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ecnaturist
09-26-2005, 10:49 AM
“Bare” with me if this gets long. I have never in my life posted anything and I’m not that good at writing.
For the better part of 20 years I’ve been trying to persuade my wife into going to a nude beach. We would actually fight about it. She said I could go by myself but she would have no part in it. I told her the experience I was looking for included her and I would not go alone. I’ve studied naturism very thoroughly over the years and I felt I had a good understanding what to expect in such an environment. We have always been openly nude around the house and farm with the kids and she didn’t see the need to have to go to a nude beach were it would be full of perverted old men gawking. One day recently after about a six-week time of very stressful circumstance in my life I called my wife and told her I was going to take the afternoon off and do something for me for once. At the time the beach was not in the plan. She agreed in that she saw the need for me to have some time for myself. That evening when she asked if I had an enjoyable afternoon and what I did. I was careful on how to tell her. Her first response with body language was discuss. But when I told the details of the visit she actually had questions.

1st time
The purpose of my solo visit was to see if my assumption was correct and report back to my wife what I had discovered. I should tell you that I’m a very social person and my goal was to ask questions. After parking the car in lot in the middle of know were I figured I must be close to something with this may vehicles. I graded my nothing and headed for the water. I wasn’t about to embarrass myself with a bunch of beach paraphernalia and be totally in the wrong spot. After walking forever I could see one lone person way down the shore. Upon getting closer I could see it was a nude male. Closer yet I felt he wasn’t the one I wanted to ask questions to in the middle of “no-ware”. I could see others not so far away and thought I would see if I could find someone closer to my own age. Another single male, no, couple to my left, no, pass them by, wait, maybe. Can I ask you some questions? Sure. I feel kind of funny talking to you but I’ve never done this sort of thing and I would like to try it with my wife. Can you come closer so that we don’t have to shout? Sure. I was trying to polite and give them their privacy. They were very nice people and gave me lots of advice on what was and wasn’t acceptable, what areas to stay in and what areas to stay away from, even the “what if” question that men have was addressed. I thanked them for there advice apologized for bothering them and went on my way. Further down the beach I took the courage to try it. I needn’t say that it was no big deal, there was no drum roll, no clapping, no congratulations, it was just natural. No one even gave me a second look. When I got to the end of the beach I turned around and came back. When I came to the place were the couple was that I talked with, I suddenly felt naked. Would I be rude just to pass them by? Oh boy what to do! They’re addressing me. I’m sorry I didn’t catch what you said, holding my shorts in front of me. They wanted to tell me something they forgot to mention. I came closer apologizing once again for being new at this. I told them it was only because we had talked that I felt so self-conscious of my state of being unclothed and they apologized this time. We’re sorry we didn’t even notice, which any true nudist knows what I’m talking about. After several moments of conversation, no big deal, I was initiated.

2nd time.
The next day my wife and I had a planned vacation day. We didn’t have anything planned, just to be around the house and relax and do nothing, which usually ends up being just the opposite. With her receptiveness of the previous day, all morning I wanted to ask her if she would be willing to go to the beach. But was afraid of starting something. I finally got the courage to ask her and before she could answer I assured her she need not participate, and if she felt uncomfortable at any time we would leave. Her response was. It took long enough for you to ask. Yes we will go only with the idea that if it’s awful we will leave. The rest is history we went, we participated, we loved and we have been back a 3rd and 4th time. Let me say one more thing that has been said over and over on many sites. Nudist people are the most friendly and sincere people you can meet. I don’t think it is so much that they are nudist. I think it is more with that they are in tune with themselves and the two go hand in hand. My wife will attest to this as well.

natural handy man
09-26-2005, 11:39 AM
Well I know how you feel.
this is the 1st time I have replyed to the Forum
While on vacation we have found our selfs at beaches where C/O was practiced. In the Caribian. And every time my wife will not stay.
Like your wife she says if you want go goahead.
So while on vacation I have had a wonderful time in the al natural but she will not go along. I'm still working on her and one of these days if I can get her to go along and just injoy her self I know she will change her mind. She dosn't mind me nude around the house or like this last week on a lounge on our balcony 15 floor at the beach working on my tan lines was ok and it was wonderful.
till I can get her to goalong atleast dressed and see there is no problems I will have to keep on doing what I can to enjoy the al-natural. Till Later have a good day and enjoy every moment of it. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

Nu
09-26-2005, 11:56 AM
WOW, must be a record!
Back-to-back first posts.

Congratulations to both of you for your achievements and welcome to the forum.

CarolinaYankee
09-26-2005, 01:52 PM
Congratulations! For us newbies, there does seem to be a psychological barrier, that once it's crossed, there's no going back. I'm having trouble remembering what my objections were!

CY

09-26-2005, 02:00 PM
Just think of all the happy husbands we would have in these forums if their wives would just go, stay dressed if they want and find out for themselves what it's really like instead of assuming they already know.

sliver
09-26-2005, 02:37 PM
Jon-Marc; in that thread, I've often stated the best way to find out what REALLY goes on at a naturist club/resort or C/O beach is to ask someone who's never been to one. They seem to have all the answers.

Congrats to the newbie's. My girlfriend and I wish you many more good experiences.

Al Bundy
09-26-2005, 03:05 PM
First of all, welcome to our newbies.

What a great post regarding the wife. My wife is the sweetest, caring and thoughtful person I have ever met, but she will have nothing to do with anything with nudity. Like your wife, she says, go ahead if you want but I will not participate. Well, you know what, I did. I decided I was not going to waste my entire life with, I really want to do this, but I can't. I have wasted to many years the way it is.

I went to Paradise Lakes and relaxed for a week, and I have never slept better than I did there. Complete relaxation. When I returned my wife did not ask me one question concerning the experience. She knew where I was but did not care.

I am happy for you that your wife finally came around. I know if I could get my wife to experience a nude venue one time, she would be hooked.

Thanks for the great post.

missouriboy
09-27-2005, 03:08 AM
Nudist people are the most friendly and sincere people you can meet. I don’t think it is so much that they are nudist. I think it is more with that they are in tune with themselves and the two go hand in hand. Yes. It's not that "they" are nudists. It's what nudism does to almost all people who sincerely try it. And it's only by actual experience, not just talking or thinking about it, that one gains this wonderfully liberating knowledge.

Thanks for a great post, and welcome to the board. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

nakednudists
09-27-2005, 05:15 AM
Originally posted by Jon-Marc:
Just think of all the happy husbands we would have in these forums if their wives would just go, stay dressed if they want and find out for themselves what it's really like instead of assuming they already know.

Jon-Marc, I can't agree with you anymore. Its all about body acceptance.