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[takeitontherun]

I'm sure this has been pondered before by someone new to the *sport* of nudity, shall we say but here goes.....my midsection sports what i consider to be a disgusting scar which serves to do nothing but remind me of how some doctors nearly killed me basically. I should try to look at it as just a scar and lucky to be alive but i dont so if i were to prefer a sarong or short shorts instead of total bareness because of the scar, will i be looked upon as odd?
Thank you!

[takeitontherun]

I'm sure this has been pondered before by someone new to the *sport* of nudity, shall we say but here goes.....my midsection sports what i consider to be a disgusting scar which serves to do nothing but remind me of how some doctors nearly killed me basically. I should try to look at it as just a scar and lucky to be alive but i dont so if i were to prefer a sarong or short shorts instead of total bareness because of the scar, will i be looked upon as odd?
Thank you!

[NudistBoyDude]

people wont care how you look...they might ask how you got it if you start talking to them and thats all. i go nude infront of others with a huge scar down my leg from a shattered heel too.

[gormenghast20]

Nah, I think you'd be fine...if covering the scar makes your more comfortable then that's what you should do since it will allow you to enjoy the "sport of nudity"...however, the scar is merely a part of your body and no one should mind it.

[NudeAl]

I have a few scars. None to huge but I know I earned everyone of them. They are a part of me each one has a story. My wife has a big one on her mid-section from an operation that saved her life. For a few years afterwards she was self conscious about it. I think the phrase body acceptance is the key and naturism is the way sums it up nicely.

As you gain experience you will gradually see that the scar is no big deal. It is more in in your mind than anything else. By all means if you feel you need something over it do so but realize many resorts will want you to be nude when in the pool areas and some do want you to disrobe as soon as you get there. Goodluck

[BackpackerBrian]

A scar is a soveniur of life. People will focus on your personality anyway.

[KEN 108]

Hi
Everyone said that no one will care about your scar but you. They are right but that isn't going to put you at ease at first. I'd suggest that you wear a button down shirt. Leave it open.....if you feel a little at ease about your scar showing button one button. If not.....leave it open. When you are at ease.....just drop the shirt
Good luck and enjoy the nude life!!!
Ken

[GhostFreeHiker]

Go at your comfort level but part of the majic of naturism is body (or even scar) acceptance. Others will not notice it near as much as you do.

[DoctorSurferDude]

Man....doctors suck....

In case you havn't started anywhere yet, I think a nude beach is the most comfortable place to start. There are no rules there about how much to wear or not wear....sarong would be fine. But my guess is that you'll go full montey in an hour or so once you see all the imperfection that surrounds you. Truth is...nobody is perfect. Perfection is only an illusion, and it's so "typical" anyways... http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

I see some interesting scars at the resort I go to, some surgeries, injuries, one person is missing a leg, but he's not the only one I've seen with a missing limb. I've seen women with mastectomies, people with medical anomolies, etc. You won't be shunned for a scar....there is more acceptance of physical differences in a nudist setting than you'll find anywhere else. Go try it and see.

[takeitontherun]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by KEN 108:
Hi
Everyone said that no one will care about your scar but you. They are right but that isn't going to put you at ease at first. I'd suggest that you wear a button down shirt. Leave it open.....if you feel a little at ease about your scar showing button one button. If not.....leave it open. When you are at ease.....just drop the shirt
Good luck and enjoy the nude life!!!
Ken </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Actually, i should be doing that anyway considering i am redhead and fair skin and my body's exposure to sun has been minimal, lol.
Thanks, i'll consider that.

[naturush]

Consider woman who have had C-sections. Consider also the old junior high notion that "chicks dig scars"...that's not totally off base either. Just my two cents.

[NudeAl]

There are really quite a huge variety of cover ups you could legitmately use even at a nude resort shirts shawls wraps of all shapes and colors. Like many here have already stated you'll soon see there are no perfect bodies. Everyone has some sort of a body issue but we get over them through the realization we are just fine the way we are. We don't need to impress anyone.

[nudeM]

Count me in as the majority. Don't worry about it. As someone stated, there is no 'perfect body'. Just about everyone has an 'imperfection' that is, or is not, noticeable.

As long as you feel comfortable going nude around the house, you may want to extend your territory, i.e., nude beaches, nudist parties, etc. Don't worry what others think. You will quickly notice that others have scars as well, and they are not ashamed of going nude in public.

Good luck and please, take the advise of the majority here. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

[jon71]

As others have said "don't worry about it". If anyone were to object it would be a shortcoming in them, not you.

[miracleman]

I agree with the well written comments above mine here.Nice touch by Brian and his " souviners of life" comment!I have seen many club members < myself included > with scars and never ever has it been a problem for the person displaying them!Nudists dont "judge" people on how you look.We accept !Enjoy your clothesfree recreation.

[Bob S.]

takeit, this scar seems to be more than a physical scar for you. It seems to have a deep emotional aspect to it as well. It is a scar that reminds you every day that you almost died because of some doctors.

