How comfortable are will you be naked among your non-nudist family?

[NudeCatracho]

[nudeM]

Nice poll. I voted for the first one, "Yes I feel comfortaable." I have no problems of being nude in front of non-nudes here at home, UNTIL the daughter shows up. She is totally against it, so I cover up when she is here.

I will cover up when the Son's friends come over so not to attract any attention to myself and to avoid any possible harassments towards my Son from his friends.

Nice poll. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_razz.gif

[picco]

i have no problem with my family seeing me nude but would cover up if my kids friends were around

None of those answers work for me. I WOULD be nude around my daughters and grandkids if I was allowed to be, but I'm not. I would be comfortable, but they would not, or was this question meant only for the young people?

[fred950]

While I voted for I feel comfortable...There are, however, exceptions. While both daughters, Mary, my mother and my youngest's boyfriend seem to be oblivious to my being nude, my sister may be a differant story. While she is aware of my being a nudist and she is aware of Pop's staement that the only reason he did not go to a nude resort was he wasn't 'brave' enough. However, she is clearly un-comfortable talking about the subject.

And it would be only common sence that I would cover up when the girls had thier (then) underaged friends over to my house for sleep-overs.

[FireProf]

I have to go along with Jon-Marc, the choices don't fit for me either.

There are some I could be nude in front of but will not force that upon them. My daughters, son in laws and grandchildren are those I have no problem being nude in front of even if they were dressed but I don't think they would be comfortable at this time seeing me and my wife like that.

I have a sister that would probably not have a problem with my nudity but not in front of her kids. A brother that I think is a closet nudist but we've never had a conversation about nudism or anything of substance in the past few years.

My wife's family; she has two sisters and a brother. My brother in law, don't talk to him much, so that's a moot point. One sister I think would be more than willing but her husband is a bit too conservative. The other sister in law and her husband are the closest I would think to giving nudism a try.

I think we would be most comfortable being nude in front of our kids and their husbands and our grandchildren even if they were dressed. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[Nudony]

Just curious Fireprof. What I've gathered from some of your prior posts is that you were home-nudists but dropped it when your daughters were toddlers(?) and then resumed a fully nudist way of life after they left home. I assume they are fully aware of your new found freedom. Are they opposed to being nude, reluctant to seeing their parents nude, or reluctant to involve their families in Grandpa and Grandma's activities?

If this is too personal a question, don't feel obligated to respond. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[Pieguy]

I am completely comfortable with my dad seeing me nude.

[Tara]

I voted NO! No way no how, at least for now! Sad but true http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[FireProf]

Originally posted by Nudony:
Just curious Fireprof. What I've gathered from some of your prior posts is that you were home-nudists but dropped it when your daughters were toddlers(?) and then resumed a fully nudist way of life after they left home. I assume they are fully aware of your new found freedom. Are they opposed to being nude, reluctant to seeing their parents nude, or reluctant to involve their families in Grandpa and Grandma's activities?

If this is too personal a question, don't feel obligated to respond. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

Let's see if I can clear some of this up. We have been home nudists for over 30 years. I would say all our married life, over 32 years but that first couple of years of marriage I was in the service and only home on weekends so it was so inconsistent that we don't count that time.

As the girls were born we still wondered the house naked most of the time. Conversation regarding them being raised to accept nudity in the house was agreed upon. As they grew older and we ventured outside to our backyard, I installed an above ground pool and spa. We spent many hours and days out in our backyard naked with the girls.

We sold this home to move into our current home and the girls were now older, approximately 11 and 7 years of age. We had to move into an apartment while our current home was being built. This really cut into our nudism outside. We were confined to a very small apartment with very little privacy. At this time, and in these closer quarters the girls seemed to become a little self conscious of their nudity and ours.

We limited it and then decided to put it off until our new home was built and we could make this new place as private and comfortable. As luck would have it, delays and such, we were in this apartment for over 8 months. After moving into our new home we tried to re-introduce nudism and the girls were a bit uncomfortable.

My wife and I continued while they were at work or at friends houses playing. At times they would come home to find us both naked, or me out in the yard sunning. They came into our bedroom or bathroom area and talked with us while we got out of the shower or while getting dressed or getting out of bed, always seeing us nude.

This lifestyle went on but the girls never reconnected. They went off to college, got their own places, the oldest got married and in that time, my wife and I decided to become social nudists and take our lifestyle beyond the confines of our home and property walls.

The girls and their husbands are well aware of our lifestyle and have known for about 4-5 years now. They are aware that are naked at times when they are in the house but we never flaunt it in front of them. They are also aware that we are nude at times when the grandchildren come to stay. They do not have a problem with that. Their biggest concern is if other in law family members find out though our grandchildren. They are afraid we will be upset. We've told them repeatedly that it doesn't matter if others find out.

They all have made jokes about us and about all of us vacationing together someplace in the nude. They just laugh about it but we can see that it's something they think about once in a while. I've mentioned to them that my wife and I will pay for their trip to the Caribbean with us but they have to stay at the place we stay, which would be a nude resort. They have all stated that they just aren't ready.....yet.

Sorry to bore the rest of you and I hope this answers your question Nudony. http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

[nakednudists]

I voted for no. None of my family members know.

[Nudony]

We limited it and then decided to put it off until our new home was built and we could make this new place as private and comfortable. As luck would have it, delays and such, we were in this apartment for over 8 months. After moving into our new home we tried to re-introduce nudism and the girls were a bit uncomfortable.

Thanks for sharing. I know you must have wondered how different things would have been, had the lay-over been shorter, and had the re-introduction into nudism been seamless.
But in any event, all's well that ends well anyway. You guys all seem to be doing great! http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[sbp]

be naked all the timeOriginally posted by Tara:
I voted NO! No way no how, at least for now! Sad but true http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[andy_ma]

I'm in the same boat as Jon-Marc and FireProf, none of the options really fit me. I'm the yes I would be comfortable, but NO WAY would they be. Considering how I grew up, I often wonder two things: 1) Did the non-nudist environment at home actually push me towards wanting/enjoying the naturist lifestyle? and 2) Some times I think it's a wonder I even tried it considering nobody at home was even remotely nude in front of others. I'm just glad that I've found the freedom and joy today. But again, staying on topic, they wouldn't be comfortable with it at all. <SIGH>

[krcNY]

I voted Yes, I am comfortable around my family.

We all are nude a lot around our home on a daily basis. We have a great family.

Our Relatives on the otherhand do not agree with our nudity, and will not join. We respect their wishes and remain clothed while they are visiting.

[nakednudists]

Originally posted by krcNY:
I voted Yes, I am comfortable around my family.

We all are nude a lot around our home on a daily basis. We have a great family.

Our Relatives on the otherhand do not agree with our nudity, and will not join. We respect their wishes and remain clothed while they are visiting.


KrcNY...it sounds like you have a great family. I hope someday to be able to have that to share with my immediate family.

[Nude in the North]

I'm comfortable around some of my family members. But even though most of them know I'm a nudist I try not to be nude when the rest of them come around.
I'm hoping over time more of them will be accepting, but for now I'm happy for what I have and those few that seem not to notice if I'm clothed or nude.

Steve

[parrott7582]

i voted i didnt care...they are not but if they saw me oh well http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_razz.gif

[jane84]

I voted no way. I am still new to the whole thing and am trying to feel comfortable nude around the house and nude beaches. After years of having to cover up I find it hard to let go.

I couldn't imagine being nude in front of my parents. It is a different story with my partner and kids.

[NudeCatracho]

Wow thank you all for sharing, your opinions, it is incredible that some say you cover up and some feel more comfortable with same sex people and some say heck no haha, I'm in the part where if they are male family members I don't care, but if they are women then I have to cover up.

Keep the good work!!!!!!!!!1 I'm loving this.

[shãybare]

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I voted "I don't care if they see me naked". I could also have voted for the first choice. Like most polls, the 'perfect' choice is not there.

[BackpackerBrian]

At this point, I would not be comfortable being nude with my family. This has to do more with their perspective than mine . . . they aren't enlightened http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

With that said, I think that's why in many ways my nudist friends are an extended family to me. It is important being comfortable nude around your good friends, if not your family.

If I were a father, I would make it a point to raise my kids as naturists, or at least exposedto naturism, as I believe the lifestyle and community promote self-confidence and a healthy self-image.

