"Easing" Into It

[Tara Tainton]

Hello, everyone! New here, obviously, and I think my topic is just a tad different than others on the newbie board; I hope I'm not repeating a question!

I have yet to go to a nudist resort, go completely nude at a beach, etc. For one, I haven't lived near such a free-spirited, open-minded venue, nor have I had any friends interested in accompanying me. No excuses now though. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif I'm wondering...how do you "ease" into the nude lifestyle?

My closest experience is suntanning with the other Australians topless and in a g-string bikini bottom.....which I've never done here in the States. If it wasn't instructed in childhood, how did you all ease into the lifestyle? Do you start at home or with going to clothing optional public locations?

I'd love a little guidance. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Tara Tainton]

Hello, everyone! New here, obviously, and I think my topic is just a tad different than others on the newbie board; I hope I'm not repeating a question!

I have yet to go to a nudist resort, go completely nude at a beach, etc. For one, I haven't lived near such a free-spirited, open-minded venue, nor have I had any friends interested in accompanying me. No excuses now though. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif I'm wondering...how do you "ease" into the nude lifestyle?

My closest experience is suntanning with the other Australians topless and in a g-string bikini bottom.....which I've never done here in the States. If it wasn't instructed in childhood, how did you all ease into the lifestyle? Do you start at home or with going to clothing optional public locations?

I'd love a little guidance. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[luvnaturism]

Taking the plunge and actually doing it for the first time is intimidating for most people. Most people seem to find that whatever tension there is disappears sometime between the first five minutes and the first hour. You start out feeling as though everyone's going to be staring, and what you discover is that no one is even paying attention to the fact that you lost your clothes.

In my case, and others have said much the same thing, I accidentally wandered onto a nude beach. Once there I didn't intend to get naked, but found that it was far more uncomfortable to keep my clothes on in that setting that to get naked. Dressed I felt like a voyeur; undressed I was just part of the background.

I really can't recommend to a woman that she go alone to a nude beach, at least not for her first time. Locate a reputable naturist club and tell them directly that you want to come for your first time experience, and that you are alone. They will knock themselves out to make sure that you have a comfortable and enjoyable time.

[blackrebel]

It took me 2 years to attend the local nudist events, but once that I went, I was comfortable within about 30 seconds. I was almost the last to leave and loved every minute. We usually have people to escort new attendees and make sure they are happy and comfortable. We encourage all to go once and see that nudist clubs are similar to many social clubs and are actually may be much warmer.

[Jason Lee]

1. a nudist travel club > clothing optional.

2. a clothing optional camp/resort.

[Nu]

The longer I am on this forum, I am greater convinced that "luvnaturism" gives very sound advice.
Anyone would be well served by it.

Any advice of my own?
Try sleeping in the nude.
My wife and I are comfortable, even at the cold -40 temperatures.

You could try an outdoors thing (with someone else)-a nude lunch or hike in a secluded area.

[luvnaturism]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Nu:
The longer I am on this forum, I am greater convinced that "luvnaturism" gives very sound advice.
Anyone would be well served by it. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Thank you! You made my day. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[nakednudists]

I would say definetely take your time. Try sleeping nude as Nu replied. Also, you have made a huge step in coming to the forums and asking questions. There are alot of great people in here with alot of great advice. Feel free to ask anything you need answers to.

[Fresh Air]

Tara,

It seems you have already eased into it, or at least started. Going topless may have indicated to yourself if nudism is something you could ever do. Also, joining a forum such as this shows you may have interest and is a great way to obtain education about the lifestyle.

I actually wouldn't know what to do if there were no local beaches or resorts. I would think the next step would be to just go to a clothing optional venue or find a remote place where you can tan nude. The transition between nudist and textile is often much smaller than we imagine. I might be assuming, but it seems like your mind is already there. Chances are your body is not far behind.

