how to NOT tell a friend

Kristin · #1 07-29-2002, 08:58 PM

I think most people's first question when they get into nudism is how to tell their friedns and family, but I have the opposite problem.

For those of you who haven't read my previous posts, I'm 14 and a pretty avid nudist. In fact, I haven't worn any clothes at all in 10 days. I'm pretty experienced at telling my friends, but I'm careful to only tell the ones that I know can keep a secret.

So my problem comes in this weekend, when I go wilderness camping with one of my friends and her family. Now there's no doubt in my mind that if I was going with my family that I would spend the vast majority of the time naked. However, I can't tell this friend that I'm a nudist because she couldn't keep a secret if her life depended on it.

I really don't want to blow this opportunity to be nude in the wilderness. So how do I ask them if I can go naked without telling them that I'm a naturist?

Kristin · #2 07-29-2002, 08:58 PM

I think most people's first question when they get into nudism is how to tell their friedns and family, but I have the opposite problem.

For those of you who haven't read my previous posts, I'm 14 and a pretty avid nudist. In fact, I haven't worn any clothes at all in 10 days. I'm pretty experienced at telling my friends, but I'm careful to only tell the ones that I know can keep a secret.

So my problem comes in this weekend, when I go wilderness camping with one of my friends and her family. Now there's no doubt in my mind that if I was going with my family that I would spend the vast majority of the time naked. However, I can't tell this friend that I'm a nudist because she couldn't keep a secret if her life depended on it.

I really don't want to blow this opportunity to be nude in the wilderness. So how do I ask them if I can go naked without telling them that I'm a naturist?

Stewey · #3 07-29-2002, 09:07 PM

Well, if there's a swimmable lake nearby, you could always use the excuse that you want to go swimming but forgot to pack your bathing suit. Just tell them that you'd like a little privacy while you swim in the buff.

wannabenaked2001 · #4 07-29-2002, 11:16 PM

Kristin, I loved your story! I think the previous post had good advice with forgetting your suit. Many people look at skinny-dipping far more lightly than the label of "nudist" or "naturist".

Also, check out this site. Some great stories, you may want to add your own to the message board. I do not encourage the streaking!
http://www.geocities.com/sunnydaynew/

JimSunny Day

wannabenaked2001 · #5 07-29-2002, 11:18 PM

Sorry, I did not mean to imply that I am Sunny Day. I am still figuring out some of the internet stuff.

Jim

**Bob S.** · #6 07-30-2002, 05:00 AM

I, too agree with Dukhat and Sr. wannabe with suggesting the skinny-dipping session. But I wouldn't suggest going swimming alone.

But realize that if this friend of yours cannot keep a secret, then going naked around her may be too much for her to keep to herself. You need to decide which is more important to you, your privacy or your enjoyment of nudism.

And you haven't told us the make up of the camping party that will be accompanying you. Who exactly is going from your friend's family? Her father? brothers? This would definitely alter any advice I would give to you. And what is their stance on nudism?

Anyway, consider yourself a lucky girl to have so many opportunities to be yourself and seemingly mature enough to enjoy them with your parents' trust.

Bob S.

Andrew_A · #7 07-30-2002, 05:40 AM

Hi Kristen,

The skinny-dipping idea may work while you are engaged in it. Some of the others, if not all, may feel comfortable enough to join you. However, if you feel this approach might work as breaking the ice for you to be nude for the remainder of your stay, post-skinny-dipping, I'm not sure how you would explain that. If the rest put their clothes back on after the swim and you don't, what might they think? You may have to tell them then. Maybe even use light-hearted humor to make them be at ease, like; "Just so you know, I don't feel at all uncomfortable with you guys wearing clothes." Hm-m. Hard one. Play it carefully.

Andrew

Kristin · #8 07-30-2002, 05:10 PM

Answering Bob's questions:
1. I want to be as careful as I can, but I think that in this situation enjoying the outdoors in the nude is more important than keeping a secret. But I'm not sure, and probably won't find out till we get there.
2. It's just me, my friend, and her mother and father.
3. I have no idea what their stance and nudism is.

And also, Andrew, no offense, but how can you spell my name wrong when it's right on the top of the page? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

Well, I'll let you know what happens, but that's not for another two or three days. Feel free to give me more input.

Stewey · #9 07-30-2002, 05:55 PM

In Andrew's defense, if I had a nickel for every time someone on this board spelled things wrong...well, I'd have a boatload of nickels.

What I'd really like to know is (and no offense, Kristin, as I've seen this before with other new members) just how in the world does a new member with only four or five posts to their name get a five-star rating that quickly? I've been posting here for nine months, with over 200 posts, and I only have three stars.

Not that I'm losing sleep over this or anything. Just curious...

Kristin · #10 07-30-2002, 06:01 PM

It's pretty simple. I only have two votes, and you have 15.

But (no offense) can we please stay on topic?