[NudeAl]

I voted for no problem but should say that it is with qualifications. My immediate family wife kids no problem. We have all gone nude in front of each other at various times though some of the older kids have gotten out of it. I still have no problem being nude in front of my 22 year old daughter if that is how I would normally be around the house anyway. I think the problem becomes inlaws and some other extended family members.

[Ben_m]

I must be pretty comfortable, I do it every day. I have no "nudist family".

[grl66]

I have to say no. My parents don't know about my tendancy towards being naked and yet still they have made negative comments about nudists. In particular one day when they inadvertantly happened upon a nudist beach. My Mother was shocked and kept saying she has no idea why these people feel the need to let it all hang out in public.

I had to defend them by saying, "well you did go into their territory so you can hardly be offended." I wonder if she detected something by me answering that way? lol

[Centauri4]

I have a slightly different answer.

If my family ASKED about my nudism and whether I was really comfortable enough to be naked in front of them, I would say, "Yes." Furthermore, as anyone might imagine, if the next statement was, "Okay, prove it." I would. I would strip down if front of any family member or members in any setting, any time, any place. This even applies to public places, though I don't think they would ever be likely to do that because they would have to deal with the consequences (i.e. bailing me out, etc.).

This is the kind of commitment I feel each nudist must reach over time, and the most interesting thing about it is I feel its not that hard to do AFTER a point. After you have "gotten your feet wet" by visiting a nude beach, attending a nude backyard pool party, or having a few clothing-optional movie nights with friends. It is all about taking something new and making it routine, and yes, maybe lessening the "special" quality of the activity a bit.

I imagine this is the same way pilots become comfortable with flying, or marine biologists with scuba diving, but I'm not really experienced with either or those activities.

[OZJames]

My response is a bit different - I checked - I don't care because I think it's the way i should feel BUT if I was nude in front of my children or my siblings and/or their spouses I know they would be uncomfortable. I do not care that they see me nude but I do care if they felt uncomfortable.

If they were sitting on the verandah near our pool and they new I wanted a (nude) swim and said "go ahead" and they didn't move away then i would certainly jump in (nude).

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[xgsft]

I imagine this is the same way pilots become comfortable with flying, or marine biologists with scuba diving, but I'm not really experienced with either or those activities.

I do fly, I will say it has really become routine. (Just make sure not to put yourself in a situation where you get into trouble) The same thing applies to me being nude at home. Social nudity is still new to me, but it is begining to feel like business as usual.

[NudeCatracho]

Wow Centauri4 what you say is true, I on the other would never strip if my family said prove it, just a matter of the type of m\family I grew up with, you know cover yourself up, never go around the housein your underware, the only person in the house that I feel comfortable being nude with is my brother, why well you all now that neither of us is gonna be looking a each other, but do it in front of someone that isn't used to seeing someone naked you know where the eyes go!!! hahaha and that my friend is so very uncomftrable, but then again if your family is allright with it and you aren't bothered by it then heck away with the clothes hahaha, I just know that in my family there really isn't no one that likes nudism, but I have a friend who I made nudist haha yep and he loves it, and He is comfortable around me now so we'll see if we can have the first Honduran nude association, we need one badly.

But we live in a country where nudism is just not tolerated unless you live out in the country, alone in a remote place I guess. But thank you guys for your participation keep it going!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[barbararuth]

I have thought about this question from time to time because I never wanted my nudism to be a secret or hidden from my family. At this point I know how people feel and do not push those who are not comfortable around nudism. My mom and dad know and my dad is particularly offended by my lifestyle choice. My dad is not only offended, but would be angry if I flauted it in front of him. My married brother and sister know and my brother is also offended by nudism. Interestingly enough, my mother and sister-in-law are both curious and adventuresome and are willing to give it a go. Under these circumstances, I would have no probem being naked in front of them, but certainly.. under no circumstances, in front of my dad or brother. I do not have children, but if I did, and they embraced nudism as I do, I would have no trouble being naked in front of them, but would never push them or influence them to participate against their will.

[Nudony]

My dad is not only offended, but would be angry if I flauted it in front of him.

That's not surprising. Fathers and brothers are naturally protective; especially fathers, who consider you their "little girl", no matter how grown or independant you are. To him, the mere thought of you being nude in front of strangers is not only offensive, it is probably also frightening. My wife never told her dad about nudism because, as she succinctly put it, he would simply "freak out."
Moms are another story. There is a bond (usually) between mothers and daughters that is much more flexible and open. When my wife told her mom about nudism, she was open to the idea; when my wife told her about home nudism, she told her not to bother covering up when she dropped by our house. Coming home from work and finding my MIL watching Tv on my couch next to me nude wife became a fairly common occurrence.
Getting Mom to a resort can be a bit more difficult, though; many long-time married Moms can have some difficulties being in the presence of naked men other than their hubby. But it's probably still worth a shot.

[merum]

I voted "i don't care..." My sister and I have been nude in each others presence since we were teens (over 30 yrs ago). I'm nude at home in front of wife and daughter ( 14 yr old daughter is starting to make comments though, that awkward age). My wife makes no secret of my prefering to be naked. Inlaws are aware, and have gone for nude swim with MIL and others where I was the only one nude. Doesn't bother me, if someone asked me to prove I was a nudist, depending on location, I'd get undressed.

[Veal Johnson]

The only real problem I ever had was with my mother who sort of freaked out when I first started going nude at home after going to my first nudist resort. I offered to leave home and get a place of my own but she eventually accepted it as do my non-nudist sister and brother when they visit.

The kids are ok with it as they were raised nudists but their spouses are a different matter. Nevertheless, at this late stage in my life I feel I should be able to dress (or undress) as I please in my own home and nudity is the uniform of the day here. I would never dream of going nude in someone else's home unless I was asked so I figure it is fair and balances out.

OTH if someone asked me to "prove" I was a nudist then I'd probably get or stay dressed, I'm contrarian that way http://clothesfreeforums.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

[NudeCatracho]

Hi guys, wow I'm so excited to see that finally I got more than 10 replies on the forum haha.
I'm surpirsed how some of you say that you can offend people by being nude, I mean it depends from the point of view you see it. I personally don't really care, if other people saw me nude, but I do share the same thing with some of you the family, haha they are very intolerant of the subject and the real thing, I even told them once that when they go to the shower do they shower with clothes on haha they don't reply, but I got one thing figured out some people when they see someone else naked they freak out, because they think of themselves naked too, and aren't quite comfortable with their bodies you know, in a way they feel exposed and don't really like it.

Well keep on writing guys I love reading all of your opinions!!!!!!!!!!!!

[naturalmanwa]

I go nude as often as is practical, and I am not embarrased but I don't wish to offend others or force my ways on them. I am nude at home or camping or the beach, but dress if necessary.

[Lorri]

my family know about my nudism and though they arent crazy about the idea, they do respect my right to be nude in my own personal space (ie my bedroom) and are also realistic enough to accept that i'm not gonna dress every time i leave my room.

so i have been naked around them, most often if someone wants to come in my room and i don't want to get dressed. and yeah, at first it was pretty weird, and kinda embarassing, sitting there talking to my mum, trying to act like it was totally normal that i was naked when we both know it wasnt. but i had been naked in front of them before during my life, so it wasn't a totally new thing, and since then the embarassment factor has gone down a heck of a lot.

[Petrus]

If I feel completely at ease with somebody when I am dressed, then I feel the same when nude. Actually I feel most comfortable in front of women. Today, I told yet another friend that I was normally nude at home and initially she seemed a bit surprised, but then mentioned that her husband goes around nude first thing- I cannot see the difference being nude at, say, 3 p.m. as opposed to 8am!

[DouglasG]

I'm sure many posters on here are in a similar position & might prefer to alter the question to better fit their circumstances, i.e. 'My house, my rules ...'. Thus, it becomes, How comfortable will your non-nudist friends be when they visit you & you're naked ..... which of course, probably none of us would do due to the negative feedback & image this would give of our preferred lifestyle.

Petrus' comment is so true, if you're comfortable nude in your own home at 7am, then why do you have to be dressed at 5pm? I'm sure many non nudists sleep nude or in mimimal clothing & think nothing of it, yet feel they can comment on our desire to NOT dress when we get up!

