Can someone be obsessed with the desire to be nude?

[NCguy49]

This is not be a body image or shame issue, but it is a mental issue that I am increasingly more aware of in my life these days.

Can someone be obsessed with the desire to be nude?

The reason I ask this is because I think I am. It seems that the more I cannot be nude, the more I want to be. With my non-nudist son at home, not having the resources to visit somewhat local clubs on a regular basis, and having no other nudists nearby to socialize with my nude time is extremely limited.

Is this a good thing, a bad thing, should I seek counseling? It is rather depressing at times and seems to affect other aspects of my life - family, textile friends, my job.

For now I plan on doing some serious thinking on how I can bring this obsession into balance with the rest of my life. I'll keep the asprin nearby as I'm sure to develop a few whopper headaches in the process.

Mike

[Nudony]

Some nudists may tell you that even if nudism becomes an obsession, it still is a pretty harmless one. I would not necessarily agree with that; particularily if your desire to be nude creates conflict within yourself, affects your relationships or your ability to enjoy life.

Yes, I used to be obsessed with nudism. The first three years after I became a nudist, I was mainly concerned with learning about the philosophy and history of nudism. And getting my wife to accompany to the resort, which was a gradual process, even though our home was clothesfree. But when we became social nudists in 1999, I simply figured there was not much else in life worth doing. It turned into a full-fledged obsession. I was not interested in going to a beach if it wasn't nude. I was not interested in socializing unless it was in a nudist environment. I spent hours upon hours in nudist chatrooms, forums and collecting nudist pics. If we went for more than two weeks without a nudist outing, or went on vacation without stopping by a resort or some nudist friends' house, I would consider the vacation completely ruined and be visibly angry for days. My wife, initially interested in occasional social nudism, became repelled by my obsession with it. She maintained her clothesfree ways at home, but demonstrated more and more resistance to social nudism. My resulting depression sent me in a downward spiral that resulted in getting fired from my job. I think part of me knew that I could fired for surfing nudist sites at work; but I don't think that I subconsciously really cared.

My marriage has dissolved since and I now live alone. Thankfully (in some sense), nudism was a small issue compared to the real irreconcilable differences that plagued our marriage; otherwise, I'd be dealing with some serious self-loathing right now. But finding myself in a small town, alone and without friends has allowed me to get back in touch with the pre-nudist Nudony. I've traded my nudist membership for a gym membership. I've traded visits to the resort with visits to the mountain trails, which also allows me to become "one with nature." I've traded compulsive nudist web-surfing with on-line courses. My obsession with being a complete, all-around nudist has been eclipsed by a much healthier drive to be the "best Nudony" possible. Sure, I'm still nude at home 99% percent of the time (I'm nude as I'm typing this) and I still drop in nudist forums to throw in my 5 cents; and I will still support nudism whenever it comes up in conversation (I just recently defended nudism when a home-nudist co-worker was "outed"). But it doesn't have any of that obsessive, ranting behavior that I used to display. Is social nudism "out" for me? Somehow, I doubt it. I'm sure the opportunity to be nude with a friend or loved one will come along at some point. And when it does happen, I'll be real cool about it, savoring the moment just for what it is, without attaching a bunch of mental "gunk" to it.

It may sound cliche, but the key word here is Balance. If you find yourself thinking about nudism excessively, take a time-out. Look for other hobbies, even if they seem (and they will seem) pale compared to nudism. If you're not a physical fitness afficionado such as myself, pick up an instrument. Or a pen and paper. Or some lumber and some tools. When the opportunity to be nude presents itself: grab it. And then let it go. It will come back. In the meantime, go ahead and pick up that instrument.

This Zen moment was presented to you by Nudony!

[wingshot]

Nudony makes some good points. Just remember to keep everything in perspective.

[Al Bundy]

Nudony you really hit the nail on the head. I found myself experiencing a lot of the attitudes you mentioned in your post. I have found myself ignoring outside tasks around the house as I could not perfom them in the nude. Although my "obsession" is not as extreme as you described, it still dictates a lot of my actions. I must say your post has opened my eyes to a lot of my personal turmoil concerning nudism. Unfortunately I have not been able to convince my wife to experience the freedom of nudism, so I have more or less given up on it. I do on occasions forward posts from this forum to her so she may understand my interest in the lifestyle.

Thanks again Nudony for your excellent post.

[smoothdnbelow]

Hey Guy....

Take it all in stride. Don't overthink this issue too much. Remain positive and upbeat. As we all enjoy the freedom of nudity, we learn to balance the limits we need to adhere to. There is nothing wrong with enjoying nudity it's all learning to maintain the limits we need to to live a lifestyle some folks still cannot bring themselves to enjoy... Oh what they are missing!

[David77]

Nudony,
Thank you for sharing your life experiences with us, as it can give us more insight into our own lives with any problem with obsession and/or compulsion dealing with nudity.

http://www.mindbodyconsult.com/ocd/g...formation.html

[nudeM]

I have to admit, after reading some of the comments, there are some very good points made. I do like to work in the back yard more, now that I can be nude. My non-nude family members know I am nude in the back, but I will cover when I know they will be back there with me (barbequeing, family gatherings, etc.). While in the house, I wear my wrap around, which is just as good as being naked since it is made of a very light material. It is very evident I have nothing on underneath with the split side, but the 'bits' are covered, therefore it is accepable.

I have put off going to town, visiting friends, relatives just so I can stay home and be nude. I have almost been 'caught' numerous times.. Our Sons and Grandson have caught me, and nothing has been said, but I cover up. I don't run and hide, but rather finish pouring my coffee, reading an article, or whatever I'm doing then cover up. Now, the Mother-in-Law and our Sons' girlfriend who lives with us has never caught me, yet. I'm sure that is bound to happen one day.

My wife (hw) have become accepting of my wanting to be nude, but warns me when the house starts to 'wake up'. She will not join me with every one here, but she will when the house is empty, which isn't very often nowl. Our only nude time is confined to the bedroom, which is part of our addition. So it's better than nothing.

One of these days, the house will be empty and we will be able to walk freely nude as a goose. But that isn't going to happen any time soon.

[hw]

Originally Posted by nudeM

One of these days, the house will be empty and we will be able to walk freely nude as a goose. But that isn't going to happen any time soon.

Dreamer

[nakedjohn]

Yes, you can be obsessed with the desire to be nude, I think I am. I do not harm anybody or myself with it, so I think it is OK.

[nakeduni]

Yes, I am obsessed so you can imagine my frustration with living in the U.S. I like it warm so maybe I should live in Barcelena where nudity has a relatively healthier outlook.