New and need some advice on being with a naturist Husband!

[Roperteacher]

Hello! It has taken me some procrastination to post this, and didn't want to until I was ready. I have been married for a few months now and my partner is a naturist. He has been a naturist for 20 years and I think it is wonderful that he is and have absolutely no problems with it. He does not push anything on me and would love me just the same of I ever went to a nudist resort with him or not.
My issue is , and was, It was hard for me to accept others seeing him completely naked. SInce we are married I always want something that is special to him and I that nobody else can see. With this lifestyle I see that this is not going to be. I know that body is only a body and it is the emotional bond between us that really counts. I am adjusting well, open minded , and think I will give it a try for myself. I have no problems being naked and we pretty much are naked all around the house and I have been known to ride my horses naked just cause!!! So I was hoping someone would shed some light on what it feels like to have everyone getting the same view of your husband as you do and how it made you feel. BTW, he directed me to this site and it has been very helpful! THanks!

[Roperteacher]

Hello! It has taken me some procrastination to post this, and didn't want to until I was ready. I have been married for a few months now and my partner is a naturist. He has been a naturist for 20 years and I think it is wonderful that he is and have absolutely no problems with it. He does not push anything on me and would love me just the same of I ever went to a nudist resort with him or not.
My issue is , and was, It was hard for me to accept others seeing him completely naked. SInce we are married I always want something that is special to him and I that nobody else can see. With this lifestyle I see that this is not going to be. I know that body is only a body and it is the emotional bond between us that really counts. I am adjusting well, open minded , and think I will give it a try for myself. I have no problems being naked and we pretty much are naked all around the house and I have been known to ride my horses naked just cause!!! So I was hoping someone would shed some light on what it feels like to have everyone getting the same view of your husband as you do and how it made you feel. BTW, he directed me to this site and it has been very helpful! THanks!

[nudeM]

There was recently a post that was very similiar to this one. The most common advice was, just enjoy the nudist lifestyle, either social or at home. Worrying about others seeing your signifcant other in their birthday suit is really no big deal.

Sure, it may seem like a private thing to you, but in the nudists' world, we just view other nudists as that, just another nudist.

My wife has no problems with other people seeing me naked (other than certain family members), nor do I worry about others seeing her.

So my advice is, don't worry about it. Afterall, after being around other nudists, you will quickly see that there are no more 'private' areas. Everything is out in the open for all to see.

Lots of luck and enjoy the nude lifestyle, and don't worry, things will be just fine. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[Cheffred]

Your Husband is a very lucky man!!!
First you are at least open minded about nudity, I have noticed that there are several men and women whose spouses are totally against it.
From a husband side of it I know that my wife and I have an emotional bond far greater than our bodies. It is something that us being naked in front of others can never change. The stuff about each other that we share is beyond that and I am sure that you will find that also. When you give it a try you will find that it is a wonderful experience that you will want to continue.

Good Luck and I hope this helps

[Cheffred]

Also let me know if you would like to hear from my wife. She isn't a forum member yet, she has no time but Im trying to get her on here, I could give you her e-mail address though

[Naked_Justin]

Once they've seen his body, isn't there still plenty that's just for the two of you?

Justin

[nudenwv]

i think what you are refering to is bonding. you and your new husband have a special bond and that will always be. others seeing him nude do not have that bond that you have. my wife is not even nude in the house. she does go with me only if it is clothing optional. this has been my situation for seven years. i do appreciate the fact she allows me to be nude when possible in the home and allows me to participate in social nudism with others. others do not view the two of you as sexual objects. enjoy this lifestyle together.

[BackpackerBrian]

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Hi Roperteacher -

First of all congratulations on your marriage and best wishes for many happy years together!

Kieth touchd on a very important point . . . bonding. Using your quote above, you do indeed have something that no one else can see, and it has nothing to do with his nudity. That's what's important here. Even if he was nude in front of thousands, that wouldn't change a thing.

That your husband has been a naturist for 20 years is a great sign for you in that he has demonstrated long-term commitment. This will also effect the strength of your bond. In addition, naturism encourages emotional maturity and intimacy as we are used to being nude around friends without shame. I think in fact naturism builds better friendships. This naturally can be extended to marriages.

So, consider letting the positive effects of naturism strengthen your marriage and know that there's always going to be a part of him which only you can see http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Nude in the North]

" So, consider letting the positive effects of naturism strengthen your marriage and know that there's always going to be a part of him which only you can see. "

I know it's not easy at first, but you need to seperate Nude from Intimate.

