Wife or Significant Other-SO, involved

[Nudeinbama]

[Nudeinbama]

Just curious as to how many here have wives or husbands,or significant others,SO, who are involved in your nudist life-style.I'm in the "tolerates", category.
Nudeinbama

[toadfish327]

Nudeinbama, Your poll question needs another answer. My spouse does not participate, but is unaware of my participation. She does allow me to be nude at home around the kids, but kind of frowns on me tanning outside for fear of what the neighbors would think. I really makes me sad that she won't go with me and it almost makes it feel wrong that I have to "sneak around" to visit a resort. I still have hopes of her joining me at a resort.

[grl66]

I'm thinking this would be quite a hard poll to set up bama coz there would be so many different situations.

I went for option B coz it's the closest but it's not entirely true. To say someone tolerates something sort of has a negative connotation in my mind. My partner is fine with my nudity and the suggestion of her merely tolerating it isn't a factor. The true part of that answer for me is the participate at times bit.

[FireProf]

I happen to be one of the lucky/fortunate ones I guess. The Prof is totally and completely into the lifestyle.

It took a while to get her to try social nudism but she's actually been a willing partner in living a nudist lifestyle from very early in our marriage. 30+ years as nudist, from "home (inside only)" to "backyard," to "social."

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[sw1sweendog]

my wife is basicly a home nudist,she has gone to the beach with me a few times.maybe now that she got a boob job.she'll be more open to the beach.and no.i had influence to her getting a boob job.it was all her .

[sw1sweendog]

i meant no influence http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/bonk.gif

[Nude in the North]

Tolerates isn't the right word for my situation.
Acceptance fits better.

Steve

[OZJames]

My wife is VERY involved and loves to be nude BUT I think the word "completely" is not quite right. She is more concerned about others seeing her nude, more concerned about her perceived overweight problem, less able to enjoy cooler temperatures, less able to be outside in hot sun due to fair skin or insects which allways bite her and not me and is LESS committed to be nude as often as possible as I am.

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif <span class="ev_code_RED">JAMES</span> http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif

[Nudeinbama]

Toadfish327, I guess in all honesty, I'm more likely in your same situation, and it is a shame it has to be that way,for now. In fact, she just had a bigblow-up with me last night over my lack of tan lines,already.
nudeinbama

[shomymojo]

she was reluctant at first...but that was 20 nude vacations ago...LOL

[hootowl]

My wife totally happy to be nude, when just she and I, but hasnt been nude yet, with any other folks. Last summer we were at friends pool, he and I were nude, the wives werent. Still working on going to camp this summer, but dont know how successful Ill be. We have a campout planned for just us two in April, and to be honest, thats OK with me as I really dont care to meet a lot of people or anything. Id just like to be able to enjoy pooltime, tanning, etc, in an environment where I wouldnt have to be always "on guard" for visitors. We just lack the pool, so the resort setting is more appealing to me!

[grl66]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by OZJames:
....She is more concerned about others seeing her nude, more concerned about her perceived overweight problem, less able to enjoy cooler temperatures, less able to be outside in hot sun due to fair skin or insects which allways bite her and not me and is LESS committed to be nude as often as possible as I am. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

OMG OZJames, are you sure we don't have the same partner? LOL

[nacktman]

Can't keep clothes on my wife. Even if I wanted to, it would be impossible.
It's to the point if I see her in any clothing I ask who's wake is it this time (When you and your friends are "gray" that isn't as much of a joke as you'd think.)?

[usuallylurk]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by toadfish327:
I really makes me sad that she won't go with me and it almost makes it feel wrong that I have to "sneak around" to visit a resort. I still have hopes of her joining me at a resort. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Ya got snowballs in hell chances of her coming out to a club with you if she catches you sneaking around like that.

Some clubs, while allowing singles to join, either do not permit married individuals to join without their spouses. Some require a notarized spousal consent form.

The reasons?

First and foremost, legal reasons. Back in the days of contested divorces, a club did not want to get involved in a messy divorce suit. If Hubby was spending his weekends at a nudist park, but removed his wedding ring and told the club he was single, the club would have an immunity because Hubby was not only lying to his wife, he was lying to US, too !!! That always goes down well in divorce negotiations, even today. A forged spousal consent form is also lying. On the other hand, if a non-participating spouse signed off on it, it shouldn't become a factor and it ends the club's involvement.

The other reasons = social. Yes, nudism offers companionship, social activities, fun, good times. But many parks - especially the co-operative parks, wish to remain retreats for the entire family unit. A retreat from the stresses of daily life - work, chores, and other things with the family. But they do not want to become a retreat **FROM** the family. They do not want to be an escape -from - the wife and kids. If you want that, Duffy's Tavern is just down the road.

