable with the whole thing....but now she is as involved as I am and we love it for all the same reasons.

Yay Nudism!! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif

[MJ_KC]

Gentle persuasion is the only thing that I see working. If you want to guarantee that someone won't join you, just try forcing them. That is true of almost anything.

[Von]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by DoctorSurferDude:
Pam was not a nudist when we met, nor was she interested in nudism. But I made the choice to tell her everything before we became more involved. I accepted the fact that she was not interested, but explained that it was somethign I did by myself or with friends on occasion. I also ALWAYS left an open ended invitation to her....and told her even if she came she didn't have to be nude at the beaches. Sooner than later...curiosity got the best of her and she decided to come along. It took a little time for her to get comfortable with the whole thing....but now she is as involved as I am and we love it for all the same reasons.

Yay Nudism!! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
Sounds like me and my fiancee. The pace was up to her. If she wanted, we'd walk away forever.

But, by the end of our first visit to a nudist club she was already talking about coming back. Now she's nude more than me! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif

[eaglepeakpete]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by atalanta:
Hi, eaglepeakpete. I have been wanting to plan a visit to Eagle Peak, out of high season, for a while. Maybe September if things work out. Good to see you here. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Hi there be great to see you here, however Sept is the best of summer here and we are already full, some space in Aug or Oct if you can make it then.

[DoctorSurferDude]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by MJ_KC:
Gentle persuasion is the only thing that I see working. If you want to guarantee that someone won't join you, just try forcing them. That is true of almost anything. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Even less than that......Free Will. Always give them the option to join you, but never make it an issue beyond that. Make sure they feel just as loved if they go or if they don't.... If you accept them as they are, then they might do you the honor to accept you for who you are.

[Buzzer]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/cool4.gif My VERY modest wife usually only joins me in the nude when it is very hoy and the shades are drawn.
Yesterday, she went about the house wile wearing only a bra and panties wqith the shades WIDE OPEN!!!!
She has come a LONG way!!!

[fre2bnude]

I've given up trying, she's not interested, but she's happy with me being a nudist and that's the best I can hope for.

[Buzzer]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/cool4.gif Hope is still alie!!! Yesterday, it was so warm that my wife walked around the house with nothing on but her panties. I was totally nude, but this is the closest she's come to joining me without my suggesting it to her.

[seapro]

I met my fiance on a matchmaking website. In my profile I mentioned I am a nudist. Early in our relationship she asked me about my nudist activities. She started going nude around the house with me. We have been together 18 months and she now joins me at local nudist clubs and the nude beach. She is still a little apprehensive about being nude in front of strangers but is growing more comfortable with each visit to the resort.