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12-20-2002, 02:44 PM
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Hey Fellow INA Forum Dudes and Dutets RT here again with another problem I need help with, I wish life was a lot easier !
Two days ago Matt (best friend) and I went to the beach and met up with some fellow youth naturists for an awesome day. There is a girl who always talkes to me alone but when other mates come over she walks away, this has been going on for some time now. We have been out on a few dates as a group and once alone. I like here but not sure how much, thats not my problem by the way, LOL.
The problem is that the other day she gave me a crisy present (a surfy necklace, that is way cool by the way), I bought her a present yesterday and plan on giving it to her today when we go down to the beach again after lunch.
My problem is I want to ask her why she walks away when my mates come over and start talking but I just can't find the right words to use without sounding like I want to take our frienship further. I don't want to rush into things if you know what I mean.
Well, thats my problem, any advise would be very much appreciated.
RT
PS: Hope you all have an awesome Christmas and even an awesomer New Year or Happy Hannakah to our fellow Jewish naturists.
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12-20-2002, 02:44 PM
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Hey Fellow INA Forum Dudes and Dutets RT here again with another problem I need help with, I wish life was a lot easier !
Two days ago Matt (best friend) and I went to the beach and met up with some fellow youth naturists for an awesome day. There is a girl who always talkes to me alone but when other mates come over she walks away, this has been going on for some time now. We have been out on a few dates as a group and once alone. I like here but not sure how much, thats not my problem by the way, LOL.
The problem is that the other day she gave me a crisy present (a surfy necklace, that is way cool by the way), I bought her a present yesterday and plan on giving it to her today when we go down to the beach again after lunch.
My problem is I want to ask her why she walks away when my mates come over and start talking but I just can't find the right words to use without sounding like I want to take our frienship further. I don't want to rush into things if you know what I mean.
Well, thats my problem, any advise would be very much appreciated.
RT
PS: Hope you all have an awesome Christmas and even an awesomer New Year or Happy Hannakah to our fellow Jewish naturists.
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12-20-2002, 02:52 PM
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I think you stated it pretty clearly yourself. I would just ask straight out. You could make a joke out of it or something I suppose to lighten the mood a bit. But I think, I could be wrong here of course, that honest open communication is the best bet. Good luck, let us know how it works out.
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12-20-2002, 03:46 PM
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RT: Bob is right. Something on the order of...
Do you like my mates? Cause I'm very close to them. By the way, how does she like the gift?
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12-20-2002, 10:17 PM
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Perhaps there's something about your mates she doesn't like, or maybe she feels she's intruding on your time with them.
Personally, I would just ask her why she walks away when they show up, because you would like to know if there's a problem that could be resolved. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]
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12-21-2002, 04:10 AM
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RT,
I agree with all the responses. While talking with her alone casually bring up the subject of your mates. Ask if there is a problem with any of them> Is she the only female there when your mates come around? If so maybe she is a little nervous, shy or embarrassed being the only female with a group of guys. Especially if everyone is nude. Has this happened when everyone was clothed? (What an ugly word). If you just keep it in it may build resentment and it sounds like you like this young lady. Just be up front and when you ask her let her know that you won't be hurt by her response and that you also don't want to hurt her feelings or make her uncomfortable. I would also suggest that you ask your mates not to come around, at least right away, when you two are alone at the beach.
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12-21-2002, 07:22 AM
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Here's a suggestion that encourages openness because it respects her right to decide whether she wants to have this conversation. It's direct but non-intrusive, and therefore it builds trust.
When you're alone, ask "May I ask you a question?"
Just about everyone will say "Yes," but the point is that you've sent a signal that you don't intend to intrude.
"I've noticed that you leave whenever my mates come around. I've been wondering if one of them has said or done something that makes you uncomfortable."
Then stop talking and turn your ears on. Don't say anything more until she has made a response.
There could be any number of reasons why she is doing this, and you're not likely to guess it on your own. Only she knows the answer.
Good luck. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]
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12-21-2002, 06:29 PM
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Good luck, I am jealous of your warm weather. Keep us posted on your conversation.
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