We need positive (I would have said better but ... most news articles relating to nudism tend to be either disparaging or portray nudists as somewhat eccentric/batty) media coverage of more nudist or nude friendly events & places whilst still excercising caution for the 'undesireable's' such things may sadly also attract.

[Argofan]

Unfortunetely at the moment I have not been able to, they realize and respect the fact I may have this chosen lifestyle, but as long as the house belongs to them, it creates a problem with me being naked outside my room in it right now.

Living in a nudist resort I'm often nude around what I assume are non-nudist people who come here for various reasons--to deliver, install, or repair something. I had different people here (though all men) to put in a phone line and install my dish for TV. I see delivery trucks going through here all the time. I have noticed, though, that ALL the delivery people are men. I assume that means the women won't come in here, or they fear for the women's "safety".

You will find that the great majority of those who deliver are men, and that isn't just the ones that service the nudist resorts. Same with people who install phone lines and cable. They rarely hire women for that.

I'm working part time as a courier and I get remarks a lot about that because some of my pick ups are heavy and they assume I can't do my job. So much for equality!

[NorthVanNudist]

I am comfortable nude in front of other people however, as my family were non-nudist, I think I would worry about my elderly parents discomfort should I suddenly be naked among them.

This is not a shyness thing, by any means (sitting here naked in front of the computer, while my non-nudist but tolerant wife is making breakfast). Unlike many, I didn't start by going naked at home when I was alone... I started by sneaking off and being naked with friends, and graduated to being naked alone.

I started enjoying nudity when I was about 10 years old, joining some of my friends who asked me if I wanted to come with them to the woods near our houses to "go naked". A short hike led to a large clearing, where we would take off all our clothes and play naked all day. While we did this most every warm day after that for a long while, it wasn't the sort of thing a bunch of 10 year old boys would tell their parents about (sort of a "secret" club thing, I guess). But I know I loved the feeling of being naked outdoors.

Occasionally if one of our families were out, we would get together and go naked at their house, sometimes daring each other to risk being seen by running out into the back yard and back, etc. But I didn't like that as much, as I didn't get much kick out of worrying about "being caught". So I don't know.. kind of a shame thing for a kid.

But it wasn't as if I could go home and tell my non-nudist parents I played naked with my friends in the woods and wanted to go without clothes at home. At 10 years old, that seemed impossible. Like some many others here, I did start going naked at home however, whenever the family was out. Bear in mind, at that tender age, I didn't even know there was such a thing as a nudist, or that thousands of others including adults felt the same way. And when I did find out about nudists/naturists (other than smirking references from friends), I guess too much water had passed under the bridge.

So decades later, my parents still don't know I am a nudist. I would not deny it, of course, if it ever came up. But I think it would still seem uncomfortable to be naked among them now.

Forgive the rambling... does this make any sense?

[NudeCatracho]

Hi there North VanNudist, yes it makes a lot of sense!! I remember when i was young my best friend and I where at the back of my house and we have a swimmong pool, I was aboutthe same age you were 10 and we went into the pool nude, now we didn;t run around or anything but we did it only once, since my family is always around.

I'm 22 now and my best friend and I areenjoying some nice nude time, this weekend we played a nude game of baseball jaja it was great, to feel the sun all over you but it had to be a quick game, since the neighboors were coming back to the house they can see the whole backyard, so we had to go in.

NICE STORY THANKS FOR SHARING IT!

[RainyDay]

I am very comfortable being naked around my non-nudist family, as are they around me. We all have the same attitude on nudity in that it is appropriate for certain activities like bathing, dressing and swimming.

[drv]

My parents were not nudists, though dad did walk around naked from time to time. My brothers and I were allowed to be nude at home when we wanted. My parents therefore know that I am a nudist and when they come over to visit unexpectedly, I have no problem answering the door nude and staying undressed.

[Phill_G]

my parents are non naturists and i have no problem being naked around them. my mum was a bit upset about it at first but over time she got used to it and grew to accept that i was going to walk around naked. I showed her some issues of Brittish Naturism magazine and she could see that naturism is something that is practiced by all types of people not just strange hippies or something. I even sun bathe nude in the garden when the english weather permits, without fear of my nieghbours. the best thing you can do is be open with people about naturism and most will accept it as something completley natural and non sexual.

[Fuzzy Nuts]

I am very comfortable with my nudity when on a nude beach or nude resort. However I have never been naked in front of my folks since I have grown up and they dont know that my wife and I are nudists. I am not going to rock their boat at this stage in their lives as they are quite elderly. How ever having said that I think they would not care. Also have not been naked in front of other friends or relatives unless we have met on a nude beach or resort.

[Peter_18]

Originally posted by Pieguy:
I am completely comfortable with my dad seeing me nude.

I used to change for swimming in a cubical thing, and my father would change outside. Now i'm 18 I also change outside. When I was younger I would never have done this ever. Going to swimming Club / Team trainning has helped my confidence. I still shower with my shorts on ,but can change dry standing naked.

[bnudes]

I think I'll be fine around non nudist family members once i'm able to let it be known I'm a nudist. A few months back I didnt feel like this but the longer i'm a nudist the more comfortable I am with my body and the idea that others will see it.

[Fuzzy Nuts]

Peter 66 _ Please tell why on earth you shower with your shorts on and yet dont mind being naked to dry off.

[Bare in the Desert]

Hello everyone!, I just want to know, because i found out a friend of mine who is a nudist is naked among his family, which are non-nudists and I found it amaizing, because I wouldn't be comfortable with my family seeing me naked, don't know why, but I would love to know if the rest of you have nudist families and How do you teach your children to practice nudity?


Im comfortable around my immediate family even with our oldest being a non-nudist. But I don't think I can be nude around the rest of my family because they aren't quite as open minded about nudity.

[comicsfan2001]

It is not an issue as I am not aware that there is anything sinful or shameful about my body.
My son, not a nudist, is in his twenties, and does not live at home. On the rare times when he shows up unannounced and I am nude, I am okay with that.

My daughter, in her late teens, also not a nudist, does live at home when she is not away at college. I am, again comfortable being nude while she is home.

Comicsfan

[NudeTopher]

Originally posted by Peter_18:
I still shower with my shorts on ,but can change dry standing naked.

Peter, how did you get in the habit of showering with your shorts on? I'm really wondering WHY you would even start to shower with your shorts on. You can't even get all of the chlorine off yourself. (I'm not making fun of ya..I'm really trying to understand)

[G I Joe]

I would love to be able to be nude around anyone, any time, at any place. But it will never happen. My parents are gone now, but they would have been horrified. My sister would laugh herself to death if I appeard nude in front of her. It would totally embarrass my son (36), yet, my daughter (34) would probably be "OK" with it after she finished laughing! She is single and much more open minded. Obviously, my family was non-nudist and I never saw my parents naked. I wish I could go back and raise my kids to the joy of being nude and unashamed. Oh, well, it took me over 50 years to discover it myself.

[Backyardswimmer]

Originally posted by NudeCatracho:
Hi guys, wow I'm so excited to see that finally I got more than 10 replies on the forum haha.
I'm surpirsed how some of you say that you can offend people by being nude, I mean it depends from the point of view you see it. I personally don't really care, if other people saw me nude, but I do share the same thing with some of you the family, haha they are very intolerant of the subject and the real thing, I even told them once that when they go to the shower do they shower with clothes on haha they don't reply, but I got one thing figured out some people when they see someone else naked they freak out, because they think of themselves naked too, and aren't quite comfortable with their bodies you know, in a way they feel exposed and don't really like it.

Well keep on writing guys I love reading all of your opinions!!!!!!!!!!!!

[nudeboyaz14]

my family are nudists so its not a problem,but i have no problem being naked around my friends who are not nudists

[ryan_k]

Voted, no way! Not just yet, but one day I will.

[shaneone]

I am comfortable enough with it, but I respect the fact that none of my family members practice social nudism, so when I am at their homes or they visit me, I cover up

[Laura Lopez]

I'm very comfortable being naked with my family, even when they are non nudist, just because they respect me and they don't feel uncomfortable with me being naked in their presence.
That's just a matter of respect.

[Jason Lee]

I don‘t feel comfortable being naked/nude among my non nudist family.

