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    Our dad and mom believe in casual nudity in the home. They think nothing of walking around naked. It didn't bother us when we were younger and were taught
    to be casual ourselves. However, since we've reached puberty (15 and 13), it really bothers me and my sister to see our dad this way. We aren't prudes and
    don't have a problem with nudity around our mom and other females, but we started locking our door because our dad would think nothing of walking in on us
    when we were undressed. We also have a 10-year-old brother, and while it doesn't bother him to see our mom nude now, it probably will pretty soon. We think
    opposite-sex nudity is not appropriate once you reach puberty

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  • #2
    Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

    Two observations ...
    1) [sarcasm font]Children should be in charge of the household and carry the full burden of responsibility there and should set the rules and decide how the adults behave because they have the wisdom and life experience their parents lack.[/font]
    2) Everything parents do 'bugs' teenagers.

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    • #3
      Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

      The kids just need to get over it. They grew up with nudity being normal, and it is not new to them. Had mom and dad just started living the nudist lifestyle, it would be another story all together. We've read in these forums many times that it is normal for teens who have grown up as nudists to want to be clothed. It seems to be a normal progression of things and it makes me wonder how much peer pressure influences this change in attitude. They at least don't have a problem with same sex nudity. That is a plus.

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      • #4
        Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

        It may be that this is actually the writing of a 15 & 13 year old.

        Well...maybe.

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        • #5
          Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

          I want to ask, what sort of media image did the children see to make them feel uncomfortable with nudity? Does anyone ever recall seeing large amounts of television where people said, 'Ewww! Gross! Put some clothes on?' or is it a traditional comedy-line that nobody, simply nobody wants to "see their parents naked"?

          I do not recall seeing much of this, although there may have been a few instances of (acted) High Schoolers laughing at a naked boy pushed out of a Locker Room, suddenly having his bathing suit pulled down, or being the subject of some other juvenile prank. Is it the "raging" hormones wish push nudity into the realm of uneasy humor? Do many think of puberty as funny because we are typically uneasy with the new feelings it releases within us?

          How should parents describe these changes and should they be trying to convince their children there is nothing "funny" about puberty?

          ~

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          • #6
            Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

            I think peer-pressure and conformism are the main drivers behind this "discomfort." Because no teen wants to be perceived as the kid with the "weirdo" parents. AND their perception of nudity is being reshaped by their own burgeoning sexuality. Hence the uncomfortable uneasy humor you described.

            I still think the solution is social nudity. For teens with nudist peers, shrugging off nudism becomes more difficult when part of their social network consists of nudists their own age.

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            • #7
              Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

              The girls have the right to their own privacy, so telling their dad not to barge in on them is fine. That seems to be their biggest problem. They could also try to talk with their parents about their issues in a mature way. If they do have a problem with the amount of time the parents go naked, they could try to get an agreement with their parents.

              Locked doors show a mistrust with their father, which is the biggest problem, though.

              Bob S.

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              • #8
                Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                Originally posted by Davin View Post
                Our dad and mom believe in casual nudity in the home. They think nothing of walking around naked. It didn't bother us when we were younger and were taught to be casual ourselves. However, since we've reached puberty (15 and 13), it really bothers me and my sister to see our dad this way. We aren't prudes and don't have a problem with nudity around our mom and other females, but we started locking our door because our dad would think nothing of walking in on us when we were undressed. We also have a 10-year-old brother, and while it doesn't bother him to see our mom nude now, it probably will pretty soon. We think opposite-sex nudity is not appropriate once you reach puberty.
                I've read this several times, and, other than the fact that dad barges into their room (always wrong, textile or nudist), I can't figure out what this person's problem is.

                She's not saying, "Since we've reached puberty, WE FEEL the NEED to cover up." That would be perfectly understandable.

                But, she seems to be saying that, even though she was raised in a nudist household, she suddenly can't stand the sight of naked dad. HUH? And, she assumes that in a few years, her younger brother won't be able to stand the sight of naked mom.

