Looking for friends in the Hampton Roads, VA area

[jeffersonb73]

I'm a 32 yo old nudist guy in the Hampton Roads, VA /NENC area. I'd like to meet other nudists in the area for friendship. I would like some buddies to go to White Tail Park with, or just hang out and watch DVDs with. I also enjoy the beach, some sports, cooking out, road trips, etc. Are there any nudists in this area? If so, contact me. I don't currently have any nudist friends, and it would be great to make friends with like-minded people.

[jeffersonb73]

I'm a 32 yo old nudist guy in the Hampton Roads, VA /NENC area. I'd like to meet other nudists in the area for friendship. I would like some buddies to go to White Tail Park with, or just hang out and watch DVDs with. I also enjoy the beach, some sports, cooking out, road trips, etc. Are there any nudists in this area? If so, contact me. I don't currently have any nudist friends, and it would be great to make friends with like-minded people.

[Walt Iliff]

You don't need a friend to go with you to White Tail Resort. They are very singles friendly, and if you go there will find many other singles. Remember, though, go slowly, a nudist resort is not the place to try to "pick up" someone. Join in the water volleyball games, meet other people and enjoy our beautiful resort.

Walt Iliff

[jeffersonb73]

I don't go there to "pick up" anyone, and I find your insinuation to be offensive. It is true that the resort admits singles, but the people there are very cliquish. Most of the people go there in groups, and they have a tendency to stick to their groups. This is not just me saying this. I've had nudist friends in the past (who've since moved away) who all had the same opinion of WTP. The fact is, if you go alone, you're ignored. Since when is trying to make friends a bad thing?

[tinner666]

Just ask to join into any activity. Find a common thread.
Sometimes, we ALL want a little privacy because the resort is extremely friendly and you can end up talking all day. There are moments when people clam up and chill for awhile. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/happy.gif
Just drop by my place to buy and sample some HOT sauce so you'll have your own 'hot' war story to share with others. I have a bad reputation about that, though some of my sauce is best in cake, salads, fish, or ice cream. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/beam.gif

[jeffersonb73]

So you work at WTP? I have to confess, I haven't been there in about two years because I got tired of going alone. I invited a few of my friends to go with me, but they all responded with emphatic "no's." It would be nice to have some like-minded friends, you know? Although I have to confess, I've never actually just gone up to someone and asked to join in on an activity before. Maybe my experience would be more positive if I did that. I started going nude a home 12 years ago, and worked up the nerve after a few years to venture out to WTP. Now I'm working up the nerve to try to make soime nudist friends, I suppose.

And by the way, I love hot sauce. The hotter the better.

[rgnmud]

My wife and I have been going to WTP for over six years now. Just recently we split up. Even though I am now single have continued going to WTP alone. Some people have treated me differnt like the dreaded single person, but a lot have been very friendly to make me still feel welcome. I have found that playing at the water volley ball games is the best way to meet people and break the ice to start people talking to you. I live in the hampton roads area and try to go as much as possible. ps tinner666 sells some great hot sauce.

[jeffersonb73]

Sorry about you and your wife. It sounds like you've been able to make some friends there, though. That's great. I have to say I've never participated in any of the water volleyball games, so maybe I could give that a try.

Do you get the impression that most people, even singles, go with someone? (A friend or group of friends, for example?) Maybe I'm just self-conscious, but that's how it's seemed to me every time I've gone. It seemed like I was the only person who showed up solo.

[rgnmud]

There are some people that go there alone, but not many. It has been my experience that if you go alone that people judge you differntly. They have the attitude if you go there alone that you are a pervert just there to look at the people nude. If you come there with friends then you must be there to enjoy yourself. I have noticed this when I have gone other places that I use to go with my wife. With her I was totally accepted, now I have heard negative statements made when going alone. I believe that is why most people try not to go alone. I have thought about going anymore until I have another female partner or friend to go with. There are people who don't judge you for being single, but most do even though they won't admit to it.

