Annie's Mailbox

[Bob S.]

In Monday's (Sept 12) Annie's Mailbox column, they fielded a letter about a woman who was concerned about a 4-year-old boy who plays naked in his front yard.

I find her advice to the writer to be very good. The woman's only problem is regarding pedophiles and how to raise her concerns to the parents.

In the link, if you click and notice it is on another date, just go to the bottom to see earlier columns.

Bob S.

Dear Annie: There is a family that lives around the corner from my house. I've lived in this town all my life. They have been here only about five years. This is not a crime-riddled area, but it's not exactly the most peaceful neighborhood, either.

This couple has two young children. One is a boy who looks to be about 4 years old. Every summer, they let their young son play in the front yard completely naked. He is, of course, supervised by one or both of his parents when he is playing, but we do not live in a safe age anymore.

Pedophile incidents are becoming frighteningly too common these days. As far as I know, there aren't any pedophiles in this neighborhood. But it is not a tight-knit neighborhood, so I can't say for sure.

I am not going to speculate as to why this couple allows their child to be naked in public. I don't know them. I don't even know their names. I was thinking of sending them an anonymous note, asking them to please be more careful with their son. I certainly don't want them to think I'm a prude. I believe the human body is nothing to be ashamed of. But I just don't feel this is a safe or wise thing to do.

Is it OK to send an anonymous note? Am I just being paranoid? Please let me know what you think. -- Concerned in Massachusetts

Dear Concerned: Don't send an anonymous note. That would scare the living daylights out of them. It's true that pedophiles would consider naked children attractive targets, but mostly, pedophiles look for children who are easy prey. Those kids are being supervised closely by their parents.

Why don't you make friends with your neighbors? One of those nice days when they are sitting outside, go over and say hello. You can then voice your concern about pedophiles, who, by the way, live in every kind of neighborhood.

[Bob S.]

In Monday's (Sept 12) Annie's Mailbox column, they fielded a letter about a woman who was concerned about a 4-year-old boy who plays naked in his front yard.

I find her advice to the writer to be very good. The woman's only problem is regarding pedophiles and how to raise her concerns to the parents.

In the link, if you click and notice it is on another date, just go to the bottom to see earlier columns.

Bob S.

Dear Annie: There is a family that lives around the corner from my house. I've lived in this town all my life. They have been here only about five years. This is not a crime-riddled area, but it's not exactly the most peaceful neighborhood, either.

This couple has two young children. One is a boy who looks to be about 4 years old. Every summer, they let their young son play in the front yard completely naked. He is, of course, supervised by one or both of his parents when he is playing, but we do not live in a safe age anymore.

Pedophile incidents are becoming frighteningly too common these days. As far as I know, there aren't any pedophiles in this neighborhood. But it is not a tight-knit neighborhood, so I can't say for sure.

I am not going to speculate as to why this couple allows their child to be naked in public. I don't know them. I don't even know their names. I was thinking of sending them an anonymous note, asking them to please be more careful with their son. I certainly don't want them to think I'm a prude. I believe the human body is nothing to be ashamed of. But I just don't feel this is a safe or wise thing to do.

Is it OK to send an anonymous note? Am I just being paranoid? Please let me know what you think. -- Concerned in Massachusetts

Dear Concerned: Don't send an anonymous note. That would scare the living daylights out of them. It's true that pedophiles would consider naked children attractive targets, but mostly, pedophiles look for children who are easy prey. Those kids are being supervised closely by their parents.

Why don't you make friends with your neighbors? One of those nice days when they are sitting outside, go over and say hello. You can then voice your concern about pedophiles, who, by the way, live in every kind of neighborhood.

[nudeM]

Thanks for the article, Bob. It is unfortunate we live in a different society knowadays. What used to be safe back when I was a kid, is not exactly safe these days.

I am referring to the days when we, as kids, were allowed to ride our bikes for miles to play basketball at a school, or just to go to the store (lived in the country). But, now, you read of pedophiles that are literally everywhere.

How do you spot them? You don't. Sad, but it usually takes an incident to happen before one is found. At least, thanks to Megans' Law, one could go to the computer and search for pedophiles, and check your neighborhood. This is how we found out that the neighbors' ex brother-in-law, was a felon. Hw found this out over that site. He moved out soon after the word got out. (He has since passed away).

Thanks for sharing that with us. Goes to show, there are still some people who will still look out for the little ones.

[Ben_m]

I seriously doubt that clothes present much of an obstacle for pedophiles, but as noted, I'm sure close supervision does. Curious how we still allow the nudity=sex idea to influence our thinking.

[Kari P]

Do you think pedophilic incidents have really increased? Most probably it's only their publicity.

[Croydon]

quote:

Originally posted by Kari P:
Do you think pedophilic incidents have really increased? Most probably it's only their publicity.

You are 100% right Kari. Pedophilia is not on the rise. The media has focused so much on the issue and make it APPEEAR it is on the rise. Because people hear about it a lot, they make conclusion that it is on the rise.

In the early days, Pedophila was no different than today. The difference, today, many children come out and tell someome. Years ago, many children said and did nothing. These incidents were rarely reported to the authorities.

Also, one thing the writer left out. We often think pedophiles are strangers, people we do not know and live in our neighborhoods or the like. This is not correct. Majority of sexual molestations are commited by pepople who know and associated with the family of the child. In a lot of cases, it is a relative, not some complete stranger.

[usuallylurk]

quote:

Originally posted by Kari P:
Do you think pedophilic incidents have really increased? Most probably it's only their publicity.

Not just the publicity -- but people report it more these days.

[meredith2kp4]

The idea that society is going to hell in a handbasket is a staple of the religious right, who have been thinking the same thing for hundreds, if not thousands, of years. I have correspondence of my grandfather, who was choirmaster in a lutheran church, about the church's pedophile pastor in 1910. My grandfather left the church.

I am 75 years old, and it is clear to me that people who talk about "the good old days" have poor memories.

Unfortunately I remember my past very well, which is why I don't recall very many "good old days".

[nakednudists]

I bet there are pedophiles that visit the forums here.