I probobly wanted to try it for about 10 years, before I actually did. I only did fully when I moved away from my home town. It was more like a slide than an ease, though. I went to a clothing optional beach and ended up getting undressed by day one. By the next time I got the opportunity, I was a regular nudist as far as aprehensions go.

Dan

[Curious One]

WHen I was a kid, I ran around a lot in the nude, and never thought anything of it. I finally stopped by the time I was 7 or 8, but once I moved out on my own, I started sleeping nude. That was over 30 years ago.

A few days ago, my girlfriend told me she had been to a nudist park with an old boyfriend, and that was a real surprise. I couldn't quite reconcile it, so I decided a few weeks ago to find a resort nearby and visit.

I did so last Saturday, and while I was nervous on the way, I decided once I was there that I needed to experience it, and had NO trouble or hesitation joining in.

Tara, give it a try. It's a very pleasant thing, and I plan to do this more often.

[BackpackerBrian]

Hey Tara -

I first went to a nude beach in the uni. The first time I kept on my swimmers. Then walked down to an area where no one was and went nude in the water and also some sunning. Eventually I did this in the populated areas of the beach, around the volleyball courts.

The last step was booking a hotel room at a nude resort for a weekend. That did it! I am still a memeber of that club over 10 years later!

luvnaturism has a good point about thinking twice of going to a nude beach alone. Although if you go to an area that's populated (around the volleyball net) you should be OK, especially if there are other women around.

By the way, did you see the article in another forum on naturist resorts in California?? It has some really good examples of younger women going to a nudist club and their experiences. perhaps you too can find it helpful. http://www.thedesertsun.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/...ESS01/507140353/1003 (http://www.thedesertsun.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20050715/BUSINESS01/507140353/1003)

Please let us know how it's goin as you complete your transition!

[DoctorSurferDude]

I think expanding your horizons at home is a good way to start. It's important to learn (self educate) about nudism...what it is, what it is not. Reading posts on here and asking questions is good, or Googling is good too if you want to be familiar with the root of the misconceptions about nudism. Once you have a general idea, a resort is a good safe place to start. If you have a freind it's better (don't go to a nude BEACH without a friend).

AND....believe it or not, other nudist females exist. There is a woman's only section on here, and if you're looking for contacts....BarbaraRuth would be a good guru, or PamTerps (my g/f)...except Pam hasn't been on here in a while, so....write BarbaraRuth, she is young, yet wise. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[nudenwv]

great question! i started out of curiosity in my younger days! enjoying skinny dipping with other guys! when i went out on my own and realized one day how great it was to be nude in the apartment! later when i got married and began raising a family i would be nude then when my wife and daughter were out! still enjoying it more and more now that i'm semi retired and have the time to really enjoy the lifestyle,i'm nude when our daughter is at work as she doesn't want to see dad nude! my wife has participated at a clothing optional lodge and that's it! i don't enforce the issue! if you're comfortable with your body then possibly go to a clothing optional resort! that way you can be nude when you're ready! good luck!

[Ben_m]

I suppose I "started" by solo nude hiking. My first co-ed nude experience was at a hot spring and happened much to my surprise and somewhat by accident. Somehow in my crazy mind I figured that such places must be practically devoid of people, not packed http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_eek.gif . But, I found it surprisingly easy for me, especially given that I'd even avoided locker rooms for decades.

This was only about 3.5 years ago and I've since been to many nude swims, I organize group nude hikes, I've become a part-time at home nudist, joined a non-landed naturist group (not to mention TNS and INA), visited several nudist resorts, modeled nude for dozens of artists. And in the locker room, well, don't expect to see me dressed there! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_razz.gif Thinking about it, it's been quite a ride http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_eek.gif , but it's been a good ride, with a great many positive self-discoveries along the way http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

Tara, I sincerely hope that you come to enjoy it at least a fraction as much as I do and have,

[johny]

Actually every new radical changes in a lifestyle - from a stop of smoking until just learning a swim or ride a bicycle can be used to learn a lesson from those samples:

The lesson of first sample is that sometimes be useful to just JUMP INTO new reality and make a all forces to maximum to just keep it. Many times it works. Especially if exist one friend which supports You in that way and noone are pulling back (!!).