[bill2me]

I was raised in a mostly modest home and raised my family the same way. By mostly modest I mean very little nudity at home. I always knew that the nudist lifestyle interested me but I was too uptight to explore it. In the last several years the nudist topic has come up at home and the children (who are all in their 20s now) know that I have been naked on the beach more the once and that I sleep naked. I just don't walk around the house that way simply because no one in our home does.

[funfrog]

i to voted the first one . i would have no problem woith being nude in front of my family or any of my closed friends , being nude in front of my family is no big deeal . we used to go the the gmy all the time and it was no big thing if i saw my father nude .whe nwe wher at home we would be nude al the time . no one would make an issue of the weay our bodys looked Originally posted by nudeM:
Nice poll. I voted for the first one, "Yes I feel comfortaable." I have no problems of being nude in front of non-nudes here at home, UNTIL the daughter shows up. She is totally against it, so I cover up when she is here.

I will cover up when the Son's friends come over so not to attract any attention to myself and to avoid any possible harassments towards my Son from his friends.

Nice poll. http://oakhurstonline.com/icon/tongue.gif

[nakedstudent]

I'm just not ready to share it yet. Only time will tell if I ever am. I know it's nothing to be ashamed about... but I hear constantly about kids who let their parents and family know about their sexuality and their relationships are never the same again. I know their are some differences between sexuality and nudity... but I am still just not ready to take the chance...

[JohnE44]

I would not have a problem with it I told my sister last year she was ok with it she was too shy and could not do it but I was the one nude she did not care. Most of the time she calls before coming over so it has not happened yeat,and my wifes side she said that most of them would not care but she rather I be cough buy them.

[wickptw]

like i voted... dont care if they see me...if they are bothered, their problem.

[Richi]

Well if your from a so called normal family (and everyone seems American here, so that might mean something different) then if being yourself means without clothes, then you were probably not able to totally be yourself at home, except for in private. Then when you are a student you just arent always dressed in your place and dont even register it...

so when you go home you might just be in that mind still and not care so much...until you nearly run into someone and remember that you cant totally be yourself because now its like your parents house and not just your house any more, so you are more like a guest.
That makes sense for me, you just slightly consider that its not your place and, even though your family might not care, you probably push the door to a little more. Or if your like me you start to not care and just go around naken in the at night and in the morning and assume people are elsewhere, maybe pop downstairs to see where anyone is if you have to get dressed.
My girlfriend is German, and it seems that you dont have such distinctions over there...nude is a state of dress which is not something to hide at all...and this has nothing to do with being a naturist (cant speak for all of course) just general open attitude. My girlfriend will come with me to the spa or sauna, but I guess only stays dressed at the lake because she wont swim in it...as much as am part of the family, she wouldnt want me going around her family home like I do in her student place.
That sounds like an other thread...or lets hear your stories on girlfriend boyfriend attitudes and their families?

Richi

[nudenwv]

i would feel comfortable being nude in front of family members as long as i didn't have to hear any negative feed back from them. i feel comfortable in front of my wife. my daughter chose not to see her dad nude so that was fine. nudist that come to visit know i will answer the door nude even if they choose not to be nude. when textiles come to visit i'm counting down the minutes til i can be comfortable again.

[Riot.EXE]

sorry. not happening.

[Borntobenude]

Nope, I wouldn't be. I know how they feel about it, so I wouldn't. Everyone knows his or her own family, so only they know their views on it and how they would respond. I wear clothes when I go to visit them, and considering it's for a relatively short amount of time, and considering I don't have to wear clothes at all once I get back home, it's not really a problem for me.

[Joethenudist]

I dont know how i would feel around my non-nudist family but i think that i would feel comfortable but they would not.

[MrNaturist]

[QUOTE=nudenwv;173692]i would feel comfortable being nude in front of family members as long as i didn't have to hear any negative feed back from them.
If they have negative feed back, they are told to leave

i feel comfortable in front of my wife.
I am a widow now!

my daughter chose not to see her dad nude so that was fine.
I have no daughter, my son and daughter in law except my nudity without question!

nudist that come to visit know i will answer the door nude even if they choose not to be nude. when textiles come to visit i'm counting down the minutes til i can be comfortable again.

I live in a resort now, but before I moved here I had signs in my yard placed so it would be impossible to missunderstand the fact that I was a nudist and their being there was at that their own risk and exceptance of this fact!

[Pete Knight]

Not at all, as they would be uncomfortable with my nudity therefore it would make me uncomfortable.

None of my family are nudists, well none of my close family are, not sure about my cousin in San Diego though as I haven't seen him in years.

Pete Knight

[Stu2630]

It's odd that nudists may be perfectly OK with being naked in front of countless strangers yet they could never do it in the presence of their own offspring. I'll have to think about that one. :smoking:

Pete

Not at all, as they would be uncomfortable with my nudity therefore it would make me uncomfortable.

Hmm. Your nudity could make them uncomfortable so it would make you uncomfortable so you wouldn't do it. Good! Now extend that principle beyond your family to the wider public.

Stu

[Pete Knight]

Pete

Hmm. Your nudity could make them uncomfortable so it would make you uncomfortable so you wouldn't do it. Good! Now extend that principle beyond your family to the wider public.

I'm never in as close proximity to members of the public as I am with my familt, I'm no Dickie Collins, I enjoy my nude moments but I regret the lack of opportunity, you know where I stand.

Pete Knight

P.S. Are you still working near Sheffield?

[Stu2630]

Pete

I'm no Dickie Collins

Glad to hear it. ;)

you know where I stand.

Yup - but not too close to me without your kit on. shocked

P.S. Are you still working near Sheffield?

Yes, but not for much longer. I'm having a few months off (sabbatical to write an academic paper) and my new job in Roskilde starts next summer. My invitation for the 2009 festival still stands, so long and Mrs Stu and myself have managed to buy a house there.

Stu

[Pete Knight]

Yes, but not for much longer. I'm having a few months off (sabbatical to write an academic paper) and my new job in Roskilde starts next summer. My invitation for the 2009 festival still stands, so long and Mrs Stu and myself have managed to buy a house there.

Stu
watch out for the annual naked race, we can't have you overcome with annual apoplexy now can we.

Pete Knight

[NudistMetalHead]

I wish I could be naked in front of my non-nudist family. But they are uptight. So I can only be nude in my own home when my brother isn't home.

[phay]

well today i told my family i am a naturist and went nude in front of them for the first time, it felt ok, i was nervous, but they are being alright about it at the moment. i will have to dress if guests visit, we are giving it a month to see how it goes:)

[mb420s]

I am very comfortable nude in front of my family. I was one of two boys and when my brother and I were 11 and 13 (he was older) we started sleeping nude. It didn't take long for our parents to discover we were sleeping nude. When confronted my brother and I just said we liked to sleep nude and in fact would prefer not to have to wear clothes around the house. It took a number of months for my parents to get comfortable with the idea but eventually they told us we did not have to wear clothes at home unless company was over. I am in my mid 20's and when my parents come over I do not even bother to put anything on to open the door. Of course when my brother comes over he is naked practically before I close the door.

[florida-david]

I am very comfortable nude in front of my family. I was one of two boys and when my brother and I were 11 and 13 (he was older) we started sleeping nude. It didn't take long for our parents to discover we were sleeping nude. When confronted my brother and I just said we liked to sleep nude and in fact would prefer not to have to wear clothes around the house. It took a number of months for my parents to get comfortable with the idea but eventually they told us we did not have to wear clothes at home unless company was over. I am in my mid 20's and when my parents come over I do not even bother to put anything on to open the door. Of course when my brother comes over he is naked practically before I close the door.

That is great the relationship you have with your brother. I am sometimes naked with my brother and his young son (5 years old), but my brother stays clothed as we are usually with my family and he does not feel comfortable to be naked around others apprently. My brother and i have seen each other naked our whole lives as we shared a room in hot South Florida with no a/c. My brother has gotten more conservative with nudism lately, not sure why.
My immediate family sees me naked everyday and my father has seen me naked lately after my outside shower (everyone knows i shower outside). My sister in law accidentally saw me naked when i was cleaning the pool and she showed up in the house un-announced. My sister and her boyfriend saw me naked at Sunsport's Mid-Winter Naturist festival. So it seems everyone has seen me naked (nothing too exciting actually), except my sister's daughters...

