How to tell Girlfriend about nudism????????

[Nekkidhead001]

Hey Everyone!!!!

I am a long time member, but more of a reader of the forums than a poster. As you can see I only have 2 posts but I just created a new account because I was experiencing some problems with my old account.

Anyways, I am 23 years old and in college. I am now in a wonderful relationship with a great girl. I honestly think this is the one that I will marry.

I know there has been a million and one posts about this same topic, but i would like to hear from some people who has been through it. I want to tell my girlfriend that I enjoy being nude and hope that she will want to join me in nudist activities. We have a wonderful relationship and i know that she would not ever be mad or offended by this if i tell her so im not too worried about her reaction.

I just want some people to tell me from their own experiences how they went about telling a loved one. What was your approach? What were their reactions and etc? She seems to be comfortable with her body, and doesn't mind undressing in front of me. Plus I know she has been skinny dipping and we have joked about going sometme. Anyways let me know any tips or ideas from your own experience.

Thanks!!!!!

[blackrebel]

Wear no clothes as much as possible. Then if she can, let her see sites like this about nudism if she is warm to it.

Skinny dipping when you can especially if you can jump in with others.

My friend is not comfortable but I ease her into it step by step. She knows that I am, but not been asked to events except to let her know that it's coming up. Our events are C/O so she can participate if she wants.

I have had none of past GF react negatively. None wanted to participate, just let me go about my biz.

[Sacramento Jesse]

Originally Posted by Nekkidhead001

Hey Everyone!!!!

I am a long time member, but more of a reader of the forums than a poster. As you can see I only have 2 posts but I just created a new account because I was experiencing some problems with my old account.

Anyways, I am 23 years old and in college. I am now in a wonderful relationship with a great girl. I honestly think this is the one that I will marry.

I know there has been a million and one posts about this same topic, but i would like to hear from some people who has been through it. I want to tell my girlfriend that I enjoy being nude and hope that she will want to join me in nudist activities. We have a wonderful relationship and i know that she would not ever be mad or offended by this if i tell her so im not too worried about her reaction.

I just want some people to tell me from their own experiences how they went about telling a loved one. What was your approach? What were their reactions and etc? She seems to be comfortable with her body, and doesn't mind undressing in front of me. Plus I know she has been skinny dipping and we have joked about going sometme. Anyways let me know any tips or ideas from your own experience.

Thanks!!!!!

Some say it shouldn't matter, but how long have you two been together? I'm asking because whenever I told a female that I was involved with about how I like to be nude, I don't tell her right away because I rather have us get to know each other well enough first.

Anyways, the way I went about telling my ex-lady (or the way she found out) was every summer since '04 a few of my friends and I would go to a near by nude beach at a lake. My friends and I made plans to go one morning and my lady at the time called me to ask me what I was doing. I told her I was going to the lake with my friends and she got mad I didn't invite her. Right then is when I was honest with her; I told her we were going to a nude beach at the lake, it's something that my friends and I have done for the past few summers and if she like to go, she can come along with but she didn't have to get naked if she didn't want to. She told me to come by and pick her up, we went to the beach, she ended up going topless and said she had a lot of fun. I guess she seen it was something apart of my life and she wanted to be involved. At the time we were together for 6 months, so thats how long I waited before I told her about nudism.

Her reaction; she didn't think I was going to get naked at all and it surprised her that I did. She was that there was an older nude gentlemen already there at the beach and I was sitting right next time to him talking comfortably about school and family. It took her a while to remove her top but you can't rush these sort of things. It was a small atmosphere of around 8 people (3 of them being clothed).

The lady I'm currently involved with, we've been seeing each other for 5 months now and I recently told her of my interest in nudism. I really don't remember how it was brought up but she is totally supportive. If it ever gets brought up talk about it in a serious manner and don't ever try to force her to do join. Show her it's fun to be nude.

[shaneone]

I used to be nude a lot at home around my wife when we started dating. I let her know from the start that I preferred to be nude whenever I could.
She never paid too much attention and found it normal behaviour for me. We went on vacation and on the second day at the beach I told her it might be nice to wander a 100 yards or so and we could get an all-over tan on the naturist side. This was when she realized I did prefer to be nude a lot. But, she agreed and enjoyed it. She has been only a few times since over recent years, but is ok with me going, or will come with me and just be topless.

So, just go for it, tell her, ask her to join in, she may surprize you

[benakkied]

I told my friend I enjoyed being nude and about skinnydipping, she told me that she enjoyed the pool at her parents home with her family nude. I asked her about visiting a beach in Toronto she said maybe . She was talking to her friend about the conversation . During that conversation her friend told her about sailing nudewith her male friend, the friend invited us to go sailing one thing led to another . We are looking for warmer weather to go to the resort . She liked the resortidea as it look like it was a nice place away from unwanted lookers.Both girls said they would just want to feel safe and out of sight of anyone that would see them and say anything .Her friend really surprised me . You do not ever know. Let your girl friend know by talking and make her comfortable if she agrees.