Other style is immerse in the new style drop by drop, today one minute, tomorrow 5 minutes etc, however this way is much heavyier and very painful.

From second sample may learn that You should find a "shallow" place where is minimum risk to "sink" (be teazed after), have a bit "help ring" and just start to TRY. And good way is to have a friend`s shoulder securing You. And much less painful and traumatizing it happen in the public place not in at aloneness (=stopping a smoking drop by drop). However in aloneness You may feel a less shame, its far less safe and long time You shall use to "swim" in WROMG MANNER if noone are near to councel Your mistakes.

From third we may learn that just should jump on and try, and not stop after the first bluehit after the fall. Good is to have a friend what is bit keeping You from behind but let You go alone as soon You are not shaking too much anymore. This is the role of any resort I believe. Just sit and ride, and better three times a minute instead of once but three minutes. Just make it a habit.

After a short introductory period it shall become a habit, and You shall feel something is missing if You havent "feeded" Your habit.

[Nudony]

I hope I'm not being redundant since there are so many answers, but here's how my wife did it.

Basically, she began with a gradual method at home. Spending an extra 5 or 10 minutes nude after taking her shower; sleeping first with just a T-shirt, then sometimes nude. Over a certain period of time, this culminated into her just going nude most of the time at home. At that point she had a good "sense" of her nude body. Time for the resort.
I made sure her first-time would be clothing optional; she brought a sarong. That allowed her to have control over the amount of nudity she felt comfortable with. Initially there was a bit of a "shock" effect, since she wasn't accustomed to seeing nude people other than me. But that also gradually subsided; and she did feel comfortable enough to drop her sarong on a couple of occasions (on a first time there should be no pressure to be nude.)

As the Doc mentionned, the resort is the best place to start, and if you go on a weekday, you won't have to deal with a lot of people, which also helps a first time. If it must be a beach, and you don' have anyone to go with, just sit right next to a large group of people.

[carbuff]

Lots of good advice , I agree with . Whenever you feel the need or get the urge take it off . Kind of like a prescription use as needed until nude always. Iknow I look forward to my "nudetime"as well as need it to help me unwind.

[NudeAl]

It took me a while to finally take the plunge into social nudity but I have always had a desire to be nude when possible.

I would find secluded places in the woods near lakes or streams to sunbathe nude etc. I later learned of nude beaches and would try very hard to locate them eventually finding Blacks beach here near San Diego, which in hindsight probably wasn't that hard to find. I had a wonderful experience and then located other clothing optional areas nearby. I am fortunate to live in southern Califorina which has a great deal of these type of locations.

I would reccomend that your best bet for a first time nude experience would be to go to a AANR affiliated nude resort. They have a rep for following most of the accepted guidelines regarding proper behavior. Whereas at a nude beach you may have to deal with gawkers or unwanted advances by every other male who happens by.

Use the functions on this web site. Go to the main page and select places to get naked and do a quick search by state or an adjoining state to see what is the closest one to you. You might just have to wait to go on a trip to experience this but I think it would be worth the effort. Good luck http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

P.S. Here's a great quote from an article about nude resorts near Palm Springs, " The hardest part about this is the getting naked part, the being naked part is no problem."

[Glen]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">No excuses now though. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif I'm wondering...how do you "ease" into the nude lifestyle? http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Well, first you need to feel comfortable witht he thought yourself - no one else matters. If you home environment 'allows' for it - then be nude at home whenever you can. Do some cleaning in the nude - expand your comfort zone. Search on the Internet for local or 'close enough' resorts and head on down. Single women have a much easier time at this than single guys. We basically have to get interviewed to find out our 'true' agenda for being there alone. Regardless, just take off you clothes like you were getting ready to take a shower. You comfort level will sky rocket immediately as soon as you realize no one is gasping in shock of someone getting undressed.