Teenagers Reaction

travisg · #1 08-30-2002, 03:00 PM

I need some input from younger naturists. I'm a 42 year old dad -- sons are 16 and 12. I told them earlier today that during a recent vacation, I enjoyed relaxing around the house my wife and I rented in the nude. Asked them if I did the same at home, would they mind or be uncomfortable. Both seemed positive, and to some degree supportive. I think their reactions were straightforward. Do others in this forum think I did the right thing? What would you think if (you weren't into naturism now) and your dad told you the same?

I don't think I hit them out of the blue. Both saw me naked in the family room watching TV with their Mom last night.

Trav

travisg · #2 08-30-2002, 03:00 PM

I need some input from younger naturists. I'm a 42 year old dad -- sons are 16 and 12. I told them earlier today that during a recent vacation, I enjoyed relaxing around the house my wife and I rented in the nude. Asked them if I did the same at home, would they mind or be uncomfortable. Both seemed positive, and to some degree supportive. I think their reactions were straightforward. Do others in this forum think I did the right thing? What would you think if (you weren't into naturism now) and your dad told you the same?

I don't think I hit them out of the blue. Both saw me naked in the family room watching TV with their Mom last night.

Trav

nudeM · #3 08-30-2002, 08:31 PM

travisg: Just a little warning: When I first walked nude in front of my boys, 14 and 17, they, both said they were alright with my nudity. But comes to find out, the older one was much more bothered by it than the younger. He has since enrolled in the Navy and is no longer around. But the younger one still has reservations about my nudity. Sure, he goes along with it, but I can still see he is still not comfortable with it. That is why I still stay covered while indoors, but outside, I am nude at all times. I have noticed he does not come outside when I am naked. I will try to accept his non-acceptance while indoors, but he also has to accept MY acceptane while outdoors. Just my little input. I like to be nude outside, but I will bend a little while inside. My wife, still, doesn't like me to be nude at all, but for the last couple of days, I have worked in the backyard totally naked. I think she has finally seen the fact, while there are no kids around, I will be naked both inside and outside of the house.

**Bob S.** · #4 08-30-2002, 11:04 PM

Let's see, you talked with your children about your beliefs and asked them if it would be all right if you practiced said belief. Lines of communication are open. Yup, you did the right thing.

Their reaction to seeing you naked was tempered by the fact that you did the considerate thing by talking to them and asking their feelings on the subject, which they supposedly agreed with. You might want to keep these lines of communication open and ask them after they see you naked again if they are really fine with it and let them know that you will be available if they ever want to talk with you about your nakedness.

As for my reaction if I were in your son's shoes, I am not sure. My parents were never ardently modest about their nudity, however I rarely saw them naked save for the occasional instance when their bedroom door was open and I happened to be passing by as they were dressing.

For me, I can't even imagine being naked in front of my parents or seeing them naked either. That may sound odd coming from a nudist, but it has to do with the relationship that we have.

Bob S.

turkishnudes · #5 08-31-2002, 12:54 AM

This may be a bit radical ( and from your post I am not sure if your wife is also naked in the house that you rent), but why not have a special dinner at home, with all the trimmings, eerybody's favourite food etc. and have all the family be naked too.
If they settle to this, I guess you've cracked it!
(Maybe if you don't want to be naked at the start, then a "fun" way to get everybody undressed could be to remove items of clothing after each course, so by the time the coffee arrives you are all naked).
Just a suggestion?

Xen · #6 08-31-2002, 06:39 AM

If your son has joined the navy he will surely have had to overcome any inhibitions about nudity that he had, afterall you did not ask him to come to a naturist club with you.

At the risk of stating the obvious, I think that the best starting point for naturism is nudity and making sure that someone is entirely happy with their own nudity before moving onto naturism. Why not go to a nude YMCA swim with your sons, or go a gym that has a steam and sauna in the changing rooms. That way you can get them used to being naked, to being naked with you and also naked around others - who are naked too. Thereafter they will hopefully be far more relaxed with you naked at home, may at times (outdoors perhaps) be naked themsleves and may even be persuaded to join you in visiting a naturist club.

nudeM · #7 08-31-2002, 08:23 AM

Xen: Excellent point and well taken. I have never even thought about that idea. Thanks for the info. Maybe I'll give that a try in the future. We both went to the doctor a couple of months ago, different problems, and I had to drop my pants in front of him. He never said anything about that episode, but I know he got an eye-full. I had a male-problem, and the doctor performed his examination in front of him. I'm sure he will come around and get used to my nudity around the house soon. Thanks for the great idea.

Trojan · #8 09-01-2002, 10:42 AM

NOTE TO XEN (8/31)

Xen, if you know of a YMCA that has nede swimming for men, please post the location. The YMCA discontinued this activity years ago. Are they starting it up again? Thanks for any info you may have!

Trojan · #9 09-01-2002, 10:44 AM

Correction to above: nude swimming, not nede swimming!

#10 09-01-2002, 06:09 PM

I'm not a teen, or even young any longer, but please allow me to add my 2 cents worth, if it's even worth that much.

As I was growing up I saw my dad nude a lot. We weren't nudists, but he didn't care who saw him. I suspect he was an exibitionist.

I have no sons, but I have 2 grown daughters. When they were little I went nude in front of them, but before they reached their teens that ended because they were no longer comfortable with it. Since most people aren't nudists and think there's something wrong with it, the world has a big influence on how young people think and believe, or am I wrong?
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