[Agde]

Just to preface that I grew up in a naturist family, am not a diehard nude-all-the-time naturist, and have lived in several countries that don't match your circumstances, but during college and grad school in the States, I had three experiences which might be topical.

One was during college with a girlfriend who enjoyed sports activities and one sunny day when she was beating me badly at tennis and I had worked up a monumental sweat, I remarked that I wished we were playing out at the sunclub so I could quickly jump in a shower to cool off! That started a conversation about "do people really play tennis naked?" ..."sure, and volleyball, and ping-pong, and swim...the body gets a chance to breathe..." Left it at that, and sure enough a couple days later she asked me if I felt like getting trounced at tennis again, this time near a shower. It was sort of the "integrate naturism naturally into activities" approach.

Another experience was in a new living-together situation. Coming out of the shower one morning, I asked if she minded if I "aired a bit" before getting dressed. We went through the usual breakfast routine and then I went and got ready for work. She started doing her morning makeup etc routine with less and less clothing and finally without. Eventually we'd throw off work clothes and enjoy some "air time" before changing for the evening. By summertime, going nude at the beach was just another incremental step. Of course I had the advantage of being able to explain this was just the way I was brought up, but I think what she picked up on was the casualness that allowed her to be like she would be if not living with someone. Sort of the "build naturism gently into the routine" approach.

The third case was with a college girlfriend who grew up in a family where she literally was clothed every second that she wasn't bathing. I figured an incremental approach would take a century and summer was just around the corner. So I made reservations at an elegant outdoor cafe and practiced a speech in my head that started out with "I need to talk to you about something because otherwise we need to go shopping for a comfortable swimsuit for me..." I didn't get too far into the speech when she started asking questions and I relaxed. Long story short, we decided to find ways we both could be ourselves and sometimes dip into each other's worlds. For example, we found a clothing-optional beach that we both liked, and we had fun negotiating trades -- she watched TV soccer with me and I watched cooking with her, her first visit to the sunclub was in exchange for me doing a ballroom dancing class with her. Turned out we both had fun! Sort of the "be, let be, and explore" approach.

[Nekkidhead001]

thanks everyone for your help!!!

[Qikdraw]

Have you told her yet? How did it go?

Qikdraw

[Peter B]

I lived in China for 8 years and during that time, in the first year, I got to know and love a chinese woman. I was then 58 , she was35, divorced with a son.
My lifestyle, being naked in that hot summer climate, was utterly foreign to her,but since I showed no embarrasment about being naked in summer inside the flat, it was accepted, partially since "laowai" were crazy anyway.

It created a few akward moments, me being naked and the rest of the family and a few friends, sweating in the summer heat, sitting around the table and me waltzing in, in uniform.

Now here, after a few years in NZ, she no longer has any trouble in going to the nude swimmming nights in the heated pool of the hospital, or going to sleep naked.

From your side, you must show that nudity has a non sexual side at most times and is dictated by need and comfort.
Being naked is simply a matter of circumstance; the beach, the pool. the hot tub, the warm room.

[Pizzaguy]

For me, it was easy to tell 'her'. My story is weird and unusual - just like everything else about me.

I am 48, she is 56. WE'v been friends since 1992, her husband left her for a younger woman in 2000. I'v had a thing for her forever, but only told her 8 days ago, when she came to visit (she's 700 miles from me) last week.

Actually, I told her a LOT of stuff that day. I first told her that I like nudity around the house, and that I had tried nude hiking. She told me I was FULL of surprises. I told her I had another for her.

I told her that I knew her so well, and thought so much of her, that I"d marry her tomorrow if she'd stay here in Georgia. She did go home in 2 days, but we talk every night and are 'working' on the implications of what I said.

Turns out, she's kinda got a thing for me!

Now remember, she's a life long church going Presbyterian, she won't have sex outside of marriage (she stayed in my guest room, even after some romantic days together), and has NEVER had sex outside of marriage!!!!

I told her that nudity is not nessesarily sexual, and that I really liked being outdoors and nude in nature. She has actually said that my 'thing' for nudity will not influence her about a relationship with me! She even said that, "If it's really like you say, and these people aren't all swingers, I might someday join you at a resort"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!

Yea, I can hardly believe it, either.

Ya never know. But then, we'v known each other for 14 years and have developed a respect and friendship that goes very deep. We trust each other greatly.

Just my wierd two cents. I have always known there is no one like Helen on this earth. I'v known for a few years that I loved her, I guess it was time to tell her.

I can't believe she responded warmly, after all I'v told her!