[jeffersonb73]

Thanks for your insight. I've sensed a judgmental atmosphere in the past as well. I've felt ostracized many times and felt it was because I was alone. It's not the staff. They're all courteous and professional. It's the actual people who go there. That's why I haven't been in two years, because I've felt out of place. I decided a while ago that I would try to network and meet some nudists in the area so maybe I'd end up having a friend to go with me.

[Centauri4]

With White Tails facilities continuing to develope, and in many cases already being MUCH better than the majority of motels (and a few hotels) in the area, I think more people will be going.

The word just has to be spread that it has these great amenities and many friendly people AND allows the freedom to enjoy such a variety of activities without clothing! I know that is a foreign concept to some people, or one they may have only dreamt about, but once the seed is planted in their imagination, its only a matter of time before they try it (at least once).

Isn't that how a few of us got started skinny-dipping?

And my very first nudist resort visit was to White Tail Park in the late 1980's. There was a feeling of improved rustic-ness about some of it back then, but even so I enjoyed the pool, large grass lawn, walking path, outdoor showers and octagon clubhouse. What wasn't to love? Any hesitation I had over 'what people do' or 'how to present myself' fell away within the first half-hour of day one!

These days I'm just sorry it is taking the rest of this civilized country so long to adopt less restrictive clothing conventions or to begin courting the clothing-optional tourist dollar. A few Floridian counties seem to be getting the hang of it, as well as Palm Spring, California. So why not others? I guess we are still in the minority when it comes to spending and being perceived as a 'wholesome' and 'family-oriented' activity.

I hope these things will change to, and I feel the lively discussions here on CFI are going to make it happen.

[jeffersonb73]

Well, I havcen't been to WTP in about two years. It sounds like it may have changed a bit since the last time I was there. Maybe there's a friendlier atmosphere there now. If so, I'm glad. I may have to pay another visit.

As for the country being slow to adopt less restrictive clothing conventions, I agree. I keep reading on the Internet and seeing occasional news reports on TV about how nude recreation and vacations are becoming more popular in this country. Looking around, though, I don't see it. The few people in my life who know of my interest in nudism think I'm participating in something repulsive. They've all reacted badly. For that reason, I don't really tell people anymore. If only Americans could have a more European attitude towards the human body. Maybe someday.

[tinner666]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by jeffersonb73:
So you work at WTP? I have to confess, I haven't been there in about two years because I got tired of going alone. I invited a few of my friends to go with me, but they all responded with emphatic "no's." It would be nice to have some like-minded friends, you know? Although I have to confess, I've never actually just gone up to someone and asked to join in on an activity before. Maybe my experience would be more positive if I did that. I started going nude a home 12 years ago, and worked up the nerve after a few years to venture out to WTP. Now I'm working up the nerve to try to make soime nudist friends, I suppose.

And by the way, I love hot sauce. The hotter the better. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Nah. I don't work there though I will sell some sauce on occasion.
There are plenty of activities there. Friendly poker games, volleyball, paddleball, horseshoes, petanque, dominoes. You need to find a common thread. Like rgnmud said, you can be treated differently. A lot seems to depend on your mein. Singles that seem outgoing without 'hitting' on anybody find themselves in a lot of activities. Watervolleyball is often dying to get more teams going. Sign up.
And I'll admit, I'd hate to be the single guy at a dance, but some seem to get along well.
The park tries to balance things so that it doesn't become a place full of single men only. That would be a no-win situation.
Sorry if I muddied the water trying to clear it.

[jeffersonb73]

No problem. No apology is necessary. I don't dance, so that's not an issue for me. I might try water volleball. It would still be nice to have a buddy to go with, but I may venture out on my own.

[rgnmud]

Let me know when you are planning to go. I will hang with you and introduce you to some friendly people. Just send me a private message.

[jeffersonb73]

Thanks for the offer. I'll keep it in mind.