                Could it be dad's naked image is giving her thoughts or feelings (arousal?) that she can't control and knows are inappropriate? And, is she projecting that younger brother will feel the same about mom?

                If she grew up around naked dad, why these feelings now? Did dad, in fact, do something inappropriate?

                I don't get it.

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                • #9
                  Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                  Originally posted by Home Nudist View Post
                  I've read this several times, and, other than the fact that dad barges into their room (always wrong, textile or nudist), I can't figure out what this person's problem is.

                  She's not saying, "Since we've reached puberty, WE FEEL the NEED to cover up." That would be perfectly understandable.

                  But, she seems to be saying that, even though she was raised in a nudist household, she suddenly can't stand the sight of naked dad. HUH? And, she assumes that in a few years, her younger brother won't be able to stand the sight of naked mom.

                  Could it be dad's naked image is giving her thoughts or feelings (arousal?) that she can't control and knows are inappropriate? And, is she projecting that younger brother will feel the same about mom?

                  If she grew up around naked dad, why these feelings now? Did dad, in fact, do something inappropriate?

                  I don't get it.
                  Teenage girl hormones?

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                  • #10
                    Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                    Originally posted by Home Nudist View Post
                    I've read this several times, and, other than the fact that dad barges into their room (always wrong, textile or nudist), I can't figure out what this person's problem is.

                    She's not saying, "Since we've reached puberty, WE FEEL the NEED to cover up." That would be perfectly understandable.

                    But, she seems to be saying that, even though she was raised in a nudist household, she suddenly can't stand the sight of naked dad. HUH? And, she assumes that in a few years, her younger brother won't be able to stand the sight of naked mom.

                    Could it be dad's naked image is giving her thoughts or feelings (arousal?) that she can't control and knows are inappropriate? And, is she projecting that younger brother will feel the same about mom?

                    If she grew up around naked dad, why these feelings now? Did dad, in fact, do something inappropriate?

                    I don't get it.
                    Things did change. They are growing up. Now that they are changing into women, they notice men. Now they are different.

                    Have you ever noticed a kid getting close to mom or dad and grabbing a leg close to their crotch? Or burying their head in their crotch? That is because it doesn't matter. Think a teenager would get this close to a crotch still? Heck no. They now know what the crotch "contains." It's different.

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                    • #11
                      Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                      Originally posted by Kouak View Post
                      Things did change. They are growing up. Now that they are changing into women, they notice men. Now they are different.

                      Have you ever noticed a kid getting close to mom or dad and grabbing a leg close to their crotch? Or burying their head in their crotch? That is because it doesn't matter. Think a teenager would get this close to a crotch still? Heck no. They now know what the crotch "contains." It's different.
                      Agreed. My nine year old daughter still grabs my crotch occasionally. One of these days she'll realize what those parts are for and start to really understand what those parts of hers are. Puberty and sexual awareness certainly are good enough excuses for being uncomfortable around Dad and his male sex parts.

                      When they get more mature they could again be comfortable with familial nudity. But all those hormones raging, peer influence, popular culture; all certainly influence the girls to be creeped out by their naked dad.

                      - Jasen.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                        Home Nudist: "Could it be dad's naked image is giving her thoughts or feelings (arousal?) that she can't control and knows are inappropriate? And, is she projecting that younger brother will feel the same about mom?"

                        I doubt they would be having sexual feelings or thoughts about their father. Even if that were the case, clothes would not cover those feelings (pun intended). They never do. I just think they have bought into the popular idea of the opposite sex nudity taboo that is being espoused by friends and society in general, but they are projecting their own feelings onto their brother, which is wrong.

                        Bob S.

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                        • #13
                          Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                          Home Nudist:
                          "Could it be dad's naked image is giving her thoughts or feelings (arousal?) that she can't control and knows are inappropriate? And, is she projecting that younger brother will feel the same about mom?"


                          As well as I can remember from my classes in social work graduate school, I think that Freud would say that this is true.
                          He states that there are stages in a child's development including the Oedipal period, concerning affection of opposite gender parent.