I am a nudist, but my religious beliefs strongly override my nudist beliefs. I am a firm believer in marriage and its preservation. If you are doing this behind her back, but still cherish your relationship, I'd find another pastime.

[FMII]

http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/confused.gif usuallylurk, what I am reading from your reply to nudeinbama. Is that no singles (male)should be welcomed into the nudist environment. Only, those attached or family members. I personally find your reply totally unacceptable. To this forum
FCMII

[EricNY]

FMII Read lurks post again.

It was not a reply to nudeinbama. It was a reply to Toadfish in reference to visiting clubs "behind his wife's back"

Also what he states is fact and NOT opinion.

[usuallylurk]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by FMII:
http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/confused.gif usuallylurk, what I am reading from your reply to nudeinbama. Is that no singles (male)should be welcomed into the nudist environment. Only, those attached or family members. I personally find your reply totally unacceptable. To this forum
FCMII </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!

I think you misunderstood my comment.

I am not against single males or single women participating in nudism.

I **AM** against guys (or gals, for that matter) whose spouses object to their participation in social nudism -- but they insist on doing it anyway.

Many clubs welcome singles, couples, and families, but a subset of those sometimes throw up the gauntlet against a man or woman leaving the family every weekend and using the nudist park as a personal retreat AWAY from that family.

In the world of nudism, there is a distinct difference between a "Single" and what we used to call a "married single" -- the term these days is a "person with a non-participating partner" or "person with a reluctant spouse."

I was not referring to SINGLES (male or female) but those who are MARRIED and wish to participate over the objection of their spouses.

There is a distinct difference between a single fella coming out to the park for a weekend retreat -- and a married guy using the nudist park as a regular escape from his wife.

So, I think you should go back and read what I said.

Oh, by the way, even if I **DID** say what you mistakenly thought I said -- it is appropriate to discuss in here -- this is an open forum.

[sunfisher]

my wife of 20+yrs is seldom nude inside the house but enjoys skinnydipping in our small above ground pool and laying out on the enclosed deck that I built around it. She also likes to visit family oriented c/o - nude resorts (when time and money allow) and just relax and socialise with others. Sometimes she can hardly wait to get through the gate to get naked. So I guess that you can say that I'm one of the lucky ones.

Gene

[danorganic]

When I met my wife to be we were both nudists and we met at a nudist function, and we plan to be married where we met. Clothing optional wedding!! We will save a lot on tux and wedding gown. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/eusa_dance.gif

[FireProf]

I think we'd like to have a nude anniversay ceremony as well but with so many non nudist family and friends, I don't think it's something we'll do in the near future.

My wife didn't want to talk about something like that 6-7 years ago but nowadays when the subject comes up, her reaction is just that we'd have to have two separate ceremonies, one for family and non nudist friends and another for nudist friends. I think the only thing holding her back from agreeing to this is $$$$! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/wink3.gif

[usuallylurk]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by sunfisher:
my wife of 20+yrs is seldom nude inside the house but enjoys skinnydipping in our small above ground pool and laying out on the enclosed deck that I built around it. She also likes to visit family oriented c/o - nude resorts (when time and money allow) and just relax and socialise with others. Sometimes she can hardly wait to get through the gate to get naked. So I guess that you can say that I'm one of the lucky ones.

Gene </div></BLOCKQUOTE>


Any time a husband and wife (or two life partners) find a common activity that they both enjoy together-- be it cooking, travel, or nudism - it's great and you're lucky.

[danorganic]

Hey Fire, we did consider that about our non nudist family, but decided to invite everyone as it is clothing optional, but we will not be hurt if they decline to show up. We have talked about having those that dont want to come to the ceremony, over the next day to the house for a house warming party or something that would be clothed.

[nudetone]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">
I **AM** against guys (or gals, for that matter) whose spouses object to their participation in social nudism -- but they insist on doing it anyway....I was not referring to SINGLES (male or female) but those who are MARRIED and wish to participate over the objection of their spouses.

There is a distinct difference between a single fella coming out to the park for a weekend retreat -- and a married guy using the nudist park as a regular escape from his wife. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

I have seen this type of response quite a few times and it makes me think. Does a person have the right to deny another person their identity, essentially who they are as a human being? Why must the nudist spouse always be the one that's FORCED/PRESSURED to give up his/her identity when the textile spouse is not tolerant of the lifestyle. Is it because the textile lifestyle is "the norm". Because I love her, I would never (nor do I feel that I have the right to) ask my wife to stop participating in an activity that defines who she is, whether it's a hobby, something that is inspired by or develops her talents, her career, etc. I guess I am asking, "Is 'the wrong' of not letting the spouse know about participating in the nudist activity justifiable because of 'the wrong' committed by the textile spouse?" Is it possible that the nudist spouse's motive is purely to preserve the relationship and still be who they are, as opposed to malignant deception?

