Reasoning for not going nude

[nudeM]

As I was working in the back yard (nude), yesterday, a thought came across my mind.

There are members whose significant other i,e., boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, is not into nudity and has absolutely no interest in it, but doesn't really care if you are nude.

My question is, why? What are the reason, or reasons as to why they are not interested in it? Just curious. Maybe we can pin-point the main reason.

I guess some of the remarks could be, "My body is not perfect", "We can't embarass the kids", "It's just not right", or anything else to that matter.

I'm just curious as to what are the main 'negatives' could be. Can't wait for the answers. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/smoking.gif

[nudeM]

As I was working in the back yard (nude), yesterday, a thought came across my mind.

There are members whose significant other i,e., boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, is not into nudity and has absolutely no interest in it, but doesn't really care if you are nude.

My question is, why? What are the reason, or reasons as to why they are not interested in it? Just curious. Maybe we can pin-point the main reason.

I guess some of the remarks could be, "My body is not perfect", "We can't embarass the kids", "It's just not right", or anything else to that matter.

I'm just curious as to what are the main 'negatives' could be. Can't wait for the answers. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/smoking.gif

[shãybare]

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Good question, nudeM. There are so many reasons people give for not participating that it may be very difficult indeed to get it down to one main reason, although, I think I may know. Ignorance. By that, I do not mean dumb but just not understanding what nudism is about.

[nacktman]

I feel like Shaybare; ignorance as to what nudism is about plays a big if not the biggest role in people's reasoning when it comes to the subject of being nude.

I also believe this ignorance comes from the cultural programming people receive (at least in Western European Culture) that equates nudity with shame from the religious dogma that perpetuates this perverse idea through mistinterpentation the story of paradise and its loss.

Overcoming such early and erroneous programming is difficult and some are never able to do so.

[Jason Lee]

a girlfriend or wife could be worried about seeing a friend or relative. (nudist beach/camp/club/resort)

[DenitaLC]

Hubby and I both go nude when possible so I'm lucky I don't have the problem of my SO not being into it. The kids do their own thing and don't mind us passing through the house nakkid.

Now, my friends that I have spoken to about nude resorts/beaches, etc. are a different story. From my experience with the women, it all comes down to body acceptance. They all come across embarrassed of their own bodies and "wouldn't want to be seen" on a beach nude. They worry about what "others" think versus just being happy with themselves. I guess that is why nudity is so much easier for me than a lot of people, I don't give a D*MN what they think! I'm out there to do what feels good to me and enjoying my time in the sun. I get very tired of people saying: "I don't want to go to a beach and see obese or old people." That is such an ignorant statement and is really makes me sick! If your primary reason for going is to look at others, your priorities/motivations are wrong...IMO! Just don't LOOK if you aren't comfortable with the way someone else looks. BUT respect them and admire them for being comfortable enough to also enjoy life naturally.

I've always been so happy with the total feeling of acceptance at most nude venues. No one treats you any different then anyone else...it is the great equalizer! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif

[Red Baron]

In my particular situation, my wife does not care that I am nude at home a lot, but she is not interested in being nude, primarily for two reasons. First, I feel she has a negative self image and is not willing to have others see her nude; second, she is not willing to be nude outside the home because she has a morbid fear of getting too much sun. She is fair skinned, and is really concerned about skin cancer, etc.

[bikerbare]

In my case the wife has a body image problem, This due to 2 Breast cancer operatiions,(Lost both 12 years apart, different cancers, many scars) she has in her defensebeen nude on our private deck but only we me. This is fine, she is relaxed far as i can tell but it is a hobby just for the two of us at this point. HG

[toadfish327]

My wife will not go with me to a nudist resort due to being molested by her father at a young age. I still have hope for her getting over that. Being overweight does not help her either. She does sometimes walk around the house nude and always goes nude in our hot tub, even with the kids around.

[Nude in the North]

Here are some of the reasons I have heard.
I don't want people seeing me naked.
I don't want to see naked people.
I'd get too horny. (usually guys say that one)
What if someone comes over.
I don't have the body for it.
Nobody would want to see me naked.
I don't know why, It's just wrong.
and the ever popular,
What would people think.

These "reasons" are ingrained into most peoples minds from birth. It's not easy to de-program them.

