Gary Naturist
10-18-2003, 03:56 PM
Most of my close friends and family know that I am a nudist, but until earlier this year I had not gone nude in front of many of them. I had probably been seen nude more by the neighbors, in my back yard and, on occasion, my front yard.
A major reason for not being nude is that I don't like asking permission to be myself. Also, I'm an advocate of the "It's easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission" approach.
I stay with frieds and family quite a bit on my business travels. Some months ago, I decided that I would wear my nightclothes (i.e. nothing) in situations where others would wear their nightclothes when outside of the bedroom.
So that's what I have been doing -- appearing nude when getting ready for bed, if I get up in the night, or in the early morning before breakfast. As is the case when I am nude in public (e.g. when hiking), I make no comment about my nudity and act exactly as I would if I were clothed.
The reaction of friends and family members has been the same every time: a surprised expression, a few seconds while the person mentally processes the situation ("1. Gary's nude! 2. But Gary's a nudist. 3. I guess it's OK with me"), then acceptance without comment.
Recently, I have stayed with my sister on three occasions and appeared nude -- once in a motel suite (separate bedrooms) when we were on a trip and twice at her and her husband's house. Each of them reacted the first time, as described.
This last time was just a few days ago. At dinner the following day, we were discussing lifestyles and my sister said that she guessed that I would like to be nude most of the time.
She went on to mention that she had discussed my nudity with her (adult) daughter and told her that, although she would not do so herself, she had no problem with my going nude.
I was very pleased at her reaction, for two reasons: her (their) acceptance of my being nude and validation of the approach that I have being taking in introducing my nudity to others.
When I appear nude like this, it is incidental and natural, associated with bedtime. Also, I do so only with friends and family whom I think will be able to handle it. For these reasons, I don't view it as being inappropriate behavior, even in other people's homes. It's just me being me.
Having broken the ice, it is then easy and natural to extend nudity to other situations -- e.g. sunbathing on the deck, swimming in the pool, enjoying the hot tub. When doing so, I would go nude only if out of sight of the neighbors. While I expect friends and family to accept my nudity, I don't put them in the position of having to explain me to others.
I offer this approach as an alternative to not going nude or to asking permission first. I think that it works well for some people in some situations.
Gary
A major reason for not being nude is that I don't like asking permission to be myself. Also, I'm an advocate of the "It's easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission" approach.
I stay with frieds and family quite a bit on my business travels. Some months ago, I decided that I would wear my nightclothes (i.e. nothing) in situations where others would wear their nightclothes when outside of the bedroom.
So that's what I have been doing -- appearing nude when getting ready for bed, if I get up in the night, or in the early morning before breakfast. As is the case when I am nude in public (e.g. when hiking), I make no comment about my nudity and act exactly as I would if I were clothed.
The reaction of friends and family members has been the same every time: a surprised expression, a few seconds while the person mentally processes the situation ("1. Gary's nude! 2. But Gary's a nudist. 3. I guess it's OK with me"), then acceptance without comment.
Recently, I have stayed with my sister on three occasions and appeared nude -- once in a motel suite (separate bedrooms) when we were on a trip and twice at her and her husband's house. Each of them reacted the first time, as described.
This last time was just a few days ago. At dinner the following day, we were discussing lifestyles and my sister said that she guessed that I would like to be nude most of the time.
She went on to mention that she had discussed my nudity with her (adult) daughter and told her that, although she would not do so herself, she had no problem with my going nude.
I was very pleased at her reaction, for two reasons: her (their) acceptance of my being nude and validation of the approach that I have being taking in introducing my nudity to others.
When I appear nude like this, it is incidental and natural, associated with bedtime. Also, I do so only with friends and family whom I think will be able to handle it. For these reasons, I don't view it as being inappropriate behavior, even in other people's homes. It's just me being me.
Having broken the ice, it is then easy and natural to extend nudity to other situations -- e.g. sunbathing on the deck, swimming in the pool, enjoying the hot tub. When doing so, I would go nude only if out of sight of the neighbors. While I expect friends and family to accept my nudity, I don't put them in the position of having to explain me to others.
I offer this approach as an alternative to not going nude or to asking permission first. I think that it works well for some people in some situations.
Gary