Hiding the scar is one way to hide the emotions of it but that never works as the scar is always there, and so are the feelings.

How old is the scar? What have you done to get emotional help? This scar will continue to dominate you until you can remove the emotional aspect of it. When you can just see it as a scar and not as a sign of your mortality, an embarrassment, a sign of your anger towards the doctors, or whatever emotions you attribute to that scar, then you will be able to be naked and comfortable.

Nobody will look at you any differently because you have the scar. If someone sees it and asks about it, you have a choice of talking about it or just saying that you'd rather not talk about it.

Just realize that, especially at a nudist park, you will not be able to swim in the pools or go into the hot-tubs with anything on.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Bob S.

[Sauna]

Please do not worry your scars and be happy that you still live. My wife has 50cm scar in lower stomach and that is why she still lives. I have seen also several nudists with breast amputations. Nobody is irritated from them.

[Nudeinbama]

The beauty, or another one I should say,of nudism, Accepted as you are. Enjoy life.
Nudeinbama

[missouriboy]

Hi, takeitontherun, and welcome to our forum!

Please allow me to be the first to answer your actual question http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif which was: "will i be looked upon as odd if i were to prefer a sarong or short shorts instead of total bareness?" Well, the answer might be Yes, but ONLY for wearing the shorts, ONLY if you're in a venue where total nudity is expected. But in such a situation, if you are BARE you won't be looked upon as odd for having the scar; it'll be totally accepted.

Now, this isn't to contradict all the previous good answers, only to point out this other perspective for your consideration.

Cheers! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[nudenwv]

not odd at all! now being a social nudist - i've noticed all kinds of scars of life! nudist don't label such as textiles! go ahead and enjoy!you'll find out the first visit it means nothing! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[NakedShayne]

Being nude in frot of others at a resort it's common to scars. I have one also from surgery. But it will be up to you if you decide to wear shorts or not. If u decide to go and wear them u will see others doing the same at times. The decission is up to you.

[need2Bnude]

Why worry about what others think? Being nude in front of others is to be comfortable with yourself. If your willing to bare skin because you feel comfortable; then just do it. Enjoy life, as nudists/naturists I think we can all agree that we are not gonna be pointing fingers and act childishly toward someone just because of how they look, right? The world is to be enjoyed, and thats exactly what you should do, Enjoy it. Your only here once, Go For It!

[nudist_in_Tn]

No one has ever mentioned my scars or my tattooes or any part of my body in general while I was in a nudist venue,
My advice would be to just do it as all of us here in these threads have been naked in social settings for the first time.
There will be for the most part more eye contact in a nudist setting that you are probally used to and sure they will see your scar but nobody that is a true nudist will mention anything about it anyway.

[Tony 2]

Since your original post I have been reading what all the others have been saying and they have been saying much the same thing and that is dont worry about the scar, it is part of you and people will accept you as you are and while they may notice they wont say anything about it. It can be a great icebreaker as well.

cheers
Tony



<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by takeitontherun:
I'm sure this has been pondered before by someone new to the *sport* of nudity, shall we say but here goes.....my midsection sports what i consider to be a disgusting scar which serves to do nothing but remind me of how some doctors nearly killed me basically. I should try to look at it as just a scar and lucky to be alive but i dont so if i were to prefer a sarong or short shorts instead of total bareness because of the scar, will i be looked upon as odd?
Thank you! </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

[takeitontherun]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Tony 2:
Since your original post I have been reading what all the others have been saying and they have been saying much the same thing and that is dont worry about the scar, it is part of you and people will accept you as you are and while they may notice they wont say anything about it. It can be a great icebreaker as well.

cheers
Tony



You mean i am supposed to show it off and be thrilled if someone asks me what happened so that i can become pissed off all over again at how the bleeping doctors didnt recognize a simple burst appendix and thought i was only tired of being pg and so on and so on? Good one. No, not *****ing at you, no worries.

[boomdriver]

I have many surgical scars, and each one resulted from a procedure that saved my life. The most noticable are a pair of very distinct scars under each breast from a double lung transplant. The way the skin was pulled when the team closed the incisions left me with a pair of "man-boobs" that will probably always be with me. No one has made any comments about the way I look, nor do I care. I'm alive to tell the story if anyone should ask, but no one has. Medicine is not a totally an exact science, and cosmetic surgery might help, but I could care less. I am who I am, and glad of it. Like I said. at least I'm alive, and enjoying myself!

[nakedjohn]

You should see my body...I have scleroderma....I do not care....if they look, its their problem, not mine, if they have something to say...its their stupidity.
I feel great in my nude body and I am happy I am still on this earth!

[Rabid_Clam]

If we worry about what others think, then we give room for the 'supposed to' group who will make rules upon rules based on THEIR values and interests to the total exclusion of YOURS. One has to draw a line of where one stops thinking of what others think and just discard the rest. What others think does have value to a point but YOU have to determine where that point is, not the other person.

We need to be respectful of the rights of others but also our own. We cannot trounce on the rights of others but we also do not need to allow others to trounce on yours.