Steve

[Ceilican]

I know girls that don´t use EVEN SWIMSUITS for they feeel their bodies "ugly"...i feel that the problem of body acceptance in particular goes beyond nudism itself...i undertand that among teenagers this can be mucho worse...

[Norbert]

The fish might bite ... ouch!!!

[Indy dude]

I know that my wife has given the old standby..."my body is not perfect". I tell her that mine is not either and its not about a "perfect 10" body. She has also used the line " I dont want guys looking at me and thinking sexual thoughts".

[krcNY]

I feel it is one of the only places that a man will look a woman in the eye and talk to her.

[DoctorSurferDude]

I think we are forgetting the simple "I don't want to" line. And....I mean, it's a preference for some not to go nude, isn't it?

I don't like mayonaise, lots of people do, but I prefer to never have it in my mouth if I can help it. I don't fear it, I just don't like the flavor.

Some people don't like the flavor of nudity, and I'll grant them that right.

[NKID_D57]

I have been forunate. My wife doesn't mind me being naked. One requirement is that i don't go naked in front of the in-laws and that I have something close at hand in case we get visitors.
My wife is willing to join me in a social setting. She does have a slight body image issue but I think that she has started to overcome it. She has a 14 inch surgical scar on her abdomen from and emergency procedure last September. The scar is healing nicely but is still somewhat pronounced. I was forewarned that she would hit anybody that made fun of her scar, so I guess that she is well on her way. Once she gets into the social setting and has a chance to see others, I know that the scar issue will disappear.
The hard part is making that step and I am glad that my partners appears ready to join me.

[Swimguy]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by DoctorSurferDude:
I think we are forgetting the simple "I don't want to" line. And....I mean, it's a preference for some not to go nude, isn't it?

I don't like mayonaise, lots of people do, but I prefer to never have it in my mouth if I can help it. I don't fear it, I just don't like the flavor.

Some people don't like the flavor of nudity, and I'll grant them that right. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

MOst of my friends choose not to be nude around others. I don't need any other explanation than what you gave above, and they don't need any explanation for my preferences. We just accept that we are different in this aspect.

[JTaylor_1986]

My wife has no interest in it. Some reasons that she has given include:

* That's just creepy -or- it's just wrong
* I don't want others to see my body.
* Body image (she doesn't think that she has a good body, which she does)

On going somewhere...

* What if we run into someone that we know.

I tried explaining to her that if we run into someone that we know that they ar there for the same thing and that it wouldn't matter.

[Walt Iliff]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by DoctorSurferDude:
I think we are forgetting the simple "I don't want to" line. And....I mean, it's a preference for some not to go nude, isn't it?

I don't like mayonaise, lots of people do, but I prefer to never have it in my mouth if I can help it. I don't fear it, I just don't like the flavor.

Some people don't like the flavor of nudity, and I'll grant them that right. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

DSD,

Perfect!! I have always maintained that if we as nudists want respect for our lifestyle choices and our desire to be nude in appropriate settings, we are obligated to equally respect the fact that others may not feel comfortable and accept THEIR desire to be clothed. It's a two way street.

Walt Iliff

[FireProf]

I don't think we can ever pinpoint a reason or even narrow it down to a few reasons, why some do not like to go nude.

The Prof, many years ago, felt just fine sleeping nude, lounging nude after intimate relations and occasionally sat and watched TV with me in an open robe. She still had so many reaons why she would not go nude all the time at home from the very beginning.

I say, so many reasons because it took me years and years to tackle each reason, discuss it with her, find a solution or just allow her to digest what we talked about til she finally felt comfortable with the decision/s she made about nudity. The progression to get from where we started over 36 years ago to now has been a long, sometimes stressful and patience draining process. It's been so worth the time, effort, patience and understanding to finally get her to this point.

As stated above, sometimes she just didn't feel like being nude. Hard to discuss/communicate or try and entice someone who just doesn't want to be naked and doesn't really have a reason except, they don't feel like it. I'm now very, very fortunate, nowadays, about the only reason, except for the obvious ones, that she won't go nude is the weather.

My only reason, except for the obvious, for not going nude............I think my temperature threshold for being nude is somewhere around 60 degrees, although I have been naked for sporatic amounts of time in much colder weather! http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/wink3.gif