How has your partners nudity developed ?

[storm99]

My wife said her big issue is that she "KNOWS" that guys are always turned-on by looking at women, and will not accept that naturism is not just a sexual thing. She doesn't want me to look at others, and doesn't want to be the object of other's attention that way. That, plus body image problems, seem to be the root of her hesitation.

Sorry to hear, but I understand. Like I said the first person my wife met nude was the maintenance man and he was clothed. Part of her reluctance was and still is, guys looking at her. There was one point over that weekend, when she was poolside and several men gathered around her, this made her feel very uncomfortable, she covered up and left (I was getting us some waters). Sometimes our actions are what keep women away, even if they are not sexual in nature. She was fine when she initiated conversations or if we were left somewhat alone. I will continue to let her progress at her own pace.

[Croydon]

My wife said her big issue is that she "KNOWS" that guys are always turned-on by looking at women, and will not accept that naturism is not just a sexual thing. She doesn't want me to look at others, and doesn't want to be the object of other's attention that way. That, plus body image problems, seem to be the root of her hesitation.

Sorry to be incenstive but your wife sounds like someone who is very insecure and controlling.

For starters, your wife KNOWS nothing. She can not readily assume that all men who look at women are doing so for sexual reasons. I guess she believes that about you, that whenever you look at a woman, you are thinking the many positions you can do her.

Most nudists in nudist setting behavior approrpriately. As with anything, there is a time and place, and most nudists understand that. Furthermore, what is wrong with looking at another person and admiring. When I go to the beach or to a nudist event and I see a great bodied man, I look. Sex and sexual thoughts aren't the first things that pop in my head but I am admiring his physique and its beauty. About two years ago I was at Haulover beach and there was a guy there with the greatest legs I've ever seen. We actually ended up chatting and I asked about his leg and it turned out that he was a cyclist.

Your wife has yet to even try nudism so for her to assume such nonesense is unfair. Somone once told me, "Don't knock it, til you try it" and over the years I have found it to be so true. In addition, to expect you to not look at other women speaks of a woman who is truly insecure and controlling.

[Kouak]

For starters, your wife KNOWS nothing. She can not readily assume that all men who look at women are doing so for sexual reasons. I guess she believes that about you, that whenever you look at a woman, you are thinking the many positions you can do her.

You are probably right that she does not KNOW everything. However, when there is such vast porn, porn sites, sex in ads, boob augmentation, jokes and innuendos about a woman's physique, it is not a hard sell to convince someone that men may be partial to, if not obsessed with, sex and women. Just saying.

Your wife has yet to even try nudism so for her to assume such nonesense is unfair. Somone once told me, "Don't knock it, til you try it" and over the years I have found it to be so true. In addition, to expect you to not look at other women speaks of a woman who is truly insecure and controlling.

I do agree with your quote. Another is "Try it; you'll like it!"

[Rockdad]

We have been home nudist for close to 15 years. My wife is an enigma. Out of the house she is VERY conservative and wouldn't even think to go without a bra to get a gallon of milk at the store.
At the office no one could ever guess she's a freak at home when the doors are locked and the kids are gone. After years of being limited to the house I started going to a resort which my wife whole heartily encouraged. She attempted going once with me but had a bad experience. She was hardly out of the truck 2 min helping me get the camper set up when guys started to stop by and hang out which I'll describe as frothing. She described it as she felt like she was 'Fresh Meat'. Which she was I have to say. Her clothes didnt come off needless to say.We have nudist friends that come over and she will not undress even with them at the house.

OK I made a mistake. Wrong resort to take her for her 1st time. She froze at the social nudity aspect. We built a large private backyard so she could get out an enjoy the outdoors naked.
Fast forward a few more frustrating years for me I met a nudist couple who came over for a get together. They happen to have a place of their own at a resort so we visited shortly after. My wife tried one more time and froze. We had heart to heart talk when we got home. We are together 24-7 and wouldn't have it any other way. Somewhere in that pretty little head of hers she decided not to try it but do it.

We visited our friends resort the beginning of summer which she felt comfortable at only this time we pulled our camper over for the weekend. She went in the camper for some reason and came out changed in short shorts and a tight t shirt with no bra. My heart sank but I kept my big mouth shut. Hey its a step! She had a couple glasses of wine and I knew she was very nervous. I walked over to her and asked her if I could help her and take her shirt off. She lifted her arms not saying a word and so I peeled her out of her shirt. After a few min I asked her to take her shorts off. She did nervously but then suddenly said she was ready to go to the pool and swim. There had to be a 100 people in and around the pool. By god this girl is going to do it.

