(Single) Male Profiling: Fixing It For The Greater Good

[Kouak]

You have a point, women and children need to be protected by us DANGEROUS single men. Because we do not have a significant other in our lives, we CAN NOT be trusted and place women and children lives at risk. As we all know, men who are married are safe as they can not possibly do anything bad.

All true! We all know how the media portrays single men as potential sex abusers, child molesters, and defective because they can not find a (female) mate. (We all know that the media never distorts or lies about anything). Single men are downright DANGEROUS and SCARY! lol

Didn't want to hijack the thread so started a new one. Guys ARE the predominate gender of sex abusers and child molesters. This is a form of profiling against guys.

Fair? No. Maybe instead of just crying foul, guys should take this "problem" to help solve the bigger issue of profiling. After all, not all muslims are terrorists nor blacks lazy and on welfare nor latinos illegal immigrants.

Besides just saying we should not do it, do you have any ideas on how to fix it?

[tiger79]

The whole issue of single guys at naturist resorts is flawed. It's not a gender thing; it's an attitude thing. I've been targeted many times by predatory females, both when I've been at resorts on my own, as well as when I've been there with my wife. And I know a number of ladies (both single and married) who've been approached by predatory females at naturist resorts. So predatory behaviour isn't confined to single guys (or even married guys), it's women too, and it's a moral/behavioural issue.

I reckon the answer is just to let folk in, and let the group of people police themselves. Banning single guys is just crazy.

[sunnysmile_fl]

It's that attitude that so many naturist and nudist resorts have against single males that leads me to just prefer to not even promote or patronise ANY naturist or nudist resort, simply because it is that attitude they have by stereotyping the single male in-general as something they need to be afraid of for some reason is such an insult to all single males of the world, globally. And that's wrong.

Hell if they're gonna be fair about it they should ban all single females from the resorts for that matter and under the same charges.

Justice is imbalanced in the realm of naturist resorts and it's nothing new, guys.

[LamontCranston]

Yawn... went to a resort on my own on Saturday, paid the fee and enjoyed the day. I found the people nice, welcoming, and naked.

[Naturist Mark]

Guys ARE the predominate gender of sex abusers and child molesters.

This is true, but it is not necessarily true that most 'sex abusers and child molesters' are single guys. It is usually 'straight' men who are married or in an adult relationship with a woman - the Jerry Sandusky's of the world - that you need to look out for.

As for men who pester single women at nudist resorts, I can't tell you how many of my friends have said that they get it much worse from the married guys.

[hikenaked]

There are many resorts that do not discriminate against single men and men visiting without their spouse. In fact there are at least three such resorts within two hours of me. We should patronize those resorts that do not discriminate, spend our money in these resorts and behave in a responsible manner when at these resorts. Make sure that the resorts that allow single men prosper and remain in business.

[Kouak]

The responses to fix the problem are 1) just stop the practice, 2) be fair, ban women or just live with it, 3) didn't have a problem myself, 4) married men can be worse than single men, and 5) don't patronize the resorts.

None of these fix the problem. How many of the resorts have been asked to stop the practice or modify it? How many people stopped going to the resorts with the ban? Have the resorts had poor business? Doubt it, or they would have changed their policy.

Maybe we ought to ask, why is this policy in place? It cannot be, as Mark suggested, to weed out "bad men." Married men may even be worse letches than single men. I believe it is because the resorts want the same male-female ratio as in the general population than those that practice nudism. We know that men far outnumber women who practice nudism. Why not have that same ratio IN the resort too?

Maybe the profiling is based upon men in general but thrusted upon the single males since married males are kind of "approved" by at least 1 woman. How do we correct misperceptions?

[calinaturist]

It's that attitude that so many naturist and nudist resorts have against single males that leads me to just prefer to not even promote or patronise ANY naturist or nudist resort, simply because it is that attitude they have by stereotyping the single male in-general as something they need to be afraid of for some reason is such an insult to all single males of the world, globally. And that's wrong.

This, pretty much. Before I head to any resort I look at their policies regarding single guys, and if they don't allow it then I don't feel the need to give them my money. There is so much of this world to see and explore, why should I spend my time worrying about the couple of square acres that I'm not going to be allowed into.

The ones that I have been to in So. Cal (Sun Island and De Anza Springs) have been very welcoming of single guys and I love going there because there is so much to see and do, and I've never felt like an outsider. Good times, especially De Anza springs. I love the desert and all the hiking that you can do out there.

[LumpyPostage]

As a single woman, I have no problem with single men. In fact, I would much rather date single men than married men. But that's just me.

As for being naked at beaches/resorts, what difference does it make to me if the men are single or married?

[SunnyDan]

I combat this when I go to a nude resort in a very simple way: I behave myself!
I don't stare, leer, gawk, flirt, stalk or behave rudely.

SunnyDan