Ok. So you are troubled because your not the only person that will be seeing him naked. Yet you know that he has been a nudist for 20 years before you were married. So you also know that probably thousands of people have seen him naked already.
But it's You that he chose to be Intimate with.
It's You that he wants to Love, Honor, and Cherish.
It's You that he wants to build a family with.

Maybe it would help if you made a list of all the things in your life that only the two of you will share.

You already have something special together that nobody else can see. Your just not looking in the right place. Look at the inside, not the outside.

Steve

Ps. Here's a little tidbit of advice for Every relationship. Nudist or not.

"The best way to avoid Insurmountable problems is to not make Mountains out of Mole hills."

[Nude in the North]

"So I was hoping someone would shed some light on what it feels like to have everyone getting the same view of your husband as you do and how it made you feel"

My wife and I were married for 25 years before we went to a nude beach together.
She had never been nude around anyone but me for all those years. I had only been to a nude beach once, the year before.
Once she saw for herself that being nude on a beach wasn't really any different than being clothed on a beach, she understood why I wanted to go. In time she even joined me for a skinny dip and laying in the sun nude.
She has never had an issue with other people seeing me naked, because she knows that I'm not going to the beach so other people can see me. I'm going because I like to go to the beach. I choose a nude beach because I also like to be nude. It doesn't matter if we are the only people there, or if there are a thousand other people there too.

Steve

[Bob S.]

"It was hard for me to accept others seeing him completely naked. SInce we are married I always want something that is special to him and I that nobody else can see."

Here is another way to think about it, Roper: he is only completely naked around you. For nudists, nudity is more of an outfit than simply a lack of clothes. We choose to wear our naked suit around each other.

But with you, he can be completely naked. He doesn't have to wear anything, he can just be himself.

I hope this helps. As you mentioned, a "body is only a body", a penis is only a penis. Yes, it'll take some time, but just keep your open mind.

Good luck.

Bob S.

[OZJames]

In a totally different way, my wife has a similar problem. As everyone here probably knows I spend most weekends nude around our farm (cold winter days excepted) and most of our friends and family know that my wife and I enjoy nudity and that we go to C/O beaches etc.

My wife sometimes takes pictures of me nude around the garden, on the lawn mower etc and she posts them on our family photo web site BUT she will not show any pubic hair or "private parts" - She says "the children (who are married men aged over 30 yrs) should not see those parts.

Roberteacher - I don't know how this helps you but I thought I would say it anyway

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[Sailor]

Just because a body part is visible to someone, does not mean that they can have free access to it! Your husband's mouth is usually visible, but does that make his kisses any less valuable?

One interesting thing about naturist gatherings is that people seem to have more awareness of touching and keeping ones distance. A casual hug is less common than in other environments. There is a real clear line drawn because that imaginary protective shield is missing, and no one wants anyone to get the wrong idea. The closness that you two share is I am sure a stark contrast to that.

So don't think about it that way, just relax and enjoy!

[Tampanude]

I think chefred summed it up nicely. I have been a nudist for 20 years and my girlfriend (now, my wife) wasn't when we met. As we became closer, she wanted to share the social nude aspect of my life. She quickly was able to see and appreciate nudism for what it is; a free comfortable way to live. She was very impressed with the honest, genuine way nudists relate. Not the stare and compare lifestyle she thought it was. We have met lots of cool people in commited relationships who echo the same sentiment..... that being your choice of that person you are with is one of the heart and soul, not an arm, leg, breast or penis. That's a gift that trancsends the visual being.

Just enjoy the trip you both are joined in as well as the sun, breeze. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Buzzer]

http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gifMy wife is the same way as you and your husband. May you both be as happy together as we are.
I don't know why my wife acts this way since I have and have had other female doctors. And a female EMT and nurses have seen my "private" parts when I was being cared for after a couple of traffic collisions. But, as I said, we are very happy and I am willing to wait and accept what the future holds.
My wife likes to surprise me, so I have an idea that a visit to a naturist outing is in our future.

[Sammyboy]

I think for a lot of people it's hard to understand the feeling that goes along with being naked around others if they haven't tried it. It's an altogether different feeling to the one of being naked with your spouse. The point has been made several times though - the shared intimacy is not about nakedness - that's why it can't be taken away even if someone is forcibly exposed naked. It's about the sharing of yourselves. That's something that he only shares with you (I would imagine!)