                          I think that posts of Bob S. discredits (at least some?) of Freud's thinking. I think that Bob S. is more eclectic in the area of child development. I myself choose what theory of the many schools of thought which seems to be valid.

                          Some psychological theorists would suggest that the girl was trying to avoid "psychological incest".
                          Last edited by David77; 08-14-2012, 03:16 PM.

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                          • #14
                            Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                            Originally posted by Kouak View Post
                            Have you ever noticed a kid getting close to mom or dad and grabbing a leg close to their crotch? Or burying their head in their crotch? That is because it doesn't matter. Think a teenager would get this close to a crotch still? Heck no. They now know what the crotch "contains." It's different.
                            We're not talking about "getting close to a crotch."

                            Simply seeing dad naked is a far cry from burying your head in his crotch or grabbing him around the upper thigh, so that your hands are near his "bits." Thirteen and fifteen year-olds don't act that way. It's inappropriate. And if they did, CPS should be called in.

                            I can accept that they may be seeing "things" differently, but they've grown up with naked dad. Suddenly, it's not acceptable? He's not a stranger, and they haven't accused him of any wrong-doing. Is it his responsibility to now cover up -- because THEY have issues?

                            I think what Bob S. said is closer to the truth:
                            I just think they have bought into the popular idea of the opposite sex nudity taboo that is being espoused by friends and society in general, but they are projecting their own feelings onto their brother, which is wrong.

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                            • #15
                              Re: Parents walking around the house nude bugs sisters

                              In my opinion, we are missing a very important part of the equation... communication.

                              It may be a case where the parents have not communicated with their children about the changes that they will go through during puberty, well in advance of experiencing it.

                              I have read in these forums before, that the nudist family is a more open and honest family. That nudist children experience things like sex much later in life than textile children. It is my assumption that such children are from families who communicate about everything, including puberty and sexuality.

                              If a child suddenly becomes modest at puberty, it is likely due to not knowing anything about the changes, that it is normal and expected and what those changes mean in regards to emotions, feelings, and sexual arousal. The kids are scared, unsure of what is happening to themselves and rely on false information from their friends, who also don't know the truths about these things.

                              I was raised in a textile home where puberty was completely ignored. I was introduced to deodorant when my oldest sister announced to my parents, in front of everyone, that I had B.O. and needed deodorant. I was extremely self conscious about my body. I remember avoiding looking at my own penis! My mother told me nothing of sex until I returned from my honeymoon. She handed me a booklet on sex that her mother had received e for her, from a doctor, which required a prescription! Too late now, Mom!

                              I was not a muscular or sports minded kid. I was only 130# at 21 years old! Most of my classmates in middle school had already reached puberty. It was torture for me to change clothes and shower in front of them for gym class. Looking back, it would have made a world of difference if my parents had made a point to have many conversations with me about puberty, well in advance of the experience. It may have changed my whole self image and I may not have had the fears of changing in front of others. I shared a room with my brother, 10 years older, for most of my childhood. I don't remember seeing him nude, even once. I was 39 and he was 49 when we discovered that we are both nudists!

                              Unfortunately, I came to these conclusions much too late to discuss these issues with my own children. Going by my parents' example, I did not address the topic of puberty with my children, either.

                              Please, if you have small children, begin to talk to them, not only about sex and where babies come from, but also the changes he/she will experience during puberty. It is very important to understand the hormonal changes, the emotional issues, anger, angst, pubic hair, breasts, periods, erections, ejaculations, wet dreams, deeper voices, etc., with your children. It is better for them to hear the truth from their parents than from mis-informed friends who "learn" this from the internet or a porn magazine.

                              I can certainly understand the situation in which these girls find themselves. They are afraid of the unknown. They are thinking that these changes only happen to them and not to anyone else in the world. Even as adults, we tend to think that no one in the world has ever experienced my problems. Knowledge is power.

                              -JR

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