[Rends-Metal]

As for family I think I've only ever been nude in front of one sister in law, but she was nude at the resort with the wife and I too, so it wasn't a big deal. I wouldn't mind trying it with others in the family, most are spooked to even try it however. One other sister in law is willing to try it, so we'll see.

As for family I think I've only ever been nude in front of one sister in law, but she was nude at the resort with the wife and I too, so it wasn't a big deal. I wouldn't mind trying it with others in the family, most are spooked to even try it however. One other sister in law is willing to try it, so we'll see.

[wingshot]

Still not comfortable enough to do it in front of them..

[Dail17]

yea, I don't think it'll ever happen. And like someone else in the thread said, I'm not really that interested in the prospect anyway.

[218]

Since the original poll options no longer exist I do not know what the responses were.

When I lived at home I was clothed all the time and slept in pyjamas. My curiosity in naturism first started when I was at university, still living at home, and I would strip down and be nude if my parents were away or I could guarantee being on my own.

I have not seen my parents naked since I was about 8 or so but did occasionally see my older sister up until about the age of 13 or so.

Now I live on my own I spend a fair amount of time with nothing on. Mainly doing chores and surfing the net. I have been known to work from home with nothing on. I have not told anyone and see no reason to. The only person I would be comfortable telling, rather bizarrely, is my sister as we have quite a close relatioanship.

Thanks

[John-The-Great]

My family is not nudist therefore I wouldnt be comfortable being naked around them.

[blackrebel]

Family? No.

Friends? most of them yes.

Many of them know but I dont impose it on them. If I change it may be with the door open but not in clear view.

I have had no negative backlash.

[nakeduni]

While my friends know I go to nude beaches, I wouldn't be comfortable nude with them, unless they are nude themselves. I wouldn't be comfortable being nude in front of people who would be uncomfortable with the idea.

[benakkied]

If everyone was ok with being naked it would be ok with me and my friend. But to be the only one naked is uncomfortable for me. It's an unstated I object . I'm not nude so I do not agree with you. My sister just laughs uncontrolably and say's just wait until I lose this weight.I told her about going to Toronto for the weekend and going to the beach or a resort on the way. She wants to go and try the life style. But we all would be uncomfortable if she or whom ever else went would not do as were doing. We went sailng with friends last summer they stripped but we did not it felt strange until we striped.

[Jeffreeofclothes]

Family doesn't know i'm a naturist.

[jedinudist]

I'm fine with it.

[haystack]

:i guess that in some ways i am lucky that i have no familey members left so can be naked when i want whivh is most of the time unless i have to go out and my girlfriend is keen on the idea and when she visits i can be naked and she sometimes joins me no proplem

[dakref]

Since I am the only one in my family who has discovered the joy of being nude, I would not be comfortable being nude around anyone except my wife.

[NudeJanice]

I have been nude in front of my husband, brother and sister-in-law while they were dressed. It was strange at first but worth it because now I am comfortable that way around them. Could never go nude in front of my parents though.

[rgpilot]

i am pretty sure my mom knows and has seen me before whether it has been running between the shower or sleeping. i dont think that i could go before them in my state of undress knowingly. my girlfriend on the other hand has no problem with my nudity and encourages it, if only she would partake more often.

[pault413]

I am confortable being nude around others. My wife is totally against me being nude around the children. The children, 17 yo son and 19 yo daughter, are not comfortable with me being nude around them. Therefore, I am only nude when around my wife or by myself.

[xLOUx]

I respect their choice and I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. I believe nudity is natural, but not everyone see it that way. So as a form of respect, I don't go nude with family or non nudist friends. I do not care if my parents, siblings or anyone sees me nude but I still respect them.

I try to balance the textile needs of society with my bare necessities. Balance and respect don't hurt anyone! :)

Just my 2 cents,
Lou

[Georgia_Nude]

I have recently gone nude in front of both my mother and my father, both have no problem with it. It took a little bit of time to work up the courage to do so, but afterwards the apprehension went away and now I don't mind it at all.

[Bobby Hill]

I have recently gone nude in front of both my mother and my father, both have no problem with it. It took a little bit of time to work up the courage to do so, but afterwards the apprehension went away and now I don't mind it at all.

would you mind if they were nude around you?

[ParaNude]

Around our house and in front of our children is not a problem. I try to maintain a sense of reason with them i.e. when it's cold you need clothes, when it's hot then we need to wear them when people visit or if we're out in the front yard. I think too much one way or the other loses that balance that is so important.

My own family knows of my preferences, but certainly don't pass any negative judgement, some I think may be a little intrigued. Nonetheless it's important to me to respect everyone's concerns and I won't push my belief system their way through my actions.

I do wish my family had been more open and relaxed about occasional nudity whilst I was growing up, perhaps then I wouldn't have had to spend all these years trying to resolve something I know is good against something that was inaccurately instilled into me as wrong. I find teaching my kids about physiology, social expectations, personal space and appropriate behaviour is so very easy as their natural curiousities crop up as they grow.

[Georgia_Nude]

would you mind if they were nude around you?

I did discuss the issue with my mother and came to the conclusion of 'no.' Part of my reasoning behind the decision was that if I were to hope or expect for them to accept / allow me to go nude around the house or in front of them, that it would be foolish and closed-minded (not to mention self-centered) of me to not accept / allow the same for them, should they so choose to do so. At the same time, in past points in my life growing up I saw both of them nude anyway, so it would not be anything that I wouldn't already have seen or be comfortable with.

[ChristineF83]

My mom and dad know I tend to be nude around my house most of the time, so they expect it and I don't have a problem with it. My sister and brother-in-law come over all the time to use our jacuzzi, and they're actually the ones who talked me into my first nude outing, so it should go without saying I'm comfortable in front of them. It's a fair trade... they use my jacuzzi in the winter, and I use their swimming pool in the summer....:laugh:

[nude-i-am]

My family is not aware that I enjoy going nude. Probably the biggest reason I havent told them is because we were raised and taught it was wrong to be nude in front of others. So I keep my nudism to my home and once in a while I visit a nudist resort.

[NatureFred]

Our kids (16 & 18) know their Mom and I use the hot-tub nude (at night after they've gone to bed) and seem to find it somewhere between laughable and icky. I think they know I've been to a CO resort a few times, but given their attitude toward the hot-tub, I haven't made a point of telling them. As to my parents, I assume they would give me a hard time about it if they knew--they spent my childhood giving me a hard time about my body, why should they stop now? So I don't tell them.

My brother and his wife--if they were OK with it, I'd spend naked time with them, but I have no idea whether they'd be OK with it. We live on opposite sides of North America. Likewise, I'd be comfortable with my wife's family, but we rarely spend time with them, even clothed.

I guess I'd say, I'd be comfortable being naked with anyone who was comfortable with me being naked. Whether they were clothed or naked themselves makes no big difference to me. I'd LOVE to be naked with any of my friends, but so far the occasion hasn't come about (except that one time when I was an extra in a movie. . . see elsewhere on this forum for THAT story!).

[pault413]

As I stated back in March, I am very comfortable being nude. My daughter and her girlfriend found out just how comfortable when they "caught me napping on the living room couch last week. Her girlfriend actually joined me in watching some TV with me. My daughter was horrified at my nudity.

[JeepNude]

I can't imagine how this would be handled by someone who grew up in a textile family (I wasn't). Please help me if you were.

Recently, my wife's parents were at our house and her mom kept getting up and turning the temperature lower and lower because she was hot. Keep in mind, she was wearing sweat pants and a sweat shirt over her T-shirt and shoes and a hat. It was 100 degrees outside. She kept turning the thermostat down lower and lower. Eventually, she had the thermostat down to 50! The air conditioner was running hard to cool the whole house when I finally had enough and told her that if she was hot, take some clothes off, I didn't want to take out a mortgage just to pay the power bill!!! She got real mad and told me she had morals. Meaning, she believes I do not (I am a horrible nudist, afterall). I got up and left. I informed my wife that I would return home AFTER they left. And, whenever they come over, I find something else to do away from the house.

This has been brewing for almost 20 years. Get this- When my wife's parents found out (18 years ago) I took her to a nude resort, they FORBID her to go anymore! HA ha! As if she is still a little kid. Well, she does go, but doesn't say anything.

