Embarking on the naturist lifestyle

purity · #1 06-30-2003, 11:47 AM

It has hard to believe that I have come so far in the last 6 weeks or so that I am now actually posting messages on Naturists' fora. I cannot remember exactly how I stumbled across Nate Dekan's website www.reject-shame.com. Now few things in my life (other than my own encounter with Jesus Christ 11 or so years ago) have jolted me out of a way of thinking that had become part of me. The articles on that site so skilfully tore away the veneer of what I might call cultural Christianity and it has left me naked (in almost every sense of the word). I wonder if Christians who live out the naturist lifestyle have particular advice that they would offer about how to embark on this. I am very aware that under the "cloak" of naturism, there lurk all manner of things which have little to do with what the Spirit of God intended though I have little doubt that this lifestyle properly practised is of God. It is like Christianity itself - there are many masquerading and there are even those who have called themselves Christ. So nothing new here. I take seriously Nate Dekan's advice on his website that no amount of posts on a forum or looking at photographs or reading articles will ever change many attitudes and warped understandings that are engrained in me. You need to do it! I am trying to establish contact with various people through the various sites. Even at my age it is my hope that I will one day have a family and I really want to do what is going to be profitable for me. Any Christians have advice on that score? I am quite prepared to visit a beach even if it has to be on my own and no doubt I will make some friends there. Though I have to say that it is not terribly encouraging to read what a number of naturists have to say about what can go on on (or in the vicinity of) the most popular nudist beaches in the UK where I find myself at present. Look forward to the advice of those who have been treading this path longer than I have.

purity · #2 06-30-2003, 11:47 AM

It has hard to believe that I have come so far in the last 6 weeks or so that I am now actually posting messages on Naturists' fora. I cannot remember exactly how I stumbled across Nate Dekan's website www.reject-shame.com. Now few things in my life (other than my own encounter with Jesus Christ 11 or so years ago) have jolted me out of a way of thinking that had become part of me. The articles on that site so skilfully tore away the veneer of what I might call cultural Christianity and it has left me naked (in almost every sense of the word). I wonder if Christians who live out the naturist lifestyle have particular advice that they would offer about how to embark on this. I am very aware that under the "cloak" of naturism, there lurk all manner of things which have little to do with what the Spirit of God intended though I have little doubt that this lifestyle properly practised is of God. It is like Christianity itself - there are many masquerading and there are even those who have called themselves Christ. So nothing new here. I take seriously Nate Dekan's advice on his website that no amount of posts on a forum or looking at photographs or reading articles will ever change many attitudes and warped understandings that are engrained in me. You need to do it! I am trying to establish contact with various people through the various sites. Even at my age it is my hope that I will one day have a family and I really want to do what is going to be profitable for me. Any Christians have advice on that score? I am quite prepared to visit a beach even if it has to be on my own and no doubt I will make some friends there. Though I have to say that it is not terribly encouraging to read what a number of naturists have to say about what can go on on (or in the vicinity of) the most popular nudist beaches in the UK where I find myself at present. Look forward to the advice of those who have been treading this path longer than I have.

nacktman · #3 06-30-2003, 01:07 PM

Purity you have gotten off to a wonderful start in undertaking the Naturist Lifestyle, any start is a wonderful start. The hardest part was to make the decision to try and to overcome reservations to that decision just as with any decision you make in life.
As you pointed out in your post there are many different avenues to life and a "life" style and all advice should be taken as it is givien and not as more than it is. This is the failing of many who attempt new things...the reliance on others for total support and not upon themselves in equal measure if not more.
Your journey shall be as rewarding as you determine it to be. Only your actions will matter at the end of the day. You noted concerns about some of the "goings on" at or nearby some of the nude beaches in the UK...rightly so to be concerned, those "goings on" happen worldwide and are a hinderence to all people not just naturists, but should not be a reason to forgo a day at the beach if you wish to do so. if you should encounter untoward behavior simply walk away, report it to the authorities (some time this may be regular beach goers as well as government officials)and find your spot in the sand and enjoy your day, the authorities will handle the miscreants.
As to your faith and naturism there are many faiths represented among naturists. There are many faiths repesented among humankind, ergo, humans are naturists, then naturists are human. Your journey will embrace all and you will settle within your "comfort zone" as you have done in your life and will continue to do just as we all.
The wish for a family is also a primal urge for humans and naturists tend to form bonds that last more so than do non-naturists. I, myself found the love of my life will living at a resort in the USA as a single person. We were "introduced by accident" by a mutual non-naturist friend and have been together ever since. She was not a member of the club or even a naturist per se, she just prefered to be nude. I had told her I lived at the resort and she came to visit removed her clothes and has been nude since. We are now grandparents.
Good luck on your journey...the naturist lifestyle is a great lifestyle to live.