How did it work out? We spent most free weekends there and she helped pick out a permanent lot for our camper and become a member next summer.

[Sauna]

Congratulations!

[JohnE44]

My wife has been very supportive about my nudity around the house but never wanted to join me i asked a few times it was just this last summer that to my surprise she came down one night nude and spent the night with me watching tv it was enjoyable time to share with her

[hw]

My wife thought I "lost it" when I decided to become a nudist about 9 years ago. Since that time, she has found some friends on this site that she still converses to on Facebook regularly. She invited a nudist from OK several years ago (Shaybare) and he stayed for about a week. We all went to visit Corky and the rest of the CF staff at the time. We have been to nude beaches several times, but she will not go around nude in the house when others are here (her Mother lives with us now). She will still go skinny dipping on some occasions, but not too often, especially when everyone is away and her Mother is resting. But again, she will not be nude in the house outside of the bedroom. She accepts my nudity as I practice it almost everyday. She even accepts my cover, which she made for me, of a very light cotton material which is almost transparent depending on the light. My leg is exposed all the way to the waist, so there's no hiding the fact there is nothing on underneath. The Mother in Law also made comments of the covering, but nothing negative. On Sunday's, that is my 'naked day'. I usually don't bother wearing anything all day, whenever possible. Again, she will not join me. But she does accept my nudity as long as I'm covered in front of her Mom and of course, in front of company who might come over.

I am getting more and more reluctant to join your "nudist" activities. Your obsession with nudity is driving me away. I always "know" when something isn't quite right. You seclude yourself away from everyone, either in the bedroom, or on the computer. You won't talk about it with me. What have I done to deserve this?

[FireProf]

It really doesn't matter how seasoned a nudist your wife or partner is ... there will be times, she just doesn't feel like it! It shouldn't matter and some guys are more fortunate than others when it comes to the amount of time a wife, girlfriend, significant other participates in home nudism or social nudism. There are probably female nudists that have the same issues with their husbands, boyfriends, significant others and their limited participation or complete lack of willingness to try it. It's more a perception of a male issue because very few female nudists chose to voice their opinions, thoughts, fears, concerns on a internet nudist site, much less, those reluctant partners that don't want to talk about why they are not interested. "People" are sometimes private with their thoughts and feelings and certainly do not want to share those with internet strangers.

Nudism/naturism is a mindset. It's something inside you already and it really can't be taught, learned and certainly not forced on someone that just isn't into it. I have a willing and self proclaimed nudist wife but even she goes through periods where she just doesn't feel like being social or completely naked at home. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. We talk all the time and it can get heated at times but ... in the end, we know where we both stand on a great number of issues within our relationship and nudism/naturism is one of those issues. She and I know that I'm the 100%'er and she's the 90+%'er. I'd like it if she was also a 100%'er but I certainly can't complain.

Things bother my wife at certain times. Maybe it was a comment, an action, an observance of something she didn't like, while at a nude venue. That can turn her mood off but she doesn't feel like she wants to tell me each time something bugs her. She gets over it, works through it on her own and then re-engages. She doesn't need me to come to her rescue everytime she's bugged by something regarding nudism, she needs support, patience and understanding that she'll work it out on her own and move forward.

Relationships can be Merry go rounds, Rollercoasters or somewhere inbetween. The Merry go round can be boring; uneventful, predictable. We prefer our Rollercoaster!

[HHvet]

My wife's nudity has developed into something she's not comfortable with, and my comfort with my own is also uncomfortable to her. As you can imagine, this is all getting a bit uncomfortable to the point that I've had to abandon all hope of getting her to try it out.

Being nice about it, talking and giving her things to read and digest on her own didn't do it, she only seemed to bunker in more as a result. I've had to accept that if I love my wife I have to keep stay dressed. Nudity has been easier to let go of than her.

I still lurk through here on occasion when I want to read about you happy few who are able to practice practical nudity.

[nimrod]

HHvet, she should be more understanding and try not to deny you of something you enjoy. If it were something that was harmful to you and/or others, I could see her problem with you doing it. She does not have to participate, but she should allow you the opportunity to be nude.