So, here's the dilemma... Her parents live over an hour's drive from here. They visit rarely. But, am I wrong for bailing out when they do visit? Am I wrong for saying something when the AC is turned down so low so her mom can 'bulk up' in layers? We so rarely use the AC, our power bill is usually low. After her parents visit, the power bill for that month is easily $50 or $60 higher. Am I wrong?? I would never, ever tell my wife that her parents are unwelcome, so I don't want to go there. I just make myself disappear if they are coming. And, I make wisecracks about the immorality statements whenever the opportunity arises. Wife says 'let it go'. My brain says 'it's your house, your were disrespected in your home, fight back!'. What to do?

[MrNaturist]

I can't imagine how this would be handled by someone who grew up in a textile family (I wasn't). Please help me if you were.

Recently, my wife's parents were at our house and her mom kept getting up and turning the temperature lower and lower because she was hot. Keep in mind, she was wearing sweat pants and a sweat shirt over her T-shirt and shoes and a hat. It was 100 degrees outside. She kept turning the thermostat down lower and lower. Eventually, she had the thermostat down to 50! The air conditioner was running hard to cool the whole house when I finally had enough and told her that if she was hot, take some clothes off, I didn't want to take out a mortgage just to pay the power bill!!! She got real mad and told me she had morals. Meaning, she believes I do not (I am a horrible nudist, afterall). I got up and left. I informed my wife that I would return home AFTER they left. And, whenever they come over, I find something else to do away from the house.

This has been brewing for almost 20 years. Get this- When my wife's parents found out (18 years ago) I took her to a nude resort, they FORBID her to go anymore! HA ha! As if she is still a little kid. Well, she does go, but doesn't say anything.

So, here's the dilemma... Her parents live over an hour's drive from here. They visit rarely. But, am I wrong for bailing out when they do visit? Am I wrong for saying something when the AC is turned down so low so her mom can 'bulk up' in layers? We so rarely use the AC, our power bill is usually low. After her parents visit, the power bill for that month is easily $50 or $60 higher. Am I wrong?? I would never, ever tell my wife that her parents are unwelcome, so I don't want to go there. I just make myself disappear if they are coming. And, I make wisecracks about the immorality statements whenever the opportunity arises. Wife says 'let it go'. My brain says 'it's your house, your were disrespected in your home, fight back!'. What to do?

Some people would concider me to be wrong, but my thoughts would to kill power at curcuit breaker to the ac. If this don't get the point across, flip main breaker and pull it!
I would be damned if my inlaws would run my household, wife could leave with them if she had any problem with my decissions.

[naturalmanwa]

I think it's your house and you pay the bills--therefore you have the right to control the temperature. Put a locking control over the thermostat or turn off the power in the breaker box. If people are too warm, especially in 100 degree heat, perhaps they should wear light clothing instead of heavy sweats!

Perhaps your wife can help out here so as to avoid alienating yourself from her parents. Her support is important and perhaps your MIL will listen to her.

[papanudist]

I would set down with my wife and in-laws and say we need to have a talk. Tell them you can stay dressed when they visit and will keep the temp turned down some for their comfort. On the other hand please do not adjust the temp without asking as that is as rude as going into the room and turning the tv channel. Let them know if she respects your wishes you will do the same. She also needs to know you are both adults and can live your lifestyle the way you want.

[nakedjohn]

Jeepnude, remember who pays the mortgage.....you and your wife do.....so you set together the rules and stick with it.

[JeepNude]

Thank you for all the advice!

MrNaturist- Excellent idea! I will be doing just that. I can flip the breaker off and lock the panel before I go. That would have saved me from the last couple times of coming home to a 55 degree house! Thank you!!

naturalmanwa- Excellent point. Wife is supportive of me, she doesn't get at all upset that I boycott her folks. She tells me to go chill out at the lake or take the Jeep somewhere unmapped and sends me a text when they are gone.

papanudist- You are right. That is what we should do. I will see about arranging the meeting. Thank you.

nakedjohn- There is no mortgage. I built this house by the sweat of my brow and paid as I went over 5 years while working one of the most time consuming jobs I ever had in my life. So, not only do I feel like I own it- I gave my health for it, I built it and feel down to my DNA that it is my home. I am very protective of it! Sure, I subbed a lot of it out... But I drove screws (built with screws- no nails), pulled wire, laid carpet, lino, drywall, paint, plumbing, did the roofing, etc. There isn't a part of this house I was not at least partly involved in, if not the sole laborer for the task.

Like I said, growing up in a nude family has skewed my way of thinking on many things, like this. I brought it here to get some perspective from some 'normal' people. You know what I mean!!

As for our meeting,- First thing would probably be to address her mom's opinion that I am immoral. For a dedicated Christian guy that has never even had so much as a speeding ticket, I don't see how my natural state could possibly be misunderstood as immoral. Your opinion?


Thanks again all. It means a lot to me.

[NudeAl]

Jeepnude,

I say your house your rules now it would be wise to include your wifes opinions regarding the matter her parents etc. But I fully undersatnd where you are coming from on the whole AC/electric bill thing. I say after talking to your wife explain since i t is your house and you pay the bills the AC settings will not be tampered with with out your consent. Plus who the hell wears' sweats over T-shirt and shorts on days when it is over 100?

In my house we are nude most of the time in summer and leave the windows open at night to cool things and then shut them during the hotest times of the day we can tolerate a temp of 85 or so inside the house. Conversely I hear the neighbors AC unit kicking on at least once or twice an hour, man I would hate to have their electric bill.

[Hoosiers]

Would be so nice to be able to be nude in the house most of the time...we have too many people (mostly the kids friends) coming in and out for that unfortunatly.

[nakedjohn]

JeepNude,

congrats in building your own place. I will be honest with everybody here, I could not do it.

[TheNorm]

JeepNude, it seems pretty obvious that your mother-in-law was uncomfortable with your being nude and tried to create an environment that would force you to put your clothes on. (She probably thought she was being subtle.) Having been brought up in a nudist home, there's probably no way for you to really understand the depth of her phobia, but you've already seen the intensity. My suggestion would be to talk it over with your wife and come to some agreement for what the rules are when her parents visit. This may not be a popular sentiment on this forum, but IMHO, nudity should NEVER force families apart.

As for NudeAl's comment about "my house, my rules," I don't think that would ever fly in my home. I have to negotiate with my wife. :D

[andy_ma]

I had a big surprise this summer. My father came to visit, a non-nudist, this summer. I have been going nude since 1986. As I have described elsewhere in the forum, after going nude for so long, I get depressed and sort of cranky when I have to wear clothes for a long period of time. It was good to see my father, but I didn't want to have to contain my nudity to my room during his visit. I've read other posts where people suggest discussing it with their family, parents, etc. and never thought I would be able to do that. However, I turned 40 this year and I think it has given me that "who cares" attitude and decided to have a casual conversation with my father when he arrived. Long story short, he was fine with it. It wasn't something that he wanted to try (and I never push that on anybody), but he didn't care if I was nude. So, during the second night of his visit, I took my shower and stayed nude. I went into the livingroom where he was watching TV. I think he was a little surprised that I actually came out nude, we both laughed (it just seemed silly I think to either of us to be embarrassed) and the rest is history. He basically felt that it was my house and I should proceed as normal. I don't know what it will be like when I go to visit him, but he was certainly great about it while visiting in my home. Some times, honesty is the best policy.

[JeepNude]

Thank you for the comments Al, John, and Norm.

Al, I agree with you! However, since she is my lovely wife's mother, I can't rule with an iron fist. My wife doesn't demand that my own mom put up with this or that when she visits, so it would be unfair for me to demand otherwise from hers. But, believe me, brother- I am with you!

John, I will never, ever do that again! I think it took at least 10 years off of my life building this house. Man, I had chest pains, days of depression, you name it. Mostly because of dealing with the county bureaucracy and all the surprise expenses that needed to be paid yesterday to do the next step scheduled today. Inspectors, etc. were killing me! I am often asked if I am glad I did it. Honestly, no. If I had it to do over, I would have looked for a house already built that may have needed only simple remodeling to get what we exactly wanted.

