My son has rejected nudism

[HaroldTheNudist]

well you try to raise kids right but I guess sometimes you fail.

my son is going to a camp this week, and there are open showers.

instead of getting naked with others, he is bringing along a pair of swim trunks to take showers in so he isnt seen.

he wants absolutely nothing to do with nudism or being naked.

Harry

[luvnaturism]

How old is your son? There was a time when I might have done the same.

But you never know. If others are showering nude, he may decide to just fit in.

[HaroldTheNudist]

hes a teenager.

no, I dont believe he is gonna get nude with the other kids.

frankly I doubt any of the other kids will get naked as well.

I suppose I cant blame him. when I was young, in school if they had showers I would prefer to miss the class and fail then get naked in front of my school mates.

I go to the gym and see NO ONE naked (not that I really look). guys dont turn me on. but no one is naked there.

Harry

[walter05]

I think you have contributed to your children’s views.

There is a topic known as “Does Being A Nudist Split Families.
Post #31 is from you and you wrote, “well, my wife left me and my teenage children don't come around. My wife did not appreciate me talking to her boss about nudism and advocating the work place become clothing optional. Also, my insistance that our home be nude only was too much for her. Alas the problems related to body acceptance.”

There was then the usual give and take, and on Post #46, you wrote, “you seem to think my wife and children are the most important things to me. Nudism is.”

I am not saying that what you are saying about teens is entirely wrong. However, to your son and children, you chose nudism over them. That would tend to build a lot of resentment at nudism.

I can imagine that your son is afraid that if he were to shower nude, he may like it and enjoy the body acceptance. He does not want that to happen because your being into nudism destroyed his home and family.

I therefore think that the biggest problem is not your children’s views on nudism and body acceptance. It is your lack of a true love for your children that out weighs your being into nudism.

I am not saying these things to be cruel. I believe that you really want your children to have healthy body images. I am saying these things with the hope you will take some quiet time and attempt to come up with a strategy to reverse their views.

[walter05]

I think you have contributed to your children’s views.

There is a topic known as Does Being A Nudist Split Families. Post #31 is from you and you wrote,

“well, my wife left me and my teenage children don't come around. My wife did not appreciate me talking to her boss about nudism and advocating the work place become clothing optional. Also, my insistance that our home be nude only was too much for her. Alas the problems related to body acceptance.

”

There was then the usual give and take, and on Post #46, you wrote, "

you seem to think my wife and children are the most important things to me. Nudism is.

”

I am not saying that what you are saying about teens is entirely wrong. However, to your son and children, you chose nudism over them. That would tend to build a lot of resentment at nudism.

I can imagine that your son is afraid that if he were to shower nude, he may like it and enjoy the body acceptance. He does not want that to happen because your being into nudism destroyed his home and family.

I therefore think that the biggest problem is not your children’s views on nudism and body acceptance. It is your lack of a true love for your children that out weighs your being into nudism.

I am not saying these things to be cruel. I believe that you really want your children to have healthy body images. I am saying these things with the hope you will take some quiet time and attempt to come up with a strategy to reverse their views.

[HaroldTheNudist]

Walt

you might be right.

my son does not live with me anymore.

as I think about this topic (kids showering naked) I am not sure I agree with it.

Its been a lot of years since I was a teenager, but I know that kids can be cruel, and that cruelty could extend to describing to others like girls descriptions of genitals.

it seems to me gang showers are a thing of the past now. when I get a moment I will talk to my son to see how many kids actually got naked with their peers, but I think given the social climate we live in it will be about none.

Harry

[walter05]

I go to a place with my sons for swimming. There are open showers. (I don't like the term "gang showers").

There is usually a crowd. There are boys from six up to men in their eighties. All shower together, change together, and no one says anything.

My wife and I talked about this over the weekend. She thinks in the internet age when people develop relationships without meeting real flesh and blood people, this is even more beneficial. I think she may be right.

Perhaps you can arrange for your son to be in such a setting with non-nudists. He will realize this is normal.

[scubare]

Sounds like some pretty good advice Walter. Good luck to you and your son, Harold.

[RichNH]

Originally Posted by HaroldTheNudist

Walt
when I get a moment I will talk to my son to see how many kids actually got naked with their peers, but I think given the social climate we live in it will be about none.

Harry

Harry, Just a thought on my part, but don't you think that perhaps, given the relationship you have with the rest of the family, the last thing you should be discussing with your son is whether or not the other kids were nude?

I mean it really sounds like the prime thrust of any discussion between you and the rest of the family right now should be to rebuild bridges, not bring up the same old topic which destroyed the original bridges.

If I was you I'd steer clear of any mention of nudism at all. Live your life, and let them live theirs. The subject should be taboo in your mind when talking to your family.

Rich

[walter05]

RuchNH gave the best advice. I wish I had thought of his advise. I would follow his advice.