BE NUDE, BE FREE AND ALL WILL BE WELL IN YOUR WORLD!

#4 06-30-2003, 04:03 PM

Great post nactman! You are one of the lucky ones.

#5 06-30-2003, 08:26 PM

Purity, I sent you a Private Message.

butnaked · #6 07-07-2003, 03:25 AM

Purity, Thank you for the referance to the www.reject-shame.com even we old nudist can learn.
Happy Trails [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

purity · #7 07-07-2003, 07:33 AM

Dear butnaked I am glad to hear that you appreciated the reference. To be honest I need to read and re-read it. It is deep and it is a real cry from the heart by the man who put it together - Nate Dekan. In a way this man is no more than a name to me but at a spiritual level he really is being used by God to educate a new generation of people who will be freed of shame that leads to tremendous aberrations that are tearing our society apart.

Jochanaan · #8 07-08-2003, 03:21 PM

Welcome, purity! I too have been challenged and blessed by Nate's Reject Shame site. When I first found a Christian nudist web site I thought it a bit of an oxymoron, till I read what the Bible really says, or rather doesn't say, about nudity.

Blessings on your journey. I might add that, though I have been an at-home nudist for some two years now, I haven't yet experienced social nudity, but that will be soon; so I can empathize.

purity · #9 07-08-2003, 04:19 PM

Dear Jochanaan Thanks for your encouragement. When I read what Nate Dekan says on his web-site, it was like the long-ailing patient finally having found the remedy that would cure him of many of his ills. I could not wait to do something about it. I am an extremist in many things that I do and I have been reading and reading and consulting many sites and participating in a number of fora for a month and a half now since I stumbled on this life style. Perhaps I should have waited a bit - like you. But maybe not. Though I have not as yet written about it anywhere and I can now reveal (!!) that I made my way last Saturday down to the best-known (just about) naturist beach in the UK - Studland Bay. I promised God that if when I got up on Saturday morning the sun was shining in my window, I would do it. And it was (rats!). So, I decided (very nervously) to keep my side of the bargain. I began to have second thoughts thinking "Really you shouldn't go on your own" or "Maybe it is still a bit early". I had also got up a bit later than I had planned, making it difficult to do the journey down to Studland and back in the day (well it seemed to be a good excuse for shelving the venture at that point ? it is nearly a 3 hour journey down to Studland from London. But I knew that I would be displeased with myself later if I did not bite the bullet. So, I picked myself up and left. As I approached the English South Coast the weather got progressively more overcast and colder and I began to feel stupid. I stopped and thought, this is a stupid enterprise. But then from no where, a voice seemed to echo in my mind and it said "This is Summer and the ambient temperature is 22 degrees (that is 72 F - no, the voice did not give me the temperature in Fahrenheit as well!!!) and when you were playing the clown 3 years ago you got into the Arctic Ocean (in a swimming trunks then) to impress the crowds in Norway. You are now doing this for your own good and the water will not be close to freezing as it was then - be obedient!". This was true. I remembered that episode in Norway. To cut a long story short, I stormed on to the beach at Studland with my heart pounding. I thought to myself "Ridiculous it is that I am reacting to something so natural as this, as though I had been entrusted with leading the Israelites into the Promised Land." Because of the weather, it was not at all crowded. (I was surprised there was anybody there at all.) I decided to position myself not far away from a couple. People keep saying how friendly naturists are, so thought I would strategically position myself for the impending friendship. (It didn?t happen by the way. They left too early.) They watched me as I approached and I thought, "They are wondering if this is some textiled voyeur, yet again." But I put down the small bag I had and stripped within 10 seconds. I really surprised myself. I think I surprised the others when I got walked down to the water and got in. Because they had almost certainly not been in. And I did not see another person even approach the water?s edge all that afternoon. It is hard to believe I have come this far. I will now end this interminable submission but I know that I have yet much to learn and unlearn. This is all still not natural for me. I have lots of warped and textile (shame-generated) thoughts. Believe it or not, I constantly caught myself thinking "You can't approach anyone and talk - you are stark naked." Over time and with the help of more mature people and my exposure (in every sense of the word!), led by God, I hope to learn purity! Hence my forum name. God bless you and look forward to meeting you here again soon!