Just thinking "out loud", not criticizing anyone's opinion.

[fre2bnude]

I ticked the "lets me but never goes with me" section. She seems to totally accept my nudity, in fact sometimes I think she actually enjoys seeing me nude, but in no way will she join in. So far I'm only a home nudist and visits to resorts & beaches have not been an option, but it's something I want to do and I'm sure when I do she will be with me - with clothes on.

[Nude in the North]

"There is a distinct difference between a single fella coming out to the park for a weekend retreat -- and a married guy using the nudist park as a regular escape from his wife. "

But Who's to say these Fellas are "Escaping from their wives"?
I don't consider it Escaping from my wife. Just something I'd do if she didn't want to come along. Like Bowling, Fishing, or in her case , Shopping.
There are always things that one partner wishes to do, or enjoys doing that the other partner doesn't enjoy. Whether these things are done Clothed or Nude doesn't change the desire to do them.
I would never stop my wife from doing what she wanted to do. Why should she stop me from enjoying what I like.

Steve

[krcNY]

We participate as a family. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif

[bikerbare]

Wife does not object to me being "who I am" and does occasionally join me on our porch, she does not want to partake of it socailly, but says I can go to a beach if i wish. Oh well, small steps are better than NO steps i guess. =HG

[usuallylurk]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by nudetone:

I have seen this type of response quite a few times and it makes me think. Does a person have the right to deny another person their identity, essentially who they are as a human being? Why must the nudist spouse always be the one that's FORCED/PRESSURED to give up his/her identity when the textile spouse is not tolerant of the lifestyle. Is it because the textile lifestyle is "the norm". Because I love her, I would never (nor do I feel that I have the right to) ask my wife to stop participating in an activity that defines who she is, whether it's a hobby, something that is inspired by or develops her talents, her career, etc. I guess I am asking, "Is 'the wrong' of not letting the spouse know about participating in the nudist activity justifiable because of 'the wrong' committed by the textile spouse?" Is it possible that the nudist spouse's motive is purely to preserve the relationship and still be who they are, as opposed to malignant deception?

Just thinking "out loud", not criticizing anyone's opinion. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Well, I can answer this simply = "Two wrongs don't add up to a right."

A spouse may feel threatened by his/her partner going to nudist activities because it is viewed by the non-participating partner as a form of sharing of intimacy. Not even a sexual intimacy but an intimacy just the same.

But most would NOT object to a spouse developing talents, careers, or hobbies -- PROVIDED they don't cause an impact on the relationship. The "PROVIDED" is in capitals because nudism as a hobby has the possibility of having a greater (negative) impact, than, say, woodworking or following baseball.

[usuallylurk]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Nude in the North:
"There is a distinct difference between a single fella coming out to the park for a weekend retreat -- and a married guy using the nudist park as a regular escape from his wife. "

But Who's to say these Fellas are "Escaping from their wives"?
I don't consider it Escaping from my wife. Just something I'd do if she didn't want to come along. Like Bowling, Fishing, or in her case , Shopping.
There are always things that one partner wishes to do, or enjoys doing that the other partner doesn't enjoy. Whether these things are done Clothed or Nude doesn't change the desire to do them.
I would never stop my wife from doing what she wanted to do. Why should she stop me from enjoying what I like.

Steve </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Well, first of all, Steve, please read my last post. Some non-participating spouses view their partner's nudist activities as threatening, where they might not view fishing or bowling in a similar fashion.

But quite often -- as I said -- a CLUB has the right to set its own membership rules, provided that they're within the law.

But this thread has taken on a slightly different direction - and a much more interesting one, at that.

[Natureisone]

My wife is very involved in the nudist lifestyle,sho caint wait to get home and get nude and just loves the nudist beaches and nudist resorts.My 13yr old daughter is the same just loves getting nude and visiting nudist resorts.
I guess im very lucky, its just great being in a family of nudists. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/yes.gif

[Jason Lee]

Nature

which nudist beaches/resorts do you visit with your wife and daughter ?

[tinner666]

We're not fanatics or anything. If it's cool, we wear clothes without thinking about discomfort. If it's hot, we're nude. We like to be comfortable, whether it means nude, or dressed. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif

[UnabashedNudist]

I agree with Greg and Steve --- tolerates is not quite the right way to say it. My wife considers herself a nudist and goes nude with me to nude resorts and sometimes to a nude beach. However, she says she is not really comfortable at the "public" places being nude. On the other hand, she encourages me to go alone to these when she does not want to. I just don't understand why a spouse would tell her mate not to do something that they really love to do. Not the basis for the best relationship. Got to respect each others differences and give each other some space.