Privacy II

[travisg]

Thanks to all who answered my first message.

Question. If the goal is to maintain privacy, how do you tell the kids about nudism (maybe take them to a club) and tell them not to talk about it to their friends? In other words, if nudism is OK, why should they refrain from talking about it with theiir peers? Nudism isn't a ba thing, but if they talk about it, the information is out.

Travisg

[travisg]

Thanks to all who answered my first message.

Question. If the goal is to maintain privacy, how do you tell the kids about nudism (maybe take them to a club) and tell them not to talk about it to their friends? In other words, if nudism is OK, why should they refrain from talking about it with theiir peers? Nudism isn't a ba thing, but if they talk about it, the information is out.

Travisg

[wannabenaked2001]

I would "guess" that how you might handle this would depend on the age of the kids. I am not a father, but I am an uncle many times over, and I have learned for a fact that "kids say the darndest things". IF you are "out of the closet" as a nudist, who cares? I know this is not much help, but I hope I helped (even a little).

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Nudity isn't a bad thing--except in the minds of those who don't participate in it. That's why there are people I don't tell, although I have told quite a few people.

I have an adult nephew who lives with me and has gotten used to my constant nudity in the house. He even went one time with me to a resort and enjoyed it. He had a girlfriend who said I was "weird" because of being a nudist. That's what most people will think of you and your kids if they tell their friends, because that's the way people's minds work.

Certainly, share your love of being nude with your family if you want as long as you're prepared to accept any criticism, rejection and unkind words of textile people who think nudity is only for bathing or sex.

I've told my grown daughters and other people. The only ones I haven't told are the ones at my church. The resort where I go has a woman working in the office who isn't a nudist. Although she doesn't go into the resort and just stays in the office down at the main gate, her church rejected her because of where she is working.

Unfortunately, we have to deal with people who are ignorant of the joys and pleasure of being nude with other people while doing what they do in clothes and swimsuits that are very uncomfortable. They are also ignorant of the fact that there is nothing, even in the Bible, that is wrong with social nudity. Ever since people first starting covering their bodies, they have aquired the belief that has been handed down from generation to generation--that certain parts of the body are shameful, indecent, and should be seen only by one's husband or wife.
They also have learned the midguided beleif that nudity is harmful and tramatic for a child. Actually, children are the most natural nudists before they are taught that they should hide their bodies and not let anyone see them "naked".

Unfortunately, by the time a child reaches his or her teens without being exposed to nudity in the home and places where nudists gather, it's usually too late to start then, if it's not too late before that time.
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[Bob S.]

I agree with Jim the wannabe in saying that it matters how old the children in question are.

I am a preschool teacher and these children can talk about anything and will also use their play to act out things in their lives. In fact, watching them play house lets me kind of peek into the workings of their homelife. When talking to young children, let's say up to about age 6 or 7, concentrate on what they did at the park, not what they wore.

Of course, young children will spill the beans once in a while. Just be sure to tell them that they are free to be naked at your house, but unless Mom and Dad remove their clothes at someone else's house, they should keep their clothes on as well.

As the children grow up, they will figure out what friends they can entrust with such information and who they shouldn't tell. But even if someone else finds out, don't get too crazy about it. If the parents ask about it, just be upfront and truthful about it, reassuring them, if necessary, that their children are safe at your home and you will respect their wishes and stay dressed while their child is over. You do not need to defend your decision about how to raise your own child.

Bob S.