Nudist wives: why everyone wants one (and why it sucks when you don't have one)

[NudonyII]

Obviously my title and post are a bit "tongue-in-cheek" since some guys are perfectly happy single; and some guys prefer having a nudist husband.

But.

There's about a gazillions posts about guys asking: "how do I convince my wife to try nudism?" So there's something there. Many guys would like to have a nudist wife.

From a relationship standpoint, it makes complete sense. Our wives are our life-companions (50% of the time) so we'd much prefer to enjoy nudism with them rather than alone. Sometimes we might even find our wives attractive, and seeing them comfortably naked is a joyful experience. This summer I was at a resort with my wife; and she was standing at the edge of the pier chatting with some canoers on the lake. As I saw her standing there naked and confident overlooking the canoers, merrily chatting with them, I couldn't help but think: "WOW!! My wife is awesome!" So there's definitely an element of pride and admiration.

And then, there's the social aspect. A guy by himself almost automatically invites suspicion: "Why is her here? Is he going to be looking at my wife? Why is he looking at my kids?!" But as most (I would hope) of us now that most single guys just want to be accepted and fit in. And the last thing they want is to be escorted off the premises.
But...being accompanied by a wife almost always confers a sense of legitimacy. And therefore acceptance. I experienced it first hand when I first went to a nudist club by myself; and then returned accompanied by my wife. Not saying it's a good thing; but it is a reality.

Having been married twice, and met many other nudist wives, I came to a conclusion. Nudist wives have super-powers. Their power is to influence the nudist environment. I remember the first time my (first) wife went nude at our club (the first time she kept on her sarong and she started that way on the second). When she decided to whisk off her sarong in a "oh...why the heck not?" moment, the atmosphere suddenly changed as people showered her with enthusiasm and positive feedback at her newly-revealed nudity. At that moment I also practically no longer existed. It was all about "Shelly got naked! YAY!!"
Confident and comfortable nudist wives also have the power to "turn" other wives. I remember when a VERY reluctant wife came to our club; fully dressed and pretty upset (I think her husband had told her a bit of a fib about what to expect.) My wife (still the first) had entered her "fully confident" phase and decided to approach and interact with her (in the spirit of sisterhood.) The woman was initially a bit surprised and unsettled by this completely naked woman approaching her and starting a conversation. Then she warmed up to her (as my wife was always the congenial type). Long story short; as you might have guessed by now: a while later the woman is sitting next to my wife by the hot tub - her clothes having mysteriously vanished; and they're both naked and chatting like high-school best friends. The husband was puzzled as he had tried again and again to get his wife to disrobe, to no avail. It was all due to the nudist wife super-power, which apparently causes other women 's clothes to vanish.

I don't know all the sociological factors that make the nudist wife such a "powerful" force in nudism. I asked my (current) wife and she gave me a cheeky reply: "Naked women are nicer!" Does that mean they are more congenial or more attractive? I think her answer lies somewhere in the middle. It took my wife a while to get used to being "openly exposed" around other people. But now that she is totally comfortable being actively naked it definitely has made a difference in our nudist interactions. People see her being positively naked and start conversations; and women that are a bit shy gravitate towards her and absorb some of her nudist wife powers.
All joking aside: if you have a nudist wife, celebrate her. If you have a reluctant wife, do not bemoan her. And if you have no interest in a nudist wife, well good for you!

[noodist516]

Hmm ... interesting post. I wouldn't say my wife is a nudist, but we have been to nude beaches. She seems to enjoy, but is reluctant to try clubs or other nudist activities.

[swedenu]

I know very well that I am quite fortunate to have a nudist wife. She had shown me the usual nude photos she had had taken in the past, but social nudism was something different. Hoping, I “scouted out“ a local nudist resort by myself, and then tentatively offered to take her there. Initially reluctant, she also must have decided “what the heck“ and came with me. She was treated in such a positive manner by others at the resort that she quickly discarded her clothing. Here is a photo of us, with her especially comfortable and proud appearance, I had taken by the staff during one of those group photo sessions by the resort photographer.. All I would say is if you have a reluctant spouse, be patient and give your spouse time to meet people and get acclimated. It can be beautiful.