Norm, After reading your comments last week, I took your advice. Thank you! As you suggested, the wife and I have had the talk. The wife asked me if she should have her mom apologize to me, etc. I said 'no', she was expressing her feelings openly, and I always respect that. I informed the wife that when her parents come over, I am not going to stop what I am doing to entertain them, and I should not change my state of (un)dress either. She said it should not be a big deal to just slip into some shorts, and she said her parents express agreement with that (nice to hear she already discussed it with THEM.. ug.). I said that if they are planning on a short visit, I agree it is not a big deal to slip into some shorts. However, if they plan on staying all day or more, that is unrealistic. That is the big point of contention right now. But, I did win one- I will NOT be expected to dress in the pool! Her parents have been informed of this and expressed their disagreement. I said it would be fair to compromise. I will wear clothing in and around the house, just not the pool. They are unwilling to compromise, so they are not allowed over until they do. Her mom is being a bee-awt-ch!!

To the non-nudist, or new-nudist, this may sound a little petty and ridiculous. To me, they are telling me how to live in MY home that I built with my own two hands. I don't want to give the impression I am a militant nudist or anything, far from it. I am just so strongly against being told what to do in my home (right on, Al !!!). If I don't live in clothes everyday, why do it when the wife's parents come over? As with any company, I will dress in the home if they are uncomfortable, I gave that much. But in the pool??!! No way!

Wife's parents think I'm nuts. I think this probably makes me more sane than anyone they have ever met. I will not compromise my home for anybody. What's next? Allow satan worship in my home because a guest wants it? Allow pornography in my home because a guest wants it? Allow illegal drugs in my home? Hey, you have to draw a line in the sand somewhere. I did. The subject isn't important, the dedication to my family and home is.

You guys have no idea how much your comments and suggestions help. You just see this as words on a forum, and a place to share stories. I assure you, this digital communication scheme does change lives. Thank you in the most sincere means possible.

[Home Nudist]

JeepNude, I know it can put a strain between you and the wife, but I really think it's "your house, your rules."

Like you, I abhor being told what to do, especially in my own home. I think you've been more than willing to compromise. As you said, "What's next to accommodate a guest?"

In my opinion, your in-laws are being CONTROLING, especially if, as you state, they've known you are a nudist for almost 20 years. They should get over it -- and themselves.

They're wrong, and I wouldn't let them have their way. Stand your ground. If they don't want to visit on your terms, then, they can stay home.

I don't know what your wife's position on all this is, but an adult is supposed to leave her parents and cling to her spouse. If she's forced to choose sides, then, she should side with you. But yeah, I know, words are easy.

Maybe the wife should deliver the ultimatum to them (if she hasn't already) as to what you will and NOT do to accommodate them.

And, maybe wife should be reminded that the two of you are ADULTS, and that you don't need the permission of ANYONE to live your lives as you see fit.

Good luck.

[Croydon]

Thank you for the comments Al, John, and Norm.

Al, I agree with you! However, since she is my lovely wife's mother, I can't rule with an iron fist. My wife doesn't demand that my own mom put up with this or that when she visits, so it would be unfair for me to demand otherwise from hers. But, believe me, brother- I am with you!

John, I will never, ever do that again! I think it took at least 10 years off of my life building this house. Man, I had chest pains, days of depression, you name it. Mostly because of dealing with the county bureaucracy and all the surprise expenses that needed to be paid yesterday to do the next step scheduled today. Inspectors, etc. were killing me! I am often asked if I am glad I did it. Honestly, no. If I had it to do over, I would have looked for a house already built that may have needed only simple remodeling to get what we exactly wanted.

Norm, After reading your comments last week, I took your advice. Thank you! As you suggested, the wife and I have had the talk. The wife asked me if she should have her mom apologize to me, etc. I said 'no', she was expressing her feelings openly, and I always respect that. I informed the wife that when her parents come over, I am not going to stop what I am doing to entertain them, and I should not change my state of (un)dress either. She said it should not be a big deal to just slip into some shorts, and she said her parents express agreement with that (nice to hear she already discussed it with THEM.. ug.). I said that if they are planning on a short visit, I agree it is not a big deal to slip into some shorts. However, if they plan on staying all day or more, that is unrealistic. That is the big point of contention right now. But, I did win one- I will NOT be expected to dress in the pool! Her parents have been informed of this and expressed their disagreement. I said it would be fair to compromise. I will wear clothing in and around the house, just not the pool. They are unwilling to compromise, so they are not allowed over until they do. Her mom is being a bee-awt-ch!!

To the non-nudist, or new-nudist, this may sound a little petty and ridiculous. To me, they are telling me how to live in MY home that I built with my own two hands. I don't want to give the impression I am a militant nudist or anything, far from it. I am just so strongly against being told what to do in my home (right on, Al !!!). If I don't live in clothes everyday, why do it when the wife's parents come over? As with any company, I will dress in the home if they are uncomfortable, I gave that much. But in the pool??!! No way!

Wife's parents think I'm nuts. I think this probably makes me more sane than anyone they have ever met. I will not compromise my home for anybody. What's next? Allow satan worship in my home because a guest wants it? Allow pornography in my home because a guest wants it? Allow illegal drugs in my home? Hey, you have to draw a line in the sand somewhere. I did. The subject isn't important, the dedication to my family and home is.

You guys have no idea how much your comments and suggestions help. You just see this as words on a forum, and a place to share stories. I assure you, this digital communication scheme does change lives. Thank you in the most sincere means possible.
Jeep, I think you have every right to be offended and upset by your in-law's behavior and judgement.

When they were in your home, they were GUESTS. They should have asked either you or your wife to change the air conditioner (after all, you are paying the bill), and her comment about morality was uncalled for.

The rule is simple: to respect you in your own home. Your wife did the right thing by telling them that their behavior was uncalled for. Your accommodating during their stay and at some point, you have to be comfortable in your own home.

I have been in your situation before. Everyone in my family, including my aunts and uncles, dread the visit by my grandmother (their mother). She is pushy, opinionated, and just difficult to please. My aunts and uncles have to work out deals as to who has to put her up.

When I lived home, whenever she visited, I just did not make myself available. I either stayed with friends for the time being or just did not stay home all day.

[JeepNude]

You guys are the BEST!

As I type this, I am home alone. The wife's parents came up to go to dinner. I stayed behind. The wife wanted to talk to them!

This can be good or this can be bad... I hope it turns out good.

BTW, when they arrived, we had just got home froma short Jeep trip (some sightseeing) and I was hot so I stripped and jumped in the pool. They pulled up about 5 minutes after I jumped in, so I was swimming. They must have 'known' because they did not even come over to say hi. They waved from a distance.

I just hope they are not hitting my wife up for money again. Wife is a full-time student right now. Guess who would actually be paying for that?? I hate when that happens.

[naturalmanwa]

I hope things work out OK for you. Having the wife's support is mandatory for success. As far as being crazy, as 'ol Waylon put it in a song of his---"It keeps me from goin' insane"!

[JeepNude]

Follow up-

I'm not sure much changed after their little dinner meeting last night.

BUT- Before they were getting ready to leave, they walked in the room where I was watching TV and made it a point to tell me they do not think I am 'immoral'. I almost laughed when I explained to them I was not angry at them, I was just unwilling to do exactly as they say while I am in my home. I told them I will slip into some shorts while they are visiting out of respect to them, but NO way I am going to dress in the pool. If that is not enough compromise for them, then they have a problem.

An admission came about that my wife's dad goes nude at his home all the time (big deal), and that he understands. Wife's mom still will not bend. So, we parted at that.

The good news is, they know I still love them and respect them as the parents of my wife. And, they know where I stand. Just because I gave them an inch (agreed to shorts in the house), I am not giving any more than that. Now it is their turn to give.

This is all so petty! I am almost embarrassed at my childish behavior, although I know I have to take a stand now or never.

[Home Nudist]

This is all so petty! I am almost embarrassed at my childish behavior, although I know I have to take a stand now or never.
You're right, it is petty. But, that's what families do to one another at times.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You are being a lot kinder than I would be. I would have been tempted to throw mom-in-law out (or at least tell her off) when she started fiddling with the thermostat, in a passive-aggressive attempt to make you uncomfortable and get dressed. That's just ballsy! No one has the right to help themselves to your thermostat. If they're uncomfortable (or pretend to be), they should ASK if you can adjust the temperature.

