How has your partners nudity developed ?

[ddoger]

Just some words of encouragement. I ventured into naturism about 6 years ago and my very conservative wife was very concerned and very reluctant. Since then, through lots of patience, love and building trust, she has visited several resorts in the US and Europe, been to at least a dozen c/o beaches, run in a BBFR, been nude with our adult children, been freehiking with me and 2 of our children (adults) and now sleeps nude (thanks to menopause). She still doesn't consider herself a "nudist" but joins me because she loves me and has seen the benefit for our family and our relationship. I love her very much.

[Naturist Zoar]

Sometimes things happen very slow with a spouse.
Be patient.

[mzdab3000]

While my wife is accepting and tolerant of my practice of nudism, she has only displayed sporadic and isolated participation. She will spend a limited amount of time around our house in the buff, usually only if the eventual result in our being amorous later on. However, she has stepped outside the boundaries on very specific situations. Two years back, we were at a cabin for the weekend where I was nude most of the time we were there. It was only on Sunday afternoon before we had to pack up to come home that she spent almost 4 hours nude, sitting out on a fairly secluded deck, doing a stitchery. A few weeks later, we were renting a beach house in OBX and had a screened in porch that had concealing drapes. I had them all drawn, and she came out and actually repositioned a few select to allow a view but still kept us hidden. A year later again in OBX (Outer Banks of North Carolina), we had a hot tub and a secluded upper deck of the house. She needed no encouragement from me and stripped off her suit and later sunbathed nude for several hours. She will come out and sit on our raised deck of our house after dark in the summer. But she steadfastly refuses to just spend a day around the house inside au naturel. And going to a nudist resort is totally out of the question.

She seemed to be accepting of the experience only when she senses I need an emotional boost, like a treat to lift my spirits. She was a bit more enthusiastic if you could term it that a few years back, but she has taken a more restrictive stance lately. And we are empty nesters. Little or no chance of being "interrupted".

[Biker]

I have been a nudist for my whole life. She has not. When we first met she learned quickly that comming over to visit would find me nude. After the first week she would be also, if it was warm enough. The first nude beach I took her to was a concern to her. She thought she would be the only woman there. As we entered she saw other ladies. She was nude befor I could put the towels down. She now hates wearing a bathing suit, the way they cut into the back of the neck. Where we go now greatly depends on our ability to be nude. She has planned several nude trips and surprised me with them. When it is warm here she joins me nude. And like me, if you are comming to visit and you and expect me/us to have clothes on you need to call first, and then it is still not a sure thing.
I have a number of lady friends from when I was single, friends not lovers, that would come over to my home to be nude. Their home or yard would not allow them the comfort level they wanted. I also think it was a safety thing. I think the wanted a guy around for security. There was one lady who would visit often to sunbath on my deck, sometimes she brought her husband and he would not get naked. But that's OK. There are some lady friends of our who sunbath or excersize with us nude, there are others who will go topless and still others that will only go bottomless. Those who do this often are in only a bra or only panties. Since we no longer have access to a pool swim wear is not worn. It was never, ever, about sex, it was and still is a safe place to be nude. I think a spouse or friends, male or female, just need to feel they are safe and the location and others present meet their comfort level.

[storm99]

This last weekend turned out to be something special. My son was at PK/MK camp, about a 2 1/2 hour drive from home. Over the past few years I have stayed at a nudist resort about 25 minutes from the camp to save on gas and wear/tear on the car. This year my wife wanted to go with me. She has been topless at a clothing optional resort we visit in Palm Springs, but has not traveled with me to any of the other local resorts.

We arrived late Friday evening and stayed in the cabin, the temp was very cool. On Saturday we went hiking (clothed) and returned to the resort. The showers are very open and communal, this made her somewhat apprehensive, and she asked that I stand at the door. I was just outside talking with the maintenance man when she said the shower wasn't working. She walked out, to my surprise, nude and introduced herself to the maintenance man. We walked her back and turned the shower on for her. This was a huge breakthrough for her. We spent the day walking around the resort, lounging at the pool, having lunch in the picnic area. We even went for a nude drive. On Sunday, we spent time at the pool, no one else came out till after 11:00. We finished our stay with nude tennis, showers, and good-byes to the people we met. All this made for a wonderful weekend!

[wannabnude]

What a great weekend! I rented a "secluded" cabin in the mountains as a surprise anniversary getaway. The cabin has no others around it, and is pretty well screened from the road by height and by trees. I've spent the entire day nude, first time ever getting to do that inside and outside the cabin. My wife has been pretty hesitant about joining me nude even in our own home, though we always have slept nude. She thought it was just "weird", and couldn't understand why I wanted to do it. I told her I just like the freedom, and nothing more, no ulterior motive whatsoever.