[JohnWasElwood]

Newbie here... Just poking around to see what ClothesFree is all about, but...
GLAD that my wife of 37 years has been more and more accepting of my/our nudist/naturist life.
We've slept nude for all of our married life, went to one resort's "open house" back in the 80's, and to a clothing optional beach back in 2000 when we were in Hawaii, but still always thought that "nudists are mostly those crazy hippie types" and we certainly weren't anything like they are! We started enjoying "naked coffee" out on the porch of our old house in the country that overlooked a nice river about 10 years ago, but we still never really thought of ourselves as "nudists" or "naturists".
"Working from home" back in 2020 allowed me the freedom to explore more on the internet in between assignments, and I was able to join Reddit and learned that more and more people were attending their work conference calls nude and doing more work, and homeowner chores nude in 2020... My light bulb came ON and I was HOOKED. My wife was amused when she'd come home after work (essential health care related job) to find me working at the computer nude, or even better, tinkering around in the back yard nude - digging holes for her new plants, installing sprinklers, pruning bushes and working on this & that... clothes free! We're in south Louisiana, so the HOT & HUMID days made it that much easier to ditch my clothes when I went outside to work on something. Our back yard is really pretty private and there are no 2 story houses anywhere near here. She slowly got over her "amusement" and occasionally would join me with a glass of wine and her sarong in the hammock for a quick break. She's still not saying "I love being naked outdoors" yet, but it's coming around. We're doing "naked coffee" here pretty much every weekend that the weather cooperates, and she'll admit to "missing it" when we can't!
I was out of town for an extended period in late summer last year, and I promised her that when I came home that we'd go away for a little retreat where she could get a massage and a manicure. I suggested Cypress Cove, and at first she was reluctant, but when I told her that a) they had massages & manicures and that b) it was clothing OPTIONAL, she agreed. We went back in October, and although she never went completely nude around other people, she later admitted that she felt really comfortable there and that she had a nice time. She's still not "begging to go back" but she did smile and agree to a return visit "some day".
Interestingly, we are still quite conservative, regular church goers, and we never did embrace the "party hard" lifestyle, so how is it that we're now some of those "crazy hippie types"??? I did a LOT of research and careful reading and have come to the realization that we were created & intended to be nude to live and work in the Garden of Eden, and that there is nowhere in the bible specifically prohibiting non-sexual nudity. (I haven't had the courage to talk to my pastor about it.... YET!!!) If there are any other Christians / couples who are not sure if the "nudist / naturist life" is for you, please get in touch with us!

[swedenu]

Great first post! I sent you a private message.

[JohnWasElwood]

You know... something in the back of my head keeps reminding me that in order to have your wife / girlfriend be more comfortable being nude, especially in the company of others, she MUST feel comfortable and protected by YOU. I keep reading posts on another social media board related to Nudism about all of the guys asking "How do I get my wife / girlfriend to go..." and when I engage with them in private chats, it seems like many/most of them are having relationship issues that are overshadowing their "fun times" together. If your relationship isn't the best, maybe work on that first? My wife and I certainly aren't perfect, and yes we occasionally have our disagreements and sometimes we get really pretty angry with each other. But at the end of the day we realize that we've made it 37 years by being FRIENDS and by compromising and "meeting in the middle" on a lot of things. My wife was reluctant to go to Cypress Cove at first, but she agreed to at least TRY to like it as a favor to me (as I have also done things with her in the past that I honestly wasn't all that excited about doing). When we were headed for home she admitted that she was glad that we went. Again, not "begging to go back" but at least she's agreeable to going back when we can, or trying out some new places/opportunities.

[seanotanline]

You know... something in the back of my head keeps reminding me that in order to have your wife / girlfriend be more comfortable being nude, especially in the company of others, she MUST feel comfortable and protected by YOU. I keep reading posts on another social media board related to Nudism about all of the guys asking "How do I get my wife / girlfriend to go..." and when I engage with them in private chats, it seems like many/most of them are having relationship issues that are overshadowing their "fun times" together. If your relationship isn't the best, maybe work on that first? My wife and I certainly aren't perfect, and yes we occasionally have our disagreements and sometimes we get really pretty angry with each other. But at the end of the day we realize that we've made it 37 years by being FRIENDS and by compromising and "meeting in the middle" on a lot of things. My wife was reluctant to go to Cypress Cove at first, but she agreed to at least TRY to like it as a favor to me (as I have also done things with her in the past that I honestly wasn't all that excited about doing). When we were headed for home she admitted that she was glad that we went. Again, not "begging to go back" but at least she's agreeable to going back when we can, or trying out some new places/opportunities.

Well said. All relationships are two way streets, whether they are romantic, platonic, professional, etc. If we want to get something or something more out of a relationship, we need to make sure we are giving too.