By the way, through all of this nonsense, you imply that they also hit you up for money? They don't approve of your life style, but they'll take your money? That's beyond ballsy!

Remind me to submit your name for Beatification. That's the first step to Sainthood!

[JeepNude]

Ha ha! You are too kind! I don't qualify for sainthood, but I sure do try.

I have bailed them out twice so far. Both times, their home was going into foreclosure, and I bailed them out. To this day, I would still bail them out if I have the means, that is what family does. They may not be my blood relatives, but they are still family. Money is just money, I will make more.

You are right about the passive-aggressive thing with the thermostat, but seriously, she was getting overheated. She was all sweating and red faced. Of course, when you come to a hot hilltop all dressed in sweatshirt over t-shirt, long pants, etc, you have to assume you will get overheated! Any sane person would. Keep in mind, she is also overweight, which makes her hot most of the time anyway. So, add the extra layers of clothes and the triple digit outdoor temps, and she was hot. Duh! I wonder why...

Now, I never suggested she get nude, I know better than that. I just suggested she remove some layers. At least get down to t-shirt and pants, or possibly underwear or something. Sheesh! But, no- she keeps her sweatshirt on (to cover her fat rolls which she is so self-conscious about) and wants to turn the AC down to 50 degrees. Not on my dime you don't!

I told my wife about shutting off the circuit breaker to the AC system when her mom comes over and I got the dirtiest look ever. I should have called the Sheriff for the dagger-eyes she gave me over that one. I also told her about this thread and all you guys helping me out with this 'counseling', and she thought it was dumb that I would even mention this to others for advice, let alone take the advice you guys have graciously given. But, she understood and was ultimately supportive.

[NudeAl]

Glad to hear you have reached a compromise. I really think you were the bigger man in all this. I mean it is quite arrogant to suppose you can tell someone how to live in thier own home. I think the arrangment is very generous they don't have to see you nude and yet you retained the most important thing the principal that a mans home is his castle.

[alan1973]

My sister who knows my wife and I are nudists, has come by our house and even came in for a few minutes while we were nude. My wife went to get a robe and brought me a pair of shorts and my sister said not to get dressed on her account and it was our house. She has been nude around me back before I got married, but she is not a full fleged nudist yet.

[Pete Knight]

I had a mother-in-law like that, she didn't confront me but fought her battle through my wife (Now ex.) and I believe it was a contributory factor to the demise of my marriage, but if I had the chance all over again I still wouldn't allow her to rule my household, its bad enough that the father-in-law suffered, there is no way I would allow someone else to tell me how to live in my own home.

I never contemplated nudity whilst anyone else was in my home though, so that aspect never became an issue.

Pete Knight

[eagle59]

I seem to be the only person in the immediate family that wants to be naked all the time. My wife will occasionally join me and is getting more comfortable with nudity, but she has body image issues and would never go nude in front of anyone but me. I, however, could care less what others think of what I look like nude so I would be nude around them all the time if it was possible. All of my children have seen me naked at one time or another or have "caught" me while nude but none of them are inclined to nudist ways so I would not be comfortable being nude around them because I know that my nudity was making them uncomfortable. Likewise with extended family. I would only be comfortable being nude around people who are ok with it and are not going to be uptight or embarrased about.

[JeepNude]

Eagle- Good point.

However, the point is, if you are home and very comfortable in your skin, then a relative wants to just drop in (unannounced), should you be REQUIRED to dress? I suppose it depends on your comfort level.

IN my case, I don't care how I look. In your case, you may. Your comfort level is different is all. And, that's perfectly OK.

Pete- Wow. That's a bummer, dude. However, I don't blame you one bit. In fact, I agree with you now more than ever (I added 'reputation' for your post!). Just because the father in law had to suffer does not mean you do too. Excellent.

Alan- That is how it should be in your home. Good for you!!

[Garden]

I am very lucky, both of my son-in-laws will get naked at my house. They say that is the only way to use the pool and spa. They even go to nude beaches and resorts with us.

Garden

[KNude]

We are pretty lucky here. My wife and I are nude much of the time. particularly in the summer. The children know this an are ok with it. If my wife's son and his wife come over we remain nude. They use our hot tub nude. Only if her 12 yo old dauther is with them do we cover up. The girl's father is the type who causes trouble so we are careful with that.
My son and his wife are OK with the nudity. When we are in the hot tub all will be nude except his wife, she tolerates our nudity but does not do it her self.

My wife's niece lives in town with her boyfriend. She has been to our club pool parties nude with us. Her boyfriend has been around us when we were nude and is OK with that but has not been nude with us. That may change.

Last weekend we were going to a family dinner at my stepson's house. I was sitting in the living room reading with only a shirt on. It was a bit cool in the house. My son and his wife, my wife's niece and her boyfriend all came in the house. I was comfortable remaining as I was because it was too early to get ready for the dinner They all seemed comfortable with the nudity also.

[sdson]

Garden,

You are lucky both of your son in laws are comfortable with nudity at your home.
We they at all shy at first being naked with the in laws? If so, how did you make them more comfortable?

[richinoregon]

Thank you for all the advice!


As for our meeting,- First thing would probably be to address her mom's opinion that I am immoral. For a dedicated Christian guy that has never even had so much as a speeding ticket, I don't see how my natural state could possibly be misunderstood as immoral. Your opinion?


Thanks again all. It means a lot to me.

I've never understood those Christians who claim simple nudity is a sin. If it is then God ordered Isaiah to sin. But God tells no one to sin (see James 1:13). So these Christians have a problem, Here it is Axiom 1: Public nudity is Sin. Axiom 2: God does not order anyone to sin. Fact: God ordered Isaiah to go naked for three years in public. The logical conclusion: either Axiom 1 or Axiom 2 is invalid.

To show how they prefer to follow their sub-culture rather than the logical results of the Book they claim is the last word on how to live, some will say that since God told Isaiah to go naked then it wasn't sin for Isaiah but it still was sin for everyone else. Following that logic, then God could tell someone to commit adultery and it wouldn't be wrong (they would reject that reasoning) Others claim that Isaiah didn't go naked, he just went around in his undergarments, ignoring the context (Is 20:4). The translators of the NIV seem to be in this camp, their translation has Isaiah going "stripped" for three years not naked.

I liked how a couple of missionary ladies that visited our church handled the issue when they worked for twenty years in New Guinea translating the Bible among people who only wore a vine around their waist. They just let the Bible stand on it's own, without pushing western cultural values on the people. After they had been there for many years they asked the people why they wore the vine all the time. Those they asked looked at them with shock and said "But if we didn't we'd be naked!" LOL

[Pete Knight]

The way I see it is that god punished Adam and Eve with shame for eating the forbidden fruit, those of use that can handle our nakedness have been forgiven, those that can't are still inflicted with the shame that god inflicted on their forebears.

There is no shame in nakedness, there is shame in transgressing the word of the almighty.

Pete Knight

[JeepNude]

Amen!!

When hit with the Adam and Eve sin thing, I always respond with- "Haven't you rebuked their sin in the name of Jesus? or, do you plan on carrying all your forefathers' sins with you forever?"

I rebuked that sin a long time ago. It no longer affects me. Amen!!

I have enough of my own sin to pray forgiveness for, I don't need everyone else's too.

[vanesa1017]

The member of my family I am most comfortable with is my aunt. She lives in Los Angeles and sometimes comes here for business and if she has time we go to the nude beach together. She is married and has kids and goes topfree around them but never nude, she enjoys the opportunities she has with me.

My immediate family knows about my lifestyle but I am the only one the regularly goes nude. Ive been nude around them all but I also don't push it when I am with them.

[FSUsmartboi]

I've never been nude around my family, i could not imagine. Although, i would love to do it, but i doubt the opportunity will ever arise.

[JeepNude]

I've never been nude around my family, i could not imagine. Although, i would love to do it, but i doubt the opportunity will ever arise.


Heck, trade families with me next summer. They will ask you "What's with all the clothes?". I have also been told that I look ridiculous with clothes on. I had my mom nearly rip my clothes off me once when we were having a backyard BBQ and I began sweating. After a while with mine, you will be begging for your own family back!

[PaulFa]

Love to have a family like your!

[JeepNude]

No, you wouldn't! Privacy? What's privacy?