This weekend, she joined me being nude the whole time here, and we have just had the greatest time together! Discreetly enjoying my own nudism, and gently reassuring her about her body image issues seems to be slowly bringing her around.

I'm not sure how long it will be until we go somewhere to be socially nude, but I'd sure like to try it some day. It would be so nice to be not constrained by the cabin, for instance. I'll see how slowly normalizing the naturist practice goes with her. Wish me luck! Perhaps we will get to a local resort sometime. There are some in the state. Another thing I've considered is vacationing somewhere with a clothing-optional beach area. It seems like a really big step to just go to a nudist resort directly. That might be too much.

[nudkin]

I was talking about this subject with my wife this weekend. While she is more than open to go to a nudist venue with me, share private time nude with me in our home/yard/pool, and accept that I prefer nude recreation whenever possible, she still has an awkward attitude about being nude in front of people she may know. She is perfectly fine with me being nude around others in the home or while traveling without her but she is not likely to join in with others at the house.

A good friend of mine who is also a nudist has been over to the house two times in the past month or so and we have both been nude in her presence. My wife is more than comfortable with us being nude but has no inclination to join us. My friend is still working on getting his wife over her shyness (along with his minster brother/wife and possibly another brother to boot) and my wife has said she would help his wife get comfortable at our home in a nude environment. Which I see as only a matter of time, but right now she limits her nude time to private opportunities with me or in public with complete strangers.

[wannabnude]

My wife said her big issue is that she "KNOWS" that guys are always turned-on by looking at women, and will not accept that naturism is not just a sexual thing. She doesn't want me to look at others, and doesn't want to be the object of other's attention that way. That, plus body image problems, seem to be the root of her hesitation.

[NudonyII]

Perhaps we will get to a local resort sometime. There are some in the state. Another thing I've considered is vacationing somewhere with a clothing-optional beach area. It seems like a really big step to just go to a nudist resort directly. That might be too much.

It might be easier than you think. When I was first married, I had a hard time selling my wife on the idea of social nudity. It mostly had to do with body-acceptance and the idea that nudity is too intimate. So I did my homework, made some calls to a local resort. And I found out from the resort manager that weekdays were pretty slow, and that off-season weekdays were even slower. I also made sure first time visitors were allowed to stay dressed. And so I asked my wife for a one-day trip, made her an "offer she couldn't refuse":
- First and foremost, she would not be asked, requested or pressured into being nude at any point.
- If she didn't feel comfortable, we could leave at any point and without notice.
- If there were other nude people there, we would stay to ourselves and not socialize.
She had a real hard time finding arguments against it; and ultimately agreed based on the conditions I cited.

It was like an April or early May Tuesday morning when we arrived. There was the owner and some contractor working on something. That was it. We basically had the resort to ourselves. I got nude, she stayed in the sundress she was wearing. We walked around for a bit; the fact that I was nude and no one was in clear sight took the pressure off. We had the sauna to ourselves; she went nude there for a little while. After we go out of the sauna she was still hot and left her sundress unbuttoned. I could tell that she was beginning to twirl around in her head the idea that maybe she could actually be nude and enjoy it; probably part of it was seeing me nude and happy. Then after lunch we decided to go hit the hot tub in the communal area; and again, we had the whole place to ourselves. After soaking for a little while, she got out of the hot tub and this time, she just left her sundress hanging on a hanger to go explore the communal area. I was completely stoked that she was choosing to remain nude; at least for a little while. And as we returned to the hot tub area to grab our stuff, that's when the "unthinkable" happened...we ran into a nude visitor. My wife immediately snatched her towel and clung it against her. And the guy started talking to us. We got into a short conversation; and then my wife started getting involved in the conversation. After he took his leave, my wife just casually requested to go back to the car. "That's it, now she'd mad and it's over" I thought. We got back to the car, she opened the back door, I heard some ruffling, and as she shut the door, my jaw dropped: she'd changed into a tank top! It turned out that the nudist interaction she'd just had dispelled some of the issues she had with social nudity. And now she was ready to really try it (the tank top was because it was a little chilly that day - even I was struggling to stay nude a bit.) And so we continued on with the day; and she would just take off her tank top if she got warm. But that wasn't the end of my amazement. As we got ready to leave and were changing, the manager said a few words to us from the front of his office; my wife, who was nude and in the midst of changing, dropped what she was holding and walked straight to the manager. He wanted to get our impressions of the resort, and my wife stood there nude and smiling while praising the resort. The conversation went on for a little while, and as she stood there completely nude, you would have never known that just a few hours earlier: "I'll go with you but there's no way I'm going to be nude" had come out of her mouth.

I'm not saying my formula is full proof. But hopefully my story will give you the motivation to give it a shot.

[wannabnude]

NudonyII - thanks so much for your story! That whole approach does sound pretty possible; I'll have to ponder that one a bit. It's so great that worked for you folks!